Ive been really missing my flat belly lately and have been super jealous of my skinny friends who can wear bikinis. I honestly just miss my "old self." I know it's ridiculous. Baby comes next month, and I know I have to have the belly to get the baby, but I feel like I'm loosing myself in the process. The warmer days are nice becuase I feel most comfortable in shorts and dresses, but it also seems to remind me of things I'm missing out on. Then, I just feel like I'm a terrible mom-to-be for being so selfish.
My FFFC is that I google my most stupid pregnancy questions and scroll through answers on BabyCenter and the like, instead of posting them here to be flamed for.
I was trying not to log in from the computer anymore after a recent meltdown that had me thinking I would be sending it in to IT. Yet here I am.
Mine is kind of a bad one.
DH is SO EXCITED about the baby that I'm worried he's going to forget about me. I also feel like I'm squandering my last couple weeks of freedom / just us time. Like this is really NEVER going to be our situation again! That's really hard for me.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
@glitterfish-2, remember when a while ago a few members suggested we move over there because (the dark side, they called it which is where everyone went after the exodus of Jan 2015) people we're getting banned and warnings for no reason over here? I started lurking over there after it was suggested and recently the majority of them had their own exodus to another message board. It was bananas.
I was trying not to log in from the computer anymore after a recent meltdown that had me thinking I would be sending it in to IT. Yet here I am.
Mine is kind of a bad one.
DH is SO EXCITED about the baby that I'm worried he's going to forget about me. I also feel like I'm squandering my last couple weeks of freedom / just us time. Like this is really NEVER going to be our situation again! That's really hard for me.
We are the same about this. I am so scared. DH loves me so much and I'm so scared he will totally not love me as much and also it will never be just us ever again. Too scary.
@glitterfish-2, remember when a while ago a few members suggested we move over there because (the dark side, they called it which is where everyone went after the exodus of Jan 2015) people we're getting banned and warnings for no reason over here? I started lurking over there after it was suggested and recently the majority of them had their own exodus to another message board. It was bananas.
Oops, I actually do not remember that at all.
And why am I Glitterfish-2????????
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
I pretended the baby was super fussy last night so DH would cook dinner. I really just wanted to snuggle and read my book. She was perfectly fine.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30 2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14 2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15 Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
I'm embarrassed about mine and no one in my real life knows. I still have my positive HPT. I feel almost afraid to throw it away in case something bad happens and it's all I have left of him/her. I'm hoping after baby is born I'll be able to get rid of it.
I'm embarrassed about mine and no one in my real life knows. I still have my positive HPT. I feel almost afraid to throw it away in case something bad happens and it's all I have left of him/her. I'm hoping after baby is born I'll be able to get rid of it.
girl - I have ALL of mine. I tested every day for like a week I think. Plus the multiples I took days 1 and 2. The only ones I have thrown away are the digitals that the 'pregnant' disappeared from after a while.
@greenbean-2@rae1-3 oh thank goodness. I was hoping I wasn't alone with the HPTs! It's in a drawer in the bathroom and I still look at it from to time and feel like I'm nuts.
I'm embarrassed about mine and no one in my real life knows. I still have my positive HPT. I feel almost afraid to throw it away in case something bad happens and it's all I have left of him/her. I'm hoping after baby is born I'll be able to get rid of it.
Until we moved in November, I still had my HPT from my first baby. It was like 3 years old when I threw it out. I confessed that in my May 14 group back then and I was not the only one. I was shocked how many people save them.
I have a mild FFFC: I just cleaned and organized my classroom to close out the end of the year, and I always shove things out of sight when the principal comes to check me out. I didn't shove much away this year, but I did hide one bin full of miscellaneous crap. It's like when your mom or dad come check your room and you've hidden stuff under your bed or in a closet.
I also google questions I don't want to ask here and I have my HPT. I thought I'd never see that second line, so I am keeping it for as long as I can!
@julybaby17-2 OMG I went through the same thing this week. I was scrolling through the camera role on my phone and I was looking at pictures from our October vacation (probably weeks before I become pregnant) and I just started crying. I have been feeling mostly okay (I have my occasional moments) about my body in pregnancy. I always have people telling me I look good and the occasional ones who think they can say whatever nasty thing they want (eye roll). And after looking at the way I used to look I just had this panic of omg what if I never look like this again? And all the sudden I felt HUGE and realized how big I am. The feeling hasn't gone away since
@ginger1228 It took me weeks to throw it out. I didnt want to get rid of the only proof I felt like I had. When DH found out I still had it he made me throw it away. But I do have photos of it
FFFC: I always feel like I have to prove that I'm married and old enough and very legitimately having this baby. I don't even care or judge anyone else for having babies however they want to have babies, but I know there is a stigma out there and I don't want to get falsely judged. It's completely ridiculous, but it's come up even more for me because I haven't been able to wear my wedding rings for about a week (the band got stuck, and I was able to get it off but I'm too scared to put it back on)
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
FFFC: I haven't worn my wedding rings well before pregnancy. I rarely wore them as it was before stopping. They fit fine but it got annoying having to take them off anytime I needed to get work done or whatever and especially the engagement ring always felt like it was in the way. So I just don't wear jewelry on my hands. My husband doesn't wear his either. And it doesn't bother me.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
@ginger1228 literally just threw ALL of mine away last month. I had about 6 saved in a box. I was going through stuff I wanted to put in the nursery and noticed the test window that displayed the lines was looking a little funky and I decided to toss them. It's so funny that your "confession" turned out to be the same for the majority of the group haha!
I wore my wedding rings all the time, even when I should have taken them off...and so when I was working on our ride on mower in the fall, the mower deck fell on my hand, and my wedding rings saved my fingers. They've been needing repair ever since, and so I haven't worn them for the entire pregnancy.
@SquirttheTurtle that's a good idea to put them in your pregnancy journal! I still have mine as well, but maybe I'll just tape one in the journal and toss the rest.
@kerils even though I also know it's ridiculous, I feel the same way! I stopped wearing my rings in like month 5, and bought a couple of silicone rings instead. They're super stretchy so I'm not nervous about getting them off. I might continue wearing them after the birth just because they don't catch on anything or get in the way like my engagement ring does!
@rjoys8 I've been wearing a silicone ring too which is silly because I couldn't care less about the marital status of another pregnant lady. The ring is really comfy though.
+1 for kinda hating my body too. Getting my graduation pics taken and sent to me kinda makes me upset because I feel and look so round in them. Of course the gown wasn't the greatest, but I still felt alien. DH just says "stop, you're pregnant." Umm...I know this. I can miss my less round days.
then I really hate seeing the memories on FB and how I used to look and it makes me upset because I know I'm probably not going to be able to get back to that body.
+1 for faking contractions...mostly to get a back rub
+1 for still having positive pregnancy tests from Sept 2014 from DS and now this baby's.
+1 for LOVING my 5 month preg body and then hating my 8/9 month preg body.
I had my wedding rings at the jewelers for the last month or so replacing a chipped diamond on the band and had a bagger at Costco ask how I got pregnant if I wasn't married. I didn't realize there was still this expectation that women had to be married to get pregnant but apparently there still is.
FFFC I'm only 33+3 and it's taking everything in me to not try to induce labor naturally (with all of these silly wives tales) for a few more weeks. I completely realize that it's way too early but these constant contractions are making me miserable and I'm just ready to get this baby out.
+1 for faking contractions...mostly to get a back rub
+1 for still having positive pregnancy tests from Sept 2014 from DS and now this baby's.
+1 for LOVING my 5 month preg body and then hating my 8/9 month preg body.
I had my wedding rings at the jewelers for the last month or so replacing a chipped diamond on the band and had a bagger at Costco ask how I got pregnant if I wasn't married. I didn't realize there was still this expectation that women had to be married to get pregnant but apparently there still is.
FFFC I'm only 33+3 and it's taking everything in me to not try to induce labor naturally (with all of these silly wives tales) for a few more weeks. I completely realize that it's way too early but these constant contractions are making me miserable and I'm just ready to get this baby out.
+1 for still having HPTs. I had ones from 2008 when I was pregnant with DS1 that I only threw out this year because DH saw them and I could see the judgment of "this is insane" look in his eyes....even though he didn't say anything, I knew it was time to throw them away.
+1 for not wearing wedding rings. My engagement and wedding rings haven't really fit me since 2008 when I was pregnant with my first. I've had a fake ring ever since that I don't even wear all the time, and DH doesn't wear his all the time either. It just doesn't bother me all that much. We've been married 10 years and it's just not a big deal for us. I never even notice other peoples rings or if they're wearing one or not.
Ditto @supermom83 I find it weird someone would assume someone isn't married just because they're not wearing a wedding ring. Maybe it's because I don't wear mine, but I would never make any assumptions about someone's marital status based on something as silly as jewelry. But I also don't give a crap what anyone thinks about me having a big belly and no wedding ring on. Total stranger's perception of me is not something I give any thought to.
And maybe this belongs in UO, but I find the obsession with rings--engagement rings in particular--pretty darn silly. Having the largest diamond won't make your marriage last. Poor men are expected to shell out ridiculous amounts of money on a piece of jewelry that loses so much of its value right after the transaction.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
I think I'm one of the few unmarried members of the board and it doesn't bother me at all to walk around without a ring. If someone has a problem with my "living in sin," they can go suck a lemon.
I also realize that I live in a super liberal bubble and it's probably different if you live somewhere more conservative. Regardless, here's how I would handle busy bodies:
Another confesssion here, I'm so tired of being pregnant. While I'm grateful that I am, I. Am. So. Done. 19 days can't come soon enough. I want to sleep on my belly, I want to eat food and not gag, I want my body back, SPD will go away, and I'm ready for some hard core exercises.
Re: FFFC
Ive been really missing my flat belly lately and have been super jealous of my skinny friends who can wear bikinis. I honestly just miss my "old self." I know it's ridiculous. Baby comes next month, and I know I have to have the belly to get the baby, but I feel like I'm loosing myself in the process. The warmer days are nice becuase I feel most comfortable in shorts and dresses, but it also seems to remind me of things I'm missing out on. Then, I just feel like I'm a terrible mom-to-be for being so selfish.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Mine is kind of a bad one.
DH is SO EXCITED about the baby that I'm worried he's going to forget about me. I also feel like I'm squandering my last couple weeks of freedom / just us time. Like this is really NEVER going to be our situation again! That's really hard for me.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
And why am I Glitterfish-2????????
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
i don't want to post the link because I think you can get warned for doing so.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30
2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14
2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15
Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
I also google questions I don't want to ask here and I have my HPT. I thought I'd never see that second line, so I am keeping it for as long as I can!
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
FFFC: I always feel like I have to prove that I'm married and old enough and very legitimately having this baby. I don't even care or judge anyone else for having babies however they want to have babies, but I know there is a stigma out there and I don't want to get falsely judged. It's completely ridiculous, but it's come up even more for me because I haven't been able to wear my wedding rings for about a week (the band got stuck, and I was able to get it off but I'm too scared to put it back on)
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
My husband doesn't wear his either. And it doesn't bother me.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
@kerils even though I also know it's ridiculous, I feel the same way! I stopped wearing my rings in like month 5, and bought a couple of silicone rings instead. They're super stretchy so I'm not nervous about getting them off. I might continue wearing them after the birth just because they don't catch on anything or get in the way like my engagement ring does!
+1 for faking a contraction so DH will deal with the kiddos (I think karma is catching up with me on that one)
+1 for kinda hating my body right now
FFFC: I'm having very mild contractions, I hit 37 weeks on sunday. I plan on walking ALL weekend to see if I can kick these suckers up a notch.
my happy boy
+1 on moderate panic from seeing pictures from 8 months ago
then I really hate seeing the memories on FB and how I used to look and it makes me upset because I know I'm probably not going to be able to get back to that body.
+1 for still having positive pregnancy tests from Sept 2014 from DS and now this baby's.
+1 for LOVING my 5 month preg body and then hating my 8/9 month preg body.
I had my wedding rings at the jewelers for the last month or so replacing a chipped diamond on the band and had a bagger at Costco ask how I got pregnant if I wasn't married. I didn't realize there was still this expectation that women had to be married to get pregnant but apparently there still is.
FFFC I'm only 33+3 and it's taking everything in me to not try to induce labor naturally (with all of these silly wives tales) for a few more weeks. I completely realize that it's way too early but these constant contractions are making me miserable and I'm just ready to get this baby out.
+1 for not wearing wedding rings. My engagement and wedding rings haven't really fit me since 2008 when I was pregnant with my first. I've had a fake ring ever since that I don't even wear all the time, and DH doesn't wear his all the time either. It just doesn't bother me all that much. We've been married 10 years and it's just not a big deal for us. I never even notice other peoples rings or if they're wearing one or not.
And maybe this belongs in UO, but I find the obsession with rings--engagement rings in particular--pretty darn silly. Having the largest diamond won't make your marriage last. Poor men are expected to shell out ridiculous amounts of money on a piece of jewelry that loses so much of its value right after the transaction.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
I also realize that I live in a super liberal bubble and it's probably different if you live somewhere more conservative. Regardless, here's how I would handle busy bodies:
Eta I can't spell