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STM+ check in 5/31

ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
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1. How far along are you with which number? 

2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?

3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?

4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?

5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
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    ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member

    1. How far along are you with which number? 16+6 with number 2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling? Just recently started feeling movement. Only feeling it at night, but lots of wiggles at once. Overall I'm feeling good. Perpetually tired but good. 

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family? I'm so excited for my daughter to have a sibling close in age. But I'm kind of worried she's not going to take well to this at first. Every time we start talking to her about the baby she gets really clingy.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM? I don't remember knowing ahead of time about the nursing contractions. And also I started having the phantom kicks a few months after and that totally freaked me out. 

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. When people park their cars in the section of their driveway that intersects with the sidewalk that I'm trying to jog on. I'm pretty sure it's illegal but no one cares here. 
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    1. How far along are you with which number? 17+1 with #2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling? I'm feeling a lot of movement.  I think it's the way my uterus sits, but I feel a lot.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family? I'm excited because DS has always wanted a little sibling.  SO has always wanted more children too, so it's just an exciting time.  I'm worried about having to work.  I didn't do well last time with working while having a newborn.  It's really, really tough to be away.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM? How hard it was to go back to work.  I was also surprised by how much I loved breastfeeding.  It was hard, but I enjoyed every bit of it.  I was definitely one of those women that had the epiphany moment after having DS of "this is what love feels like".

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. When the toilet seat or lid is left up.  Close it.

    DS1 is 7.  DD is 1.  DS2 is coming in late April.


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    ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
    edited May 2017
    @MississippiCatfish That would annoy me too!

    @JDW0325 Ugh yes, my husband comes from a family of loud chewers.

    @av2323 I can definitely relate to how you feel with Henry. Also I think ours are the same age! But at the same time, I was four years older than my next sibling and we never had a close relationship until adulthood, so my hope is that after the initial adjustment they will become best friends.

    @mariposa_767s I had the opposite experience with breastfeeding. My mom always talked about how much she loved it, and even though I did it for over a year and it did get easy eventually, I was surprised that I never loved it. But I was still sad when it ended haha. 
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    jhsoontobe3jhsoontobe3 member
    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    14 weeks 6 days with baby #2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    Started feeling the floppy fish movements a few days ago! I had an anterior placenta with #1 and didn't feel her until 21 weeks so let's just say I'm a little excited! 

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    I'm excited and worried at the same time about how DD with react and transition into being a big sister. Babies will be 20 months apart. She loves all her cousins and does great with them but they go home at the end of the day.  :D (their ages range anywhere from 5 weeks to 2.5 years apart) 

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    EVERYTHING! Haha but seriously DD was a very difficult baby plus I was dealing with PPD and severe PTSD from my birth experience. But DD was colicky and had an undiagnosed tongue and lip tie until 5 months so she was ALWAYS hungry and screamed constantly. Everyone told me oh just wait. Newborns are the easiest. Wait until they get mobile and then you'll really be in for it! I was constantly thinking how will I ever manage if THIS is the easy part. But let me tell you, the newborn phase was definitely the hardest for us. She was much easier and agreeable once she started getting mobile!

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
    People that let their dogs run wild in town. 
    Our city, like most, has leash laws but apparently no one on our street abides by them. We put in an underground fence for ours to keep them contained. Our dogs are becoming a nuisance because they are constantly barking. But they are barking and chasing other dogs out of OUR yard and I refuse to scold them for protecting their territory. It's so frustrating. I'm ready to put a physical fence up to keep others out!  :#
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    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    16+2 and this will be #3!

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    I am feeling movement - usually at least once a day but it's sporadic and still has me questioning.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    If I can't handle everything.  I know that some days are good and you feel like a star and others are hard... just worried about keeping myself sane.  Also worried about working full time with three kids - I really could use a few years off to keep everything more manageable but I don't think that's realistic.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?

    That I couldn't control everything - letting go of control was hard.  I would have anxiety attacks every time DS1 cried or was badly behaved.  I finally had to accept that he was his own person and I may be in charge of taking care of him but I control him.  If he cried all the way home in the car  - then he did.  Letting myself be separated from the actions of others and not feeling guilty really helped me a lot.


    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. Stepping in water in socks - the worst! Having to repeat myself a million times to get the kids to do anything!!
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    @av2323  - Yes the fighting - it was more with DS2 than DS1 because DS2 was a rotten sleeper for the first year.  And it was always in the middle of night and we were exhausted and I would get mad because he would never hear the baby and then act like I was keeping him up!!!  I'm thinking if this one is also a non-sleeper I may set up a satellite room in the spare room so I can be by myself to deal!  And I'm hoping I'm more mature and don't fight...but really - sleep deprivation for months...hard to control!
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    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    14+4 with #2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    Not feeling any movement yet. Feeling pretty good overall, tired and hungry all the time.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    That I am going to love this baby as much as I love my son and that I'll be able to give them both the attention they need. I also worry about how my son will react and if he'll feel abandoned.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    My strength as a mom. My son was born with a cleft pallet so breast feeding was not an option. I was supposed to quit my job after leave but stayed so keep the insurance and became an exclusive pumper and pumped 9x/day for 15 months.

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
    People who set off fireworks ALL summer and not just around the holiday. Seriously. May-August. Is that really necessary?
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    ElizabethSchuylerElizabethSchuyler member
    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    15+2 with #2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    I was at night but haven't much lately. I might be paying too much attention to it now.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    I definitely agree with "How can I love someone else as much as I love my son" and I worry about how DS will feel with a new baby around. I worry about the time spent between the two. 

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    The exhaustion was so hard. The fighting with DH was also out of left field. I don't think people talk enough about how incredibly hard it is to add a baby for some couples. 

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
    Just one? In addition to everything mentioned, people who litter, wet jeans, and people who don't use a damn blinker. I'LL JUST FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU'RE GOING. 
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    mamamoose-2mamamoose-2 member
    1. 17 + 6 with number 2
    2. I've been feeling movement since about a week and a half ago, and it's been getting stronger each day to the point that I can tell its head is on my right side and it's feet are on my left haha
    3. I'm excited to have another...chance with a newborn, I guess is how I'd put it. My first kid is going to be 2 in July and I had so many complications and depression and everything with his birth and after that I barely remember him being a little baby and it breaks my heart. My worry is that he won't take to not being the only child anymore...he gets so incredibly jealous.
    4. What surprised me the most was how quickly babies grow. Before it seemed like babies were just "baby slugs" (as my brother calls them) and then one day they become toddlers. The truth is that just about every day they learn something new or show a new side to their personality and it's so fascinating
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    MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    edited May 2017
    @ElizabethSchuyler This morning, I saw a guy in a REALLY nice car who had just exited the starbucks parking lot ahead of me roll down his passenger window and throw a crunched up aluminum can out!  WTF??  It's been a long time since Ive seen someone blatantly litter like that!

    Also, my DH gets annoyed by the clicking of the blinker, so he doesn't use it if he's in a turning only lane because "people know i'm turning".  So irritating!
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    1. How far along are you with which number?  15+2 with #3

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling? Okay. I'm still pretty anxious about this pregnancy. Currently waiting at the doctor's for my routine visit and freaking out a little. I was way more laid back with my others.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?  Excited would be snuggling another little squish. And adding another playmate for my two. Most nervous is definitely the sleep and the attention my other kids will still need. My DS especially is pretty jealous and a total mama's boy. I'm not sure how he will take this whole baby thing.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM? That my husband is a pretty shitty newborn/baby parent. He would gladly skip ahead to having a baby that's 9 or 10 months old. 

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. Because we're on a forum: bad spelling. I get typos and autocorrect and voice typing, but if you're trying to sound like you have the answers and are in the right, then spelling one of the main words in your post wrong multiple times makes you look like an idiot.
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    @MississippiCatfish Look, I can probably guess by the way someone is driving what they're going to do, but JUST USE IT OMG. 
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    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    14+4 other baby #2
    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    I think I am feeling baby a little bit but still not regularly. 
    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    I am Soo nervous how ds will take it. He is a momma's boy all the way and I give him a Lot if attention. I'm worried he will be sad and jealous that I have to give attention to the new baby too. But he Loves little babies and I am excited to have another little one in our family. 
    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    That I functioned on so little sleep and was still ok. My ds didn't sleep through the night till over a year old and I averaged 4-6 hours a day and never more than 2 hours at a time for the first 4ish months. It did get much better after that, he was just a chunker and always hungry! 
    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve
    So many. Not using blinkers is definitely up there. 
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    ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
    @jesslardarello OMG yes, life was so much easier after the newborn phase. I had a colicky, tongue and lip tied baby too. And the PPD. People around me kept talking about the sleepy, snuggly newborn phase and I was like WHAT PLANET IS YOUR CHILD FROM? And when people were like "oh it gets harder" I seriously questioned my ability to fill a motherhood role. But a year and a half later I still think her first three months were the hardest of my life. 
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    kalenpkalenp member
    @2Dash I'm with you-- it took awhile to realize I could do everything "perfectly" and DS still wouldn't sleep enough or whatever. Or you'd have a great day and the next would be a crapshoot. Giving up control is the best thing that I could do-- and I still need to be reminded! 

    @abs1686 Hats off lady! 15 months of pumping is no joke. What a gift to give your baby :) 

    1. How far along are you with which number? 
      I am 16 + 4 with baby 3!

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    I have for sure felt baby a few times but nothing too regular. 

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    I am excited to do the mama thing full time for a few years. We decided now is the right time for me to do that and thankfully we have the ability to make that choice. It's a hard juggle with working plus 2 I really didn't know how I'd do it with a 3rd.  As for worries-- we live in a 3 bedroom house and eventually someone will have to share a room. I'm not sure when/how to make that transition with my boys. My older son is very resistant to the idea. 

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
     Normal toddler behavior. I really didn't understand what is typical toddler development and spent a lot of time fretting over stuff that I could have let go. I'm much more relaxed with #2.
     
    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve
    Why can't I think of any? Lol.
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    DS#2 3/15
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    @kalenp Agreed on the "normal toddler behavior."  I'd throw preschooler in there too.  I really honestly had no idea what it would be like to parent.  I can deal with the insomnia and crying and everything that comes with babies, but I just didn't have a clue how emotionally overwhelming the tantrums and meltdowns would be.

    @ooodalollly I HATE it when people say "You just wait!!!"  Like, find other moms that you can talk about the difficulties with.  Don't scare FTMS.  What is the point of that!?
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    MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    @kschref  My husband does that too!  Or "leaves them to dry a little more"  or "to soak a little" overnight.
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    1. How far along are you with which number? I had to go check. Poor baby #2. I'm 15+4

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling? I have felt her but not regularly. 

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family? I'm equal parts afraid that she'll have the same medical issues my son has, and afraid that I do t know how to parent a typical/healthy baby. Guys, I'm a STM who has never fed a child anything but breastmilk and formula. 

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM? honestly I expected life to be harder and was pleasantly surprised. 

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. Eating noises. /shudder
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    ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~

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    1. How far along are you with which number?
    17 weeks with number 4

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    No movement yet with my other ones i was feeling at 14 weeks :(. I'm feeling good this time has been so odd compared to my last 3!
    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    Telling my husbands family has me worried. they aren't very approving of anything I do!

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    how hard it was breastfeeding and feeling guilt form the drs. about weight gaining. also watching my husband sleep while i was up with the baby!

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve.
    when my kids take the pillows off the couch to jump on them! drives me nuts!!!

    Met my husband in December of 2009, moved in together April 2010, Engaged June 2010, married June 2011
    got pregnant after month of trying in December of 2011. resulting in our oldest 9/13/12. received a ppt January of 2012, giving us our boy 10/01/1213. Then we tried for baby number three and we received her 7/18/2015. We then decided that if we had another baby it wouldn't be so bad we found out on my birth day about baby number 4, arriving in November! We are so very blessed to have our four beautiful babies! <3




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    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    14+2 with number 2

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    Occasionally I feel flutters but not consistent

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    My son is super excited about the baby but I still worry how he will transition to not being an only child and having more focus on an infant.

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    Just how hard breastfeeding was going to be and that my son didn't sleep through the night until he was 8 1/2 months old. 

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
    Dirty clothes left on the bathroom floor or in the livingroom. Open mouth chewing. 
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    @amber0529 all 3 of mine started STTN at 13 months. THE PITS. 
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    @pawcall You'll know how to do anything because we're moms. We just figure it out and do the best we can. 
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    1. How far along are you with which number? 14w 3d with #3

    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling? No movement thus far and slowly starting to feel better. 1st tri m/s is the worst.

    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family? Both kids are really excited, I am just nervous about the jump from 2 to 3. We have 0 then 2 and there was 2 of us. But now 3 kids and 2 adults scares me. 

    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM? How I could function with twins on no sleep at all.

    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve.  I can't stand when you do something for someone and they don't say thank you.

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    abs1686abs1686 member
    @kalenp thank you! It was freaking hard but I am so thankful I did it! Fingers crossed I don't have to do it again though because it'll be a whole lot harder finding the time with a toddler running around too!
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    cmessamorecmessamore member
    Late to the party, but here it goes!

    1. How far along are you with which number? 
    15 weeks, 3 days with baby number 4 (plus two step-children)
    2. Are you feeling movement/how are you feeling?
    I have felt some vague feelings that I think was the baby moving, but still nothing consistent. I'm feeling okay today, just hungry and tired...
    3. What has you most excited/worried about adding to your family?
    Excited: getting to finally have a baby girl!
    Nervous: having 4 "big" kids (ages 6-10 then) and having two that are only 15 months apart! Juggling schedules and changing our routines terrifies me!
    4. What was something that came as a surprise to you when you were a FTM?
    How much people judge everything you do as a new parent! I felt like no matter what decision I made, someone was questioning it. And also, how to survive with no sleep. DS3 is still not sleeping through the night consistently and I'm terrified he won't be by the time this LO comes and DH works a lot of overnights!
    5. GTKY: Name a pet peeve. 
    I have tons of pet peeves! People breathing with the mouths open. Any yucky noises made when people chew or slurping when they drink. The TP on the roll the wrong way. People who complain about things, but don't do anything to change things! (I volunteer for a bunch of organizations and we always get people who complain, but won't volunteer. Or people that complain about politics, but don't vote!) And of course, anti-vaxers!
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    DuchessOfCambridgeDuchessOfCambridge member
    edited June 2017
    Apologies for *lurking* but I have a confession/request. I've been lurking O17's Sh*t my kid says thread and it is so so so funny, would love if you STMs+ would do one! :lol:

    ETA Just realized this could have gone in the FTM questions thread, so sorry! :no_mouth:

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    2Dash2Dash member
    @DuchessOfCambridge Okay I've got one for you. Our three year old told us he wants to be a policeman when he grows up so he can have hand jails (handcuffs) and catch bad guys. We didn't correct him- hand jails are a good description!
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    am+mommyam+mommy member
    edited June 2017
    @DuchessOfCambridge @2Dash Someone should definitely start this. I would but I don't know how to gif.
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    @2Dash @DuchessOfCambridge @am+mommy Done.
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