DH and I used to post mushy stuff on each other's Facebook walls when we were dating 11 or so years ago. But back then there was not a newsfeed, so you would have to be looking at one of our walls to see it. Still inexcusable, though. I have been screenshotting the ones that DH wrote to me and posting messages making fun of him; I see it as atonement for breaking the rules against PDA on social media.
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@aprilsarahjune I always forgive people for cheesy posts if they are at the beginning of their relationship because I think at that point you truly mean what you are saying. But if you've been together awhile? Stop kidding yourself.. the butterflies, sunshine, and rainbow phase is over. I don't envy your relationship because you claim it's soooooooo amazing on social media lol.
For me, it seems like the folks who post the mushiest stuff on FB actually have super unhealthy relationships. Not always the case, but it often is, so when I read something super mushy it makes me wonder what is really going on. Stop kidding yourself people!
On the fb statements of over-affection.... I had a friend post the most refreshing statement for her hubs birthday, father's day, or anniversary or something. She said "I promise not to say something more profound on Facebook than I would say to your face. HAPPY whatever day it was" and to that I say all day: This.
DH and I don't wax poetic offline, why should I online for show?
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
I personally think that the overly mushy couples are the ones who are just trying to make up for what they are lacking.
I only say this because the close(r) friends that I watch post this mushy crap are also the ones who will call hysterically crying because their SO is such a dbag.
So yeah. For me, it doesn't make me think you have the greatest relationship ever. It makes me assume you're trying to convince yourself it's not as bad as it really is.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
My UO: I was talking to my mom about bathing suits this summer. Was trying to decided whether or not to get a tankini top or just be proud of the hard work I have accomplished and wear a bikini. I'm somewhat conservative and don't like people staring at me...especial half naked! She says, " I think you need to cover it up. Most people don't want to see all that." I felt like crawling under a rock! H told me to wear what I want because I'm beautiful and should be proud of being pregnant! I think I may wear a bikini just to say "F You"!
I personally think that the overly mushy couples are the ones who are just trying to make up for what they are lacking.
I only say this because the close(r) friends that I watch post this mushy crap are also the ones who will call hysterically crying because their SO is such a dbag.
So yeah. For me, it doesn't make me think you have the greatest relationship ever. It makes me assume you're trying to convince yourself it's not as bad as it really is.
So much this. My SIL will post things about how awesome her husband is with her son and I'm over here like, really?? He dumps him off on his sister on the weekends you work because he would rather go out with his friends and drink. I could go on for days about the marriage aspect of their relationship. I'm worried one of these days my eyes are going to get stuck in the back of my head from rolling so hard at her FB posts.
@sjohns908 EXACTLY! The ones that are posting how fantastic their SO is are the same ones that are constantly complaining in private about how much they suck.
I understand not complaining about your SO in public - I side eye the ones who bash their SO on social media, too. There's a happy medium. You can throw in the occasional "best wife/husband" ever when it comes to monumental events....but if every post you make is about how he is the most fantastic person on earth....I call bs.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
@nhoover88 wear what makes you feel good! I plan on wearing a bikini this summer. I'm much more confident about my pregnant body than I've ever been about my not pregnant body. This is my last, so I figure it's wear it now or never!
+1 about the overly mushy posts on FB. My BIL was married before and he and my sister and his ex are not always on the same page. To the point where it gets nasty (behind the scenes - not in front of the kids). My sister will post all this stuff about how they "do blended families right" blah, blah. I feel like responding "but, you called ex a bitch just yesterday....". So annoying!
My UO: I was talking to my mom about bathing suits this summer. Was trying to decided whether or not to get a tankini top or just be proud of the hard work I have accomplished and wear a bikini. I'm somewhat conservative and don't like people staring at me...especial half naked! She says, " I think you need to cover it up. Most people don't want to see all that." I felt like crawling under a rock! H told me to wear what I want because I'm beautiful and should be proud of being pregnant! I think I may wear a bikini just to say "F You"!
Girl you rock that bikini! I don't think there is any shame in rocking a pregnant belly. I'll be wearing a bikini this summer and the haters gonna hate
I'm going to the beach too in a few weeks and can't decide between bikini or tankini. I'm so pale that I'm thinking tankini? But my boobs are big for once, so maybe a nude beach is the way to go
I'm at the beach and have worn a tankini the whole time but only because I don't want to overheat my belly. Been sitting here with a towel draped over my belly as well so it doesn't overheat! DH has been really paranoid about me sitting in the sun so I wanted to ease his mind a bit.
If you're comfortable in a bikini then go for it! I for one, am not, but I find my tankini very awkward around my belly so I gave it up. It just hits weird on my belly in all the wrong places lol I went ahead and bought a maternity one piece because of this. It's actually pretty flattering but getting into that sucker is going to become more and more difficult the bigger I get. Go ahead and rock the bikini!
I don't wear bikinis because soooo many stretch marks. But I also wear a swimsuit maaaybe once per year, even though I live in CA in a beach town. But I think pregnant ladies in bikinis look awesome!
I have a tankini from last year that the bottoms were just a bit too big. I'm thinking it's going to be perfect for this year. My mom used to always tell me that big girls can't wear two piece suits, so at 36 years old, this is the first 2 piece suit I've owned. I'm looking forward to rocking it.
I wore a bikini the full summer I was pregnant with DD. But the pools I was at were private (family), they all knew I was pregnant and expected the extra chunk.
I don't know if it's because I'm a STM or bigger this time or knowing it'll be mostly public places....but I'm probably doing tankini this time.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
Re: UO
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
DH and I don't wax poetic offline, why should I online for show?
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
I dont mind cute sayings like "to the moon and back." I hate when a nursery is filled with a ton of those sayings, but one or two can be very cute.
DH and I don't do the PDA on social media thing, but we totally talk like that in private.
I only say this because the close(r) friends that I watch post this mushy crap are also the ones who will call hysterically crying because their SO is such a dbag.
So yeah. For me, it doesn't make me think you have the greatest relationship ever. It makes me assume you're trying to convince yourself it's not as bad as it really is.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
This is my first post on this topic.
My UO: I was talking to my mom about bathing suits this summer. Was trying to decided whether or not to get a tankini top or just be proud of the hard work I have accomplished and wear a bikini. I'm somewhat conservative and don't like people staring at me...especial half naked! She says, " I think you need to cover it up. Most people don't want to see all that." I felt like crawling under a rock! H told me to wear what I want because I'm beautiful and should be proud of being pregnant! I think I may wear a bikini just to say "F You"!
I understand not complaining about your SO in public - I side eye the ones who bash their SO on social media, too. There's a happy medium. You can throw in the occasional "best wife/husband" ever when it comes to monumental events....but if every post you make is about how he is the most fantastic person on earth....I call bs.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
+1 about the overly mushy posts on FB. My BIL was married before and he and my sister and his ex are not always on the same page. To the point where it gets nasty (behind the scenes - not in front of the kids). My sister will post all this stuff about how they "do blended families right" blah, blah. I feel like responding "but, you called ex a bitch just yesterday....". So annoying!
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I don't know if it's because I'm a STM or bigger this time or knowing it'll be mostly public places....but I'm probably doing tankini this time.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!