Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introductions!
Edit: words are hard.
laura, 32, from by and Im
pregnant and it's my first....and its twins!!! Totally shocked since they don't run in the family. My original due date was December 23rd but now they are saying the fifth.
BFP 4/15
DUE DATE 12/20
second time mom. My son is almost 16 months old
Good Luck!
My name is Christina and I live in Florida. This is my second pregnancy after a prior loss in October. It's taken me a while to post because of that loss. I'm currently due December 21st. However I'm thinking I will go later. I guess we will just have to wait and see. So far this pregnancy has been completely different. Which we've taken as a good thing. Looking forward to getting to know you lady's better.
My name is Jamie and I'm 28.
BFP was on April 17th
Due date is Dec. 28th (I'm almost spilling into Jan 2018 moms!)
This is our first child and we could not be more excited!
TTC #1 since 12/2015
BFP 4/4/17, EDD 12/4/17
My name is Alisha just turned 31 a few days ago and I am from Central FL
EDD Dec 31 but doc says it will be at 37 or 38 weeks because of my high blood pressure. So I'm 9 weeks and this is my first pregnancy
BFP April 21 because this was super planned and I was watching aunt flo like a hawk haha
Late intro here. I'm 9 weeks, 2 days, with EDD Jan 2, but I know that's going to be moved up to December because I have twins! So I've been hanging out in the Jan BMC, but I think I'll hang out here too (I'll call it being "bi-monthly"), if that's ok.
I got my BFP on my 40th birthday, 4/26, after a two year infertility journey. My ovaries are shot, but my wife's are great, so I'm carrying her babies!
The two butterbeans share a gestational sac, so we know they'll be identical. This morning, we saw a membrane between them, so (whew!) no risk of monoamniotic fears. They're mo/di, so this is still a high risk pregnancy, but nowhere near the risks that mo/mo poses.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
Due date 12/9
I can't figure out the pregnancy countdown tickers, but I do know how to make a signature!
#40andpregnant
As of 12/15/2017, my new hashtag is #41 and pregnant!
I'm also 40, and I don't think I've seen anyone else mention a female partner or wife yet, so maybe we're the only 2 here?
If I go to term, I'll be 41 when I give birth since my birthday's in November.
That's so cool you used her eggs and you're carrying!
Oh, and twins!!!!
We have a legal agreement with a fabulous local friend's partner who was the sperm donor, and I like to say that we conceived the "old fashioned lesbian way." It was a kind of long, but really nice process to go through and discuss all of the different "what if's", and our lawyer is a GLBTQ law specialist in our state.
It was my first time TTC, so I really had no idea if it was possible, but here we are!
Due date 12/9
I can't figure out the pregnancy countdown tickers, but I do know how to make a signature!
#40andpregnant
As of 12/15/2017, my new hashtag is #41 and pregnant!
I'm a lawyer, so I drafted our contract with our known sperm donor, but we'll use a lawyer I know to take some steps to establish our legal parental rights (being married establishes some rights, but I want a court order, in case we travel). I think I'll actually have to be the one to file for second parent adoption, since my wife is the genetic mother. Which is nuts.
Glad to meet you!
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
That's great that you're a lawyer! And wild that you'll be the one to file for 2nd parent adoption even though you're carrying the child.
I am definitely so so grateful that we are able to be legally married, which as you said does establish some of the rights.
We are married as well, but will my wife will do a 2nd parent adoption and at that time the donor will sign away his rights formally though he already has in the agreement.
I'll talk with our lawyer about the court order as well, hadn't heard about that, but we definitely want to make sure we're setting things up the best way possible for our growing family.
Due date 12/9
I can't figure out the pregnancy countdown tickers, but I do know how to make a signature!
#40andpregnant
As of 12/15/2017, my new hashtag is #41 and pregnant!
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
I'm Lauren from Ohio. My DH and I are expecting our first!! EDD is 12/27, so there is a good chance we could have a Christmas baby
My names Tammarra i just moved to south florida. Im 20 years old and this is my first baby first pregnancy! EDD 12/09/17 soooo excited
See you on the Saturday ticker checker check-in.
Due date 12/9
I can't figure out the pregnancy countdown tickers, but I do know how to make a signature!
#40andpregnant
As of 12/15/2017, my new hashtag is #41 and pregnant!
My EDD is Dec 31st! We'll see if that date holds since with DD (who is 3.5 yrs) she was 2 weeks late.
The transition to motherhood was a hard one for me and I swore that I was one and done. But seeing and hearing my sweet girl say 'I love you' melted my heart enough to go for round 2.
We live in Los Angeles, I work from home, I'm 35 and married to the love of my life (college sweethearts). I love art, reading, baking, music and binging on period films and tv.
hi!
My name is Lucy and I am 26 years old. I live in Texas with my husband and our two sweet little boys (3 & 4). They keep us entertained and busy and I love it. My due date for baby #3 is 12/25 and we are so excited! My oldest son was recently diagnosed with a genetic condition so I am a little bit anxious this time around but happy to have a place for support and encouragagment! Looking forward to getting to know you ladies!