announcing at work

ionlyeatcandy · May 2017

So I haven't announced at work yet, other than to my boss at my yearly review last week, but I keep debating about when to tell the rest of my team. My appointment isn't for another two weeks so I'm getting impatient for that anyway.
With my last pregnancy I was in so much denial about being pregnant due to an earlier MMC, that I put off even calling the doctor until like I had started interviewing for my current job and actually ended up seeing the heart beat the same day I accepted!
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone is dealing with work place announcing. The gossip mill here is brutal so I'll have to say something before I start showing too much this time. I kept it a secret last time until I was just starting to show.

gusgus14 · May 2017

We're both telling our offices at 12 weeks. I have 2 co-workers who know but that's because they're close friends. We're only telling close family and friends before 12 weeks.

zamoraspin · May 2017

Same as @gusgus14. There are some other women in my office who have had babies within the last few years and I may ask for advice on when/how to let folks at work know. It is *possible* I will have to tell my immediate boss sooner but only if I start having bad symptoms. For me even telling close family before we see the HB is a no go. Everyone and everyone's situations are different though.

[Deleted User] · May 2017

Thankfully I work at a small local business so I have 2 managers and maybe 10 other employees besides me. My immediate manager knows because she's also pregnant and was starting to get suspicious. I plan to tell my boss maybe after my first appointment in 3 weeks.

remindmeofthebabe · May 2017

I plan on holding off as long as possible - either based on when I'd have to tell them for leave purposes or when I'm showing, whichever comes first.

cyanope · May 2017

I won't tell anyone at work besides one really close friend. I haven't told her yet, but she's definitely starting to give me the side eye (I look REALLY worn down, and all of this bloat...) All of our family already knows (we told them on Mother's Day at 7 weeks). Thankfully, I'm a teacher, so I only have to make it TWO MORE FREAKING WEEKS before it's Summer! Seriously...two weeks from today, and it's, "adios amigos!"

ionlyeatcandy · May 2017

Honestly, I'm pretty close to my co-workers so I probably would tell them now, but I really don't want to have to untell the entire company if something goes wrong (see above mention of gossip mill). As it is, I'm sure someone is going to figure it out soon, I swear I've been peeing every five minutes!

Mudge85 · May 2017

I've told two coworkers - one because she is pregnant and was my go to for questions & the other because she sits in the cube next to her... so there was no way for her not to know. Other than that I'm not telling anyone until I start showing or 13 weeks... whichever comes first. Since I'm carrying twins I have a feeling the showing will happen first.

scatteringashes · May 2017

I work in the basement at my workplace, and I told my fellow basement dwellers pretty promptly because we all get along really well and they knew we were trying. I'm going to a different job for the summer (today was my last day until August), so the rest of the company's gossip mill can have the news when I get back.

darkrose88 · May 2017

My plan is to tell my boss at 12 weeks for scheduling purposes. At this point, the earliest I'm doing my dating u/s is at 9 weeks - long story behind that. After the dating u/s, I think we will feel comfortable starting to share with close friends and family (although quite a few know already). I probably won't share with my co-workers until after I tell my boss.

madcouplewithabox · May 2017

I had to tell my boss fairly early just because of the situations I'm put in at work. Most of my close co-workers know, but in this place news spreads fast but I do t really mind.

windywoman · May 2017

I work a smallish office and I have only told one person because she happened to hear me on the phone. I am already so bloated so I don't know how long I can hold off! I am hoping at least until my appointment on June 19th. I no idea how leave works here since no one has been pregnant the 5 1/2 years I have been here so I am anxious to find out.

mamakassie2 · May 2017

So... this is super tricky for me. I'm a nanny. I have a fantastic relationship with the parents I work for and I've been with the family for over 2 years. However this pregnancy was not planned and will be a huge inconvenience for them. The mom is a teacher and had I planned this, it would be a July/August baby to minimize the time I'll have to be out. I'm honestly terrified they will tell me to just not come back in September. I love these kids and I'm just praying they don't fire me. :'(

MrsDorkCharming · May 2017

I work for a big company, but my department/office is only 2 other people who I am very close to. And they knew we were trying for the past year+ (and were super supportive on bad ttc days). So I told them both at 6 weeks, partly because I knew they would figure it out quickly and partly because I wanted someone to know in case something happened to me while at work, like passing out. Last week I also let it slip to another friend/co-worker who is super close with my husband and I.

My thought with telling people now is that I am only going to tell people who will be incredibly supportive if something happens. My department will be SOOOOO supportive if something happens and to be honest I would want their support.

chaser61 · May 2017

I am going to wait until I am showing / switching to maternity clothing before I tell my co-workers. I have had a few losses, so I like to hold out as long as possible. Plus I prefer to keep my private life separate because I haven't made close friends here. I might tell my boss earlier and ask him to keep it to himself. I mostly work in an office but sometimes asked to fill in for field work. If that happens, I will let my boss know because we handle contaminated material and I don't want to during my pregnancy.

rachelg777 · May 2017

I had to tell a few people at work (well one person but 2 other people happened to be close by) due to an aspect of patient care. I told them to keep it quiet but I'm sure half the unit will know by now.

Shanski70 · May 2017

I've told my office's chief executive already due to the conflict with teaching for our professional organization and needing to save/conserve PTO. I will tell my immediate supervisor at 12 weeks. I'm not planning to tell anyone at else work. I made it until 8 months until one of the nosy old witches cornered me in the bathroom and aggressively questioned me (she literally grabbed my arm to stop me from walking away from her). Of course she made sure everyone knew by the end of the day at that point...

This time around I'm not going to let her do that to me again and if she pesters me I will file a formal complaint with HR.

ChloandCoco · May 2017

I work for a small company and I'm the only woman in the office. I won't tell my employer until 12 weeks, although my manager might suspect something before then. If I have to go out in the field, I might tell them before just in case.

jesscmv · May 2017

I'll wait until 12 weeks. A couple girls from work know because we met for drinks, and well I had water and couldn't play it off. I love beer!

jesscmv · May 2017

@mamakassie2 I hope that's not the case! Could baby come with you? How many kids do you nanny for?

Lizbeth86 · May 2017

Do any moms of 2+ have experience with how soon you show with #2?
I waited until 12 weeks with my first and hope I can do the same now, but I heard you show earlier with the 2nd.

I had to tell my boss and another exec at work bc we were supposed to travel to a place with high Zika risk, I hadn't even considered that until I got my BFP and looked it up.

Otherwise I hope people will just think something, even whisper to each other if they want, but not ask me directly. I don't mind them knowing or suspecting, I just don't want to have to communicate bad news over and over in case something happens.

hwoodmama · May 2017

@Lizbeth2462. I showed later with my second (and I started out smaller). With my first a stranger noticed at 16 weeks, with my second it wasnt obvious until 24 weeks. With my third though it was obvious by 14 weeks.

tryingfor1st · May 2017

I have two close friends at work who know and there are three whispering b#$&#es who I think might suspect. I don't plan to tell my boss until I'm either showing or in second trimester (13w?)

aimsforyou2014 · May 2017

I work in a small office at a college with two of our personal counselors and our receptionist. Two of the three of them figured out something was going on with me the first day after my BFP. I was so worried and stressed because of my previous losses that I guess it just showed on my face. All three of them already knew we were trying, so I went ahead and told them. I also told my boss right away because the last time I was pregnant I was super sick for the first few weeks and really couldn't hide it. So far, not the case with this little bean (FX), but I wanted my boss to know just in case. I also told two other co-workers who are close friends of mine and one other person in our office completely guessed. I hadn't seen her in a while and she just looked at me and said, "Is there a baby in your belly?" I was so shocked that I couldn't even deny it.

Luckily, since I work in disability services and with counselors, I work with a pretty supportive group of folks. They really carried me through my losses last spring. I will probably tell everyone else once we make it to 12 weeks.

mcrosie · May 2017

I've told a few people - my deputy because we're really close and he was getting worried about all my doctors appointments. I told my boss too because of the work I was missing. And I told a colleague who I needed to take over a work trip in October instead of me.

JuliaGoolia719 · May 2017

I officially told my supervisor today and was put on "light duty" meaning they won't likely send me out on any work trips. My job is really physical and involves climbing on roofs so it's not something I can really do whilst growing g a person.

mamakassie2 · May 2017

@jjvanwagner25 Baby could probably come with me, but I'd rather not bring them too often. I bring my 4 yr old son when I absolutely have to and everyone loves it. I nanny for 2 girls, 2.5 and 7. They are the sweetest, smartest, funniest little girls and I feel so lucky to spend part of their day with them. The 2.5 yr old is obsessed with babies and will be thrilled if I ever bring baby with me, but my mom lives 5 mins away and might fight for the snuggle time. I'm more worried about having to ask for the maternity leave.

WildMagelet · May 2017

I'm debating. My immediate supervisor got a promotion and transferred the day after our BFP. She would have been one of the first to know because we were close for what I'd consider a work-only relationship. My other boss I'm not in a hurry to tell. Policy-wise we have to give maybe a 30-day notice before EDD and that's it. There's one girl in my office who has also had trouble TTC so I'm not sure about when I want to tell. We've sort of been commiserating about that process so I don't want to keep it from her (and she's definitely the first person I'd tell before the others in my immediate work area) but at the same time I want to make sure I'm sensitive to the fact that she's also T-TTC and I know how much it sucks to hear about everyone else getting PG during that timeframe. I'll probably give her a heads up before I tell the rest of the office, even if its just a weekend, so it's not a super shock. As far that timing - I'm still not sure yet. It hasn't particularly affected my choices at work yet - the nausea doesn't send me running to the bathroom and the bloat makes some pants a little tighter around the midsection. I'd already switched to drinking either diet or caffiene-free drinks out of the machine on the rare occasion I get one so me continuing that trend won't be out of the ordinary. I usually cut out coffee in the summer so me dropping that isn't new either. One of my co-workers is a creepy stalker, though, so I'm sure she's already used her creeper skills to figure it out.

supercoolstephy · May 2017

I told my boss today. I'm still super early on but he knew we were trying and I also realized that my mat leave would hit during a busy cycle at work. So I wanted him to realize the urgency in resolving some issues we've had in previous cycles and receiving deliverables wayyy late. I feel like I'll tell anyone that I'll feel comfortable telling if there is a loss, which I hope is not the case but you never know how life works sometimes.

Baby_is_coming · May 2017

My boss guessed and asked one of the only coworkers who new "how's the baby" when I was out. Sneaky for sure! Then she told my higher up boss on her own who came up and said "congratulations" in front of everyone! I responded with "for what?" - which actually wasn't on purpose, I legitimately wasn't thinking about being pregnant at all. So long story short a lot of people know now. I don't know if I care that much because it's a relief to be exhausted and have people understand.

AnyMax · May 2017

I'm on the fence about this.

I work nights, and only overlap a few minutes in the morning with my bosses once every few months. I probably could go until I am showing/ the other few on nights start to notice.

However, come summers, I am often dealing with very heavy lifting, and would prefer not to dump on them as the work is assigned to me that I am unable to do it. Also, training someone into my position for my maternity leave, especially if brought in from outside the company, would take a couple months.

My annual review is in the next couple weeks, and I am prepared to ask for a raise. I was considering letting them know then, but I really would rather the focus be on my performance.

Mudge85 · May 2017

wellllllll poop - I really wanted to wait longer but I've been soooooo tired that I ended up telling my boss today(I'm an admin in a high paced environment so the dragging is noticeable).... His boss ended up calling me into his office and offering me a promotion today so I ended up telling him too... ugh! I felt like I had to for full disclosure of the position I would be taking. I did tell them both I'm not planning to tell anyone else just yet.

ChloandCoco · May 2017

@Mudge85 - Congrats on your promotion!

Mudge85 · May 2017

@Chloancoco Thanks!!!! I'm very nervous about it!! AHH! its a lot to think about while growing two little humans!

williams-jen · May 2017

I have told my employers and most of the people I work with, just because there are safety concerns with x-ray exposure and inhalant anesthesia exposure - the more people who know, the more careful they are!

WildMagelet · May 2017

@Mudge85 - Congratulations!

sierra2020 · May 2017

I have been debating back and forth on this issue. I know that once I tell my boss, who is unfortunately not very professional, everyone in my department (about 60 people) will know. For that reason I would prefer to wait until I am further along. However, I work outside in the hot Florida sun, and with summer here I am frequently in temperatures of 90-100 degrees. A typical shift at work is around 20,000 steps, and a very busy day an be above 30,000 steps, and also involves a log of lifting. Because of the nature of my job, I feel like it is important to let my boss know earlier in case I need to work at a slower pace or be moved to an indoor location where the heat isn't an issue. So I may just tell them after our first ultrasound, around 7.5 weeks. Plus that way, if something unfortunate were to happen, at least they would know what I was going through if it affected my performance or attendance. Still nerve wracking though!

CANTW82BMOM · May 2017

I started my dream sales job on April 10. DH and I agreed that we would wait a few months to ttc so that I'd be at my job a year before I started maternity leave and would have job protection. God's timing is better than ours though. Anyway, that said, I'm kind of nervous to tell my boss. I work in a super male dominated industry and I know this will not be good news to them. I want to wait as long as I can, but during my second pregnancy (which was an ectopic) I was legit showing at 8 weeks. I'd love to wait as long as possible though, but I think my hand will be forced in a couple of weeks.

sbishop426 · May 2017

I'm trying to wait as long as possible but I don't know if I'll make it to 12 weeks without someone noticing my growing belly. It's hard to button my pants already these days so we'll see!

WildMagelet · May 2017

@sbishop426 - I feel you there. Luckily most of my pants have a little bit of stretch, but the ones that don't I'm not sure I can wear much longer!

sarahjean177 · May 2017

I'm still on the fence. I'm a police officer and my job will change dramatically when I tell them. I'll be out of uniform and on a desk. I told them at 6 weeks with my first and got an automatic transfer. I'm a supervisor and promotions and transfers are coming out soon. I don't want my pregnancy to risk me not getting a transfer. I have an 8 week appt and as long as I see the beautiful flickering heartbeat I might tell them then. My belt and vest are getting harder to put on but that's because of all the bloat right now. I'm dreading going to night shifts in two weeks. Staying awake all day is hard enough right now.

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