Because I found out today I have to drive out of my way on Wednesday to work to do paperwork... and everything makes me nauseous and I have to power of scent like a bloodhound right now.
Our little Red Raider is here and another is on its way!
When I made my lunch for today last night, I thought it sounded great (and healthy); right now, it has to be the most disgusting thing in the entire world. What was I thinking?
@EmilyLove25 I am right there with you. I tend to bring leftovers for lunch, and one of my favorite dishes sounds absolutely revolting. Like, thinking about right now makes me feel gaggy. I have two servings of it left for lunches and it's on our dinner menu again next week. :'(
Luckily I had older leftovers to turn to. I'm hoping when the time comes to actually eat it, it'll go down easier than I'm imagining.
So yesterday I told my two bffs that I was pregnant. One is 7w and I told her first. Then when she told our other friend, she berated her a bit for telling so early and how she would never tell people so early. I was supposed to go next and if I hadn't already told the first one, I would have bailed. I just felt like she wasn't really happy for us. I got a forced hug. I think it might have to do with the fact that the one friend was her first try and she got her bfp but common, I want to shout from the roof tops to anyone who will listen so telling my bffs was a no brainer. It just felt shitty afterwards.
@tsuredraider I am with you on the bloodhound level of smelling capabilities. Last pregnancy this showed up later. I swear just about every thing is making gag and almost puke right now.
Its terrible...I swear this is going to be what gives me away at work-sitting at group meetings gagging because of the smell of my coworkers is a dead give away (I don't even think they smell bad from an objective standpoint, but it is still making me gag).
Also, ALL THE ROAD RAGE. Holy hell. I need to calm down...
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Went to my first appointment today and saw a midwife. She did a breast exam and pelvic exam. She literally pinched, rolled and TWISTED my nipples several times which I have never experienced in a breast exam before and I think she forgot to lubricate the pelvic exam contraption because it HURT.
Anyway, it's over now...and I will continue shopping around for places I want to have my prenatal care at. This place didn't win.
Went to my first appointment today and saw a midwife. She did a breast exam and pelvic exam. She literally pinched, rolled and TWISTED my nipples several times which I have never experienced in a breast exam before and I think she forgot to lubricate the pelvic exam contraption because it HURT.
Anyway, it's over now...and I will continue shopping around for places I want to have my prenatal care at. This place didn't win.
@caeilievalor WHAT???? I have never had anyone do that during a breast exam. I would have died.
My work space houses the pharmacys microwave. It's lunch time and people are heating up everything that smells terrible. Uhg hopefully only a few more weeks of this. Come on 2nd trimester
@caeilievalor Say what?! I've never had someone handle my nipples that way. In a medical caregiving capacity, at least. Get out of there and never look back!
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I just need to bitch about myself this Monday. I've been working from home the past couple weeks, and I keep falling asleep while I'm in the middle of doing something...I remember doing a whole lot of napping during my first pregnancy, but I cannot afford to sleep this much rn. I'm so mad at myself for all this wasted time.
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@tryingfor1st Sorry that your BFF was not as supportive, especially if you guys tell each other everything. Those are the people that you want supporting you, not berating because you confided something to them. Hugs!
@caeilievalor Yeah, no - that is not ok. As a nurse, I would have been PISSED OFF and probably had some choice words for her. Sorry that you went through that.
Arg. I got a great recommendation for a new OBGYN and called to set-up my initial appointment. The office staff lady asked LMP date and I told her the truth but now I almost wish I had put it a day or two earlier because I am 99% sure I ovulated on CD13. She wouldn't give me an appointment earlier than June 20, which is after I get back from a trip to see my family. I had hoped to tell them about the baby while I was home and now I'm not sure it's a good idea without hearing the HB. Also I am not sure if this new dr is in network so I've had to email our plan administrator to find out the deal with that. Do any of you use out of network doctors? Is that crazy?
@tryingfor1st That is beyond belief. Honestly, it probably speaks to her own fears/insecurities/experiences. I bet she'll come around in a few weeks! Side note: your profile picture is adorable! And I brought--and threw out--an elaborate salad. I also just puked the three bites I did take. Not fun!
@missblaze, @SouthernMs, @FireLily0 Haha! You girls are great. Glad I'm not crazy for thinking that was weird. I really thought about saying something to her, but decided against it. She said that the purpose was to help raise the center of the nipple so the baby can latch better, but I don't know...there's definitely something there to latch onto. They're not inverted or anything...
@zamora_spin I haven't used out of network Dr's, but if you can afford it and you find a Dr. you really work well with I say go for it!!! Also, you may be able to find a place that will do an elective ultrasound for $50-70 to see the heartbeat if you don't want to wait.
@caeilievalor ummmmm we've got some time before the baby needs to latch? That breast exam sounds horrible! @tryingfor1st I'm sorry your friend wasn't more excited! Yea it's early but it's your choice to tell who you want when you want! We've told our immediate families and closest friends, they're the ones I'd tell if it ended badly so why wouldn't I tell them the happy part first?
I have a carnitine deficiency, which was discovered during the newborn screening for DD. Essentially, carnitine is an essential enzyme that is needed to convert your food into energy and muscle. It's also imperative for heart health, since the heart is a muscle. So basically, I'm a walking zombie, I have no muscles, and I could develop heart issues at some point in my life. Because we're aware of the disorder now, my DD's metabolic doctor STRONGLY suggested that I take carnitine supplements during any subsequent pregnancies (it's important in brain, heart, and muscle development). This is a surprise pregnancy, which means I am NOT on the supplements. To add to the issues, I have ulcerative colitis (an inflammatory bowl disease) and carnitine supplements REALLY mess with your GI tract (think, constant diarrhea). I just got off the phone with my OB, and I literally have a THOUSAND appointments that I have to make because of this issue (genetic counseling, an EKG, regular visits with the parinatologist, an appointment with my GI, etc. etc.). I mean, of COURSE I want this baby to be nothing but healthy, but all of this extra stuff is going to kill me! I'm essentially going to be poked weekly, have my heart screened regularly, and walk around with diarrhea for the next nine months...
@caeilievalor Thanks, hadn't thought of shopping around for a u/s. I may see if I can do that. I'm bummed about the doctor just because I had a friend recommend him - she had a rainbow baby after IVF and I just felt like whoever she trusted with her pregnancy must be very trustworthy. I asked our plan administrator about out of network and she said the danger isn't just double the deductible (a $3k difference) but also that they can charge me more than what the plan would normally allow and I would also have to cover that. I think I could deal with paying more if I knew the quantity of more, but with the likelihood of deductible rollover and the unknown cost factor I think I better keep looking. Also, sorry about your nipples! I don't see how the MW twisting them once at an appointment will change their position for when the baby comes months from now... Weird.
It is almost 7pm here and DS still isn't home from work. He left at 7 this morning and now it's looking like I will have to deal with DS's bedtime. We never did any kind of sleep training so he takes some effort to get down.
@tryingfor1st - Sorry about your friend. Hopefully she gets whatever stick is up her ass out soon. At least you can commiserate with your other friend!
@zamora_spin - I personally wouldn't want to be responsible for the OOP expenses that come with an OON HCP, but my plan has a lot of options in our area. I ended up picking my previous OB and my current RE by getting a list of In-Network HCP from my Insurance plan's website and then looking them up individually for independent reviews, making sure they're affiliated with the hospital I want to give birth at, and check out how much information they offered on-line. I picked my top two and made appointments. One ended up getting me in 3 weeks earlier than the other and I liked her so I stuck with her and cancelled the other appointment. If I hadn't liked something about the experience I would have ended up going to the other appointment too.
@tryingfor1st I might be the odd woman out on this thread with my opinion... but is there a chance your friend has been trying as well? Obviously I don't know all of your guy's situations. Even if she's not it might be difficult finding out both of her Bffs are pregnant. I would feel like the odd friend out. Yes, she should keep her opinion like that to herself... but some people need some time to adjust when things change in their life. She's no longer going to have as much in common with her two friends as she has, and that will take some uncomfortable adjustment. I would say be as kind and forgiving as you can. Her life is changing too.
Like @WildMagelet said, you do have your other friend to commiserate with, but just keep in mind not to estrange your other friend in doing so. Wether her choice or not to have children she will have moments of feeling completely left out of her friends lives.
@JuliaGoolia719 - that's what I'm saying. I would want their support. @cyanope - I'm sorry you have to go through all that @schaze - crying kids have no logic. I feel like they just live in the moment so at that moment it was cry time...maybe @WildMagelet - thanks, I'm really gladbi now get to go through this with my very best friend @madcouplewithabox - I can see your point. She's actually single and I've been honest with her about all the medical stuff I've had to do (she's asked about it and is interested in it) and I've been helping her figuring out her chart. She's had cycle issues and is trying to figure things out but not have a kid. So I get that she's in a different place but common. She knew eventually I would be announcing and our other friend was her first try so it's kinda crazy, I call it luck. Her choice not to tell anyone until 2nd tri is her choice but don't scold us. Now the two of us feel like we can't share things with her.
Ugh, guys. I keep seeing all of these photos of me from graduations this weekend and the bloat is real. My stomach looks either a little pregnant or just extra fat compared to normal in all of them. Bleh.
@zamora_spin Yeah! I searched "ultrasound" in google and a few places came up. Then I found a girl on Facebook and I found a free women's clinic who will do them for free! Good luck in finding someone. And I'm sure your Dr. search will work out too. I've made initial appointments with four OB's covered by my insurance so I can pick the best. And yes - the nipple thing was totally weird!!! I hadn't even thought about how long it will be before that would even be a problem. That makes it even more weird!
Well I babysit a little girl and take my son with me. The problem is, she has two older brothers and today was the first day of summer! I wanted to tear my hair out. 2 19 month olds, a 4 year old and a 7 year old are just too much for me right now. I no longer have room in my car to drive all 4 somewhere so we're stuck going crazy at home until the pool opens next week. They also don't pay me enough for this shit, but I can't seem to find the balls to say something..
@WildMagelet OMG I would have ruined graduation and not let anyone take pictures of me. So with you on the bloat. I look 18+ weeks, but since we know it isn't the baby, it isn't cute at all.
@cbutler0045 oh wow that's a lot. They definitely should be paying you more if you have all three kids instead of just one. I'm kind of horrified they dont
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Luckily I had older leftovers to turn to. I'm hoping when the time comes to actually eat it, it'll go down easier than I'm imagining.
So yesterday I told my two bffs that I was pregnant. One is 7w and I told her first. Then when she told our other friend, she berated her a bit for telling so early and how she would never tell people so early. I was supposed to go next and if I hadn't already told the first one, I would have bailed. I just felt like she wasn't really happy for us. I got a forced hug. I think it might have to do with the fact that the one friend was her first try and she got her bfp but common, I want to shout from the roof tops to anyone who will listen so telling my bffs was a no brainer. It just felt shitty afterwards.
@tsuredraider I am with you on the bloodhound level of smelling capabilities. Last pregnancy this showed up later. I swear just about every thing is making gag and almost puke right now.
Its terrible...I swear this is going to be what gives me away at work-sitting at group meetings gagging because of the smell of my coworkers is a dead give away (I don't even think they smell bad from an objective standpoint, but it is still making me gag).
Also, ALL THE ROAD RAGE. Holy hell. I need to calm down...
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Anyway, it's over now...and I will continue shopping around for places I want to have my prenatal care at. This place didn't win.
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@caeilievalor Yeah, no - that is not ok. As a nurse, I would have been PISSED OFF and probably had some choice words for her. Sorry that you went through that.
Me: 34 | DH: 32
Married: May 2015
DS: 12/17
BFP#2: 12/26, EDD#2: 9/5
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DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@tryingfor1st I'm sorry your friend wasn't more excited! Yea it's early but it's your choice to tell who you want when you want! We've told our immediate families and closest friends, they're the ones I'd tell if it ended badly so why wouldn't I tell them the happy part first?
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We drove back from my parents' today-5 hour car ride, and DD screamed for half of it. We got home and she's totally fine. WTH kid?
@caeilievalor - That just sounds awful.
@zamora_spin - I personally wouldn't want to be responsible for the OOP expenses that come with an OON HCP, but my plan has a lot of options in our area. I ended up picking my previous OB and my current RE by getting a list of In-Network HCP from my Insurance plan's website and then looking them up individually for independent reviews, making sure they're affiliated with the hospital I want to give birth at, and check out how much information they offered on-line. I picked my top two and made appointments. One ended up getting me in 3 weeks earlier than the other and I liked her so I stuck with her and cancelled the other appointment. If I hadn't liked something about the experience I would have ended up going to the other appointment too.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
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I thought I managed to nap through the nausea but I was wrong. Also, why am I so hungry all the time?? I don't remember that with DS.
Like @WildMagelet said, you do have your other friend to commiserate with, but just keep in mind not to estrange your other friend in doing so. Wether her choice or not to have children she will have moments of feeling completely left out of her friends lives.
@cyanope - I'm sorry you have to go through all that
@schaze - crying kids have no logic. I feel like they just live in the moment so at that moment it was cry time...maybe
@WildMagelet - thanks, I'm really gladbi now get to go through this with my very best friend
@madcouplewithabox - I can see your point. She's actually single and I've been honest with her about all the medical stuff I've had to do (she's asked about it and is interested in it) and I've been helping her figuring out her chart. She's had cycle issues and is trying to figure things out but not have a kid. So I get that she's in a different place but common. She knew eventually I would be announcing and our other friend was her first try so it's kinda crazy, I call it luck. Her choice not to tell anyone until 2nd tri is her choice but don't scold us. Now the two of us feel like we can't share things with her.
Also, @cyanope, that sounds really rough. Best of luck to you.
@caeilievalor I winced for your poor nipples! Sounds like a nonsense old wives tale.
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BFP #2 6/3/2020
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DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!