Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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GTKY: What's the best concert you've ever been to? Well, I just saw Chance the Rapper for the third time this past Friday, and I have to say he is the best live performer I've ever seen. The best concert I've been to was the Bumbershoot music festival in Seattle in 2015. Chance was the closer and it was incredible. His energy level and stage production is top notch. I would love to see Beyonce in concert - I'm not a huge, huge fan, but I enjoy her music and I bet her show would be an experience.
CP 3/2019
GTKY: What's the best concert you've ever been to? So I've only been to a handful, because for whatever reason I am against spending money on concerts. I LOVE them, don't get me wrong, but I can never reason myself to buy tickets! The last concert I saw was Deadmau5 in his prime back in 2011 and that was pretty cool. It might be time for me to take DH to another concert I'm thinking. He loves them too. Maybe that would be a good birthday present.
@SpongeWorthy So sorry you're dealing with more difficult things and know that you and LO are in my Ts and Ps! I know your doctors will do whatever is best for you and baby. Stay strong mama! You got this!
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
@nicole71721 Yuck about the mucous plug. I have also heard not to worry about that, but I'd probably call my midwife just in case. Good luck!
CP 3/2019
The only rant I have is that I wish I could get more help with everything at home including cleaning and organizing. I'm trying my hardest to clean and organize pretty much our entire house due to being in some serious pain and soreness and dealing with my demanding toddler for a couple of weeks. But now that I can move around better and my energy levels are improving, I feel like I have a mountain of things to do.
I still have to baby prep as in organize and sort the baby clothes I already have, buy more baby clothes, furniture, feeding items, put the fabric back on the double stroller, put the Infant car seat back in the car and etc. I have to sweep, mop, vacuum, clean bathrooms, put up laundry, de-clutter, dust, wash my bedsheets and make my bed.
Once I get through all of that, I need to wipe down all table, fridge, knob and lower cabinet surfaces, buy stuff for hospital bags, pack hospital bags for four people, find time to schedule two hospital tours, alter my wedding dress, plan the events for our anniversary (6/2), find something comfortable to wear to a graduation (5/26), do the make up for the graduate that morning around 5:00 am, update all of my documents for the hospital and pre-register for the hospital.
I still need to finish our home projects such as repainting the knobs on the cabinets, placing contact paper on all of the counter tops and our dining table, and buy more furniture. We still need to buy a couch, dining room chairs, love seat, coffee table, end tables, and other items. And even though this may not be all of it, just listing it out is stressing me out because I know I only have maybe six more weeks of being able to move around somewhat freely. *sigh*
GTKY: What's the best concert you've ever been to? I've never been to a few concerts in the past but I did not enjoy them due to the person I attended them with.
Baby Pumpkin Due July 17, 2017
How far along are you? 33 weeks
I didn't get a ton a ton of clothes but what I did get looks mostly boy (we're team green). One of my really good friends is having a boy so I've thought about giving her some of it if I do have a girl. What would you guys do? Keep it for next baby, use it for a girl anyway, or give some of it away? People didn't include receipts and I would never ask for them.
It's not a TON but some of it really SCREAMS boy. Like camo print (and I'm totally not a camo print kind of person). Some of it is just sleepers so I know it doesn't really matter, but it's all so boyish. I'm not typically a girly girl, but if it is a girl, I just hate that her closet is full of boy stuff. I wouldn't care so much if it was a second baby but for our first I want what I want.
GTKY: What's the best concert you've ever been to?
I go to a ton of concerts. BSB will always have my heart. Bon Jovi does an amazing show. I saw 1D before and was shocked by how amazing they were. No Doubt was also amazing. I saw Eminem years and years ago - also amazing (whyyy hasn't he toured in forever??).
I just can't answer this question. Too many good ones to name!
GTKY: What's the best concert you've ever been to? Queen with Paul Rodgers.
@Itsnotyourturn Thank you. It does feel better to vent and get the sadness out sometimes. It can be awkward to talk about with friends IRL. I truly appreciate the kindness you've shown me over the last few months
@Knottie22668383 Wow that is a true laundry list of tasks. I got tired just reading it! Know that if you can't accomplish all that, everything will still be fine. Don't put undo pressure on yourself to get everything done. You need to focus on growing your LO and everything else will fall into place
CP 3/2019
Thank you for the words of encouragement. I'm definitely going to try to slow down or carve out more relaxation time for myself.
I hope that everything is getting better for you though.
Baby Pumpkin Due July 17, 2017