Ok, so I have a question about anal and I've had 2.5 glasses of wine, so I'm going to ask it. What about poop???? Have any of you had poop come out doing all of this anal business? What did you do? Is there a way to guarantee no poopage? What about lube, like does it mix with the poop and create like a luoop mixture?? What then? HALP!
Ladies, what thread did we just discuss all this on?
Essentially, you want to find the ideal window between your last poop and your next. Clean beforehand. You might end up with some residue mixed with lube afterwards, but nothing that smells. Sometimes shit happens. That's part of the package. *shrug* If you're really worried, wait until right after a BM and clean the crap out of however far you can reach. But it's whatever you're comfortable with.
I once pulled a strap on out of my ex that was probably the worst you're envisioning. I just took it to the bathroom and washed it off. No big.
Me: 23 | DH: 30
Married November 2016 TTC #1 November 2016
Dx Anovulatory/NIR PCOS April 2017 50mg Clomid June 2017 BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
@kbamomma33 - I'm not the most experienced to answer this, but basically I am only willing to receive anal if I'm in the perfect poop window: recently (but not too recently) pooped, but not so long after that I feel like there would be an embarrassing mess.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@kbamomma33 Other ladies may have more to add, but as I mentioned a few weeks ago in FFFC what's most important to me is 1) goldilocks poop scenario--not backed up lately, but no possibility of poop for 8+ hours, and 2) a removable shower head used for a very targeted shower (must have good water pressure).
If you're wondering, do I actually stick my soapy fingers in my asshole in the shower and then get that stream all up in there? The answer is yes. Yes, I do.
Btw, talked to DH and we're totally trying the butt plug thing. He tends to favor positions that are a bit tighter, so he's interested in trying this to help. While I'm at it, I'm getting a new vibrator because out of nowhere I'm horny 24/7 and a hand can only do so much when a man's not around. During my shopping spree, I casually asked DH if he was interested in a vibrating c-ring. He said not a vibrating one. I clarified that he wanted a regular c-ring that would just be for him, and he said yes. My man might graduate from vanilla yet
Me: 23 | DH: 30
Married November 2016 TTC #1 November 2016
Dx Anovulatory/NIR PCOS April 2017 50mg Clomid June 2017 BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
@LoveInDC Nice! MH hated his c-ring. He said it was super painful and cut off too much circulation. It was the only thing we ever tried where he was like "throw that shit away NOW". (Yes to butt plugs though.)
I have more to respond to regarding poop, but I do want to say that I HAVE experience with vibrating cock rings (rather DH does) and they are ahhhmazinggggg. They vibrate the balls too and it's like, LAWD JESUS THERE'S A FIRE!!! Love themmm.
@kbamomma33 I'm so interested in a vibrating one just to see if I can finish during sex without touching myself. But I think DH is scared the vibration will distract him and freak him out. But he's been so adventurous lately, I'm not pushing it just yet.
@vflux33 Did you just get one size? We're getting a 3 pack so he can feel out which feels best where (or maybe more than one at once?). Keep you posted But Lord knows DH will nix it if he's not feeling it.
Me: 23 | DH: 30
Married November 2016 TTC #1 November 2016
Dx Anovulatory/NIR PCOS April 2017 50mg Clomid June 2017 BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
Also, I did read the thread that you all are referring to about cleaning poop, etc. I guess my question was more like, does the possibility or occurance of poop turn you off from anal? How do you get around it once you do see poop? Any advice about rebounding from that? It seems like the consensus here is that anal is good. I've actually tried it and there was poop, or maybe it was luoop? So, I'm just not willing to go there again because it wasn't good enough for me to risk another poopsposure.
@kbamomma33 For me, the sensation of any anal play (like a finger) is enough for me. DH usually is the driving force behind anal to completion. I mean, semen is pretty gross too. But you just sorta accept that you do what feels good and deal with the consequences afterwards. As for ruining the mood, you're not going to see anything until it's over anyway.
Maybe you should try playing with yourself a bit when you know you're clean? See if you can enjoy the sensation on its own. If so, then maybe it's worth giving it another shot. If not, maybe it isn't your cup of tea. Bonus: I'll take a tongue up my ass over a dick or a plug any day. Once you see the butt as an area of pleasure, the possibilities open up and your inhibitions fade.
Me: 23 | DH: 30
Married November 2016 TTC #1 November 2016
Dx Anovulatory/NIR PCOS April 2017 50mg Clomid June 2017 BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
@LoveInDC Um, IMO, the vibrating C ring is awesome for the guy because it actually vibrates the whole cock too. YEP. The vibrating part touches your clit, and makes even lame old missionary bombtastical, soooo if you want to try it I'd just get one and give it to him as a present.
@kbamomma33 - Like @LoveInDC I have given and received anal and I guess that makes me feel like I'm on even ground with DH. I've never really thought about it before, but after he let me stick stuff up his butt, I was more comfortable with him in mine (theoretically). He's actually too thick to enjoy for long periods of time during anal, but I'll let him use toys, fingers, and tongue.
ETA I agree about the vibrating c-ring being pretty fantastic, but I enjoyed it more than DH did.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@LoveInDC If memory serves, I think we tried just one. Maybe it was meant for a man of less girth, but aren't they supposed to be tight, and isn't the circulation issue kind of the draw for some dudes, or am I wrong about that? Anyway, he was disinterested in trying with another and it wasn't like my favorite thing ever so I didn't press the issue.
@kbamomma33 I'm with LoveinDC in that I'd rather just the finger while other stuff is also happening, but I'm open to full on if the moment is right. MH isn't squeamish (and is polite about it), and he always showers after any type of sex. He's never said anything. I'll admit at first I had a big fear of poopsposure (good one btw!) and the fear is still kinda there, but I just deal. (FYI unlike some of the other ladies here, I have not given anal bc MH would never be into the whole pegging thing so I don't have that perspective.) If there is a poopsposure it is typically after everyone's had their fun so we've mentally moved on by then. Also I feel like if someone's putting anything in there and there's a little poopsposure, they took that risk. I'll take the appropriate measures to reduce the risk, but it's a butt. Poop comes out of butts.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I seriously miss one Friday on TB (It was our anniversary and we were busy) and I miss secret groups and anal conversations! I like the idea of these secret groups. @antoto that's exactly how I pictured a secret group to be like. Not that TTGP isn't a great group of ladies but to make your friendship stronger is great! Of course you wouldn't want just anyone to join!
I'm just cracking up at the greatness of this board/thread. Normally when a FFFC has this many replies someone is getting flamed hard. And you click here and.... nope. Butt stuff.
@kbamomma33, it used too, but once I gave it a try, and I realized how there wasn't an issue with proper preparation, it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't necessarily agree to anal if i hadn't been planning it the whole time, then I would probably be too self conscious to enjoy it
Re: FFFC
Essentially, you want to find the ideal window between your last poop and your next. Clean beforehand. You might end up with some residue mixed with lube afterwards, but nothing that smells. Sometimes shit happens. That's part of the package. *shrug* If you're really worried, wait until right after a BM and clean the crap out of however far you can reach. But it's whatever you're comfortable with.
I once pulled a strap on out of my ex that was probably the worst you're envisioning. I just took it to the bathroom and washed it off. No big.
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
If you're wondering, do I actually stick my soapy fingers in my asshole in the shower and then get that stream all up in there? The answer is yes. Yes, I do.
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
@vflux33 Did you just get one size? We're getting a 3 pack so he can feel out which feels best where (or maybe more than one at once?). Keep you posted
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
Maybe you should try playing with yourself a bit when you know you're clean? See if you can enjoy the sensation on its own. If so, then maybe it's worth giving it another shot. If not, maybe it isn't your cup of tea. Bonus: I'll take a tongue up my ass over a dick or a plug any day. Once you see the butt as an area of pleasure, the possibilities open up and your inhibitions fade.
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
ETA I agree about the vibrating c-ring being pretty fantastic, but I enjoyed it more than DH did.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
@kbamomma33 I'm with LoveinDC in that I'd rather just the finger while other stuff is also happening, but I'm open to full on if the moment is right. MH isn't squeamish (and is polite about it), and he always showers after any type of sex. He's never said anything. I'll admit at first I had a big fear of poopsposure (good one btw!) and the fear is still kinda there, but I just deal. (FYI unlike some of the other ladies here, I have not given anal bc MH would never be into the whole pegging thing so I don't have that perspective.) If there is a poopsposure it is typically after everyone's had their fun so we've mentally moved on by then. Also I feel like if someone's putting anything in there and there's a little poopsposure, they took that risk. I'll take the appropriate measures to reduce the risk, but it's a butt. Poop comes out of butts.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
I like the idea of these secret groups. @antoto that's exactly how I pictured a secret group to be like. Not that TTGP isn't a great group of ladies but to make your friendship stronger is great! Of course you wouldn't want just anyone to join!
I love you guys.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18