FFFC

doula-mama

@LoveInDC Are you in the book club? We're not exclusive!!

50Wife

@Sailing_Mama yea I don't know. I don't have a good reason behind doing what I did 

ETA I bump on my phone at work so it wasn't as ridiculous lol 

LoveInDC

Ooo way to get things started @charlestonchew! I started Provera on Wednesday, so I got 2 weeks of hot, non-TTC sex. Between DH loving my "new body" and me being crazy horny out of nowhere, we are having all the fun nearly every night. Blowjobs to completion for him, I convinced him to try 69-ing for the first time (he approves), we tried to make a butt baby, and all sorts of related fun

LoveInDC

@Sailing_Mama I am not a part of book club! But I'm not exactly looking for reading suggestions ATM so I don't know how useful joining would be

KristoKekerooni

LoveInDC said:

Ooo way to get things started @charlestonchew! I started Provera on Wednesday, so I got 2 weeks of hot, non-TTC sex. Between DH loving my "new body" and me being crazy horny out of nowhere, we are having all the fun nearly every night. Blowjobs to completion for him, I convinced him to try 69-ing for the first time (he approves), we tried to make a butt baby, and all sorts of related fun

Everything about all of this made me die laughing. 

Another FFFC: I  LOVE attempts at butt babies. It's my favorite part of sex. 

petethecat

@lund Yep. I feel you. (ETA on the vibrator stuff)

My FFFC is that DH is coming home today and I've spent more time this morning lusting over all the wine that I'm going to drink tonight than the actual thought of us possibly banging. *TW* I choose not to drink at all when he's traveling and I am DD's sole caregiver. *TW*

I'm not going to weigh in on any TTGP private groups because I'm still somewhat of a newb no one probably cares about my opinion on that. I'm also probably too much of a newb to have an opinion on it honestly, which is why I mostly don't. I do want to shout out to @LoveInDC though because I give you mad respect for just telling it on lots of topics, respectfully. I think it's cool that you just come out and say how you feel on a lot of things. I like it.

eggplantface

@LuND RE: entering anal into FF

doxiemoxie212

@LoveInDC no to 69ing. Just no. The last thing I need while I'm trying to focus on having an orgasm is a dick jammed down my throat. Also, I'm not strong enough to hold myself up if I'm on top, I don't like sides, and the view if DH is on top is...........not my favorite? 

justkeepswimming8

Re: butt baby - I couldn't even get DH to try anal if I wanted to try it. We have a separate bathroom for pooping... he's so grossed out by it it will never happen.

Re: secret/private groups - I didn't even know this was a thing! I always wondered what LFAF stood for. I'll have to look into them and would enjoy them too because I miss people when they move over to BMB.

My FFFC: ever since watching The Great Sperm Race, every time we BD I imagine DH's sperm as little people trying to climb through my cervix (yes including the music). It's not an image I can get out of my head now. It also makes me a bit sad to know that like 99% of them die before they even get a chance to see the egg.

eggplantface

@justkeepswimming8 The part where they start screaming just before ejaculation haunts me. Are they really that scared?

LoveInDC

@kbamomma33 Thanks for the love

doxiemoxie212 said:

@LoveInDC no to 69ing. Just no. The last thing I need while I'm trying to focus on having an orgasm is a dick jammed down my throat. Also, I'm not strong enough to hold myself up if I'm on top, I don't like sides, and the view if DH is on top is...........not my favorite? 

justkeepswimming8 said:

Re: butt baby - I couldn't even get DH to try anal if I wanted to try it. We have a separate bathroom for pooping... he's so grossed out by it it will never happen.
*SNIP*

That's what I thought. DH is grossed out by so much. But his friends talked it up about how intense and amazing the sensation is, it got him curious Now, he's a bit more familiar with allll my nether regions...

justkeepswimming8

eggplantface said:

@justkeepswimming8 The part where they start screaming just before ejaculation haunts me. Are they really that scared?

OMG I'm dying laughing right now... I completely forgot about this. BDing tomorrow should be extra fun. 

@loveindc - Hmmm maybe I'll have to educate him in those sensations if/when I want to try it out. I'm sure he's not willing to talk to anyone about this.

LoveInDC

@justkeepswimming8 Hmm, then maybe bring it up casually at first? Ask if he watches anal porn? Maybe pleasure yourself a bit (after a shower so he knows it's "all clean")? Have you ever before, or are you both going to be newbs?

KristoKekerooni

Chiming in to say plugs are a good way to get him accustomed to the idea. That's what I did because H was against it. It was enough to get him thinking of the butt as a sexual organ instead of a poo hole? Because I always bought cute jeweled ones. And also, he can feel the plug even during vaginal sex, so it got him into it a bit. Now we both enjoy all sorts of butt stuff. 

justkeepswimming8

@loveindc - we are so super vanilla when it comes to sex (1 - 2 positions). He does not watch porn (that I know of) and there has only been one time where I've pleasured myself in front of him. He's pretty sensitive so I'm cautious to bring up trying new things (like anal or different positions) as to not make him feel self conscious about his abilities but I would like to spice things up a bit, make TTC a bit more fun. We are both newbs, he was a virgin when we met and I had a couple one/two time partners before him but never did anything crazy.

KristoKekerooni

@justkeepswimming8 - Not that you asked me, but my H was a virgin too! It took forever till we even tried new positions and anytime I suggested something it was like a personal affront. What if you just put in a plug or something and didn't mention it and if he asked you just be like "Oh, that? It's nothing... I just thought it would be fun!"

LoveInDC

@justkeepswimming8 Well, lady, you two are shacked together. So if you haven't told him what you want in the bedroom, what are you waiting for?! There are always ways to be sensitive to your partner when discussing these things, but don't let that scare you away from speaking up altogether! DH was experienced, but super vanilla when we got together (only missionary, no toying or other things). I had less experience, but with more kink.

I found the best way to introduce things was to casually bring them up. Legit. We would be in bed before falling asleep and out of nowhere I would say "Have you ever thought about butt play?" And we'd just have this objective conversation about it. What were his hard nos? What would I be interested in trying? Then, next time we'd have sexy time, his hand would wander down there and I'd respond positively. Put the idea in their head, encourage their exploration, and let it happen! Just my experience

SkilledSailor

Sailing_Mama said:

@LoveInDC Are you in the book club? We're not exclusive!!

Oh! There's a book club? I like book clubs. How do I find this?



I've never been very curious about anal sex, largely because when there's an accidental slip it hurts like a mother effer! I logically get that it would be different when planned but I've been turned off from it. That said, @KristoKekerooni has got me interested in plugs. I'll keep those in mind for a time when I feel like spicing things up a bit more. 

I guess my FFFC is that sometimes I would rather do foreplay/handsy stuff to get off rather than sex because I'm lazy and it's cleaner. 

lulu1180

*coming out of lurking at the mention of the book club*
@SkilledSailor Go here and request to join.  One of the mods will approve you.  We just picked the book for June!
https://forums.thebump.com/group/1057-tb-book-club

eta *goes back to lurking mode*

[Deleted User]

AlohaKumu said:

@LoveInDC -- I totally put in a request to join LFAF a couple months ago, but no love.   However, I'm down to join a super-secret group with you fabulous ladies!

I actually remember this @alohakumu.  Nothing personal!  It's just that you were still quite newish and none of us really knew you that well yet.  We share A TON of personal stuff in our group (we send things to each other's actual addresses, we have meet ups, we stay at each other's houses) so we wait until it looks like someone is going to be a regular contributor at the very least.  Usually people who get asked to join LFAF have been scouted by existing members.  And FFFC:  I have actually had my eye on several people on TTGP, but like I said, LFAFers are cautious. 

Honestly I feel like TTGP is a pretty tight group as well, and I'm honored to be able to hang out here with all of you  

eggplantface

Aw, I miss you @lulu1180

50Wife

@justkeepswimming8 chiming in here. They can absolutely feel a plug if you have it in. Maybe try that so you can both experience a different sensation from it. Maybe it'll open him up to the idea. 
Even if it gets him to use a finger for some additional pressure instead of the plug eventually....gradually work into it without him having to do anything initially. 

AlohaKumu

It's all good, @antoto. I know I was still a general newb then and I figured the group probably reached out rather than accepting randos. I'm just happy to have our TTGP community.

KristoKekerooni

@SkilledSailor - YASSSSS. It's nice because it makes you feel just a bit tighter without the in and out that can make anal uncomfortable. A plug is really a great place to start. Just make sure to use lots of lube to put it in. Getting it out is easier, because you are more relaxed. They sell packages on Amazon that are like "beginner sets" with incremental sizes so you don't have to guess. Just start with the tiny one. Word of caution, I recommend buying stainless steel or glass. The rubbery kind catch more on skin, which is what causes pain. The stainless steel/glass are really smooth and comfortable. 

doula-mama

@antoto @AlohaKumu I agree that TTGP is also pretty special... not sure what I'd do without you ladies!

petethecat

FFFC: Butt play. I can't. At all. Sorry guys.

Redpuma119

I think that anyone who wants to start a private group should do it. I know that people have mentioned that they don't want to moderate it or be the "head" of the group.. but just go for it. Ask the ladies here that you seem to jive with to be a part of it. You can set the tone. Carte Blanche.   Like @antoto said, those groups are incredibly close IRL and it seems like those ladies have relationships well beyond a ttc journey.  I don't think that anyone should feel bad that they aren't a part of those groups either. Just like real life, you chose to have more intimate relationships with certain people.  They have invested a lot of time here and probably want a place to go where they aren't bombarded with the same questions all the time,newbies and drive-bys, and people who don't use Oxford commas. (I'm not saying anyone here does that- just using examples.) I also assume tht those ladies still lurk and occasionally comment. I am not as active as many of the members and I am sometimes lost in new screen names when I haven't been on for a while- but I've been around long enough to see people come and go, and that's the nature of ttgp. So I say start a group if you want! Add current and old members of ttgp. Make the group you want!

Redpuma119

Oh so I guess my fffc can be this...

After my first loss I was lurking/semi active here as well as the ttcal board. I was pm-Ing with some ladies frequently and one mentione d a blog that she kept. Who she was, compared to who I thought she was, were two very different things and I was honestly  disappointed. It was kindve like meeting someone who you idolized and realizing that they weren't who you thought they were. 

justkeepswimming8

@KristoKekerooni and @50wife - good idea about the butt plug! I'll have to try that out once I get some nerve haha

Like @loveindc said, I will try to bring up some things casually first - we are stuck with each other, why am I too shy to discuss this kind of stuff with MH? I think what I'll try first is maybe a new position or a vibrator to get things warmed up. I did get us a kama sutra book when we first starting having sex and it has yet to be used (I was a little more outspoken back then, not sure why I'm not now). Time to dust that baby off. A vibrator would be nice to use during sex and I bet I can convince him if I tell him it'll help in the baby making if I finish during sex (not that I think it does but it's a way to convince him lol). 

Thanks for all the advice guys! I love this community because I don't have many girlfriends in IRL that I can talk to, especially about sex. LOL

Side note: watching 50 Shades Darker at the moment haha this could be why I'm worried to bring stuff up to him because when I started reading the books he was worried that I wanted that kind of sex. I think it's hot to read or watch but I'm not sure it's something I'd like IRL. 

doula-mama

@justkeepswimming8 There are lots of things that I love reading in erotica that I don't want to do in real life - I'm not sure how to explain that go your H though 

50Wife

@SkilledSailor definitely invest in some plugs! And absolutely lube it up!  They sell an anal lube that numbs a little bit too if you're worried about it hurting. Just don't get it in your vag

i agree with  @KristoKekerooni said about a glass one. Makes a huge difference and is much easier to use. 

And you definitely need to be relaxed and into it. I recommend giving it a shot one day when things are already very hot and heavy. You'll more relaxed and it'll work/feel so much better 

KristoKekerooni

@justkeepswimming8 - I actually told H that! I told him that I had to finish to help us conceive and so if I didn't finish during, I would use the vibe after and it wasn't weird... haha. We are so beyond that now, but I whatever. haha

Avrilmai

Sailing_Mama said:

@antoto @AlohaKumu I agree that TTGP is also pretty special... not sure what I'd do without you ladies!

zwink1

@justkeepswimming8, I'm with @Sailing_Mama. Probably 90% of what i watch/read I have absolutely no interest in doing. This completely confuses H, who doesn't understand why I'd want to watch it if I don't want to do it.

I compared it to sports... just because he watches MLB doesn't mean he wants to swap out softball for pro-baseball...I still don't know whether it connected, haha. 

doxiemoxie212

@zwink1 @justkeepswimming8 @Sailing_Mama I told DH the same - that I like reading about erotica stuff from a third party perspective, but even when I fantasize in my head it's like, happening to other people; I'm not involved. DH says when he fantasizes it's always happening TO him, or he's doing something to someone else in his head. Like if he watches porn, he likes to imagine he's the guy. It's very interesting to me how different people's brains work with this stuff. 

Aurora1973

@lund, I always love when someone references butt babies.  So thanks for that

You guys are making me want to go home and get some plug action.  OH loves the whole double penetration thing, when we do it with a plug in my back door.  I love it, too...and I suspect it will help OH decide that we can get one or two TTC sex sessions in after he just made a deposit into our frozen sperm arsenal yesterday (it's FW, so I'm really hoping!!!).  I also highly recommend it as a way to get into butt play. 

AFM, I guess I have two, one naughtier than the other.  The first is that even though most of the time I prefer when OH and I go to bed at the same time, every once in a while I am happy to go up on my own and watch some naughty videos on my phone and take care of myself.  I always tell him later, and he thinks that's hot anyway, thankfully.

The other is that today I ordered my lunch online at a place a couple of blocks away from my office that will have it ready to pick up in 15 minutes.  As I'm walking over there, I feel my panties start to slip down.  By the time I got there, the only reason they were still on and not around my ankles was that I'm wearing capris today.  I had to find a place where no one could see me reaching into my pants to yank them back up.  Thankfully I hiked them high enough that they stayed put on the way back (and also gave me a bit of a wedgie).  Guess those are going in the garbage tonight...

charlestonchew

lulu1180 said:

*coming out of lurking at the mention of the book club*
@SkilledSailor Go here and request to join.  One of the mods will approve you.  We just picked the book for June!
https://forums.thebump.com/group/1057-tb-book-club

eta *goes back to lurking mode*

I just requested too...

looeeze

@eggplantface

petethecat

Ok, so I have a question about anal and I've had 2.5 glasses of wine, so I'm going to ask it. What about poop???? Have any of you had poop come out doing all of this anal business? What did you do? Is there a way to guarantee no poopage? What about lube, like does it mix with the poop and create like a luoop mixture?? What then? HALP!

charlestonchew

@kbamomma33 Well, honestly I try to be conscious of when I last pooped. But there was a time where there was some...so it just got wiped off and DH jumps in the shower to clean his junk afterwards. Or you can just wear a condom if worried and still want to do it. I feel like if you're in a place in a relationship to let them stick something in your butt, you hopefully have a pretty open relationship and can handle grossness lol.