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Hello! New to the board.

Makoah Makoah member
in June 2017 Moms
Louisville, Ky. 38 years old. 36 weeks and 4 days. Also, I have a 20 and 16 year old; both boys. Oh and my little one is also a boy. 
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  • huzzahuzzahuzzahuzza member
    At least this one introed before asking some random question :wink: Even though she didn't read "Read this first" thread! lol
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  • ladylolly89ladylolly89 member
    EmeraldNC said:
    Where is the sign/advertisement for The Bump BMBs?!?!

    That is the only explanation for the insane amount of randoms we are getting...



    Probably the Facebook group...
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  • wife-and-mommywife-and-mommy member
    I was just thinking the other day what a waste of space the READ THIS FIRST thread is taking up on top when none of us regulars need it anymore. Now I guess it'll have to stay. 
    Hi @Makoah
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  • erinh84erinh84 member
    Before you ask, no you can't join our fb group. 
    Also, thank you!
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  • shmarplershmarpler member
    ladylolly89 said:
    EmeraldNC said:
    Where is the sign/advertisement for The Bump BMBs?!?!

    That is the only explanation for the insane amount of randoms we are getting...



    Probably the Facebook group...
    Nope. 
    Married 8/29/09
    MC: 9/14
    Goober #1 born: 8/17/15
    MC: 9/16
    Goober # 2 EDD: 6/27/17
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  • anitamargarita_82anitamargarita_82 member
    @roo1381 bye!!!! Peace out.  
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  • erinh84erinh84 member
    itsfine said:
    What in the actual f*ck is up with all these randos. 
    This. Stranger danger. Guys, I'm scared. Who even are these people?
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  • ladyoftulipsladyoftulips member
    edited May 2017
    @roo1381
    Thank you for pointing that out. While I'm new to posting, I'm definitely not new to reading what's going on in the boards. I prayed for some ladies here who got into preterm labor and those that lost their angels. I previously introduced myself when I was 8 weeks( now 35 weeks) with a different user name but lost my login details because I moved countries. I rejoined again but didn't feel the need for another intro. There are a lot of women here who don't comment but read the posts seeking encouragement, love and support through those who feel comfortable sharing their lives (not everyone is). The unwelcoming attitude that is shown sometimes by the so called 'regulars' defeats the purpose of what this app is supposed to be about and it has discouraged me various times from replying to posts or commenting. Can we just show some love? Aren't we just all in the same journey?
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  • erinh84erinh84 member
    mgole33 said:
    @roo1381
    Thank you for pointing that out. While I'm new to posting, I'm definitely not new to reading what's going on in the boards. I prayed for some ladies here who got into preterm labor and those that lost their angels. I previously introduced myself when I was 8 weeks( now 35 weeks) with a different user name but lost my login details because I moved countries. I rejoined again but didn't feel the need for another intro. There are a lot of women here who don't comment but read the posts seeking encouragement, love and support through those who feel comfortable sharing their lives (not everyone is). The unwelcoming attitude that is shown sometimes by the so called 'regulars' defeats the purpose of what this app is supposed to be about and it has discouraged me various times from replying to posts or commenting. Can we just show some love? Aren't we just all in the same journey?
    You have to give support to get support. Just sayin'.
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  • mombodmombod member
    No one is opposed to new people participating but introduce yourself, read the guidelines, participate. Dont just jump in demanding support. I think that plenty of new people have come in and been given support...its all in the approach. And nope Im not cool with someone literally popping in one day and saying let me join your fb group with access to your location, your childrens names, and birth dates. 
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  • ladyoftulipsladyoftulips member
    edited May 2017
    @Wino0920 As a FTM I didn't feel like I could advise anyone but I know next time around I'll have more to contribute and I'll be in a comfortable space 

    @ellie111227 yes relationships can emerge through here and it's a beautiful thing but not everyone here is looking for that and that's not okay? This is a public support forum and it's free (no conditions attached ). Unless I'm mistaken, then the guidelines should be clear.
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  • Stankonia2014Stankonia2014 member
    mgole33 said:
    @Wino0920 As a FTM I didn't feel like I could advise anyone but I know next time around I'll have more to contribute and I'll be in a comfortable space 

    @ellie111227 yes relationships can emerge through here and it's a beautiful thing but not everyone here is looking for that and that's not okay? This is a public support forum and it's free (no conditions attached ). Unless I'm mistaken, then the guidelines should be clear.
    You're right, this is a public forum, where people can give and receive support. As @mirdamae03 mentioned, there's a natural progression and boards establish guidelines as they go. There are guidelines for this board, they're in the "Please Read FIRST" post pinned at the top of the page. 

    It's cool if you're not looking to establish relationships, but that relationship can feel very one-sided when you choose not to establish those relationships early on and then all of the sudden want or need support after lurking in the shadows and then barging into an already establish group that has supported one another for the last 30+ weeks.
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  • Elyse1384Elyse1384 member
    Wait... this is a support forum????  Well shit - I'm in the wrong place

    Seriously though @mgole33 how can you expect anyone to be invested in you when you're not invested in them?  If a random person walked up to you and said "Ugh... I'm having the worst swelling this pregnancy", you might be polite, smile and nod, but I'm sure you're  thinking "Um OK????".  Now if a friend or family member did the same thing, I'm sure you might commiserate and offer advice on how you're dealing with it because you actually know and care about that person.  

    Lurking and giving silent support doesn't count.  When I was an expecting FTM years ago, I lurked M14 as I joined late and I didn't feel I had much to offer.  Most of my questions were better served for my OB.  I couldn't fathom expecting the M14 BMB to give a flying f about me when I didn't take the time to interact with them.  I elected to participate in my N15 group and this J17 group and have enjoyed getting to "know" others and share experiences.  

    So yeah... it's weird that a bunch of randoms are showing up/coming out of lurkdom just now and deciding that this is their community too and all the "mean regs" should just accept it and let them into whatever private group they want to be in.
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  • ellie111227ellie111227 member
    edited May 2017
    mgole33 said:
    @Wino0920 As a FTM I didn't feel like I could advise anyone but I know next time around I'll have more to contribute and I'll be in a comfortable space 

    @ellie111227 yes relationships can emerge through here and it's a beautiful thing but not everyone here is looking for that and that's not okay? This is a public support forum and it's free (no conditions attached ). Unless I'm mistaken, then the guidelines should be clear.
    Ok, but if someone isn't interested in getting to know us and having us get to know them, then they should stick to lurking. If you don't want the relationship, don't demand it. Also, yeah, this is a public forum (not just for support, obviously, but whatever), which means that we are all people who are under no obligation to respond to you or anyone else the way you want us to. We're not employees of the bump here to provide you with a pleasant consumer experience.
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