Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Fit Mama Check-In : MAY
Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday! I was supposed to walk a local 5K with my neighbor this morning, I had registered and everything. Then TOTALLY forgot. it's so unlike me to just blank like that!!
Do you think you could let her know on FB? Maybe she doesn't use the Bump all that much anymore?
my FB email is smurfette0725@yahoo.com
thanks!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
I was talking with DH this weekend about upgrading our basement gym. Realistically I won't be renewing my crossfit membership, I won't have time once I go back to work, so I'll just drop in here and there, maybe Saturdays. I'll plan to do my training runs during my lunch break at work or before work. But want to keep lifting. We have a squat rack and pull up bar in the basement with a bar and plates- kettle bells and med ball. But thinking of adding a C9 rower or peleton bike. Can't decide! I'm inspired by your set up @triwellnessgirl! Love that you have the whiteboard and everything!! Loving the programming you've posted on IG.
I have my 6 week PP appt Thursday. Fingers crossed I get cleared to start slowly ramping back up. Strangely, I still have no feeling the few inches above my incision. And it's still protruding and hard. I still look 4 months pregnant. Maybe my uterus still hasn't finished shrinking bc I wasn't able to BF? It doesn't feel like fat like my muffin top.
a couple moms just made Facebook profiles for the group only/and don't use it the "normal" way or share it with friends and family//incase you miss the community here and that sounds tempting.
And an gym upgrade sounds awesome!! I'm jealous of all of your home gyms!
also... I JUST realized it's Monday. Hah. I don't have time to start a new check in right now, so someone else can tag in this week if available! Otherwise I can start one tonight when kids are in bed.
Good to know about the FB group. I actually do have a FB account, there's just nothing on it.
I'll do a check in this week. Oscar is having a sleepy day - going right back to nap after his feeds so while he's asleep I'll post one up.
I posted an update via fb one day when I was flabbergasted but am sorry i didnt make my way back here yet.
So I've been Mia bc we've been down a really difficult path which has led to finding out that my FIL has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. We're all just a bottle of heartbroken trying to stay positive prayers.
My husband has just thrown himself into work and working out. It's tough since we live about a 5 hour drive away (and that's driving without 2 babies) so 7-8hours. At this point were taking it one day at a time.
Switching gears..
I'm starting feel like I'm in a routine. I've started stroller strides and really cleaned up my eating. What I'm most excited about is the 8 week body back program i just registered for yesterday. It's an extremely instense program with 16 HIT workouts, weigh in and measurement before and after, meal planning but most importantly the group of ladies you do it with. I've never met someone who didnt describe it as life changing. Starts June 6! So I've got a few weeks to keep getting back into the swing of things to maximize what I get out of it. Which I'm really looking at it as a strong reset to get me back into my healthier lifestyle.
Btws... I'm east coast too!!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19