I wrote this and then wasn't going to post it, but then I just saw another unkind comment on yet another post and I just can't take it anymore.
If we were sitting in a weekly meetup group for pregnant women would any of you be speaking to eachother the way you do on this board sometimes? If someone said/did something you didn't agree with or went against the grain would you ask them to leave? Would you assume a newbie is just drivebying and not make them feel welcome because they stopped in for the first meeting (or even didnt show up for a couple weeks and then showed again) and had questions or needed encouragement? Or would you continue to encourage them to come back and get to know the group and how it operates?
I would challenge all of you when someone doesn't share in your opinion, including board rules to lift eachother up, be kind. The beginning of this post started so wonderful, people were encouraging! Did we really have to take this sour turn. And once the sourness started, did we really need to continue to exacerbate the problem - rather than just killing it with kindness.
The people on this board are so amazing, and care about each other so much. I don't understand why we can't share that with others, even with other people who are different from you or have different opinions. Sorry but it's making everyone seem catty (even though I don't actually think you are), and it certainly doesn't encourage all those lurkers out there to engage more.
For the record - I'm not interested in justifying who is wrong and who is right. I just hope people choose kindness over all of this drama.
I will now be hiding for the rest of the day because I think I just ostracized myself.
@towntowns I'm personally pretty big on rules and structure. Also, I spend a lot of my time in public meetings, so my reaction might be different than everyone else's. But, if we were in a weekly meet up group with rules and agendas and people wanted to disregard the rules or ask about things that weren't on the agenda, I would correct them. I would try to do it politely, but if I was ignored, I would correct them loudly.
Rules are good. The structure is designed to help keep the board uncluttered so that we can see new posts that are important. I'm not saying that the OP's post isn't important, but big annoucements, labor posts, a loss, etc could all get over looked when pushed down by individual posts of common repeat topics.
Wow, ok! Thank you to those who have shared their thoughts and good wishes to my question! I totally understand structure, so I'm sorry if my post kind of broke those rules already laid out. As a new person, who is trying to get myself involved here --I'm not really able to read and respond daily so don't take that as me ghosting or anything like that--its hard to feel encouraged to participate if its rubbing people the wrong way. I think someone posted in here somewhere about how its hard to find something in a wide open thread like the Weekly Symptoms and I agree with that. But understand there were things previosuly agreed upon as the best way and I'm happy to try my best to follow that I did try searching at the top to make sure there wasn't something already on this, all i found was stuff from like 2012 so I thought I was safe to post! Anywho, my bad if I messed something up or caused some drama....is there a learning curve here? LOL
Again, thank you to those who responded about my the topic of my post. While I understand that no one is a medical professional, sometimes its just good to hear that others have had the same experiences and kind of commiserate in shared misery lol
@CharChar821 The search bar at the bottom of the main page for the group (at least that's where it is on the app) is really good. You can search for posts based on keywords, author, title, etc. FWIW, I know a lot of us have complained in the symptoms thread about leg cramps and swelling on various weeks.
Re: Leg Swelling!!
If we were sitting in a weekly meetup group for pregnant women would any of you be speaking to eachother the way you do on this board sometimes? If someone said/did something you didn't agree with or went against the grain would you ask them to leave? Would you assume a newbie is just drivebying and not make them feel welcome because they stopped in for the first meeting (or even didnt show up for a couple weeks and then showed again) and had questions or needed encouragement? Or would you continue to encourage them to come back and get to know the group and how it operates?
I would challenge all of you when someone doesn't share in your opinion, including board rules to lift eachother up, be kind. The beginning of this post started so wonderful, people were encouraging! Did we really have to take this sour turn. And once the sourness started, did we really need to continue to exacerbate the problem - rather than just killing it with kindness.
The people on this board are so amazing, and care about each other so much. I don't understand why we can't share that with others, even with other people who are different from you or have different opinions. Sorry but it's making everyone seem catty (even though I don't actually think you are), and it certainly doesn't encourage all those lurkers out there to engage more.
For the record - I'm not interested in justifying who is wrong and who is right. I just hope people choose kindness over all of this drama.
I will now be hiding for the rest of the day because I think I just ostracized myself.
June Siggy Challenge: Workout
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
June Siggy Challenge: Workout
Again, thank you to those who responded about my the topic of my post. While I understand that no one is a medical professional, sometimes its just good to hear that others have had the same experiences and kind of commiserate in shared misery lol
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20