@jess0211 that's rude, I would be very upset if someone said that to me. I already got annoyed when I told my friend on Friday and when we were talking about it, I said it was hard to keep my pants buttoned and she said "already?!" Look, girl, I'm 5'3", do not have a long torso, and started this pregnancy at 108 lbs with a 23" waist. My uterus is now the size of a grapefruit and it has to go somewhere! Also I don't want to have to justify it! People are rude!
People are rude. I have a tilted uterus so I show early anyway. I've been told that my cousin (only a week behind me) isn't showing yet. Like, thanks people, let's compare the whole time. When I see someone who's pregnant, I ALWAYS say something positive. No one wants to hear how big or small they look. I realize I'm showing early. Thanks...I get it. Let's not mention that I also had to get off of Adderall which causes weight gain anyway. People suck.
@mariposa_767s right. We are all different women and will all carry our pregnancies in our own ways. When I see a pregnant woman or talk about a pregnant woman all I say is "you/she look/s so cute!" or some other similar compliment. Commenting on size and shape and whatever is unnecessary.
Okay, I feel like this is really stupid because I am so, so happy to be pregnant and I wouldn't have wanted to wait a minute longer to be pregnant, but I'm kind of sad I'm due in November. I'm obsessed with the holidays, and Christmas and Thanksgiving time is my very favorite time of year. My DD was born in December and when she was born, I hoped none of my other babies would be born close to Christmas because I just felt like I didn't get to celebrate as much as I wanted to. This year I'm giving up spending Christmas with my family because I don't feel comfortable traveling with a baby that young in winter. I know it's the right thing to do, but I'm so sad about it. My ILs are probably traveling away from us too, so it will feel pretty lonely here and being postpartum will make it hard for me to do the festive things I usually enjoy. Now that I'm thinking about it, this may not be good for my emotional health postpartum either.
Anyone else feeling the same way?
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
@emucoleman I totally get it. I'm not sad about being pregnant and I knew the timing might be this way, but I am pretty sad about missing Thanksgiving. I love Thanksgiving! I'm so happy we'll have a little baby for the holiday but it will probably just be DH and me and baby. My MIL might come but we don't have space for guests to stay the night and I'd kind of prefer it just be our new little family if we can't go to the actual celebration. We don't really do Christmas but DH's dad does and will be visiting us then (my ILs are split) so that should be interesting.
@emucoleman I get it but admittedly I am a bit excited to have an excuse to not travel for the holidays. At the same time I am a little sad that LO won't be around his cousin's and grandparents for the holiday
@emucoleman, I always said the 2 months I didn't want to have a kid was November and December and then of course we get November. We are hunters so November is super inconvenient on top of being close to Thanksgiving and Christmas, ah well I guess I am just grateful to be getting a LO
@jess0211 I think I'm a little unusual because I'm really close with my family and I love spending the holidays with them. I would live next door to all of them if I could! I guess it will be nice not to have to travel with kids, but I still wish I could go.
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
I told myself I wouldn't nap with DS today, that I'd actually clean something or at the very least watch a couple things on the DVR. Then he fell asleep with his arm around me and it was game over. How can I not snuggle him until I fall asleep to? He's just so darn cute.
Update: he's giggling in his sleep now. FTMs this is what you have to look forward to
@emucoleman How far away is everyone? Any shot of your parents coming to you? Would you play your travel by ear and see how you're/baby is feeling? I'm looking forward to Christmas at home. My husband's Christmas is spent shuffling all over and I get no rest. I grew up with a relaxing Christmas at home so I'm excited to get back to that for once!
@ElizabethSchuyler My parents will be coming for the baby's birth so we'll have them (and my ILs) here for thanksgiving, which will be really nice although my EDD is so close to thanksgiving I don't know how fun it will be for me. I think it would be too much for them to stay through Christmas. My concern with traveling is taking an unvaccinated newborn into an airport (they live too far away for me to consider driving) in the wintertime when so many people are sick. I'm glad your Christmas plans are working out so well!
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
I was severely not happy when my 2nd was due the week of Christmas. I very much did not want a Christmas baby and the thought of having to go and be around people at the same time just made me depressed and mad. His birthday is Dec 28th, smack in the middle of Christmas and 3 other family birthdays and New Years and it's as awful as I expected it to be. We are going to try very hard to have a definite split between Christmas and his Birthday, every one else gets two, he should too. I'm honestly happy this one is in November because there aren't any gift giving holidays to get mixed up in. I wish it was earlier in November, but I'll take what I can get.
My random at the moment is that the TW 1 yr old who didn't sleep this morning was behaving like he wasn't going to sleep again, so in frustration I told him over the baby monitor to stop crying, lay down, and go to sleep. I'm flabbergasted that he instantly did just that. I have a weird kid.
@ariasbabyblog Now realizing that there will be no good time for me to have a birthday party for DD. Ugh. Is it ok to have a birthday party for a kid a month and a half early?? That may be what I do...
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
@emucoleman I've heard of people with Christmas and Christmas Eve birthdays having a party in the middle of summer or at the end of the school year before all the kid's friends leave for summer vacations. That way they get to have a special day and be made much of, without interfering with everyone's plans and family time. They get their separate birthday party with their friends, and later in the year they get Christmas too.
DH has a birthday on December 31 (it's fun for him now because everyone is partying) but he always had parties after his birthday into January when he was little. I also have a Dec 3 birthday so I was fairly close to Christmas and my mom always made sure it was separate. My MIL made sure to have all the Christmas decorations down before DH birthday so she made it special too!
@ariasbabyblog I've heard of that too and I think we might do it when she gets older. I think at this point it would be kind of weird to celebrate a 3rd birthday for a 2 1/2 year old though! She will just have to settle for an extra early birthday party nearer her birthday (I'm sure she won't mind!).
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
@emucoleman I actually said that in my intro and got blasted because I wasn't considerate enough of women who would give anything to be pregnant. I have a November child already and that time of year is just too stressful not to mention trying to do a Birthday as they have to be indoor. We already have kid birthdays Oct, nov, Dec, Feb and April, and soon a May apparently our siblings can't deliver in other months. Actually told DH that we should stop trying for a few months, little did I know that I wasmy actually having a period. Also means I'll be going back to work during the most busy time with all the airborne and droplet precaution infectious diseases being prevalent.
@MaximumEffort I understand where you're coming from but I think it was how you worded it that rubbed some people, particularly those from TTGP, the wrong way. Like I said, I'm sad to miss Thanksgiving because I enjoy being around DHs family and it's a fun time, but I would definitely rather have a baby than go to Thanksgiving. Some members of this board had just come from another board where they'd seen a lot of women struggle to get pregnant and/or gone through it themselves and couldn't give two bothers about timing just as long as they had a baby. I especially understand your feelings more now that you've said you would actually have been ok waiting a few months, but just trying to show some perspective as to why some might have taken offense to what you said.
I love my November birthday. It kickstarts the holidays. I have no idea if it stressed my mom out. My sister and I share a birthday and my sister was born in Dec. :shrug: Just part of the holiday season for us.
The only thing we have in November is remembrance day, since we celebrate thanksgiving in October (I will be huge which is nice) Since I'm due so early in the month I'm a bit worried baby will come early and I'll have a Halloween baby which wouldn't be the worst, but as I've said I would like my baby to be born in November like my best friend and my grandmother... plus I like the number 11 ! A friend of mine has been trying for a few years but they take a break trying from like jan-april because she has terrible seasonal depression and anxiety and throwing a baby into the mix around a time when she's already emotionally compromised would be really difficult for her.
I'm thinking I'll have more of a Halloween baby than a Thanksgiving baby. My birthday is December 18th and I think the only ones worse than that are the 24th and 26th. I'll happily take November. I hate having a birthday a week before Christmas. It is never separate. At least November is before gift giving and "I'm sick of parties" season. The kids are also still in school which helps when it comes time to plan parties. In December, no one has time to take their kids to a party. All that being said, I am due at the beginning of November which I understand is totally different than the end. It's a big month!
@2Dash *TW* Sorry if this is too late, but I recommend my absolute favorite care package that I received to anyone that asks.
A friend from out of state sent me a cozy & fuzzy blanket, tea, homemade cookies, and Lipton Noodle Soup (which I never knew about till this and I LOVE it so much when I'm not feeling well now). Granted, my physical recovery was longer than some, but emotionally, it's hard no matter what. The gift was so thoughtful. This is my go-to care package now for my friends who miscarry and it always goes off well. Occasionally, I'll throw in a bath bomb or other spa-type product. Sometimes my friends will text me and let me know their cuddling with the blanket because it's been a bad day or something. It's nice to know I helped in some tiny way. Just wanted to share.
@ariasbabyblog Now realizing that there will be no good time for me to have a birthday party for DD. Ugh. Is it ok to have a birthday party for a kid a month and a half early?? That may be what I do...
Same. DD2s birthday is November 12th and my c-section will be scheduled for November 2nd or 3rd. It will be nice because in the future we can just have one big party in the middle sometime (only 2years apart so interests will be similar) but this first year is going to suck for DD2. I feel bad.
Not to rub it in your face for those of you due at the end of the month, but I just remembered being due at the beginning I'll have thanksgiving on a nursing appetite after finally being done with squished organs. Yaasss thanksgiving food is my favorite.
All this talk of Thanksgiving food is making me crave stuffing and mashed potatoes.... I'm hoping I'll have an outside baby by then (unless I go more than a week late), but I'm hoping DH will volunteer to cook it all... lol.
@ariasbabyblog and anyone else worried about their other kids' Christmas bdays: Mine is smack in between Christmas and New Years and, to be honest, kind of sucks, lol. We still made birthday parties work, even if we had to be off by a few weeks, and as I got older, we would have a sleepover on New Year's Eve, which was a blast (and I'm sure the other parents loved, too). My family would suck it up and get together twice within a week or two so I would have a separation. We would bring cupcakes to school either before or after the break. My mom also made a big deal out of my "half" birthday in June as well: she'd buy a half cake, cut a bday card in half, and sing "halfy birthday to you." No presents or anything, but it was cute to be recognized another time of year since I kind of got the shaft.
Bonus? It sets you up early for adulthood. When you're an adult, no one really cares about your birthday, and I've seen a lot of friends go through a struggle/depression when they realize no one really cares anymore. You learn that early with a birthday like that.
Also bonus? You rarely have to work/go to school on your bday! I've only had to twice in my life so far.
@emucoleman I feel similar, especially since we won't live near family (I mean we're in Korea now so at least we'll be in the same country). I'm due early Nov. so may make the flight to see family, depends on where we have to move to in January. Most of our choices are west coast or outside the U.S which would be even harder. Also DH's only living grandparent hasn't been good health wise the past year. I don't expect her to fly down to us so we may make that trip just for that. If it does happen, I'll wear LO through the airport. I've also read vaccines can be given at 6 weeks if baby is doing well, so with my early EDD that may work out (and I'm measuring a full week ahead and my mom delivered early). RE to your other comment: I love my family. Even my ILs. My plan when DH ever deploys is to live with my ILs. I feel so bad for moms on here with monster ILs
@DuchessofCambridge Thanksgiving is my favorite. Our parents are coming out a week at a time after the birth so we'll have visitors for 3 weeks (my parents are recently divorced and can't be in the same room yet...but that's another topic) but I'm planning on doing one of those take out Thanksgivings where you order everything already done because DH doesn't cook.
andplusaslo DH doesn't get to use his paternity leave b/c he'll be in training (locally, not away so he'll be there for the birth at least) which is why family is coming down to help. He gets a Christmas break though so we'll make the most of it.
I am super excited for LO to be here (hopefully before, on, or close to Thanksgiving! It is my favorite holiday and it will always be easy to get family together. DH works 24 hour shifts, so we celebrate holidays as they are convenient, not necessarily as they are scheduled. If we need to do Christmas with his family on the 26th, we do. My family is always second fiddle since two of my sisters live far away and the other two are flakes like my mother. (Blunt, but true.) Holidays always last several days for us since we can't see both sides on the same day. For birthdays on DH's side, there is one day during several months that all of the birthday people celebrate on.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
We're always so scattered on the holidays that I'm relieved to have a quiet one. It's technically our year to go to my sister's for Christmas but I'm playing the newborn card and staying put.
@NYTino24 My mom is a flake too and it's hard. We've been gone in Korea for 2 years and went home for Thanksgiving. I wanted to take my mom out to dinner one night, the only night we'd really spend time together, and she bailed and then she wouldn't make the 30 minute drive to see me at my ILs where we were staying, knowing that we didn't have a car there for me to drive around. We're planning on having our parents come down after LO arrives for different weeks so we don't have them all visiting at once and I honestly would not be surprised if she doesn't come.
I had to stay put for Christmas the year DS2 was born (he was due Dec. 28 and born on January 3). Honestly it was wonderful! I'm looking forward to having a warm cuddly Christmas at my house with all my boys and this baby! I celebrate Thankgiving in October. I doubt I will travel my parents can come here if they want.
I am really excited for a Thanksgiving baby. We are fortunate to have our families in town (and VERY fortunate that we actually like them!) so the thought of having a little one join us for our holiday celebrations makes my heart happy. Plus I'm not complaining about the extra holiday days off that will help me extend my maternity leave by a few more days.
Re: Weekly Randoms May 1
People are rude. I have a tilted uterus so I show early anyway. I've been told that my cousin (only a week behind me) isn't showing yet. Like, thanks people, let's compare the whole time. When I see someone who's pregnant, I ALWAYS say something positive. No one wants to hear how big or small they look. I realize I'm showing early. Thanks...I get it. Let's not mention that I also had to get off of Adderall which causes weight gain anyway. People suck.
@duchessofcambridge I'm 5'3 as well. I totally get it.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Anyone else feeling the same way?
Update: he's giggling in his sleep now. FTMs this is what you have to look forward to
My random at the moment is that the TW 1 yr old who didn't sleep this morning was behaving like he wasn't going to sleep again, so in frustration I told him over the baby monitor to stop crying, lay down, and go to sleep. I'm flabbergasted that he instantly did just that. I have a weird kid.
Since I'm due so early in the month I'm a bit worried baby will come early and I'll have a Halloween baby which wouldn't be the worst, but as I've said I would like my baby to be born in November like my best friend and my grandmother... plus I like the number 11 !
A friend of mine has been trying for a few years but they take a break trying from like jan-april because she has terrible seasonal depression and anxiety and throwing a baby into the mix around a time when she's already emotionally compromised would be really difficult for her.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
A friend from out of state sent me a cozy & fuzzy blanket, tea, homemade cookies, and Lipton Noodle Soup (which I never knew about till this and I LOVE it so much when I'm not feeling well now). Granted, my physical recovery was longer than some, but emotionally, it's hard no matter what. The gift was so thoughtful. This is my go-to care package now for my friends who miscarry and it always goes off well. Occasionally, I'll throw in a bath bomb or other spa-type product. Sometimes my friends will text me and let me know their cuddling with the blanket because it's been a bad day or something. It's nice to know I helped in some tiny way. Just wanted to share.
Bonus? It sets you up early for adulthood. When you're an adult, no one really cares about your birthday, and I've seen a lot of friends go through a struggle/depression when they realize no one really cares anymore. You learn that early with a birthday like that.
Also bonus? You rarely have to work/go to school on your bday! I've only had to twice in my life so far.
Late to the game, darn Korea time
@emucoleman I feel similar, especially since we won't live near family (I mean we're in Korea now so at least we'll be in the same country). I'm due early Nov. so may make the flight to see family, depends on where we have to move to in January. Most of our choices are west coast or outside the U.S which would be even harder. Also DH's only living grandparent hasn't been good health wise the past year. I don't expect her to fly down to us so we may make that trip just for that. If it does happen, I'll wear LO through the airport. I've also read vaccines can be given at 6 weeks if baby is doing well, so with my early EDD that may work out (and I'm measuring a full week ahead and my mom delivered early). RE to your other comment: I love my family. Even my ILs. My plan when DH ever deploys is to live with my ILs. I feel so bad for moms on here with monster ILs
@DuchessofCambridge Thanksgiving is my favorite. Our parents are coming out a week at a time after the birth so we'll have visitors for 3 weeks (my parents are recently divorced and can't be in the same room yet...but that's another topic) but I'm planning on doing one of those take out Thanksgivings where you order everything already done because DH doesn't cook.
andplusaslo DH doesn't get to use his paternity leave b/c he'll be in training (locally, not away so he'll be there for the birth at least) which is why family is coming down to help. He gets a Christmas break though so we'll make the most of it.
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