Bitchfest 5/1

DPandMB · May 2017

Sorry I'm late this morning ladies. It's been quite the night and morning in our house. So let's hear it. What's got you bitching this morning?

Swazzle · May 2017

My CW went to our boss and complained that she's being "treated unfairly" and "like a pledge." FUCK THAT. I rearranged my upcoming vacation for this speshul fucking snowflake. My boss fully agreed with me on everything so at least that was comforting but I am beyond livid right now.

DPandMB · May 2017

DD woke up at 12:30 and DH very nicely took her and slept with her. Then at 4:30, he called me out to the couch, she threw up all over him. This is now a week with random vomiting and diarrhea. Went To the doctor first thing this morning and they said to keep doing what we have been doing and had no answers as to what was going on with her.

mercury94 · May 2017

Why is it Monday? Weekends are never long enough.

klcarr19 · May 2017

I need to wait for my post until I and get home and add either a picture or a gif... but seriously @Swazzle I hate whiny special snowflakes! Grow up out of your entitled world already!

bnmort8 · May 2017

everyone keeps saying "Wow you have gotten big" then try and cover it up "I mean you were small before just bigger now" WHY!?? I know I have gotten bigger don't need the reminder just tell me I am pretty and buy me coffee!

ColoradoHiker · May 2017

This is kind of a BF, and a triumph, but: ants. When we moved into this rental house last year, there was a minor issue with ants, that became a bigger issue as the summer progressed. We told the property manager, multiple times, although he currently swears we only said something once (and nothing happened on his end). So, DH and I sprayed the heck out of the foundation, all around the house, and sprinkled the ant killer next to the spot at the front of the house along the landscaping where it looked like they were living. We did this last month, as we wanted to make sure we were ahead of the game.

A few got in the house a week ago, but we were able to find it and put down baby/ pet safe spray inside, and now all we see are dead ants. Then, on Saturday, I came home to (literally) thousands of ants on our front sidewalk. Apparently, they didn't like the spray/ sprinkled ant killer and moved to the other side of the landscaped area. I called DH, told him I was leaving the ant spray bottle on the front doorstep, and to not come in the house until he took care of it.

TL;DR/ Moral of this story: I really freaking hate ants, and hopefully we decimated most of the population that thought our house was a better place to live than outdoors.

wyomama0427 · May 2017

@DPandMB poor girl! Could it be a food allergy? DS throws up every time he eats bananas. It took me about two or three times to connect the dots. I really hope she feels better soon!! Hugs mama.

DPandMB · May 2017

wyomama0427 said:

@DPandMB poor girl! Could it be a food allergy? DS throws up every time he eats bananas. It took me about two or three times to connect the dots. I really hope she feels better soon!! Hugs mama.

We had wondered that, but its so inconsistent. Like she waked up in the middle of nap time, or the middle of the night and just throws up. We were thinking milk potentially and mentioned that to the doctor today, and he said he doesn't think it sounds like that. He was thinking maybe just a virus and waiting it out. The good thing is she isn't acting sick at all, but toddler vomit really is the worst.

wyomama0427 · May 2017

@DPandMB That's how DS was too, it would happen about six or so hours after eating the bananas. If he was asleep, he'd wake up and vomit. It was awful. Though his tended to be extreme episodes of like ten barfs in an hour or less. It was hell. I really hope it's just a virus and passes soon!

Becky012016 · May 2017

I'm getting real sick of sanctimommies who tout breast is best and how it's unnatural to use formula. Breastfeedig is just the biological norm for our species, it's not "best". Vaginal deliveries are the norm for our species yet c-sections make more sense for some moms. I feel like everywhere I go I either see a poster about breast is best or I am asked if I'm breast feeding this LO.

DPandMB · May 2017

@wyomama0427 maybe I'll start paying better attention to her food. She is going days in-between vomiting episodes, but the diarrhea hasn't stopped at all. Did your DS have diarrhea too? Was he ok with bananas previously, or always been bad. DD hasn't had any new food.

Becky012016 · May 2017

DPandMB said:

wyomama0427 said:

@DPandMB poor girl! Could it be a food allergy? DS throws up every time he eats bananas. It took me about two or three times to connect the dots. I really hope she feels better soon!! Hugs mama.

We had wondered that, but its so inconsistent. Like she waked up in the middle of nap time, or the middle of the night and just throws up. We were thinking milk potentially and mentioned that to the doctor today, and he said he doesn't think it sounds like that. He was thinking maybe just a virus and waiting it out. The good thing is she isn't acting sick at all, but toddler vomit really is the worst.

Random vomiting like this could be more of an acid reflux thing than a food allergy. If she's verbal and understands you guys pretty well, you can ask her things like, "do you feel scared?" "Does your mouth feel funny?" "Are you itchy?" DS has significant food allergies with zero family history of them so when we went to an allergist we were shocked he had so many IgE responses. If you can get referred to an allergist, I'd try that. It's a simple blood test depending on how young she is or it's a RAST (skin prick) test if she's old. At the very least you could rule out certain foods as causing the vomiting.

lilpoots · May 2017

My H insisted on washing my only bra that fits. Great it needed washing. Then he left it in the machine. I've got a soaking wet bra and a list of errands I was hoping to get done before it got into the 90's. Thanks H.

wineren · May 2017

My BF is kind of at myself for parent guilt. My stepson got in trouble this weekend and this morning claimrd he wasn't feeling well. I called BS and sent him to school. The school called at 9:30 and I went and got him but brought him to my office and told him I didn't believe he was actually sick cause this is a pattern of his. And an hour later, all the throw up. So I took him home but have to leave him because I don't have enough sick leave and my husband doesn't even have the option. I am glad he wasn't lying to try to get out of school though. :-/

stephy_p · May 2017

Becky012016 said:

I'm getting real sick of sanctimommies who tout breast is best and how it's unnatural to use formula. Breastfeedig is just the biological norm for our species, it's not "best". Vaginal deliveries are the norm for our species yet c-sections make more sense for some moms. I feel like everywhere I go I either see a poster about breast is best or I am asked if I'm breast feeding this LO.

OMG, YES!!

Then some of these same people look at you with sadness telling you how hard it is going to be.

Also, outside of discussions at places like this forum, why is it anyone's business if I'm going to BF or not?!

mrs_tacos · May 2017

DH is being difficult about my mom coming to help us move. We'll be moving end of June, and I will likely be on restricted activity all summer. We'll be hiring movers, but getting the house unpacked and organized will largely fall on him if she doesn't come to help, and that will take forever because he'll still be working full-time. His only reason for not wanting her help is "she gets on my nerves after a few days." Dude, she's your mother-in-law. Get the f over it, because she's not going anywhere. Plus, the woman is an organizing machine- with her here, our house will be done in half the time it would have taken if both of us had a complete week to devote to it. He's not going to win this one and he knows it, so the whining needs to stop.

sarahufl · May 2017

I took DD to see H at his office for lunch today. For the first time ever, I didn't get stuck in traffic, but I did sideswipe a freaking truck that was double parked and scratched the crap out of the side of my car- literally right in front of his office. I *HATE* driving in Manhattan, but he loves parading DD around his office- he is so proud of her and it is adorable, so I take her in every now and then to see him.

So now I have a broken mirror and a deep scratch down the entire side of my car. Luckily, nobody was hurt, but I am sure it is going to be $$ to fix and I don't feel like dealing with it.

jutondreau · May 2017

mrs_tacos said:

DH is being difficult about my mom coming to help us move. We'll be moving end of June, and I will likely be on restricted activity all summer. We'll be hiring movers, but getting the house unpacked and organized will largely fall on him if she doesn't come to help, and that will take forever because he'll still be working full-time. His only reason for not wanting her help is "she gets on my nerves after a few days." Dude, she's your mother-in-law. Get the f over it, because she's not going anywhere. Plus, the woman is an organizing machine- with her here, our house will be done in half the time it would have taken if both of us had a complete week to devote to it. He's not going to win this one and he knows it, so the whining needs to stop.

Ugh hate when DHs are irrational about that kind of thing. He needs to realize that not only are
you going to be limited, but being organized in a move and before a baby are HUGE helps. I'm so happy you'll have the help!!

wyomama0427 · May 2017

DPandMB said:

@wyomama0427 maybe I'll start paying better attention to her food. She is going days in-between vomiting episodes, but the diarrhea hasn't stopped at all. Did your DS have diarrhea too? Was he ok with bananas previously, or always been bad. DD hasn't had any new food.

DS' first food was bananas mushed at home. Didn't throw up. The next time he had bananas mushed at home he threw up. The next two times he had anything with banana it was a store bought baby food, and he still threw up. There were days and sometimes a week or two between episodes. They got progressively worse and he vomited more each time. We had been chatting with DH's EMT/paramedic buddies and one of the older guys was talking about how sometimes food allergies can do that, they get worse every time the food is eaten. Also reactions can be different when the food is prepared at home vs. store bought/processed. Your DD's vomiting doesn't sound like what we had going on with the banana allergy but it might not hurt to keep a food journal. Can you remember what you guys have eaten since the vomiting started?

DPandMB · May 2017

OH heck no. Sadly @wyomama0427 I have no clue what we have eaten in the past week. DH and I argued about what day was the first day she threw up. I will probably start a food journal for her though. She hasn't had any new food, but I know allergies can develop overtime?

wyomama0427 · May 2017

@DPandMB oh don't worry I can't remember what we ate yesterday so I know that was kind of a long shot lol. Hopefully you can figure out what's causing her stomach upset!

stephy_p · May 2017

@DPandMB and @wyomama0427 My DH's ex girlfriend is allergic to red dye #40. And it turns out it is in a lot of stuff. It makes her randomly vomit, so that's another thing to maybe keep an eye on?

awildrose · May 2017

@DPandMB Beans caused my oldest to always have diarrhea every time. It's not an allergy, but she had such a hard time with them. Hope you can figure it out soon!

Cats*in*space · May 2017

@mrs_tacos I thought you might be postponing your move til after LO? What happened?

mrs_tacos · May 2017

Cats*in*space said:

@mrs_tacos I thought you might be postponing your move til after LO? What happened?

@Cats*in*space We are, we just need to find a new place in the same city. Our lease is up, and I'm not putting up with the awful management in this building any more!

dogdisnylovr · May 2017

@DPandMB just throwing out a strange "allergy" that some people might not think of. I am "allergic" to sucralose (self-diagnosed, thus the parenthesis). But it gives me awful diarrhea and stomach pains. It took me several months to figure out what was causing it and a food journal is what helped solve the mystery. Sadly it is being put in more and more foods and I constantly have to read labels.

Not trying to imply that it is sucralose, just seconding the food journal and that allergies can come from strange places.

Cats*in*space · May 2017

@mrs_tacos Oh no! That's extra crappy having to move twice in a few months!!!

msashley2010-2 · May 2017

My only BF is that I'm still fuming over an argument I had with SO over the weekend.

It's a pretty long story. while we were staying at a beach house with a bunch of friends and alcohol (for them) involved, he disappeared at almost 11pm to go have a smoke with one of the girls there without talking to me first (he doesn't buy cigars but likes them and will smoke occasionally when offered). He said something about having a smoke with her around 9pm, but he left and came back and I thought that was it. According to him he didn't smoke the first time and he thought that since he already talked to me about it, it was okay to go out the second time with her.

I basically told him that anytime you ever plan on disappearing ALONE with another woman when it's pitch black outside and 11pm, you should probably let me know what's going on beforehand. I ended up having to call his cell phone because I went looking for him and couldn't find him.

We argued and it led to him saying he wishes he'd never gotten me pregnant.

The next day he apologized for all of it but I am still fuming inside. He swears he didn't mean it but I wonder if there wasn't at least some truth to his words and it is causing me a lot of insecurities about our relationship.

mercury94 · May 2017

@msashley2010-2 I'm so sorry your SO did that. He has to know how unacceptable that is and how upsetting it is if you can't find him. He better keep apologizing and think before he acts in the future.

ColoradoHiker · May 2017

dogdisnylovr said:

@DPandMB just throwing out a strange "allergy" that some people might not think of. I am "allergic" to sucralose (self-diagnosed, thus the parenthesis). But it gives me awful diarrhea and stomach pains. It took me several months to figure out what was causing it and a food journal is what helped solve the mystery. Sadly it is being put in more and more foods and I constantly have to read labels.

Not trying to imply that it is sucralose, just seconding the food journal and that allergies can come from strange places.

Me, too. Whenever I eat a decent amount of something touted as "sugar free", like SF life savers or SF gum, I also end up with gastrointestinal problems like that. It took a long time for me to make the connection, partly bc I rarely eat SF stuff (the life savers were from my mom bc she didn't like them), and it was a surprise when I finally figured it out. I think it's the stuff like xylitol, maltitol, etc.

DPandMB · May 2017

Thanks everyone. I think we will keep a food journal and see what happens over the next few days/week.
@msashley2010-2 I am sorry about your argument. Have y'all talked anymore today? Do things seem any better?

wyomama0427 · May 2017

ColoradoHiker said:

dogdisnylovr said:

@DPandMB just throwing out a strange "allergy" that some people might not think of. I am "allergic" to sucralose (self-diagnosed, thus the parenthesis). But it gives me awful diarrhea and stomach pains. It took me several months to figure out what was causing it and a food journal is what helped solve the mystery. Sadly it is being put in more and more foods and I constantly have to read labels.

Not trying to imply that it is sucralose, just seconding the food journal and that allergies can come from strange places.

Me, too. Whenever I eat a decent amount of something touted as "sugar free", like SF life savers or SF gum, I also end up with gastrointestinal problems like that. It took a long time for me to make the connection, partly bc I rarely eat SF stuff (the life savers were from my mom bc she didn't like them), and it was a surprise when I finally figured it out. I think it's the stuff like xylitol, maltitol, etc.

My mom is "allergic" to a LOT of things, she doesn't test positive for the actual allergy but when she eats the offending item she gets severe diarrhea and a migraine that can last up to a week. Some of the worst are corn, beef, aspartame, eggs, seafood, berries. Lots of stuff really..... but aspartame is in SO much stuff! Also so is corn starch. It's bad. Poor woman has to be so careful. She also can have chocolate or peanut butter.

Rhubarb7216 · May 2017

@msashley2010-2 sorry to hear about your argument with your SO! You are right to have been upset with him. I hope you are able to work it out and feel better about everything.

LosAngelesMama · May 2017

@msashley2010-2 You had every right to be mad at him. Disappearing late at night with another girl. Not cool. I'm sorry he said something very hurtful and I totally understand why you're still questioning what he said even though he took it back. I say when you've had some time to calm down you should have a serious talk with him. Tell him that what he said hurt you, even if he said he didn't mean it. I definitely believe he said it for some reason... but is the reason he said it b/c he was scared? trying to hurt you? There's definitely some meaning behind it... however it might be something less hurtful than what he actual said. Hope that makes sense.

msashley2010-2 · May 2017

I talked to SO more today about it and he continued to apologize for his behavior. I told him my insecurities about everything and he said that he only said it because he was drunk and pissed off at me and that he thinks he was just saying it to be hurtful and not because he actually meant it. He was also mad because he thought I believed he was cheating when he wasn't.

I never questioned his intentions, but this particular girl is an ex of one of the men there because she is known to be very promiscuous with no moral compass and she cheated on him several times with people he knew. Me and SO used to say how much we weren't a fan of her and that we would never trust her to watch DD because she seems to be neglectful of her own kids.

I told him that if I don't trust her alone with my child during the daytime, I definitely don't trust her being alone with my SO in the middle of the night. I was weirded out by her approaching him asking him if he wanted to smoke with her, but my beef is not with her, it is with him. If he'd have just told me beforehand where he was going I would not have been so upset.

He understands now.

But here I am. Still pissed off and feeling like poo.

SO is also at her kid's bday party tonight with DD. (Not sure if she will attend as she does not live locally and the kids don't live with her) but I elected not to attend because I don't know if I will be able to keep a cap on my temper tonight and drama does not belong at a child's birthday party.

HollyGolightly09 · May 2017

@msashley2010-2 I'm glad y'all have talked about it... and also glad I'm not the only one who stays mad after they apologize and explain themselves, lol.

MrsJessS · May 2017

I didn't think I had a BF today because my first day at my new job was great. But now I'm home and DH is still at work. Not his fault and I'm not upset w him, but he should have been off four hours ago and I really wanted to go get cheeseburgers.

sarahufl · May 2017

stephy_p said:

@DPandMB and @wyomama0427 My DH's ex girlfriend is allergic to red dye #40. And it turns out it is in a lot of stuff. It makes her randomly vomit, so that's another thing to maybe keep an eye on?

H is also allergic to red 40. It gives him severe migraines.

JNR6510 · May 2017

@msashley2010-2 I'm glad you guys were able to talk things out. That situation would definitely be very frustrating. Hopefully your SO will not repeat this behavior again.

klcarr19 · May 2017

I hate traffic... a lot. I drive by Disney world on my way to work and the amount of idiot drivers increases exponentially!

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