Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introductions!
I'm 35, DH 29. We are so excited! Total surprise baby since I had to remove Mirena on the 15th of March and went right on to BC pills. Clearly this baby is meant to be!
BFP - April 11, 2017
Due Date - Dec 17, 2017
Im new to this as this is my first pregnancy. I been married for about 7 months and me and my husband are so excited! I turned 7wks today and cannot wait to hear the babies heart beat
This will be baby No.2. I have a 23 month old son. I'm 32 & I live in Worcester in the UK. Been with my husband who is 30 for just over 10 years and we're very lucky to have concieved first month trying for our second child. Looking forward to the discussions for the next 7 months :-)
Hey Everyone!
I’m Kristin, I live near Detroit. I just turned 31 DH is 35.
I got my BFP a couple weeks ago when I was at a conference 1200 miles from home. Based on my LMP I’m having a Festivus baby, but if this time around is anything like my 1st (4.5 y/o DD) they will be here a week early, 2 if I’m lucky…. I’d like to be farthest away from Christmas as possible.
I just had a MC in February at 7 weeks, so I don’t know how to feel about this pregnancy just yet. However my doctor’s appointment is next Monday, so fingers crossed!
I'm Tricia from PA. I'm 29 and due 12/7. My husband and I couldn't be more excited!
My name is Bethany and I'm from South Carolina. I AM 26 and this is our first. My BFP was April 4th and I'm due December 18th. I'm 7 weeks and 2 days now.
BFP on 4/19
EDD 12/31
My husband and I have been married for almost four years. We've been TTC for abut 2.5 years. We got our BFP on our second clomid cycle (first time ovulating!). We are so over the moon about this sweet baby.
DS was born 10/11/12 right on his due date and DD was born 05/07/15 2 weeks early. So not sure what to expect with this one.
Also my 3rd time being on the Bump message boards, but as a busy mom of two I probably won't have time to keep up with it. But I'll try!
@angetralala I'm in northern Somerset County - where are you?
@kvacmak Yay - a due date buddy! Although I'm hoping I go a little early.
Lmp March 27, 2017
Bfp on April 18th 2017 (short cycle)
EDD is December 28th, according to online calc.
First prenatal visit is set for May 26th, and I'm ecstatic. I live in the Midwest, St Louis area, with my partner and our dog.
I am due December 21, tomorrow will be 7 weeks. SO wants to keep it a secret until 12 weeks, it's killing me!!
BFP was April 27 but the only test I had was expired Jan 2015! The one on 28 was also BFP doc here I am!
had blood work done today but he haven't seen my doctor yet.
BFP: 04/25
Est Due Date: 12/24
Currently 6w4d
This is our 3rd baby, DD 5yrs old (almost 6) & DS 2yrs old (almost 3).
I was a member of the TTC board two years ago when my husband and I first started trying. Flash forward two years, 3 IUIs and one round of IVF/ICSI and we finally have our first pregnancy. A bit about us:
We are both teachers working and living in Kuwait. I'm Canadian, originally from Barrie, Ontario. Hubby is British from just outside of London. We met while I was living and working in the UK.
Me (29) DH (31)
TTC Since 2015
IUI #1-3 - BFN
IVF/ICSI - BFP - EDD 15/12/17
@charliesmommy6 and @Kirss I'm in MI as well!
Good luck, everyone! I'm looking forward to swapping stories with you.
We have this thing with 3's (we are 6 years 3 days apart, when we married he was 33 I was 27, and out wedding date 6/15/15) plus a few other things with 3's. Now we are hoping to only have 2 kids but we have a dog so 3 lol. But with the things with 3's before we found out I am a substitute teacher, and one of the classrooms I was working in, the teacher was like I had a thought about you the other day, she told me she thought I was pregnant and asked if I was (knowing that we were trying). I told her I wasn't sure. (she has had one of these thoughts before and it turned out it was true, so it made me wonder). Then I went into another teachers room and she said, after telling her this story, that she was going to ask me if I was b/c there was something about my "face" that made her think I was. Then later that week I go to the dentist. They had me fill out a medical sheet and one of the questions was is there a chance you are pregnant, of course I circled yes. My hygienist, as she was walking up to get the paper, looks at me and goes, I don't think we are doing any x-rays today. Then she looked at the paper and was like yup. Sure enough she thought I was pregnant too! (things in 3 again). Well that weekend was Easter, I was supposed to start on Monday and I was like how cool would it be to be at families back where we are from (Ohio) and be able to tell our families on Easter. I took two tests and sure enough I was positive! If our baby does come on Christmas Eve, it will be definitely a holiday baby! lol
My name's Shinese, I'm 25 years old and I work in a bank. I'm currently 7w2d pregnant with my first child. Both me and my partner are praying for a girl. I had a early scan last week and i saw the babies heartbeat. I'm so happy to be a mom and I'll be going for another scan at 9 weeks as I can't stop worrying.
BFP: 15th April 2017
EDD: 22nd December 2017
I'm Sue, nearing 26 years old, My EDD is December 6.
I'm a first time (human) mom, and I'm very excited for our new journey. My husband and I live in Miami, FL and our first born is an adorable schnoodle pup!
Looking forward to learning and growing with you all! Meet Janko, the Big Brother!
I am employed, have a caring boyfriend and lovely dog :-)
Congratulation to all of you, I wish you safe and happy journey throughout the whole pregnancy.
I belong to the cautiously optimistic group. My name is Rae and I am a high school teacher living in Colorado. I'm 31 and my husband and I have been married for about four years. *TW* We started trying a little over a year ago and have suffered two losses in that time - the most recent being in January of this year.
I am about 6.5 weeks pregnant now and EDD is December 28 (which is a little crazy because that is exactly the same EDD as my fist pregnancy) We found out we were pregnant on Easter! I am on progesterone now and my blood draws have looked good so far. We go in for our first ultrasound on May 17th. We are really hopeful that this is our sticky bean!
My name is Heather. I'm 7 weeks with and EDD of December 23. I'll find out what the OB says at my first appt on May 15. This will be both my DH and my first child. We just got married in January and we leave for our honeymoon soon. Hoping all goes well and we can tell friends and family when we get back.
BFP April 11, 2017
EDD Dec 21, 2017
So I'm an early bird right now (7 weeks)
Nice to meet you all!
My name is Angela and I am so excited to be here.
My EDD is December 30th.
I have a daughter who just turned 4 in April and I also have two fur babies. My DH and I have been trying to conceive for just about 3 years now. We were just about to start our first round with IUI when I found out I was pregnant. I am currently 6w1d!
I'm 37 and pregnant with our 2nd baby!! I'm both excited and nervous to be pregnant again! My due date is December 25th
It took us 3 years to conceive our first, and wasn't sure if we could even get pregnant again! Well....it sure didnt take as long this time around - one month of really trying and here I am!
Our son will be turning 2 years old a month before baby comes!
Looking forward to chatting with everyone!