@MississippiCatfish I think I could lie on my belly comfortably until about 20 weeks, but that was in a soft bed. On a hard floor with yoga mat, it may not be so long. I think it's a good idea to look up what modifications you need to make for pregnancy so that you're aware. Now you can probably do everything that's comfortable but later on you shouldn't lie on your back or twist your belly, I think.
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@2Dash I asked my OBGYN about this last pregnancy. He is very experience and trained as an OBGYN and surgeon (basically, I really trust what he says!). He said it was a poor idea to do any sort of binding/wraps because you want to be encouraging your ab muscles to work so they can heal and get stronger. He said he has seen bad aftermath of women who have used them and their bodies didnt heal properly/regain strength bc of it. I however was not a c section so I don't know if that is different. It's just one opinion but I really value his opinion so I won't use one bc of it.
Laying on belly- With DD1 I slept on my stomach the entire 38 weeks I was pregnant and was comfortable. With DD2 I stopped around 20 weeks because, bladder. I think it all really depends on how big you get, how big baby is (DD2 was 2 pounds bigger), and how low baby is
Abdominal binder- I've had two c-sections but only used a binder the second time because the hospital supplied it (they supplied way different things each time, 3 years apart). I loved using it!!! It helped with the sneezing, coughing, etc pain soooo much. I definitely recommend seeing if our hospital will supply one or even buying a nicer one (hospital one was eh quality) that'll last a month or so.
I wore the binder that the hospital provided for the first week or so after my csection. After the first week or so, I didn't like it anymore and started to rely on my own body to build it self back up.
I wore the binder that the hospital provided for the first week or so after my csection. After the first week or so, I didn't like it anymore and started to rely on my own body to build it self back up.
You're only supposed to wear it for a few hours at a time so your body can do so.
@hopeful87-2, @baby3forme, @froggy994 thanks for the advice. I haven't known anyone in real life to use one. I can see support for those couple first post weeks but also building your own muscle.
I didn't have a c-section but I did buy a binder online so I could get my flat stomach back. I only wore it for about an hour at a time because it was uncomfortable when I was nursing, so I always took it off to nurse. It did help I think! I don't have anything to compare it to since I've only had 1 birth experience, but it helped with my back pain as I was adjusting to a post-pregnant body. FYI, I have back problems and have since I was in high school, so that's why I got the binder in the first place.
@2Dash the hospital had me wear mine the first couple days on and off after my c section. Then I only wore it to walk to the NICU to see my son (it was a bit of a trek). After I got home I didn't wear it anymore.
Things that are worrying me (way in advance): my water breaking. Where did your water break and how did you handle it? I keep picturing being at work and having the floodgates open in my office and being horribly embarrassed.
@DuchessOfCambridge Most people I know had to have their water broken in the hospital once they were already in labor. It's not very commonly your first sign of labor. That being said, it was for me! I woke up around 5am thinking I'd peed a little, so I cleaned up and changed and went back to bed, only to have it happen again. It was just a slow, continuous trickle for me. I wasn't really sure what to do, because I was having zero contractions. So I didn't even wake up my husband for at least another hour, and we didn't leave the house until I was sure I was contracting.
I think our MW said only like 10% of women have their water break as the first sign of labor and for most it's not nearly as dramatic as it appears in the movies. That said, I recommend buying a waterproof mattress cover for your bed just in case (because it gave me piece of mind) but also more for when the baby is here because believe me you will NEED it. Night sweats, boobs leaking, baby puke, baby all the bodily functions, etc....
My water broke about 5 minutes before he started crowning. But I spent the whole day I was in labor terrified it was going to break while I was walking around
@DuchessOfCambridge none of mine broke until I was deep into the labor experience. One, the doctors actually broke my water to get contractions really going. @ooodalollly that would have to be a REALLY big pad! There is a lot of fluid in there! Lol
I think our MW said only like 10% of women have their water break as the first sign of labor and for most it's not nearly as dramatic as it appears in the movies. That said, I recommend buying a waterproof mattress cover for your bed just in case (because it gave me piece of mind) but also more for when the baby is here because believe me you will NEED it. Night sweats, boobs leaking, baby puke, baby all the bodily functions, etc....
My water broke about 5 minutes before he started crowning. But I spent the whole day I was in labor terrified it was going to break while I was walking around
I'm in the 10% and mine definitely wasn't a little trickle. The first initial gush was at least on the toilet. After that I had to go straight to sitting on a towel. It was too much at first for a pad (although if you're worried about it happening at work or while you're out, a pad would at least give you a few minutes to take action!). My contractions started slowly after that. DS was born about 22 hours after my water broke.
I second the waterproof mattress pad. Great for peace of mind.
@ArtificialRed we spent the whole day I was laboring walking around stores and I was terrified of that. I think I kept saying "don't be in the 10%" over and over like a mantra lol
@DuchessOfCambridge Mine broke in the middle of the night at home. It was a small trickle and truthfully, I thought I had just peed myself a little. I got up to go to the bathroom and emptied a full bladder. I realized then it was something else (I lost my mucus plug also). I was fine for about 45 minutes while we packed bags and gathered things. I lost quite a bit more water in the car. By the time we got to the hospital my jeans were soaking wet down to my knees.
I think my point was that you should have some time to leave your office before things get hectic if you are one of the "lucky" ones.
@DuchessOfCambridge For my first the doctor broke my water. My second I woke up and thought I was a little wet (like a slow leak) but I had my 39 week doctor appt scheduled for that morning so when I went in I told them and they said no leak and I was no where near ready and I was not even 1cm dialated. I had the baby about 12 hours later.
Does anyone have a LILLEbaby carrier? I'm considering it for this baby and have a stupid question. It says in the description that no infant insert is needed. But they sell an infant insert. Is the infant insert really necessary? Thank in advance.
My water broke first thing with my DD too. Contractions started shortly after but they were very small and not painful. For those who have had that experience (or anyone who knows), do you really need to go to the hospital right away when your water breaks? This time I'm hoping to labor at home more. It seems like if i get to the hospital within the next 24 hours it should be fine?
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@emucoleman I went right away because I was in preterm labor. I *think* I read somewhere that infection can set in if you don't deliver within 24 hours of it breaking. I may be remembering incorrectly.
@DuchessOfCambridge for me, it felt like someone cracked their knuckle inside my body. It was very obvious that water had broken. It was late at night, and we had already put a waterproof mattress pad on the bed a couple weeks prior (highly recommend this just in case, plus it helped save our mattress from leaky boobs and newborn fluids of various origins) so I just had my husband get a towel, which I held between my legs. My understanding is that my situation is rare, so don't worry too much! That really will be the least of your worries if it happens- you'll be more excited that you get to meet your little one soon!
I've heard that you should go to the hospital if your water breaks - you could have cord prolapse and you would want to be immediately seen. With DS1 I carried a LOT of water so they induced me early because they were afraid with that much water the chances of cord prolapse were higher. They broke my water in the hospital and brought all the med students in to see me - because I had that much water (like litres). They kept making jokes and laughing - it was a little embarrassing. Then when I had my C-section more water came out and the Dr's were like - this is incredible. I felt like I lost 20 pounds before they even took the baby out! With DS2 - normal amount of water. Pregnancy is weird.
I was afraid of my water breaking at an in-opportune time with DS and DD. I worked up to 2 days prior with each of them, meeting families, working visitations and funerals. I was horrified it would break while at work. But, it didn't lol. Both times it broke on it's own at the hospital, shortly before birth.
@2Dash I'm having a hard rule about as few people as possible in delivery, and definitely no males who aren't DH (my own personal modesty preference). I understand things may change in an emergency situation but I'm really hoping for my lady OB, a lady nurse or two and just DH!
@DuchessofCambridge - Oh I completely agree with that. They knew at this point I was going to have a C-section (I laboured and never got past 2cm ) so they brought the students in before since apparently I was a freak. I only want who needs to be there and my DH. My IL's wanted to come to the hospital while I was in surgery. I was like "DH tell them NO! They can see the baby when we get home!!!" Labour nurses are the best and you will want them there! And DH is a great support!
@DuchessOfCambridge Just a heads up that you might end up with a male nurse. You can always request a female, but there's a slim chance you'll be stuck with what you've got. I go to an all female OB group and there are a lot of very religious and modest patients. Even that OB group makes patients sign a form before birth stating that it's possible that a male nurse or student will be present. They do their best to accommodate, but sometimes it's just not possible to have an all-female team, especially is there are other laboring women who also request all females.
@kissthesky32 oh that's really interesting and good to know. Part of my modesty is due to religious reasons. I won't even go to a male doctor for a checkup so I might snap if there's a non-DH male in the room when everything's out for all to see. I'm not sure if my hospital does a form along those lines but definitely something to bring up at my appointment next week. They do already know I won't see a male doctor or nurse for normal care. Thanks for bringing that up!
@DuchessOfCambridge It's definitely something to bring up at your appointment. I would also ask about the doctor on call when you go into labor. What if it's a guy? Or, in an all female group, do they cross cover with a group that has males? I would ask soon, so you have time to talk if through with the doctors and, if need be, switch to somewhere where you absolutely know that you'll get a female OB on call. A nurse could switch to another room, etc, but the on call or floating doctor is probably the only one available.
OK, So here's one... I've read a lot of things that say you probably won't feel baby move until 15-20 weeks if you're a FTM. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow and while I haven't felt movement, if I'm wearing pants and sitting down (still my regular pants- haven't switched to anything maternity yet) or bend over to get something off the ground, I can feel something... kinda like a hacky sack, really low in my pelvis, that I don't remember feeling before. Maybe I'm just eager to feel baby, but when did y'all first feel baby as a FTM?
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@av2323 I love my lille! They really don't need an infant insert. For a little while, you can roll up a receiving blanket to put under their bottom to make a little seat if needed, but I never have. I'd highly recommend lillebaby's!
@DuchessOfCambridge if you're adamant about no students, check if your hospital is a teaching hospital. I wasn't even asked if a resident could help perform my c section, it was part of something you signed when you initially checked in. I work at a teaching hospital, and it's crawling with med students, residents and nursing students. They try to show them as many procedures as they can.
Same @Roliepoliecoley4. I had my second at a teaching hospital and I got a med student who hung out with me and a Fellow who delivered my baby and stitched me up. My attending OB was there too, but only for if things got hairy (which they didn't).
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Abdominal binder- I've had two c-sections but only used a binder the second time because the hospital supplied it (they supplied way different things each time, 3 years apart). I loved using it!!! It helped with the sneezing, coughing, etc pain soooo much. I definitely recommend seeing if our hospital will supply one or even buying a nicer one (hospital one was eh quality) that'll last a month or so.
but it helped with my back pain as I was adjusting to a post-pregnant body. FYI, I have back problems and have since I was in high school, so that's why I got the binder in the first place.
My water broke about 5 minutes before he started crowning. But I spent the whole day I was in labor terrified it was going to break while I was walking around
I second the waterproof mattress pad. Great for peace of mind.
I think my point was that you should have some time to leave your office before things get hectic if you are one of the "lucky" ones.
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@zigzag8412 May be your ute? I didn't feel my son until closer to 20 weeks.
*Sorry that's huge, and no it's not me!