@jka427 no personal experience with this but a good friend had gestational diabetes in her first pregnancy. For her second they tested her at about 10-11 weeks. She's one week ahead of me.
@jess0211 thank you! I couldn't remember when I took my first screening test last pregnancy (they did it early bc I was so heavy) but I thought it was around now (I'm 10.5 weeks). I guess I will find out for sure what plan is at my appointment next week. I just can't see how I'm going to keep down that drink or my dr suggested something about eating 27 jelly beans!
@jka427 My dr checked my blood sugar at 8 weeks. The office didn't tell me they would so I didn't eat well before hand (4pm apt) and it was a bit elevated. I don't even have a history of diabetes and I'm not overweight, but I live in Korea right now and by Korean standards I am. I know that doesn't help you though.....
How stupid is it to fly with a baby at about 6-8 weeks? I'm due 11/10 based on LMP however I'm measuring ahead and ovulated earlier. I was thinking to visit family in Massachusetts from Georgia for Christmas but wouldn't make that drive with a baby in the winter. It really depends on where we get stationed in January after DH's training. If we get somewhere other than NY it may be one of the last times we get to see family for a while since our duty station choices include Alaska, Washington, Colorado, and Germany (and then NY). In the end, I don't think we will.
Not a first time mom but figured I could maybe get a few answers here. My first we used and OB and delivered in our local hospital. They offered all kinds of free classes (although we didn't end up taking any). This go around we are using a Midwife at a birthing center inside another hospital and they are requiring that I take a 6 session birthing class on natural med free birthing in order to deliver there. My thing is it is$200 out of pocket cost. Has anyone else come across something like this? It's a serious turn off for me as it's about and hour and 15 minute drive one way plus $200 oopc even though my last pregnancy was med free so it's not like it's a first time thing for me. Humph.
@slaven I flew 5 times with DS between 4-10 weeks (long story, step dad passed and I was helping my mom out) and it was honestly way easier than I thought it would be. The airplanes all had a fold out changing table above the toilet, and at that age they don't really do much but eat/sleep/poop.
We're planning on driving Florida-Ohio for Christmas this year. DS is 2 and has been on 10 flights and I would guess 15,000+ miles of road trips. I'm the kid traveling expert lol
@jka427 Thy check at your first appointment with the labs. Mine was good with DD2 so they didn't check it until 28 weeks but made me take the one hour test and three hour test just to double check.
@BayCamp Wow, that's great! Our LOs will do a good amount of traveling just because we move so much. I never got to see family a lot growing up and I kind of missed that. Our family is pretty much all close together now so it makes more sense for us to travel to them, instead of like 15 of them traveling to us.
Not just for STMs but I know very little about delayed cord clamping. What exactly are the benefits vs not? I definitely want to do skin to skin but delayed clamping is new to me.
We wanted to do delayed clamping because our doula recommended it but I can't remember why. We couldn't because they saw meconium when my water broke and wanted to be sure baby didn't have any in his mouth so they took him right away after delivery anyway.
@baby3forme we got the highly recommended Dutalier glider with multiple positions and ottoman. My butt was in that glider more than anywhere for 3 months. I will use it for this baby too. It was comfortable enough.
@slaven My family wanted me to go visit at Christmas (all my siblings get together every other year), but I've decided not to go. If it were just the inconvenience of flying with an infant, I would do it, but my biggest concern is that it will be winter and the baby won't be vaccinated, plus there's the risk of RSV. It's totally a personal decision and I wouldn't judge anyone else for doing it, but for me it's too scary.
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@emucoleman That's my worry too. I think it will come down to where our next duty station is and if DH has time to take a trip at the end of January after his training but before we move when LO should have their 2 month vaccines. If we move somewhere outside the continental US then we'll probably do it just because our parents (especially mine) can't afford to fly outside the U.S. to visit us.
Not a FTM but figured I could get some answers here! If you had gestational diabetes last pregnancy when did they say they would test you during this one?
I had GD last pregnancy but have lost 160 pounds since then and also cannot eat sugar without throwing up (gastric bypass). Super stressing about the glucose tolerance test and hoping they will just let me take my sugars for s couple weeks or something instead...:-/
Are you already on a diet similar to the one they recommend for gestational diabetes? I have heard women who "know" they're going to have GD (because of previous pregnancies, etc) say that they've been able to skip testing and just follow the diet. Might be an option!
I also think some docs are willing to follow A1C's, but that will vary per practice.
@slaven It will probably depend a lot on the baby. We have traveled SO MUCH with our little. By her first birthday she had been in 15 states. Her first trip was a 15 hour road trip for Christmas when she was 3 weeks old. When she was 2 months old, we had several deaths in the family and we took four different flights to make all the funerals. She has been an excellent travel buddy. I feel like there's no way I'll be as lucky with the next one. Haha.
I honestly feel like travel is much easier when LO is very young. I tell all my FTM friends to take advantage of having a little baby and travel a lot (if they need/want to travel).
From my experience crawling age to the age where they have enough attention span to sit and watch a little tv or focus one thing (for my DD this was 12-20 month) travel was ROUGH. It is starting to get better now that she is getting a little older and can focus on one activity for a few minutes. The only concern with brand newborn travel is lack of vaccinations. That being said I would just wear LO and cover him/her with a light breathable blanket (Aiden and Aiden summer swaddles blankets I found perfect). My sister is married military and just got restationed and she has a 5 week old baby and a 3 year old. They traveled from Spain to Seattle on 3 flights and she said it went okay she just didn't let anyone near her newborn. By the time my DD is 2 we calculated she will have been on over 50 flights. When you are long distance from family you just make it work. Good luck @slaven
@jka427 I had GD with both my pregnancies and will most likely again. With DS2 I didn't do the drink test they just skipped to the blood test. I would ask for that.
@slaven and @baby3forme they did check my glucose just as part of the normal metabolic panel when they were checking my vitamin levels etc. I guess they would have said something to me if it was a concern. It was 88 about 90 minutes after lunch.
@MississippiCatfish I should probably check to see what my carb levels actually are. I have been paying less attention lately since I have been maintaining my weight with no trouble for about a year. I normally eat about 1/2 to 3/4cup of food three times a day, focusing on protein first. I have added 1 snack as well since becoming pregnant since I am still getting sick at times. I can't do any sugary drinks and I can only do solid sugary food in VERY small amounts (like 1-2 bites) otherwise it's back up. My A1C was good in Nov but maybe I should ask for it again.
I dont mind having to take to take blood sugars for a couple weeks if I have to though.
@jka427 Best of luck. Sounds like you're very reasonable and so responsible with your diet, so hopefully they'll be more likely to work with you because of it!
This thread is fantastic. I didn't even come into it with questions and I learned so much from you all!
Ok, so another travel question inspired by the previous one. DH's cousin is getting married in Colorado at the end of September. I will be 32 weeks by then. We live on the East coast so if we go, we will definitely fly. I have read online that it is "ok" to fly until 36 weeks, but my question as a FTM is, will I be terribly uncomfortable flying by that point?
@FigTreeMama I flew at around that point and was fine. Just stay hydrated and I made sure to get up and stretch/walk the aisle a couple times. I didn't have any swelling issues which I know is a problem for a lot of women though.
I flew at 34 weeks and was fine. DD came at 37 weeks though so this time I'm planning on my last flight being at 30 weeks (just to be safe!). My doctor recommended wearing compression socks and getting up every two hours which I did and it was just fine. I always take advantage of asking for priority boarding at the gate when I'm super pregnant. I used to feel weird about it but now I just think about how much harder it is to do anything when you are lugging around another person inside of you! As long as you are cleared medically you should be fine, just keep in mind that you will be tired and sleeping may be difficult by that point. Drink lots of water and don't over commit yourself to activities while you are there would be my recommendation @FigTreeMama
@FigTreeMama Its a terrible answer, but I think it really depends on you and your pregnancy. With DS1 I was too uncomfortable to sit in one position like that from about 20 weeks on. With DS2 and 3, it would have been just fine. Weird, huh?
@BayCamp@hopeful87-2@MississippiCatfish Thank you all for the advice! Good call on needing to stay hydrated and move around a bit. MC, that makes a lot of sense that it would vary from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy. Honestly, with this all being so new, my inclination is to play it safe this time and stay home, but I don't think we have to decide for another couple of months.
This question is really for anyone. Last night I was reading my baby bargains book.and it said to never accept a used crib. My BFF has a todsler transitioning out of the crib she used for her 5 year old and her now 2 year old. She was going to give it to me, but now I am not sure if I should accept? Thoughts?
@jess0211 I personally have no problem with accepting a used crib for someone. The biggest things in my mind is making sure the crib meets the current acceptable standards, like no drop sides, the slat space is appropriate, etc. And I won't accept a crib that has been repainted, because you have no idea what kind of paint they used. (There are paints that are safe to use on cribs if you are looking to paint it.) And lastly I don't accept a crib mattress. I think it's important to have a good quality mattress and I wouldn't want it to be used by a bunch of kiddos and to be worn out or yucky.
@jess0211 That seems silly. As long as t meets current safety standards, I would think it's fine (no drop sides and some specific distance between the slats). We are going to use my 4 year old's crib for baby and I see nothing wrong with that. Just don't accept a used mattress or we use an old one. They soften up over time, and you want a firm mattress for SIDS prevention
@jess0211 I will be using the same crib for this baby that I used with DS1 and DS2 - and the same mattress. I would think the warning is just because you may not know the source and it would have to meet current standards. If this is a friend and you know the crib to be in good condition I would say it's fine. You may want a new mattress for your piece of mind.
@jess0211 I plan on using the crib we buy for this baby with all of our future babies. I'll probably compare it to whatever safety standards are out when the next baby is ready to use it but I don't really see it being an issue. I will likely buy a new mattress for every baby as Baby Bargains suggested though.
If your friend knows the model and brand of her crib maybe you could look it up online and check it out to see if you're comfortable taking it?
@jess0211 We used a gently used crib with out last baby. It had no damage and it was current on safety. A beautiful crib really that would have been out of our price range buying it new. My mother in law got it from a coworker of hers. We bought a new mattress of course and cleaned the crib thoroughly. My best advice is just make sure it's in good condition and meets safety requirements. I would also never trust someone else's mattress outside of close family.
Not a FTM but I've been debating whether I need a double jogging stroller or not. I'll definitely get a double umbrella because my toddler still enjoys riding and I enjoy her being strapped into something when we're out and about. I use her jogging stroller a lot because of the all terrain wheels but I'm worried about the bulk of a double jogger.
@ooodalollly I love my double BOB. I use it everywhere and for everything. I think a double umbrella would work once baby is older, but there'll be a lot of months in the beginning when you can't put baby in it and when it would be nice to just click the carseat into the stroller attachment. Yes, it's big and it's heavy, but it takes 2 seconds to open and close. I just keep it in the back of my van, so it doesnt take up room in the house.
Did anyone here have a doula? I'm interested in learning more about this after reading research that doulas shorten labor time and decrease likelihood of c section. I don't even know where to start in researching this topic so suggestions would be appreciated!
@adirat I'm having a doula, but this will be my first birth. Mine also takes maternity pics and labor/baby pics (she's not a professional photog, but does a good enough job), and does 2 prenatal visits and one postpartum visit to check in and make sure all is well. She also helps with lactation and said sometimes her job is also to make sure H is eating during labor and he's taken care of, too. They can be so much more than just labor coaches, which alone would be worth it to me. If you're looking to go as natural a route as possible and want to carefully consider doc's recommendations with another set of experienced ears, I think it's worth it. You could ask your doc if he/she's worked with any that they particularly liked, do a google search and interview them (they should all be willing to meet for free to discuss services, prices, philosophy, etc.), and/or search local Facebook groups for recommendations.
@adirat this topic has come up a few times in random threads, might be a good topic for its own thread so it's easier to search! I know @kschref's information was super helpful to me and would be to others too...if they could find it
I stayed on my belly for a long time! I remember my doctor saying to stop when it became uncomfortable. I think by 25 weeks I had definitely stopped since I was too big for it to really work. @MississippiCatfish
@froggy994 thanks. I'm just starting to take some yoga classes and I'm wondering how long I have to get the hang of it before I have to do some modifications for that. It's not the kind of place where I can take a prenatal class or get lots of individualized help, so I want to decide if it's even worth it!
@MississippiCatfish I take classes weekly and have just noticed backbends/twisting poses aren't comfortable now but I can still do anything laying on my belly. Pretty much just listen to your body and you should be able to do almost all the poses with minimal mods
Ok, way late to this thread, so I'll start with the most recent topic... We use the crib that my parents used for all 4 of us kids. This crib is 27 years old and still in perfect working order. I wouldn't worry about using a used crib, unless it had a recall or something.
Travelling with an infant...I would personally be hesitant to travel on a plane with a baby who hasn't had vaccines yet. They don't get vaccinated until their 2 month appointment. There are so many diseases that are easily contracted on airplanes, I wouldn't risk it.
Wraps: I love my Moby-like wrap. It's honestly so easy to put on, and as long as you do it correctly, it keeps baby nice and snug. I've never had a problem with mine, but that may be an UO, so feel free to ignore me
Any STM+ used an abdominal binder post-pregnancy? I'm interested in your thoughts if you have. This will be my third C-section and I have heard that they help with recovery and make it easier to get around. I figure since this is my third C-section - it may be a help. Not so concerned if it shows under clothes or for vanity reasons - more for healing .
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How stupid is it to fly with a baby at about 6-8 weeks? I'm due 11/10 based on LMP however I'm measuring ahead and ovulated earlier. I was thinking to visit family in Massachusetts from Georgia for Christmas but wouldn't make that drive with a baby in the winter. It really depends on where we get stationed in January after DH's training. If we get somewhere other than NY it may be one of the last times we get to see family for a while since our duty station choices include Alaska, Washington, Colorado, and Germany (and then NY). In the end, I don't think we will.
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Has anyone else come across something like this?
It's a serious turn off for me as it's about and hour and 15 minute drive one way plus $200 oopc even though my last pregnancy was med free so it's not like it's a first time thing for me. Humph.
We're planning on driving Florida-Ohio for Christmas this year. DS is 2 and has been on 10 flights and I would guess 15,000+ miles of road trips. I'm the kid traveling expert lol
TTC since August 2018
TTC since August 2018
I also think some docs are willing to follow A1C's, but that will vary per practice.
From my experience crawling age to the age where they have enough attention span to sit and watch a little tv or focus one thing (for my DD this was 12-20 month) travel was ROUGH. It is starting to get better now that she is getting a little older and can focus on one activity for a few minutes. The only concern with brand newborn travel is lack of vaccinations. That being said I would just wear LO and cover him/her with a light breathable blanket (Aiden and Aiden summer swaddles blankets I found perfect). My sister is married military and just got restationed and she has a 5 week old baby and a 3 year old. They traveled from Spain to Seattle on 3 flights and she said it went okay she just didn't let anyone near her newborn. By the time my DD is 2 we calculated she will have been on over 50 flights. When you are long distance from family you just make it work. Good luck @slaven
@slaven and @baby3forme they did check my glucose just as part of the normal metabolic panel when they were checking my vitamin levels etc. I guess they would have said something to me if it was a concern. It was 88 about 90 minutes after lunch.
@MississippiCatfish I should probably check to see what my carb levels actually are. I have been paying less attention lately since I have been maintaining my weight with no trouble for about a year. I normally eat about 1/2 to 3/4cup of food three times a day, focusing on protein first. I have added 1 snack as well since becoming pregnant since I am still getting sick at times. I can't do any sugary drinks and I can only do solid sugary food in VERY small amounts (like 1-2 bites) otherwise it's back up. My A1C was good in Nov but maybe I should ask for it again.
I dont mind having to take to take blood sugars for a couple weeks if I have to though.
Thanks again all!
Ok, so another travel question inspired by the previous one. DH's cousin is getting married in Colorado at the end of September. I will be 32 weeks by then. We live on the East coast so if we go, we will definitely fly. I have read online that it is "ok" to fly until 36 weeks, but my question as a FTM is, will I be terribly uncomfortable flying by that point?
@jess0211 I will be using the same crib for this baby that I used with DS1 and DS2 - and the same mattress. I would think the warning is just because you may not know the source and it would have to meet current standards. If this is a friend and you know the crib to be in good condition I would say it's fine. You may want a new mattress for your piece of mind.
If your friend knows the model and brand of her crib maybe you could look it up online and check it out to see if you're comfortable taking it?
Any more seasoned moms want to weigh in?
We use the crib that my parents used for all 4 of us kids. This crib is 27 years old and still in perfect working order. I wouldn't worry about using a used crib, unless it had a recall or something.
Travelling with an infant...I would personally be hesitant to travel on a plane with a baby who hasn't had vaccines yet. They don't get vaccinated until their 2 month appointment. There are so many diseases that are easily contracted on airplanes, I wouldn't risk it.
Wraps: I love my Moby-like wrap. It's honestly so easy to put on, and as long as you do it correctly, it keeps baby nice and snug. I've never had a problem with mine, but that may be an UO, so feel free to ignore me