Take it easy ladies. I was just saying that's what it felt like for me especially since Inwould have been working really long days, not home fornpick ups and quality evening time etc and I was referring to the time in daycare specifically, not the rest of the time, evenings weekends etc.Sorry If it sounded harsher than I meant. Feisty bunch! ALmost all the moms I know are working Moms, we all look at these things diffetently based on who we are, our jobs and the various things we gain from them and our general family situation. I think everyone does what works for them and cheers to that!
I was a SAHM for the first 2 kids. H joined the army so we could have that option. H just got out of the army, and the month he officially got out is the month we ended up making a baby. I'm the main income and hold the health insurance coverage, so there is really no option for me to stay home now. I'm really struggling with this, as I have no idea how this is going to look for our family. I'm worried about how soon I'll have to go back to work as there is no maternity leave and it will be smack in the middle of 2nd quarter. My school is also a pay for performance school so there is some pressure to go back sooner as the students will take a test to determine my worth as a teacher. I'm hoping financially we can save enough where I can take the full 6 weeks off, but i'm preparing myself for only 4 weeks off.
can your hubby get some time off? At least then one of you would be there for the real infancy stages. Good luck!
That reminds me of a question. For the stm+ who have their toddlers in daycare now- do people normally keep toddler in daycare during mat leave or have both kids at home during that
To me I feel like that doesn't really make sense financially. My husband and I have some serious financial goals and he needs to be able to work all the time whenever he needs to in order for us to reach those. Also the main reason that I am a stay at home mom is so that I can be the one nurturing and educating my kid so when my second baby is born in October I don't plan on putting my toddler in daycare
1) I recognize your avatar but your SN is really really hard to connect with you. Please try and change it so we can tag you and such more easily.
2) The bolded... if you don't want to start a war with those of us moms who work for either financial or mental sanity purposes, I would suggest being careful of saying things that insinuate that working moms don't nurture, educate, or otherwise raise their children.
Totes feisty. It's an outrage women don't take kindly to fingers being pointed at them that they don't "nuture and educate their kids" and "let someone else raise their kids all day" and are "financially irresponsible" for continuing sending their kids to DC through maternity leave.
Thats fine that your family choices work for you. Mine work for me. But if you can't see the way your words are hurtful...wellllll...
As for your SN change, you have to login on TheKnot to change it. I believe it's in settings over there.
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Totes feisty. It's an outrage women don't take kindly to fingers being pointed at them that they don't "nuture and educate their kids" and "let someone else raise their kids all day" and are "financially irresponsible" for continuing sending their kids to DC through maternity leave.
Thats fine that your family choices work for you. Mine work for me. But if you can't see the way your words are hurtful...wellllll...
well that why I said sorry? I I never said anything about being financially irresponsible! We were asked what we were doing with a newborn, toddler in daycare or no. I said for ME it didn't make make sense financially. I said for ME , I stayed home to nurture and educate my son during the day. I'm sorry about the wording of the raising my child comment. But otherwise, we are being asked our opinions, asked about our situations on here. Glad to see you all know how to forgive and give someone the benefit of the doubt around here.
@Knottie1447173547 Thank you for your apology. I think people often don't realize when their statements perpetuate mom stereotypes and/or contribute to the mom wars. Fortunately this forum platform can serve to educate how to discuss these things without (intentionally or not) making assumptions and accusations and judgements of those that are taking a different route/opinion than yourself. Especially for those FTMs who might not realize how bad those hot topics can get in terms of judgement.
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@Knottie1447173547 Thank you for your apology. I think people often don't realize when their statements perpetuate mom stereotypes and/or contribute to the mom wars. Fortunately this forum platform can serve to educate how to discuss these things without (intentionally or not) making assumptions and accusations and judgements of those that are taking a different route/opinion than yourself. Especially for those FTMs who might not realize how bad those hot topics can get in terms of judgement.
Thank you:) yes it's easy to forget how sensitive some topics are. I try never to be offended by others comments on here too otherwise you could worry all day that thenroute you took was the wrong one. Pros and cons to everything we do as mothers and the decisions are never ending!
Re: Poll o' the Day - Going back to work or staying home?
Thats fine that your family choices work for you. Mine work for me. But if you can't see the way your words are hurtful...wellllll...
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As for your SN change, you have to login on TheKnot to change it. I believe it's in settings over there.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.