I think there are quite a few of us who have strong feelings on sensitive subjects such as politics, gender equality, etc. This is a thread where we can come together and discuss those without disrupting other threads. We're all adults so I think we can handle it, but please remember this is not a place for arguments. It's fine to disagree with others, but please do so respectfully and keep the snark to a minimum.
Disclaimer: I think there was some interest in a board like this previously, but if no one likes this idea, we can turn it into a gif party!
Re: Current Events Opinions
@av2323 I read a great comparison of the US vs Sweden written by an American living in both places. Swedish taxes are a lot higher, but their national parks are FREE for citizens and tourists alike. This guy has a lot of media plugs. Makes my blood boil too.
I knew the strike was coming. There was a report (not sure how far that report made it) that the press was told not to leave the Pentagon. I have a lot of feels and I just want a thoughtful plan.
1) You don't care about any living being. You think poor people don't deserve healthcare because they have iPhones or microwaves and refrigerators, so if they can have those things, they can definitely afford healthcare that's hundreds of dollars a month. You want to cut budgets that help feed poor children after school because "feeding children has not shown to improve test scores". We're not feeding them for test scores, we're feeding them because they're children and they need to eat???
2) You care so so so much about a mother not having an abortion but don't care at all about what happens after that child is born. If it's born to a family that can't support it, you lump that baby in with poor people who have refrigerators. If it has medical complications, you won't be the one stepping up to offer help.
3) You don't even care about unborn children. You just care that a woman doesn't have an abortion. You sat in a room full of men and talked about taking prenatal benefits out of health care plans. Forcing families to pay out of pocket to ensure they have healthy babies. Screw. You.
4) You think women should be punished for having "late term abortions". Oh really? That woman who planned for her pregnancy and was excited about it and wanted her baby should be punished if something goes wrong and she can do nothing about it? You want to further torture her after that?
As a side note, I am pro-life. But I am ACTUALLY pro-life. There's a lot more to it than just abortion vs not.
TL;DR: men need to STFU about women's issues.
On the pro-life topic, no one is pro-abortion (well maybe serial killers). I'm pro-choice and definitely don't like abortion, but I know so many ladies in the loss community who have had to make the choice when their unborn baby was diagnosed with problems that would either mean they would not live outside the womb or would live for a very short and painful time. Under the mandates that these pro-lifers want to put in place, these women could even be punished for having to make the most difficult decision of their life when they're already grieving from losing their very wanted baby. It is infuriating that a bunch of old men are sitting in a room not even considering times like this. I really do believe that you can't even say what choice you would truly make in the situation of any abortion until you are faced with that decision, that's why having a choice, and a SAFE choice is so important.
*deep breath*
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
I'm anti-"unnecessary fetus killing" but I understand that everyone has different morals, values, and reasons. I don't believe it's my place to infringe on other people. I'm one of those people that falls between pro-life and pro-choice. I don't believe it's a clear, black and white issue.
Politics...I'm a moderate so I can't win these days. I'm too conservative for liberals and too liberal for conservatives. While I can't stand our president, I understand what he did last night. He took out an airbase that they utilized as well as the aircraft, fuel, etc. I think he used too many missiles though if he's worried about cutting unnecessary spending...which is a joke in itself because he spends quite a bit. Things just don't add up. At the same time, I don't think we would've been any further with Hillary. We needed a change but we were stuck with terrible options. This guy is so impulsive and inconsistent. Like...dude...this isn't a business venture.
I hate that spending is being cut on things that aren't expensive that people use and appreciate. Young people and older people shouldn't suffer because of the greed of those people in the middle.
I wish we helped in humanitarian efforts more, domestically and internationally. I wish we had a culture of helping people instead of being afraid of what they might do. I wish people practiced understanding better.
I hate that social media spreads so much anxiety and fear. Most of all, I hate that people aren't working together. I can't believe the Senate rules have been changed because people can't agree. That's not how this is supposed to work.
I also don't always believe what the government tells us to believe. There are many things we don't know.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
And don't get me started on cutting money to feed poor children. My sister works for the cafeteria at our local jr high. She said 94% of the kids at the school get free or reduced meals (breakfast and lunch). If Trump took the money for their meals away, those kids wouldn't be able to eat and the employees would be out of a job.
Also, how does having an iPhone mean you even have money? No matter what phone you get, you have to pay for it monthly. Granted, you can probably choose a cheaper phone but saving ten or fifteen bucks a month on the phone you choose isn't going to magically put a months worth of meals on the table. Not everyone can have money like he does. ugh.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
I agree with EVERY single one of you. So much. I am sad, I am angry and I am at a loss as to just how we've gotten to this point.
I have a lot of questions, too. Why are certain members of congress just now speaking out? Where is the select committee to investigate Russian ties just as they did for Bengahzi? How far is POTUS willing to go to "help" (and I say this LOOSELY) Syria?
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
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@mariposa_767s I honestly don't think in this instance specifically, that Hillary would have been much better. As @CubsFan7 said, it's the hypocrisy of oh I feel so bad I should help them be safe, but they can't come here and be safe that makes me so angry. People are dying and we won't help them. This literally happened in the 1940s. When the eff will we learn?
@CubsFan7 regardless of all of that, an iPhone specifically is a one time expense. $500 savings in one month is not going to magically allow them to pay hundreds of dollars in healthcare costs every month after that. Plus, my family has always gotten free iPhones with upgrades. Sure they're always two models behind the current, but they're still iPhones. A phone is not a sign of wealth anymore, they're so ubiquitous.
@ElizabethSchuyler your delivery, so on point.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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I am personally very upset about the proposed budget cuts to NIH. NIH funds so much incredibly important biomedical and social research. With such a hit to the funding don't expect new treatments or health interventions to be available any time soon. For the sake of my BP I am not going to go into long tirade with statistics etc. But I have worked in research for 10+ years now, this funding cut is going to have a major impact on public health.
I consider myself staunchly pro-choice from a political perspective. I've never understood how the federal/state governments largely made up of men should have any say or influence whatsoever when it comes to women making highly personal and difficult decisions about their reproductive health and future. ????? Does. Not. Compute. I completely agree with @ArtificialRed that positive change will come from improved sex education, access to BC, and affordable healthcare and childcare.
It also disgusts me that funding is being cut for nearly everything except our military, like vital public welfare programs and the arts and the EPA and foreign aid and the state department. My brother is in the Navy and I 100% support our military, but military involvement is sort of a last resort in many ways. You'd think diplomacy would be a first line of defense.
On a bit of a lighter note I guess, anyone have any unique thoughts on the Pepsi commercial? I'm in marketing so I'm always interested in advertising as an expression of sociopolitical attitudes. I found it just plain idiotic--lets get Kendall Jenner to be our social justice warrior!---she is a rich, white cis model who has been wholly uninvolved and tightlipped in the face of social unrest.
I planned this pregnancy all in the same deductible year since it's so high. It sucks. It really does.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!