I'm having crampy BH and it's really annoying. Luckily I don't have to do much today besides take DS to the ENT, so I can just chill on the couch and drink water and hope they go away.
I haven't used lotion this entire pregnancy. Instead I use cocoa butter sticks that I get at Walmart or Kroger with the "ethnic" products. They're about $1, lasts for about 1 1/2 weeks and I haven't gotten a single stretch mark yet! And no sticky feeling!
I've been using lotion regularly but it doesn't bother me. However, I've also upped my game and started using Burt's Bee's mama bee oil before I lotion. It dries up really quickly and I never feel greasy or clammy after using it. A little bit goes a long way so the bottle lasts a while too. If I wasn't lotion obsessive I think using the oil by itself would be effective.
I am wayyyy behind most of you, and I know other women have so much going on... and it makes me feel guilty I am feeling this way... But I am so tired of being pregnant I can't stand it. Everything hurts, my mental health gets worse by the day, I don't feel like anyone is taking me seriously. I was screened by a nurse (this program our work has) to be at "very high risk" for depression... My husband thinks I am just exaggerating, I talked to 1 of the male OBs at my last appointment 2 weeks ago and he brushed it off, I talked to my therapist about it (whom I love) and she seems to think it's more medical than actual depression.... and today I go to my OB who is a female. I swear if she brushes it off I might lose it. But then again... what can they even do to help?!
@EmeraldNC I hope your OB today can give you some help or at least listen to your concerns. Depression in pregnancy seems like it can actually be pretty common and hopefully this OB will give you some insight on things to try to help. I don't have a lot of experience but maybe a vitamin D supplement, extra omega-3s and yoga/meditation could help? We're all here for you if you want to talk about anything!
@EmeraldNC, sending you love and support. I'm hoping your OB will be more responsive. It's hard feeling like crap for this long. I tried to explain it to dh when he was sick for three weeks and complaining. It's a looong time to not be yourself. It wears on you. Some people feel great, but it doesn't negate the way you are feeling. Hugs.
I am wayyyy behind most of you, and I know other women have so much going on... and it makes me feel guilty I am feeling this way... But I am so tired of being pregnant I can't stand it. Everything hurts, my mental health gets worse by the day, I don't feel like anyone is taking me seriously. I was screened by a nurse (this program our work has) to be at "very high risk" for depression... My husband thinks I am just exaggerating, I talked to 1 of the male OBs at my last appointment 2 weeks ago and he brushed it off, I talked to my therapist about it (whom I love) and she seems to think it's more medical than actual depression.... and today I go to my OB who is a female. I swear if she brushes it off I might lose it. But then again... what can they even do to help?!
If you're not already taking a high-quality fish oil/omega-3 supplement, I know people who use it as a supplement to help deal with depression, and it apparently works really well. Especially if it's got Vitamin D added to it. And since both are things that are often recommended to take during pregnancy anyway, it might be worth trying even if it's something you're skeptical about.
Im sorry you're struggling @EmeraldNC. My only advice is to keep voicing how you are feeling and hopefully your ob addresses it at your appointment. Thinking of you!
+1 for returning nausea. I've stated gagging again when I brush my teeth.
+1 for killer heartburn. I tried managing it with homeopathy for months, but it wasn't enough as I was waking up every morning with a sore throat, so I had to start taking a medication as well. It's barely helping. I still have to be careful about what I eat, and continue the supplements I was on before. And yes, ice cream helps a ton! I have to (or get to?) eat it every night before bed.
Oh, and I've recently discovered a gross looking varicose vein on my thigh.
I am wayyyy behind most of you, and I know other women have so much going on... and it makes me feel guilty I am feeling this way... But I am so tired of being pregnant I can't stand it. Everything hurts, my mental health gets worse by the day, I don't feel like anyone is taking me seriously. I was screened by a nurse (this program our work has) to be at "very high risk" for depression... My husband thinks I am just exaggerating, I talked to 1 of the male OBs at my last appointment 2 weeks ago and he brushed it off, I talked to my therapist about it (whom I love) and she seems to think it's more medical than actual depression.... and today I go to my OB who is a female. I swear if she brushes it off I might lose it. But then again... what can they even do to help?!
Find someone who will listen. Your OB may be able to help. Maybe that help will be in the form of a referral, maybe recommending supplements, or maybe something else. But a dismissive caregiver is not one I would see again.
I am sorry to see this update @EmeraldNC. I hope your OB takes your concerns seriously and can come up with a solution to help you out. Thinking of you.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I'm sorry you are feeling this way @EmeraldNC and annoyed no one is listening to you.
I was depressed my last pregnancy and didn't realize that is what it was until after I had him and was magically happy again. I'm much more aware this time and still struggle with it. I don't think people talk about pregnancy depression. I hope your OB listens and has some ideas for you.
My pelvic area is very sore today. It started yesterday after my first day nannying the twins so I thought it was from getting up and down off the floor a lot. But Chloe also has been moving A LOT and that was uncomfortable all evening/night too. Maybe she is preparing to flip head down!?
I don't know if this counts as a symptom, but I'm struggling a lot with going to work this week and last. At first I couldn't figure out what the struggle was about since nothing has really changed in the last few weeks, but I think I'm realizing it's not so much about anything in particular at work (though there's always stuff) but more that as I get farther along (31 weeks) my focus feels elsewhere. I guess this is what people talk about in pregnancy with the inward focus or shifting attention to the next phase (labor, mothering, preparing, nesting, etc). It's felt hard to feel torn, to want to be somewhere else and not be able to (and with 8 more weeks left). I also enjoy my work too and it's hard to have that feeling disrupted too. I have to say physically it's been a little bit better - rib pain is there, but more in the background, or shows up more as numbing/tingling which is preferable (for me anyways) to outright burning pain.
@EmeraldNC - I'm sorry to hear about how you're feeling too. I'm glad you love your therapist - that's so important. That being said, even if it's medical it's still important and warrants attention and processing (I'm not saying s/he would disagree, it just sounds like you felt somewhat dismissed). As a therapist myself, I know fish oil has been shown to help depression, though fwiw, my midwife suggested I stop my fish oil a month before delivery as anecdotally (not clinical trials) she's seen it associated with longer pregnancies due to an anti-prostaglandin effect. I don't know, but thought I'd mention it. Have you considered seeing your therapist more frequently? I know in my work and in my own therapies, increasing frequency from 1 to 2x a week can be very helpful.
I'm sorry you're struggling @EmeraldNC. I hope you're able to find someone who will listen to you soon. You shouldn't have to be feeling like this. Big hugs, lady.
@EmeraldNC I am sorry you are having a hard time mentally, I feel I am struggling myself. Anxiety pretty bad, I try my hardest to ignore it. I am constantly thinking about what if something happens to the baby in there ugh!! I hope you find someone that will sit and listen, my husband and family are the same way to me. "Oh calm down" they say. My symtpoms this week consist of terrible night sweats, like literally sleep with a towel under me.... anyone else experience this? Also a cough as I am getting over this viral yuck, and pain low above my pubic bone when this baby gets in certain positions, also BH, a few a day. Some days more then others. 30 wks.
@EmeraldNC hope you figure something out. I cannot say enough about meditation. It does something indescribable to the wiring in your brain. Feeling more centered from it can only help, I'd say.
Thank you ladies.. My OB was very kind. She said she thought I was experiencing normal pregnancy mood swings, but since it was a pre existing condition (anxiety and depression) and she felt like it wasn't necessarily brought on by pregnancy and usually managed by my PCP, she'd defer to them. And supported whatever med change they/I think is necessary.
I'm sorry for what you're going through @EmeraldNC I hope your regular OB takes your concerns seriously and has some sort of recommendations for you!
My symptoms this week is that I am ALWAYS hot. I can't even sleep with a sheet on anymore, fan is on full force and that still doesn't feel like enough. Maybe I should've been a penguin... although I hated the cold prepregnancy.
Edit: because I didn't realize that I already posted symptoms this week... add this one to that list and we will blame "pregnancy brain" for the forgetfulness
Fatigue and hate. No energy to do anything after work.I hate everything today. Work. My husband( ok I do not hate him, just easily annoyed with anything today). I don't want to do dishes, sweep, or make lunch. I don't want to get up early for work. I don't want to go to work. Wahhh.
@EmeraldNC I'm glad your OB listened to your concerns and is on board with supporting you. Sending lots of positive vibes your way for a solution to get through the next few months!!
I'm so warm/sweaty! It's like 55 here and I wish I had worn shorts to the doctor's. I just didn't want to look silly. Oh wait...I'm 30 weeks pregnant and my 11 month old is sitting in his stroller eating a book. That ship already sailed...
@EmeraldNC I have a history of depression as well. I felt like it was coming back last month, but I really wanted to try to work through it myself if I could. My OB was very supportive and re-prescribed the medicine I was on last year. He recommended a therapist (I don't have one here) and told me to use my resources (him, therapist, things that have previously helped) and that I could start the medication if and when I felt I needed it. I think it was just very helpful to feel supported and know that the medication was available if I need it.
I have been feeling better, but I feel like I'm more prepared if things start going downhill after I have the baby. My OB is really big into "healthy mom's have healthy babies". With a history of depression, the risk for it to return during pregnancy or post-partum is significantly increased. I think it is healthy to be aware of and accept feelings without blaming ourselves. It took me a long time to accept I was depressed the first time and to stop blaming myself for not being able to get rid of those feelings and be happy. I am glad you are asking for help and please always know there is so much support out there!
I'm constantly tired this week but can't sleep! I went to bed at 11 last night (usually 8pm lately) and was up every half hour to change my position in bed until 3:30 when I woke up and couldn't get back to sleep. At 4:30 I decided to take a shower, and went out to the couch for a bit, then went back to bed at 6am and slept until 8:30. Usually DD wakes up at 7:30 so I'm glad she let me sleep in a bit and she got some extra rest too! So much coffee today though. I don't remember sleeping this terrible with my last pregnancy!
My pelvic area is very sore today. It started yesterday after my first day nannying the twins so I thought it was from getting up and down off the floor a lot. But Chloe also has been moving A LOT and that was uncomfortable all evening/night too. Maybe she is preparing to flip head down!?
I've had some low achiness recently. My midwife said sometimes the baby can go head down and get pretty far down in there while it's head is still small. I've wondered if that's some of my issue. She suggested laying at a slight upside down incline to help the baby kind of "float" out of there, but it's improved today so I haven't tried it.
I have a success story! I've been eating between 3-4 prunes in the morning and evening and I've been able to poop better! It's nice to make a little extra room for baby and organs.
I'm so fucking hormonal and weepy. I'm not handling work stress well, and my husband says completely normal things and I take offense and start crying.
I am misery personified today. I worked out yesterday and it brought on a world of pelvic pain all night and this morning, which is frustrating. And my shirt that used to be cute is now way too tight and uncomfortable. And I have to wear it on a field trip in the rain today.
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+1 for killer heartburn. I tried managing it with homeopathy for months, but it wasn't enough as I was waking up every morning with a sore throat, so I had to start taking a medication as well. It's barely helping. I still have to be careful about what I eat, and continue the supplements I was on before. And yes, ice cream helps a ton! I have to (or get to?) eat it every night before bed.
Oh, and I've recently discovered a gross looking varicose vein on my thigh.
Find someone who will listen. Your OB may be able to help. Maybe that help will be in the form of a referral, maybe recommending supplements, or maybe something else. But a dismissive caregiver is not one I would see again.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
and annoyed no one is listening to you.
I was depressed my last pregnancy and didn't realize that is what it was until after I had him and was magically happy again. I'm much more aware this time and still struggle with it. I don't think people talk about pregnancy depression. I hope your OB listens and has some ideas for you.
Edit- tagged wrong person.
@EmeraldNC - I'm sorry to hear about how you're feeling too. I'm glad you love your therapist - that's so important. That being said, even if it's medical it's still important and warrants attention and processing (I'm not saying s/he would disagree, it just sounds like you felt somewhat dismissed). As a therapist myself, I know fish oil has been shown to help depression, though fwiw, my midwife suggested I stop my fish oil a month before delivery as anecdotally (not clinical trials) she's seen it associated with longer pregnancies due to an anti-prostaglandin effect. I don't know, but thought I'd mention it. Have you considered seeing your therapist more frequently? I know in my work and in my own therapies, increasing frequency from 1 to 2x a week can be very helpful.
edited: posted too soon
BFP: 9/30/16, EDD: 6/9/17
My symtpoms this week consist of terrible night sweats, like literally sleep with a towel under me.... anyone else experience this? Also a cough as I am getting over this viral yuck, and pain low above my pubic bone when this baby gets in certain positions, also BH, a few a day. Some days more then others. 30 wks.
My symptoms this week is that I am ALWAYS hot. I can't even sleep with a sheet on anymore, fan is on full force and that still doesn't feel like enough. Maybe I should've been a penguin... although I hated the cold prepregnancy.
Edit: because I didn't realize that I already posted symptoms this week... add this one to that list and we will blame "pregnancy brain" for the forgetfulness
I don't want to do dishes, sweep, or make lunch.
I don't want to get up early for work. I don't want to go to work.
Wahhh.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
I have been feeling better, but I feel like I'm more prepared if things start going downhill after I have the baby. My OB is really big into "healthy mom's have healthy babies". With a history of depression, the risk for it to return during pregnancy or post-partum is significantly increased. I think it is healthy to be aware of and accept feelings without blaming ourselves. It took me a long time to accept I was depressed the first time and to stop blaming myself for not being able to get rid of those feelings and be happy. I am glad you are asking for help and please always know there is so much support out there!
MC 4/15
BFP 10/10/16