I've always wanted 3. DH always wanted 2. I had to fight long and hard to get this 3rd and honestly thought we might split because of it, but here we are! Don't give up those of you hoping for 3!
In an ideal world where money would come to me limitlessssss lol id definitely go for a soccer team (11 kids), i could settle for a basketball starting five loooll... but hubby want TOPS 3 !
I've always wanted 4 (two boys and two girls). Or 2 girls at least, to be BFFs like my sister and me. I have 2 step kids (12 and 15) so this baby will kind of be an only child. I really, really, really want a sibling for this baby. And I'd like to have 2 of my own kids (which ends up being 4 total). DH sounds like the rest of the guys thinking about finances and such. But I just can't picture baby being an only child (pretty much). Hoping he'll change his mind. Having said all that, I'm 37 and DH is 40. So I can understand him kind of being done. But if we do try for a 2nd, I feel like I'd give it till about 40 for me (43 for him).
98% sure 3. that has always been my number (both H and i are 1 of 3). but the idea of being done at 31, feels so young. i don't think i will know for sure until #3 is here.
This. Right now I feel like we could stop at 3, but we really won't know until after this one is here. Many of the women in my family have had surprise babies in their 40s. So we shall see.
@kkerner87 this is the show that really put me on wanting a bigger family than I had. I love how close all the siblings were and how they all had a part in their parents lives and then the cousins being so close. All the feels. But even that said, 3 is good for me
This is my eighth so I'm obviously in "Duggar territory". We're old fashioned Catholics so we're leaving it up to God. I'm an only child; my husband is one of six. I love having a big family
This is our fifth and last. Hubby always said he wanted six. He is one of five and loves being from a big family. There is no way I am going to be able to do six.
Ask me now and I would tell you one and done, lol. However, I'm an only child and I remember 31 years of saying over and over I would never just have one child, God willing. I voted 2. In the thick of sickness with this pregnancy, I swore this was it. I know we'll have one more, though. DH is 1 of 5 and I think was becoming a bit nervous that I was serious about the one and done thing, haha.
Me: 31 DH: 35 Married since 05.16.2009 Expecting #1: 10.10.2017
@jessafishy I used to want to be a dugger (only if I made enough money). That was my high school fantasy - with my realistic goal set to 4 max. After having my first I was set to have an only child. Then she got older and older and I wanted her to have a sibling... so I thought "okay, at least 2 with a max of 3." But it took a lot of convincing with my partner to consider a second. Thanks to a somewhat accidental pregnancy happening anyway...here we are. But with how trying my 3yo is lately... this may be it for us. I may be open to a 3rd again like yeeeeeears after #2 is born. But it would definitely have to wait until I finish my education next time around because I can't afford to take anymore time away from it after #2 is old enough for me to return to it. I can't be sure my partner would ever be open to it down the line though.
@carries2018 If you are still unsure then definitely would be best for husband to close shop first... a sort of trial run to feel out being done done done. It's so much easier for men all the way around - the procedure itself and the ability to reverse it if they decide they DO want more kids after all. My dad had a vasectomy after I was born 30 years ago. About 16 years ago he decided to have it reversed so he and my step mom could try for a baby. He's had 3 kids since reversing the visectomy... 1 with my step mom (his now 2nd ex wife) and then fraternal twins with his current wife! They are now 15 and 13, respectively. And it's great that yours is willing to go through with one!
Add me to the list of those who wanted a big family because of the Bravermans! Lol. But in the interest of "know thyself" I don't think I could handle more than 2! And now with how sick I am while pregnant... I am definitely done haha.
I've always wanted three, and DH only wanted one, so we compromised and agreed on two. But it's going to take a while for me to forget how much this first pregnancy has sucked in order to get that baby fever again!
LOL @carries2018 just don't post a "how many are you having" poll. One of the BMBs had that one, and the members were very curious as to the identity of all their triplet mothers. I also may or may not be having triplets in that BMB.
@carries2018 We have a 15 passenger Dodge Ram, so nearly a bus I have 14 boy, 11 girl, 9 girl, 7 girl, 5 boy, 2 boy, and a 12 month girl. And no, we're not rich. I'm at home with the kids (we homeschool) and my husband works for the school system....so definitely no where close to six digits, by any means. And no, I'm not a super patient person. And no, we don't have a TV. And yes, we do know what causes it and we prefer it to watching television, lol. And finally, yes, I have my hands full (probably the one I hear the most often, lol)!
We want 3 but may end up with 4. This is likely my last pregnancy which will give us 2 bio children. We plan to adopt in a couple of years. DH would possibly like one more bio after that, I would possibly like to adopt one more after. Another bio is pretty much off the table for me but DH doesn't really want to accept that yet. We are only 26/27 so I kind of get it.
@KSweet this is fascinating. so no plans to "stop" just going to keep rolling and see what happens? or do you have a number in mind. do you actually try or just not prevent. sorry if this is all too personal this is just the most interesting conversation i have ever had haha.
@carries2018 We have a 15 passenger Dodge Ram, so nearly a bus I have 14 boy, 11 girl, 9 girl, 7 girl, 5 boy, 2 boy, and a 12 month girl. And no, we're not rich. I'm at home with the kids (we homeschool) and my husband works for the school system....so definitely no where close to six digits, by any means. And no, I'm not a super patient person. And no, we don't have a TV. And yes, we do know what causes it and we prefer it to watching television, lol. And finally, yes, I have my hands full (probably the one I hear the most often, lol)!
You're my hero! I wiiiiiiiish DH would allow me to have a big fam like yours!
@carries2018 We have no grave reason to stop (health, finances, etc) and we're open to whomever God sends. However, I'll be 42 with this baby, so I'm assuming we may only have one or two more? Some babies we have tried to have, one was very much a surprise, and some have been not really trying to avoid or conceive.
@yasandson Thanks, lol. I would have fainted if someone would have told me even ten years ago that I would have a big family. And yes, my husband is an awesome husband and dad; it probably helps that he's one of six.
@canonmom413 We have a four bedroom/three bath house but three of the rooms are really big. Usually the baby is in a crib in our room for the first year. My oldest son is in the smallest room by himself because he's followed by three girls. The three middle girls are together in a room. The younger two boys and the one year old girl are in the other room. But we seem to be moving people around all the time as needs change.
@KSweet you are a rockstar I always wanted a big family growing up. My dad is one of 11, so I have a massive, and very close, family. DH has an extremely small family and is honestly still intimidated by mine, even after 7 years He wasn't even sold on having kids, and if we did he was one and done. He's changed his mind a bit now, but we'll never have a huge family for various reasons. This is #3 for us, and we will have 3 kids 3.5 and younger so if/when we do have another it will probably be a few years. My health and sanity will most likely only allow for one more though lol
@Katie122491 I'm an only child and despite having my large family, my husband's large family still overwhelms me when they're all together, lol! People will probably tell you, going from three to four isn't too bad....you'll already be outnumbered And then once you have the fourth, you think, well, it's not so bad...and then, and then, etc...
In my former life I used to say 2. I spent 7 years dealing with infertility with my ex. During that time I said 1, id just be happy to get 1 child. Im remarried and I have 2 bonus sons and easily got pregnant with my first. I already know I want to have another so that will make child #4 for us. The idea of a huge family, after living with infertility for so long, is absolutely beautiful.
Kellie 35 1st baby 13w3d U/S Mom to 6 and 7 year old Bonus Sons
My DH and I have always agreed we wanted two kids. However, last week, while I was projectile vomiting out the car window, he told me he wanted three. I told him to shut the *** up ( in as loving of a way as possible) and that two will be enough haha. (This will be our first.)
@KSweet your post about the # of bedrooms you have made me feel better (and silly) as I was worried about having two kids in a 3 bedroom house. I'm hoping my kids can share a room for at least a little while.
@MrsCFB My kids seem to enjoy sharing a room (at least most of the time)....I hear them in there giggling and whispering and sometimes they comfort each other when one has a nightmare or gets nervous. I had the entire upstairs as a kid (I was an only child) and hated being alone at night when I was younger.
@MrsCFB My kids seem to enjoy sharing a room (at least most of the time)....I hear them in there giggling and whispering and sometimes they comfort each other when one has a nightmare or gets nervous. I had the entire upstairs as a kid (I was an only child) and hated being alone at night when I was younger.
Yes, it's like a slumber party every night! What kid wouldn't like that?!
@MrsCFB My girls WILL NOT sleep apart from each other. To the point that Dd1 crawled into the pack n play with dd2 on vacation because "she was calling me and she wanted me to snuggle, mommy."
Re: POTD - # of kids you want
I have 2 step kids (12 and 15) so this baby will kind of be an only child. I really, really, really want a sibling for this baby. And I'd like to have 2 of my own kids (which ends up being 4 total). DH sounds like the rest of the guys thinking about finances and such. But I just can't picture baby being an only child (pretty much). Hoping he'll change his mind.
Having said all that, I'm 37 and DH is 40. So I can understand him kind of being done. But if we do try for a 2nd, I feel like I'd give it till about 40 for me (43 for him).
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
Married since 05.16.2009
Expecting #1: 10.10.2017
@carries2018 If you are still unsure then definitely would be best for husband to close shop first... a sort of trial run to feel out being done done done. It's so much easier for men all the way around - the procedure itself and the ability to reverse it if they decide they DO want more kids after all. My dad had a vasectomy after I was born 30 years ago. About 16 years ago he decided to have it reversed so he and my step mom could try for a baby. He's had 3 kids since reversing the visectomy... 1 with my step mom (his now 2nd ex wife) and then fraternal twins with his current wife! They are now 15 and 13, respectively. And it's great that yours is willing to go through with one!
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Also, I love that 0 is an option, and that 10 people have picked it!
Eta: and by screwing with I mean playing with, because it's all in good fun
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@yasandson Thanks, lol. I would have fainted if someone would have told me even ten years ago that I would have a big family. And yes, my husband is an awesome husband and dad; it probably helps that he's one of six.
@canonmom413 We have a four bedroom/three bath house but three of the rooms are really big. Usually the baby is in a crib in our room for the first year. My oldest son is in the smallest room by himself because he's followed by three girls. The three middle girls are together in a room. The younger two boys and the one year old girl are in the other room. But we seem to be moving people around all the time as needs change.
1st baby
13w3d U/S
Mom to 6 and 7 year old Bonus Sons