Monday Bitchfest 04/03/2017

av2323 · April 2017

Let it all out ladies.

av2323 · April 2017

I don't have anything baby/pregnancy related to bitch about. I thought The Walking Dead finale sucked. Actually, this whole season sucked in my opinion.

kissthesky32 · April 2017

My DH can't ever make my OB appointments because of the hours he works. My first one is on Wednesday. DH randomly got this afternoon free, so I called to see if they could move my appointment to today. There's an opening, but the one NP who is open won't see me before 8 weeks. So, I get to go alone in 2 days instead of with DH today. I really like the doctor I'm seeing in 2 days (she delivered my second), but it would have been so nice to have DH there in case the appointment isn't good news.

katiegeminimoon · April 2017

My first appointment is next Monday. I called today because I was spotting over the weekend and found out I won't be getting an ultrasound on Monday! I am not amused. **TW** when I had my MC the baby was implanted in the wrong spot (which they said could rupture my uterus), you would think they would want to make sure that isn't happening again?! **TW**

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

@kissthesky32 that's dumb. You're being seen in 2 days before 8 weeks regardless, she can't just see you today?

zigzag8412 · April 2017

I feel like a total tool for b****ing about this but I just told my old roommate/godbabies' mama that we're pregnant Saturday and I already regret it. I know she's excited and trying to be helpful, but I already have three showers (friends, church, work) and don't want/need another one but she keeps pushing that she wants to host one but if I won't let her can she at least start bringing me freezer meals now to help.
Background: She just had her second in Dec (?) and is self proclaimed super emotional and hippie. She had a traumatic birth experience with her first and still didn't get what she wanted with the second. Also- she knowingly fed DH and I liver-burgers without telling us because she knew we wouldn't eat it if we knew.... ergo, we don't really trust her cooking. On top of her cooking's usually super bland/dry with all the substitutions and funky stuff she adds.
So all of this to say, I'm not saying her experience wasn't rough but I'm actually doing pretty ok, even with having to take care of DD because DH is amazing and very helpful. I've had my moments of struggle with nausea and exhaustion, but overall, I'm pretty good. And she just has this approach of "It's ok to not be ok, you don't have to hide it, you can trust me" and I just want to scream "I'M REALLY OK!" I'm trying to be empathetic knowing how difficult her experiences were, but it's been all of 48 hours and I'm exhausted... I may have to find a diplomatic way to ask her to chill...

kissthesky32 · April 2017

I know, right, @DuchessOfCambridge!? Do these 2 days really matter as much as the emotional support of having my husband there? I think not.

If it was the doctor I'm seeing Wednesday who had the opening today, I'm sure she would have just moved me over. Another doctor at this practice saw me at 6+5 with my last pregnancy. I don't get why this one woman gets to have different guidelines.

Ugh. I just got so excited when she said there was an opening. It was such a letdown to be told I couldn't have it.

JAGClark · April 2017

.... my father in law told my husband's side of the family I'm pregnant. I'm 8 weeks, and I've not even had ONE doctor's appointment yet. Privacy ripped right from my hands. The anger is REAL today, ladies.

jess0211 · April 2017

@kissthesky32 that seems ridiculous to me that they won't accommodate you and YH and see you today, it's only a 2 day difference!

@ktcakes87 did they give you a reason for not doing one?? Can you ask for one?

@zigzag8412 that wouls irritate me too. It's similar to why I didn't tell one of my good friends right away. She's super emotional and I didn't want that to be dumped on me.

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

@kissthesky32 I am not a huge fan of NPs and it's really because of the one in my PCP's group. My PCP is super sweet, considerate, not condescending, and ultimately just a great person and doctor. The NP in the group I only saw once and refuse to see again because she was really rude to me, made me feel stupid for coming in (I'd had a cough for three weeks that wasn't going away), and it was overall a terrible visit. I feel like some NPs have a Napoleon complex since they're not ACTUALLY doctors which is too bad because I'd like them just fine if they weren't rude.

2Dash · April 2017

My boss is really not great - so as a symptom of this my colleagues keep calling in sick - which leaves everything to me! I could really use a break but knowing I have lots of appointments and things coming up I'm reluctant to take time off now even though I'm exhausted and nauseous most of the time. Also to deal with my boss situation I was in the process of trying to get a new job. I even meet with someone last week. And while the job seemed interesting and like something I could do well they are banking close to a 100 hours of overtime and I can't take a job like that with two kids and now with a third on the way. I'm likely going to have to stay in this job as my prospects of finding a new position narrows by the day........

car1a · April 2017

@ktcakes87 Did you speak to a nurse? I'm just surprised that they wouldn't suggest an u/s this week sometime, it sounds as though some ladies here have gone in for early u/s appointments when they had spotting or unusual pain. Or at least they could add one to Monday's appointment! I understand that spotting is quite common, so they might not be very concerned, but given your history I'm sure it's unsettling.

JDW0325 · April 2017

@av2323
Yes! My DH and I hated the finale too! So disappointing. I can definitely see why they are losing viewers every week (still like the most popular show ever, just on the decline). This season was SO MUCH buildup for SO LITTLE.

@ktcakes87
can you (for lack of a better word) demand one? That is crazy that given your history they wouldn't do one! I hope you can get it worked out!

jess0211 · April 2017

Ugh this girl in my officd gets away with so much BS and I am so sick of seeing it. I work my butt off (okay so maybe I bump a little at work but that's a recent thing) weekdays and weekends and she gets away with BS because no one wants to take the time to deal with her.

kissthesky32 · April 2017

@DuchessOfCambridge I feel the same way about some of the NPs I've had appointments with before. One at my current practice is condescending and talks to me like I'm an idiot. The one who has the opening today is newer, so I haven't met her yet. There was one at my last practice who was all sunshine and bubbles and light and she wouldn't flat out answer any questions - just sort of gloss around an answer. I think you're right about the napoleon complex in some of them.

That said, my kids see an NP at their pedi office who they and I both adore. And we have a friend who is also a pedi NP and great (obviously, since she's a friend).

My opinions might also also be a little skewed since DH is a doctor.

2Dash · April 2017

@zigzag8412 - I'm annoyed just reading that - yeah you will need to get her to chill!

@JAGClark - My BIL did that with DS1. We didn't even tell me. We told my IL's who we swore to secrecy - they told him and he posted it on facebook (and some people I work with were on his facebook). I feel your rage!! I can still feel mine - lol! With DS2 I just let everyone think I was super fat and didn't tell a soul until I was 18 weeks lol!

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

@kissthesky32 my first official prenatal appointment is with a NP and I'm keeping an open mind. I have no problem seeing her as long as she answers my questions and isn't condescending. I'm a FTM. Like really, you're going to be condescending to me as my body goes through stuff it's never done before?

zigzag8412 · April 2017

JAGClark all the empathy rage!

hedgepig · April 2017

@DuchessOfCambridge @kissthesky32 I saw an NP my whole life until she retired a few years ago and she was the best. I always felt like she took more time to get to know me and answer my questions than I thought a doctor would. I miss her... last time I saw her she said she hoped she'd get to see me pregnant before she retired

All this to say that I hope you have a really great NP this time!

katiegeminimoon · April 2017

@jess0211 They said I was too early in the pregnancy to be able to see anything, which I know is not necessarily true.

@car1a I’m not sure if the lady I talked to is a nurse or not, but she talked to my midwife and she didn’t want to see me yet

@JDW0325 I basically did and they said they “might” schedule me for an early ultrasound sometime after my Monday appt.

jess0211 · April 2017

@DuchessOfCambridge and @kissthesky32 my PCP is an NP and I love her, but DHs pcp is also an NP and I can't stand his. I work with a lot of NPs (I work at a nursing school) and it really varies. Some I love and some I could do without.

BayCamp · April 2017

I have a rare Monday that I'm not babysitting and DH was supposed to have today off. Well he's been at a meeting since 9 and he just told me he won't be home until 1. We were planning on going to the water park today with DS to do my birthday make-up since he worked all day yesterday but it closes at 5 and that doesn't seem likely. I'm pissed and just sitting here with an antsy toddler that was promised water slides and now doesn't want to do anything else so he's raging around throwing toys and I just want to hide in the pantry and eat all the food.

MississippiCatfish · April 2017

I called in sick yesterday for the first time in FIVE years. My coworkers are giving me the cold shoulder for it. Seriously. Step off me.

tlq0726 · April 2017

WHY is it so effing cold in my office?!?!?!?!?!?!?! You'd think the a/c in a 40 year old building wouldn't work this well. It's TEXAS for crying out loud. When I have to dress for my office and not for the weather, there's a problem.

Tourmalily · April 2017

Yesterday I felt sick all day and now I'm so hungry. Omg PICK A THEME, BODY.

safinn21 · April 2017

As someone who will be an NP in just a little
over a month I'm sorry so many have had bad experiences! I will say, there is no perfect profession... I've worked with amazing nurses and some terrible nurses, some amazing physicians and some terrible physicians. The NPs I've worked with some have been great and some not so great... not everyone is the perfect fit for their profession. As for having a napoleon complex I will neve pretend to have the education of a physician nor should I, so it's unfortunates so many of you think that. That all being said NO medical professional should ever dismiss your concerns of symptoms! I hope you all have good experiences from here on out

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

@tlq0726 my space heater in my office is on pretty much year round. I literally cannot concentrate if I'm cold!

@safinn21 I have nothing against most NPs and would be willing to (and am) seeing one again! Just not the NP in my office. I think she in particular feels like she needs to measure up to the doctors or prove herself or something so ends up being a TW. If she'd been polite and acted like my normal PCP I totally would have seen her again, NPs are smart people and I respect the career a lot! It sounds like you'll make a great one too

Andplusalso I'd feel the same way about a TW doctor. Bedside manner is important.

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

Ummmm so I got chicken fingers from my work cafe and just noticed some of them are RAW on the inside, and I accidentally ate some! What do I do? Just hope I don't get salmonella? I am very upset, wtf, you can't just give people raw chicken!

Chawk17 · April 2017

I think the NP situation depends on how the practice is run. My mom is a family NP. But she only sees her patients. She doesn't see the doctors overload patients. Her patients are hers unless she needs a consult or a hospital admit. I think that makes a difference on patients perceptions of NPs. I went to a doctor's office and once saw the doctor and the next time saw his NP. And was turned off. And I am a fan of NPs as that's my mom's job. But if I'm going intentionally to see a Dr then that's who I want to see.

TallMomma29 · April 2017

I think nurses and NPs are generally super awesome and generally more caring and attentive than doctors, but I originally had an NP with my first and at my 15w appointment, without asking me if I even wanted to know (I didn't), she blurted out that I was having a boy. It turned out she was wrong (at 15 weeks it is still pretty easy to guess incorrectly), and I'm still a little bitter about it. Totally makes sense to b**** about that over 3 years later, right? ;-)

For a more legitimate thing to complain about, my DH went on a low-carb diet last week. I don't know if our marriage will survive it. Just kidding (mostly ;-)) but my DH does pretty much all of the cooking, which means he's cooking all low carb stuff. When I'm pregnant I pretty much only want to eat bread and cheese, and even the thought of eating meat or most veggies makes me queasy. So now he's going to be losing weight while I'm gaining weight and making meals that make me gaggy. UGH. On the positive side, I think it's great that he's taking initiative to get healthier, etc. But I keep picturing emoji knives in my head. ;-)

emucoleman · April 2017

@ktcakes87 Ugh, that is so annoying! Hope you get an u/s soon.

@kissthesky32 I'm angry just reading that! Hopefully everything is smooth sailing and it will be fine without your SO... It's just annoying when doctors have these stupid rules and won't bend even a little.

My husband was sick with the flu the past week. I'm a SAHM so I've been taking care of him and DD all week while trying not to throw up/trying to stay awake while being utterly exhausted. His health has had to be first priority so that he could go back to work, whereas I am not actually "sick" and therefore I can afford to put myself last... He would never want me to think that, but that's just how it feels. He finally went back to work today so hopefully that's over.

ariasbabyblog · April 2017

I love my husband, but the stubborn twit doesn't know when to stay home! I had a nasty stomach bug last week, and naturally he got it too. Nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, the whole nine yards. I needed a day to recover and my mom came and helped with the kids after I spent the night throwing up etc. Last night, the DH goes through the same thing, only he managed to not throw up. This morning, he's exhausted because he didn't sleep more than an hour, still feels really sick and whatnot, and the idiot goes into work anyway. Why? Because two meetings today are too important and his underling already had to go to the first half of one for him and can't handle it. Like I care? I need you whole, hale and healthy! This isn't the first time he's done something like this either. Every time he gets sick, he goes into work sick and takes 3 times as long to feel better than the rest of us. Gee! Let me think of why that might be! *mutter mutter grumble*

I feel better now.

emucoleman · April 2017

ariasbabyblog said:

I love my husband, but the stubborn twit doesn't know when to stay home! I had a nasty stomach bug last week, and naturally he got it too. Nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, the whole nine yards. I needed a day to recover and my mom came and helped with the kids after I spent the night throwing up etc. Last night, the DH goes through the same thing, only he managed to not throw up. This morning, he's exhausted because he didn't sleep more than an hour, still feels really sick and whatnot, and the idiot goes into work anyway. Why? Because two meetings today are too important and his underling already had to go to the first half of one for him and can't handle it. Like I care? I need you whole, hale and healthy! This isn't the first time he's done something like this either. Every time he gets sick, he goes into work sick and takes 3 times as long to feel better than the rest of us. Gee! Let me think of why that might be! *mutter mutter grumble*

I feel better now.

My DH is so similar...he works himself into the ground. Last week he stayed home with the flu (thankfully) but then he kept trying to do projects at home and wouldn't sit still! Usually it's great that he takes care of so many things, but he doesn't know when to stop sometimes.

ElizabethSchuyler · April 2017

The vending machine at work doesn't have my favorite cookies.

megankth · April 2017

Aww I feel for you @BayCamp been there before!
Will be thinking of you @ktcakes87! Must be so stressful what you're going through! Hoping that you can get your ultrasound Monday. Also does your insurance cover a hospital visit? They would for sure do an ultrasound there. I had an ultrasound done twice over the past month at the hospital due to possible ectopic.

cmessamore · April 2017

@ElizabethSchuyler this is the best complaint I've read on here! Hahaha

ArtificialRed · April 2017

My husband and I are having the hardest time deciding if we want to do the blood work genetic testing or not. This kind of indecision is pissing me off.

kissthesky32 · April 2017

@ArtificialRed - Our deciding factor was whether insurance covered it or not. We wouldn't terminate anyway, so left it up to insurance to decide if we should do it or not.

TallMomma29 · April 2017

@ElizabethSchuyler one time at work the vending machine guy put several bags of cookies with random fruit in it in front of the famous amos chocolate chip cookies. What kind of sadist would do something like that???

DuchessOfCambridge · April 2017

I love that we all support each other and jump to help whenever anyone has a worry, etc. I do not love when those who haven't taken the time to build relationships and offer support to others jump right in and start new threads about themselves. They can be helpful if others are going through similar things but we also have a symptoms board for that...maybe this is an unpopular opinion.

kissthesky32 · April 2017

I would say it is a super POPULAR opinion, @DuchessOfCambridge

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