Frustrated by MW appointment - just a vent

darkskyy

Met a midwife in the practice that I've never met before.  And I seriously am not a fan.

 Many weeks ago they found that my platelets were on the low side (under 100) - 97. They retested 2 weeks ago, and I was at 94. They were happy with that since they didn't drop too much, and said I would just need to retest at the hospital to make sure they were ok.

 This other one in the practice just insisted on testing me again, and said they would continue to test every week till the end.  Also said that if they drop any more at all than I need specialists and steroids.  The other MWs told me that was only necessary if they drop below 60.  She was going on and on about how if I wanted or needed any pain meds they would give me general anestesia and a csection and DH couldn't be there. W - T - F ????

I understand that that is the case in extreme circumstances, but my levels have been stable, and I have NEVER been bullied or scared into anything with any of the MWs in this practice, even and especially with the m/c.  They've always been warm and reassuring.  I am so angry right now, and this brings me back to the game of waiting for test results for what could be days. I don't need to be stressing out. I don't need to be bullied into tests that I was already told I wouldn't need. 

I'm so angry and frustrated right now.

vent over.

Winter*Mommy

I'm sorry that they scared you about what could happen - it sounds like she was just trying to prepare you by telling you a "worst case scenario" situation.

I have a friend who does have platelets below 60 and has had lots of issues related to delivery (not allowed to have an epidural) but she has had vaginal deliveries and her DH has always been present and she has just been really diligent with learning about pain management... they did give her some other pain meds though and all really was fine.  In fact, she's pregnant with her 4th (lost her first, has two other children now), so the "worst case scenario" of platelets WAY below 60 hasn't really been that bad.  She sees her hematologist frequently and they just monitor the levels really carefully.  I do know that she had to zero out the option of having a midwife and had to go with an OB because of how closely they can and have worked with this type of issue, so that may be something to consider.

If you are not pleased with the care you are getting from them, I would consider changing practices.

jesmckenna

That's really frustrating.  I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.  I would request to NEVER be seen by that MW again!

EmKo0210

I'm sorry you had to deal with that.  ((HUGS))

sinisterkat01

Winter*Mommy:

 

If you are not pleased with the care you are getting from them, I would consider changing practices.

This!  (((HUGS)))

BabyMarek

Im so sorry you had to go threw all that. Talk to another midwife about your concerns and tell them you feel bullied into testing that you were told you most likely didnt need. hugs!

pepomntpat

How likely is this MW to attend your birth?  I'd really make my concerns known to the others in the practice.  She sounds a little too tightly wound for my liking.