@natleilynn I'm much less cautious this time around lol. I don't think I had any nitrates with DD, but I definitely had a toasted Italian sub the other day. I would eat a regular hotdog on occasion, but I just tend to buy the nitrate free ones so I feel better about DD eating them (though, she doesn't often). I didn't drink much caffeine with DD either and I'll have a Dr. Pepper no problem this time. I've never been able to make myself like sushi (I've tried lol), so that hasn't been an issue.
I side eye people's HDBD pictures when the background looks like a disaster. I would never take a picture of myself with a pile of clothes laying on the floor and just a mess in general behind me. I know I'm probably just being picky but I cringe when I see it.
What about work bathroom bump photos?
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I'v never understood why people care so much about how other people do car seats.
What do you mean exactly? FF vs RF or actually using a seat properly?
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I have another current one. There has been a laundry basket of clean clothes sitting on my bedroom floor of DD1 and 2 clothes for over a week. I dumped it on my bed this morning to force myself to fold it. I have not. It's still on my bed. I'll probably shove it back in the bin and try again tomorrow.
I have another current one. There has been a laundry basket of clean clothes sitting on my bedroom floor of DD1 and 2 clothes for over a week. I dumped it on my bed this morning to force myself to fold it. I have not. It's still on my bed. I'll probably shove it back in the bin and try again tomorrow.
My entire life when it comes to laundry.
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I have another current one. There has been a laundry basket of clean clothes sitting on my bedroom floor of DD1 and 2 clothes for over a week. I dumped it on my bed this morning to force myself to fold it. I have not. It's still on my bed. I'll probably shove it back in the bin and try again tomorrow.
Usually I will leave it in the dryer and keep turning it on, you know "to get the wrinkles out." But DH decides to dump it all out on the couch and it's been sitting there making me grumpy because my living room looks like a mess. But I just haven't felt up to tackling it yet.
dogperson11 side eye away dear, but when your 18 month old is in full defcon 5 meltdown and your 1 hour into a 10 hour car ride, you turn that seat around quicker than you can say jack rabbit. I am also in a state that only requires RF until 12 months, so nothing illegal here.
I totally get that the meltdowns suck - we do a 16-hour each way road trip twice a year. IMO children don't get a say in things that concern safety. I wouldn't stop holding my toddlers hand in a parking lot because she's throwing a fit.
I have another current one. There has been a laundry basket of clean clothes sitting on my bedroom floor of DD1 and 2 clothes for over a week. I dumped it on my bed this morning to force myself to fold it. I have not. It's still on my bed. I'll probably shove it back in the bin and try again tomorrow.
Me, too! Me, too!
I'll probably just wash them all tomorrow and try again.
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I side eye people's HDBD pictures when the background looks like a disaster. I would never take a picture of myself with a pile of clothes laying on the floor and just a mess in general behind me. I know I'm probably just being picky but I cringe when I see it.
What about work bathroom bump photos?
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That doesn't bother me since its out of your control if it's messy or not. But if you are taking a picture inside your home, at least tidy up a bit or pick another spot.
I was going to say this! I had a FB friend post today her barely more than 12 month old FF. I can put up with all the differences in parenting but anything that puts your child's life at risk I'm not okay with. There is no excuse good enough for me to not side eye your improper car seat use. Laws shouldn't dictate your decisions, i mean look at our government (another possible FFFC haha). And this is coming from someone who is still RF their 3 year old who absolutely HATED the car for the first two years of their life, like never napped in the car, gave me anxiety just thinking of putting him in the car, hated it.
dogperson11 side eye away dear, but when your 18 month old is in full defcon 5 meltdown and your 1 hour into a 10 hour car ride, you turn that seat around quicker than you can say jack rabbit. I am also in a state that only requires RF until 12 months, so nothing illegal here.
I totally get that the meltdowns suck - we do a 16-hour each way road trip twice a year. IMO children don't get a say in things that concern safety. I wouldn't stop holding my toddlers hand in a parking lot because she's throwing a fit.
This. But Im also on team #cryitout so, I'd just wait it out until the toddler eventually gave up on crying or fell asleep.
@jessafishy I lay in my bed and eat my breakfast each morning and cuddle with my puppy dog. Maybe I can do that with the baby too in the fall. The best part of my day! DH found a cheerio yesterday and became suspicious.
my 22 monther is FF if someone is clearly using car seats wrong like kid can stand up whilst the car is moving i say something, i am a little more open to when you switch to FF. science me all you want, but if you have an 18 month old that gets car sick and pukes RF i'll take my chances and go to FF than them choking on puke. 2 years is the age i switch, that being said a couple months early....meh? that is up to the parents, and on the parents.
@JessDG I'm glad I'm not the only one. I feel like I have been pretty good at hiding the evidence from DH (though I doubt he would care).
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i always hear people say "i feel so bad my kid is crying, it breaks my heart" in regards to CIO. i never feel bad, annoyed yes. but not bad. i mean i am not talking about a newborn obvi.
I'v never understood why people care so much about how other people do car seats.
What do you mean exactly? FF vs RF or actually using a seat properly?
The FF vs RF debate. It just seems to bring out the sanctimommies. My kid rides in a bike trailer most of the time, so I'm sure I'm getting majorly side-eyed by the extended-RF-for-life people anyway. But that's my choice, and I trust other parents to make their own transportation choices with their child's well being in mind too.
@riverraine Ah got ya. I try not to cringe at early FF as long as it's legal to do so. I actually had planned to RF longer but it's been a lot nicer since we turned DS FF last fall.
Basically, I care that they are being used safely and legally. If someone knows the facts about RF vs FF and chooses to FF anyway then that's fine. A lot of people just have no idea, though.
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with the car seat debate, i think most of the problem is the information is so conflicting and hard to find. i mean science and research is consistent yadda yadda yadda. but most people just trust their pedi, friends, directions on the box, police, or family and are done with it. so i see why people get jumpy about spreading facts, but on the other hand it escalates to sanctimommy quick. you can pass on info on if you think someone just doesnt know, because there are a lot that don't. but after that, if it is legal...it really isnt up to you.
with the car seat debate, i think most of the problem is the information is so conflicting and hard to find. i mean science and research is consistent yadda yadda yadda. but most people just trust their pedi, friends, directions on the box, police, or family and are done with it. so i see why people get jumpy about spreading facts, but on the other hand it escalates to sanctimommy quick. you can pass on info on if you think someone just doesnt know, because there are a lot that don't. but after that, if it is legal...it really isnt up to you.
But that's the thing, science is science. New moms spend hours going through reviews to find the perfect crib, rocker, bouncer seat, high chair, but can't be bothered to check into their children's most used SAFETY device? That's what irks me the most.
With my first two, I was the mom who just didn't get the "big deal" with keeping them RFing. I just did what everyone else around me did, which was an awful idea. Because none of them understood (and still don't understand) the importance behind car seat safety. I had my first two FFing way too early and even in booster seats way before they should have. I was completely guilty of just being lazy and not doing research. Thank goodness we never got in anything more than a minor rear-end accident.
Now with my third, I was fortunate enough to be in a BMB that wasn't super quick to get sanctimommy. They explained things instead of being super judgey like my first board, which all the judgement totally turned me off and made me defensive of being naive. Stupid, I know. But once I really read into the safety aspect of RFing, I became very strict with it in our family. Luckily, our daughter is content with still RFing (she just turned 3 and we have no plans of switching her any time soon). BUT we did switch her around last summer during a 12hour road trip because she was a fit-throwing monster and did so much better FFing for that trip. We did switch her back when we got home and she's been fine since.
I feel like there are legit reasons to switch before 2. Like, if your kid gets car sick or screams so bad they throw up or it makes your life and absolute stressful hell. It's the people that switch just because they think it's fine that I tend to side eye. I explained to one of my friends the safety benefits of waiting until 2 to switch and she agreed with me and said she's glad I gave her the info. Then a couple weeks after her daughters first birthday, she switched her. For no reason. She also had her in a puffy winter coat too, which is a whole other story
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With my first two, I was the mom who just didn't get the "big deal" with keeping them RFing. I just did what everyone else around me did, which was an awful idea. Because none of them understood (and still don't understand) the importance behind car seat safety. I had my first two FFing way too early and even in booster seats way before they should have. I was completely guilty of just being lazy and not doing research. Thank goodness we never got in anything more than a minor rear-end accident.
Now with my third, I was fortunate enough to be in a BMB that wasn't super quick to get sanctimommy. They explained things instead of being super judgey like my first board, which all the judgement totally turned me off and made me defensive of being naive. Stupid, I know. But once I really read into the safety aspect of RFing, I became very strict with it in our family. Luckily, our daughter is content with still RFing (she just turned 3 and we have no plans of switching her any time soon). BUT we did switch her around last summer during a 12hour road trip because she was a fit-throwing monster and did so much better FFing for that trip. We did switch her back when we got home and she's been fine since.
I feel like there are legit reasons to switch before 2. Like, if your kid gets car sick or screams so bad they throw up or it makes your life and absolute stressful hell. It's the people that switch just because they think it's fine that I tend to side eye. I explained to one of my friends the safety benefits of waiting until 2 to switch and she agreed with me and said she's glad I gave her the info. Then a couple weeks after her daughters first birthday, she switched her. For no reason. She also had her in a puffy winter coat too, which is a whole other story
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So, I'm asking because I truly want to know and I DON'T want to come across sanctimommy... What did the first BMB and second BMB do so differently that caught your attention and made you close them out vs let the info in (if that makes sense)?
@dogperson11 honestly, I was just super young with my first and I was still in that stage of "I'm old enough to figure things out myself, I don't need your advice". It seriously embarrasses the hell out of me now. But I also felt like my first BMB was the type that was "if you don't do this, you're a terrible parent" and that didn't sit well with me, especially being 19.
My BMB with #3 (I ditched the board with #2 because it was too slow) was so much better about explaining vs. telling, if that makes sense? Plus I made a really close friend on that board, who I started looking to for advice on stuff because she spent a lot of time doing research on things and we would talk about them regularly.
Also on the note of sanctimommy, I'm totally not at all. I think I am a mediocre mom at best. And talking about car seat safety in a FFFC vs actually having a discussion or informing someone about IRL is totally different. It's a touchy subject for me because of a personal car accident, but I usually say something in a very nice way or just don't say anything at all if I'm not actual friends/family with them.
Also on the note of sanctimommy, I'm totally not at all. I think I am a mediocre mom at best. And talking about car seat safety in a FFFC vs actually having a discussion or informing someone about IRL is totally different. It's a touchy subject for me because of a personal car accident, but I usually say something in a very nice way or just don't say anything at all if I'm not actual friends/family with them.
This exactly. My original FFFC post was not trying to be sanctimommy-ish. Our Odyssey was just totaled last week (I was T-boned by a freaking cement truck) so I'm hyper sensitive to all things vehicle safety related right now (although I am a huge car seat safety advocate normally).
@natleilynn what's the issue with pad thai? I've been eating it so much!
@OliveOyl2014 me too! Which is why I strategically hid my clothes pile behind my bed and just out of frame and partially made my bed solely to take my HDBD photo this week
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@beezeemarie the sprouts? I googled it and it said to ask for it without the sprouts. But then everything I was reading said it was RAW sprouts...and I've never had pad thai with raw sprouts. So again, I have no idea, I'm just going to continue my mantra of "everything in moderation!"
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@natleilynn oh duh! Now that you mention it, I knew sprouts were supposed to be off limits. I'm thinking they're ok on pad thai if cooked/heated. Or at least that's what I'm going to tell myself.
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I side eye people's HDBD pictures when the background looks like a disaster. I would never take a picture of myself with a pile of clothes laying on the floor and just a mess in general behind me. I know I'm probably just being picky but I cringe when I see it.
FFFC: With my kids + the kids I babysit, my house is never clean enough for there to not be a pile of SOMETHING somewhere or at the very least toys strewn all over the floor but I try to stand in front of it or sometimes throw a blanket over it because I know people are side eyeing my mess.
with the car seat debate, i think most of the problem is the information is so conflicting and hard to find. i mean science and research is consistent yadda yadda yadda. but most people just trust their pedi, friends, directions on the box, police, or family and are done with it. so i see why people get jumpy about spreading facts, but on the other hand it escalates to sanctimommy quick. you can pass on info on if you think someone just doesnt know, because there are a lot that don't. but after that, if it is legal...it really isnt up to you.
But that's the thing, science is science. New moms spend hours going through reviews to find the perfect crib, rocker, bouncer seat, high chair, but can't be bothered to check into their children's most used SAFETY device? That's what irks me the most.
Just to offer another take on this. Especially for FTMS sometimes you HAVE to stop researching because all the research starts to drive you batty. I mean, it got to the point where I was bawling every day because I didn't know what was safe/unsafe/best regarding the car seat/sleep environment/bouncer/bumbo/high chair/epidural/natural birth/induction/feeding method/sleep training method/what to eat/what not to eat and on and on and on. Some new moms just might not get that far before they're maxed out. Especially if they already have a history of anxiety. It is a LOT to take in and since turning them front facing happens down the line and isn't an imminent decision (as in: no one thinks their newborn should be front facing) it might get put off and then they just take the advice of others when they get there.
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I'll probably just wash them all tomorrow and try again.
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Basically, I care that they are being used safely and legally. If someone knows the facts about RF vs FF and chooses to FF anyway then that's fine. A lot of people just have no idea, though.
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I'm pretty sure we've got about 6 floating around in different rooms, waiting to be put away!
I'm lying on our made bed, cruising the Bump on my iPhone.
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Now with my third, I was fortunate enough to be in a BMB that wasn't super quick to get sanctimommy. They explained things instead of being super judgey like my first board, which all the judgement totally turned me off and made me defensive of being naive. Stupid, I know. But once I really read into the safety aspect of RFing, I became very strict with it in our family. Luckily, our daughter is content with still RFing (she just turned 3 and we have no plans of switching her any time soon). BUT we did switch her around last summer during a 12hour road trip because she was a fit-throwing monster and did so much better FFing for that trip. We did switch her back when we got home and she's been fine since.
I feel like there are legit reasons to switch before 2. Like, if your kid gets car sick or screams so bad they throw up or it makes your life and absolute stressful hell. It's the people that switch just because they think it's fine that I tend to side eye. I explained to one of my friends the safety benefits of waiting until 2 to switch and she agreed with me and said she's glad I gave her the info. Then a couple weeks after her daughters first birthday, she switched her. For no reason. She also had her in a puffy winter coat too, which is a whole other story
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My BMB with #3 (I ditched the board with #2 because it was too slow) was so much better about explaining vs. telling, if that makes sense? Plus I made a really close friend on that board, who I started looking to for advice on stuff because she spent a lot of time doing research on things and we would talk about them regularly.
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@natleilynn what's the issue with pad thai? I've been eating it so much!
@OliveOyl2014 me too! Which is why I strategically hid my clothes pile behind my bed and just out of frame and partially made my bed solely to take my HDBD photo this week
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Oh also, I just ate a Preggo pop and I wasn't even nauseous.
eta: green apple flavor, because yummm