After months of feeling pushed around and screwed over at work DH quit his job on the spot today and walked off the job site. I support him in this but the timing is really bad with only 4 weeks to my due date. Money will be very tight for a while now until he finds work not to mention if he finds something shortly before baby is born there's probably a good chance he won't be able to take the week off we were planning for him to since he would be so new
@Ekzerr wow! I admire anyone who can leave a crappy and unhealthy situation but yikes on the timing. Especially because of the leave he won't get to have. But hoping he can find something quickly so you all won't have to stress too much about money.
Mine is stupid: I got in the final pieces of decoration for the nursery yesterday--three beautiful gold frames. And two of them were broken. I got all hormonal and cried about having to repackage and return them and take them by the ups store just because I didn't feel like it. And of course not getting to see the finished nursery this weekend. I was a mess. Lol. But on the plus side, they were actually perfect otherwise--style, color, etc. Jusf need to get a replacement.
Full blown sob fest over here last night. It had been building all afternoon/evening but finally let loose. Sorry it's long
DH is off on Wednesdays so he has DS at home with him. I was texting him asking him about getting the car seat installed once DS was down for a nap. His response "I'm trying to take a nap." That irritated me as I was up at 6 am getting ready for a Dr appointment and he and DS slept in til almost 8:30 (which is rare for DS these days!). Ok whatever. I texted him when I knew DS would be up and said hey I need you to do me a favor with starting supper, call when you get a chance. He responds like 30 minutes later that they are at a friend's house letting DS and his friend play not even asking what I needed. Ok whatever, i'll just deal with it at home, it won't really put supper too far behind. I get home and they aren't home yet and I walk into the kitchen - ALL the dirty dishes and mess are laying out from lunch. Nothing was cleaned up other than the actual food being put away thankfully. I was fuming. DH texts me "you alive?" cause I hadn't responded after I was irritated before and I just said "yes." He's like "are you ok?" I respond "fine, let the boys play and i'll have dinner ready by 6." He shows up at 6, I had calmed down, we go on with our evening. I chalk it up to hormones and try to be over it. We eat supper, I go work on dishes and he just goes and lays on the couch messing on his phone. I was like "huh, this is a wrong situation, your 39 weeks pregnant, just worked all day, cleaned up your mess from lunch, cooked you dinner wife is in here doing the dishes too while you relax." He's like i'll do them, I just don't like to right away after dinner, i'll get to them by the end of the night! I was like um I'm almost done for one and for two, why not just get it over with instead of putting it off til later? Any way, I finish and I go in there to ask him about today's plans as he was taking the day off to go to a funeral in the morning. I asked so, since you will have the afternoon free tomorrow, can I have you get a couple things done for me? He goes, "um yeah, about that...I told (friend) I'd help him out with some plumbing stuff tomorrow when I got home." I was like " oh. ok, fine." and just walked away and went upstairs to our room and cried my eyes out. He came up in a minute and was like "what's wrong?? honey are you ok?" I just told him I was so tired of doing everything, tired in general and irritated that he was willing to help everyone else but his pregnant wife accomplish the few things she needed done and couldn't do herself! ALL the snot and tears. He apologized and said he would make sure he got both done today and not to worry.
WEllll...today: I was up from 2-6 with contractions off and on. They were pretty regularly 10 minutes apart for the majority of the time but when I got up and got ready for the day they have tapered off to maybe every 20-30 min. So I told him this when he got up this morning and we decided I'd attempt to go to work and he'd go ahead and go to the funeral (a hour and a half away) and if i had any changes he'd high tail it back. Nothing has really changed as the day has gone on (still having them off and on) but he hasn't called or texted to check in ONCE. I get that i am an exhausted, hormonal pregnant woman but it seriously hurts my feelings.
Ok, i'll stop. Sorry to put you through all that if you read the whole thing!!
I had a nice little pity cry this morning because my contractions that I've been having sporadically for the last few days have totally tapered off this morning and this afternoon. I hate stressing so much about this and feeling like I'm on a countdown clock. Realistically I know that I will be fine whether I have the RCS or I get my VBAC, but things are already progressing more than they did with DS so I can't help but get my hopes up (DS was transverse and never properly descended after he turned, so I had no dilation or effacement on my own). Ugh. And if I get my hopes up too high then having the RCS is going to bother me, even though it really shouldn't. Her getting her safely (and without my uterus rupturing) is really all that matters. Baaahhhhhh.
@mylittleirvz oh my word your H sounds like mine. Why don't they get that while the things they want to do are fine, normally, things have to change right now this late in pregnancy. Like it's so frustrating to be unable to convey just how much help we need and why can't they figure it out anyway? My H keeps complaining about wiping the mud off the dog's feet when she comes in from outside, even though he's seen me squatting down, grunting, unable to reach her back paws and taking a few seconds to stand up again. I don't look forward to the second pregnancy when he's complaining about having to help take care of this one!
Anyway, I'm sorry. That totally sucks and I absolutely think you're justified in being upset. Glad your contractions aren't getting worse while he's gone.
@mylittleirvz I started my maternity leave yesterday, and my nesting urge kicked it into high gear, so I was cleaning EVERYTHING. Finished the nursery, cleaned our bathroom and DS's bathroom, cleaned DS's room, did the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, cooked dinner...I was a MACHINE. DH's response? "Oh, I love when you're not at work because everything gets clean!" and went back to lounging on the couch. No "Thanks for cleaning everything!". No "I'll do the dishes after dinner!". No nothing. He didn't even give DS his bath last night. I gave him the stink eye for the remainder of the evening and he finally figured out why I was so pissed, then promised to take care of some stuff today/this evening to help out. Men sometimes. Completely clueless.
I'm crying because I just scheduled an induction for Tuesday 4/4. I posted about having mixed emotions about considering it because DH will be starting a new job in April, and he may not have a lot of time off with us before he begins. I was and still am hoping my body goes into labor on its own, but actually setting the appointment has made me really sad for some reason. I wasn't a fan of the induction process last time, and now that I know what to expect, I'm just disappointed I may have to go through that again.
@HGRich and @mylittleirvz you can put my DH a in the same camp. I actually cried about this EXACT thing tonight... my husband and I got home within 1 minute of each other tonight and he was still in the driveway when I pulled in with the groceries. He grabbed my house keys and unlocked the door, but didn't offer to help me carry any inside... it was just two bags, but still would have been nice. So I unload the groceries, start cooking dinner, move the loads of laundry, carry a load up the stairs by myself.. all while he sits on the couch watching stand up comedy on Netflix. I got back to cooking dinner and at this point I was starting to get angry inside, but he was on the couch and couldn't see me. I handed him his plate (didn't make one for myself) and said I was going to go lay down for a bit which would have been highly unusual for me so he finally clued in and asked what was up and I started crying and said I'm tired and tired of doing EVERYTHING around the house at 39 weeks he didn't even ask me if I wanted help with anything I was doing, and he responded "you should have just asked me to help you, and I would have!" Which is when I gave the classic women response of "I don't want to have to ask you... I want you to offer on your own"... we'll see how it goes from here. He helped me clear the dinner dishes, but I still ended up washing them (and we don't have a dish washer). I know he works hard and has a stressful job and isn't intentionally not helping, but I'm SUPER pregnant and need a break! I can't help but think I've spoiled him too much and now I'm paying the price haha
I second what @KirstinH88 said about the love tits
Also....my cry sesh is because I'm done. My feet hurt. My legs hurt. I hate trying to get out of bed. I don't want to go to work and have everyone say "ohh so when are u gonna take off" I'm done with my mother and my MIL being annoying. So yah, basically...I want to be done now.
I've been crying off and on all day. On top of being tired of being pregnant, my mom calls yesterday and tells me "It would be great if you waited to have the baby this weekend because we have gardening to do!" You know...because my uterus should adhere to your gardening schedule. I'd really like to have the baby tonight just to spite her but let's be real--he's in there for the long haul.
Then I suggest to my husband that we should try sex if we get to my due date. His response? He laughs. Talk about a huge blow and hurt feelings. Is it really laughable? Then add on two kids who have been fighting all day, rough sleep, a messy house, handling errands and appointments all on my own, doing most of the chores on my own...
I think I'm just hitting my limit. Pregnancy sucks as it is but having the people around you be so unsupportive makes me want to ditch everyone when I have this baby and go it alone. It'd be so much more peaceful.
I cried this evening because I looked at DSS#2's report card. He's doing so well. At or above the "goal" for each category. He apparently just needs to work on organization and staying focused because when they have work time he always gets up to blow his nose! But overall, it was a good report card and I am sooo proud of him!
@mylittleirvz I can completely relate to your entire story. I cried on yesterday, because I feel like all of a sudden DH is all of a sudden spending a lot more time at work, when I really need him home to help me this last month of pregnancy. I know it's the beginning of their busy season, but I am not physically capable of doing as much as I am used to. It was like, 2 weeks ago he all of a sudden feels like he now has to prove himself at his job. He came home to me on my hands and knees cleaning some gross shelves in our kitchen while DS was eating dinner. I am so overworked at work right now, trying to get all my workload done, and creating a training manual before I am leaving for good when LO arrives. I work all day, come home to my house that is gross. DH asks why I am doing things like that, that a task like cleaning the shelves isn't priority. However, it is the kind of thing that is keeping me up at night. He just doesn't understand why I feel stressed about getting our house in order before LO. So, after dinner, I give DS a bath, get him ready for bed, and put him to bed. The entire process takes about 1 hour. DH is downstairs watching TV the whole time. Now, I have to clean up the kitchen, do a Hypnobabies home study session (which I am way behind on), then start on some work for work, all the while you are just watching TV. I feel like the process just repeats itself day after day.I get up for work at 5am, get home at 4:30pm, and do housework/dinner/clean up/work catch-up until I go to bed only to lay there thinking about everything I couldn't get done that day. Meanwhile, I am the "nagging wife" for asking him to put up the crib when he gets home from work. He told me that he is just so tired, and I dont understand everything he has to do all day. Um, this was the same guy who told me his job was getting really boring 2 months ago! I just hope my hormones calm the f down after LO arrives.
Following up on my post from yesterday... my DH is definitely coming through now that he understands how I was feeling! He did three loads of laundry, packed his part of he hospital bag, mowed the lawn, and has brought me water twice without being asked today. He even took me out to lunch since he has a family day from work today. Much better
Driving to a doctor's appointment I heard a piece on the radio about a Syrian refugee and how the boat she was on capsized, her fiancé died, and people gradually started handing her their babies in the water as they died. I would have cried anyway, but driving while bawling was probably not safe.
Then back at home I saw a video about extraordinary acts of sportsmanship. Again, ugly tears. I normally wear my heart on my sleeve, but this is excessive and I'm glad I didn't put any makeup on today I guess!
Oh, I also have to hold back tears listening to my kids' music in the car with them. Because they'll only be little so much longer, and it won't be the four of us anymore soon, our whole family dynamic will change. And it's not anything negative about the baby, it's just the idea of change in our little world and kids growing up and everything that makes me emotional all at once.
Friday was my last day of work before officially going on maternity leave. My boss came down to my desk and escorted me to the conference room to discuss a file. When we got in there, it turned out to be a surprise going away party! I was completely caught off guard and it was so sweet!
Yesterday I watched Up for the first time. I completely ugly cried during the opening montage of Carl & Ellie's marriage.
@Lovable Bump that's so sweet of your work. And I definitely can't watch Up without crying through the opening scenes. Sometimes I skip over that part.
I drove DH and 3 other drunk guys home last night to our house. NBD. Better that I got to be in my bed and comfy. But on the way home, I hit a possum. All the guys were going on and on about how I was a "killer" and a "savage." But all I could think about was that this possums family would miss it. And what if it was a mama possum that had babies.
Thanks for all the support ladies and sorry that so many could relate to my meltdowns!! Looking back at it I was like holy moly, I was hours away from giving birth when I posted that!! How things change quickly!
Apparently all of the reasons my pregnant self was crying wound up with me receiving a prescription for Zoloft before being discharged. I'm a little puzzled, but going to trust that my doctor knows what she is doing ?
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying 3/30
Mine is stupid: I got in the final pieces of decoration for the nursery yesterday--three beautiful gold frames. And two of them were broken. I got all hormonal and cried about having to repackage and return them and take them by the ups store just because I didn't feel like it. And of course not getting to see the finished nursery this weekend. I was a mess. Lol. But on the plus side, they were actually perfect otherwise--style, color, etc. Jusf need to get a replacement.
Full blown sob fest over here last night. It had been building all afternoon/evening but finally let loose. Sorry it's long
DH is off on Wednesdays so he has DS at home with him. I was texting him asking him about getting the car seat installed once DS was down for a nap. His response "I'm trying to take a nap." That irritated me as I was up at 6 am getting ready for a Dr appointment and he and DS slept in til almost 8:30 (which is rare for DS these days!). Ok whatever. I texted him when I knew DS would be up and said hey I need you to do me a favor with starting supper, call when you get a chance. He responds like 30 minutes later that they are at a friend's house letting DS and his friend play not even asking what I needed. Ok whatever, i'll just deal with it at home, it won't really put supper too far behind. I get home and they aren't home yet and I walk into the kitchen - ALL the dirty dishes and mess are laying out from lunch. Nothing was cleaned up other than the actual food being put away thankfully. I was fuming. DH texts me "you alive?" cause I hadn't responded after I was irritated before and I just said "yes." He's like "are you ok?" I respond "fine, let the boys play and i'll have dinner ready by 6." He shows up at 6, I had calmed down, we go on with our evening. I chalk it up to hormones and try to be over it. We eat supper, I go work on dishes and he just goes and lays on the couch messing on his phone. I was like "huh, this is a wrong situation, your 39 weeks pregnant, just worked all day, cleaned up your mess from lunch, cooked you dinner wife is in here doing the dishes too while you relax." He's like i'll do them, I just don't like to right away after dinner, i'll get to them by the end of the night! I was like um I'm almost done for one and for two, why not just get it over with instead of putting it off til later? Any way, I finish and I go in there to ask him about today's plans as he was taking the day off to go to a funeral in the morning. I asked so, since you will have the afternoon free tomorrow, can I have you get a couple things done for me? He goes, "um yeah, about that...I told (friend) I'd help him out with some plumbing stuff tomorrow when I got home." I was like " oh. ok, fine." and just walked away and went upstairs to our room and cried my eyes out. He came up in a minute and was like "what's wrong?? honey are you ok?" I just told him I was so tired of doing everything, tired in general and irritated that he was willing to help everyone else but his pregnant wife accomplish the few things she needed done and couldn't do herself! ALL the snot and tears. He apologized and said he would make sure he got both done today and not to worry.
WEllll...today: I was up from 2-6 with contractions off and on. They were pretty regularly 10 minutes apart for the majority of the time but when I got up and got ready for the day they have tapered off to maybe every 20-30 min. So I told him this when he got up this morning and we decided I'd attempt to go to work and he'd go ahead and go to the funeral (a hour and a half away) and if i had any changes he'd high tail it back. Nothing has really changed as the day has gone on (still having them off and on) but he hasn't called or texted to check in ONCE. I get that i am an exhausted, hormonal pregnant woman but it seriously hurts my feelings.
Ok, i'll stop. Sorry to put you through all that if you read the whole thing!!
Anyway, I'm sorry. That totally sucks and I absolutely think you're justified in being upset. Glad your contractions aren't getting worse while he's gone.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Also....my cry sesh is because I'm done. My feet hurt. My legs hurt. I hate trying to get out of bed. I don't want to go to work and have everyone say "ohh so when are u gonna take off" I'm done with my mother and my MIL being annoying. So yah, basically...I want to be done now.
Then I suggest to my husband that we should try sex if we get to my due date. His response? He laughs. Talk about a huge blow and hurt feelings. Is it really laughable? Then add on two kids who have been fighting all day, rough sleep, a messy house, handling errands and appointments all on my own, doing most of the chores on my own...
I think I'm just hitting my limit. Pregnancy sucks as it is but having the people around you be so unsupportive makes me want to ditch everyone when I have this baby and go it alone. It'd be so much more peaceful.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
So, after dinner, I give DS a bath, get him ready for bed, and put him to bed. The entire process takes about 1 hour. DH is downstairs watching TV the whole time. Now, I have to clean up the kitchen, do a Hypnobabies home study session (which I am way behind on), then start on some work for work, all the while you are just watching TV. I feel like the process just repeats itself day after day.I get up for work at 5am, get home at 4:30pm, and do housework/dinner/clean up/work catch-up until I go to bed only to lay there thinking about everything I couldn't get done that day. Meanwhile, I am the "nagging wife" for asking him to put up the crib when he gets home from work. He told me that he is just so tired, and I dont understand everything he has to do all day. Um, this was the same guy who told me his job was getting really boring 2 months ago! I just hope my hormones calm the f down after LO arrives.
Then back at home I saw a video about extraordinary acts of sportsmanship. Again, ugly tears. I normally wear my heart on my sleeve, but this is excessive and I'm glad I didn't put any makeup on today I guess!
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
Yesterday I watched Up for the first time. I completely ugly cried during the opening montage of Carl & Ellie's marriage.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17