Full blown sob fest over here last night. It had been building all afternoon/evening but finally let loose. Sorry it's long
DH is off on Wednesdays so he has DS at home with him. I was texting him asking him about getting the car seat installed once DS was down for a nap. His response "I'm trying to take a nap." That irritated me as I was up at 6 am getting ready for a Dr appointment and he and DS slept in til almost 8:30 (which is rare for DS these days!). Ok whatever. I texted him when I knew DS would be up and said hey I need you to do me a favor with starting supper, call when you get a chance. He responds like 30 minutes later that they are at a friend's house letting DS and his friend play not even asking what I needed. Ok whatever, i'll just deal with it at home, it won't really put supper too far behind. I get home and they aren't home yet and I walk into the kitchen - ALL the dirty dishes and mess are laying out from lunch. Nothing was cleaned up other than the actual food being put away thankfully. I was fuming. DH texts me "you alive?" cause I hadn't responded after I was irritated before and I just said "yes." He's like "are you ok?" I respond "fine, let the boys play and i'll have dinner ready by 6." He shows up at 6, I had calmed down, we go on with our evening. I chalk it up to hormones and try to be over it. We eat supper, I go work on dishes and he just goes and lays on the couch messing on his phone. I was like "huh, this is a wrong situation, your 39 weeks pregnant, just worked all day, cleaned up your mess from lunch, cooked you dinner wife is in here doing the dishes too while you relax." He's like i'll do them, I just don't like to right away after dinner, i'll get to them by the end of the night! I was like um I'm almost done for one and for two, why not just get it over with instead of putting it off til later? Any way, I finish and I go in there to ask him about today's plans as he was taking the day off to go to a funeral in the morning. I asked so, since you will have the afternoon free tomorrow, can I have you get a couple things done for me? He goes, "um yeah, about that...I told (friend) I'd help him out with some plumbing stuff tomorrow when I got home." I was like " oh. ok, fine." and just walked away and went upstairs to our room and cried my eyes out. He came up in a minute and was like "what's wrong?? honey are you ok?" I just told him I was so tired of doing everything, tired in general and irritated that he was willing to help everyone else but his pregnant wife accomplish the few things she needed done and couldn't do herself! ALL the snot and tears. He apologized and said he would make sure he got both done today and not to worry.
WEllll...today: I was up from 2-6 with contractions off and on. They were pretty regularly 10 minutes apart for the majority of the time but when I got up and got ready for the day they have tapered off to maybe every 20-30 min. So I told him this when he got up this morning and we decided I'd attempt to go to work and he'd go ahead and go to the funeral (a hour and a half away) and if i had any changes he'd high tail it back. Nothing has really changed as the day has gone on (still having them off and on) but he hasn't called or texted to check in ONCE. I get that i am an exhausted, hormonal pregnant woman but it seriously hurts my feelings.
Ok, i'll stop. Sorry to put you through all that if you read the whole thing!!