Lol yeah after you are squirting water over your lady bits because you can't wipe because it might infect or tear the stitches and spraying anesthetic spray down there, as well as wearing a pad that has actual ice in it, the second he even looks like he might be thinking about possibly touching the vajayjay you will nut punch him right then and there.
ETA: then there's the whole baby takes every ounce of time and energy you can expend thing too
girl, u killed me !!!!! i cant wait to show him that post oh hes aware, even though he thinks we'll rapidly get back to our once every two weeks hotel sessions ( we like to change scenery to make movies and take pics lol ) ...ive been insisting on the fact that he ll most likely be masturbating to those videos for a while cause i wont be an option lmao (again, sorry if tmi lol)
Lol to hotel sessions.. sure you can get back to them quickly, just need a baby sitter "hey mom could you watch baby while hubs and I go make a sex tape?" Mmmmmkaaayyy....
I am waiting and waiting for the 2nd tri drive to kick in. I don't remember the last time we did anything because I am exhausted all the time and also self conscious about my body. We also just moved out of my MILs house so that should help!
Well, I LOVE BJs even more now, like I wake him up with them even after a night of sex. We have been going at it like 2-3 times a day. 99% of the time we have had 4 kids in the house (thank you ipads and movies) ... our excuse was Mama and Daddy needed time to plan out our day during Spring Break. This was us before pregnancy as well. I'm enjoying the preg boobs a bit too much. FI is obsessed with this little bump and hasn't slowed us down. I was the exact opposite with my EX and my first pregnancy though.
@lap018 omg haha you kill me. But for real the sex tapes and pictures and masturbating to the sex tapes... that's way kinkier than DH and I will ever be. Like ever. Back when we were dating I sent him a few boob pics here and there because they were perky and firm but now they look like tube socks full of sand and nobody wants to see that.
I really want my sex drive to come back. I just have no interest most of the time. DH is great about it, but I feel so bad. I keep hoping that will kick in whenever I get my energy back. Pre-pregnancy, I was usually the one to initiate. I thought it was pretty frequent, but it was definitely not as much as some of you. Good for you ladies.
Yall...i thought i had a very healthy sex life with every other day or so unless DH was out of town...apparently we are slacking.
Same. I thought 3 times a week for people who had been together for over a decade was pretty good. I think the national average for married couples is once or twice a week though, so we're still ok!
When DH and I first started dating we had one session that lasted six hours on and off (for water and misc breaks.. lol) but that's about as horny as I ever got. We used to do it a lot more but after a few years things slowed down. Then they REALLY slowed down when I got pregnant with DS. We are just starting to get back to a good place. Although when we were TTC this baby, we did it every day for like five days and then every other day for a while. I didn't know when I was ovulating so we just kinda went at it as much as we could
We were once a day for about the first year of marriage, but then I got more confident with what I liked and didn't like, so I found I liked it better every other day. That's still what we do most of the time unless I'm not feeling well or it got too late or something like that. I can only remember once or twice that we actually did it more than once in a day.
We were at least twice a day couple until we had our second baby. Sneaking in time for each other during naps, in the morning, and after baby was in bed was the way I survived SAHM. I never waited the full 6 weeks to hop on it. It's every other day (or every third day, sometimes) now that we have two, and I'm a bit terrified for when the third baby comes along. We can make it happen as long as all the stars align (babies in bed, babysitter, etc.)
I don't know if it really is work that drains me so much but I honestly do not see/understand how you have time to have sex twice a day with a child at home?Every single day? Like DH is at work all day (there goes naptime opportunity) and I'm working all day and watching DS, I just don't get it? I'm certainly not missing sleep to wake up at the ass crack of dawn to have sex. Then when night time rolls around I'm too mentally and physically exhausted to even think about doing it. I mean I'm not saying I don't believe you but I just cannot physically comprehend sex twice per day every day with a child at home when at least of you has to be at work all day? I definitely can't book a babysitter every single day twice a day.
DH worked from home. It was simple enough on his lunch break for him to sneak away. It wasn't every day -- he did have to go out of state, but on average, twice a day. Having kids has screwed my inner clock over, so even though I could sleep in, I really can't (unless I'm sick). And then waiting until after bby goes to bed is easy enough.
@lap018 THANK YOU. I'm like DH works stupid hours (see WTF Wednesday post) and so do I sometimes. A lot of the time we are just effing tired, and yeah that's not happening even once a day. I don't see how multiple times a day is feasible for "normal" people
And yeah, I worked hard all day. Taking care of a kiddo isn''t easy for everyone. I still made time for what was important to me, and it was important to me. It's great that everyone is built with different needs and levels of desire isn't it?
I guess I am the odd man out. I have always had a high sex drive. Back in our college days, DH and I were going through a 36 pack of condoms every 2-3 days. I feel like we have slowed way down with our norm of 6x a week.
We cosleep with DS and I was "breastsleeping" so I was going to bed with him every night and since he nursed all night I couldn't sneak away. Now that he's weaned we still cosleep but I can put him down and stay up. DH works a rotating schedule and when he's on nights sometimes I wake him up early while DS is napping. Sometimes I put on superwhy so I can have a free fifteen minutes but I usually shower with those few minutes. I can't imagine how much sex I'm not going to have with two babies around lol
I didn't realize that this made me "abnormal." We also coslept, so we would go to the guest room, living room, bathroom, elsewhere. I'm probably going to peace out of the convo tho and catch y'all on a different thread lol.
@BookitBoo we aren't trying to shame you. i think we are all just mind blown and trying to fathom that much sex. I am sorry if you feel like we are shaming you.
And yeah, I worked hard all day. Taking care of a kiddo isn''t easy for everyone. I still made time for what was important to me, and it was important to me. It's great that everyone is built with different needs and levels of desire isn't it?
That really is great that we are built with different levels of desire and needs. *she says after vaguely implying that sex isn't important to me because I don't have sex with DH twice per day* I'm just trying to wrap my brain around the timing and physics of it but saying things like "easy enough to sneak away on lunch" or "easy enough to do it after baby went to bed" and "make time for what's important" makes me a little irritated. Of course it's important to me as well but it most certainly is not "easy enough" to just get in some sexy time, I'm glad it is for you though.
@lap018 that pony made me really happy. Like I am sitting at my desk crying wishing I was hanging out with that pony.
I just feel bad that I was lurking, I am so jealous of all you ladies whether its 1 time a week or all the time. SO won't have sex with me right now, well because Jesus (dont need to get into the details)....and I am going crazy wanting it. All day every day.
@towntowns The whole sex for procreation only, and your delicate state in pregnancy. I'm Catholic, so I know the "rules". That sucks. And yes, I too love the pony.
It definitely feels like shaming, and I wasn't at all comparing myself to anyone. I explained what was "easy enough" in my life (with only one child) and expressed concern about how different it will be with three, since it has already changed with 2. Your incredulity that another mom with a single child could make time for sex multiple times a day is why I responded. It was your "I don't get it" and talking about how tired -you- are at the end of a day, or how -you- don't want to wake up early was exactly why I said it's great that we all have different sex drives and needs. I'm not assuming anything about what you consider important in your life.
I guess I am the odd man out. I have always had a high sex drive. Back in our college days, DH and I were going through a 36 pack of condoms every 2-3 days. I feel like we have slowed way down with our norm of 6x a week.
Lord have mercy! Lol more power to you girl. I did it two days in a row one time and my whooha was sore lol
I guess I am the odd man out. I have always had a high sex drive. Back in our college days, DH and I were going through a 36 pack of condoms every 2-3 days. I feel like we have slowed way down with our norm of 6x a week.
*stuck in the box*
Good for you though! In theory I wanted to be that girl, but had to come to terms with the fact that my vag gets better in-town gas mileage than highway mileage. We had a lot more sex- frequently every day- in college, but never a 36 pack of condoms in a week. (That could have to do with the fact that we weren't really supposed to be having sex, as we went to a conservative christian college, so all our sex had to happen off campus. Car sex is good sex, y'all, and also we are dirty rule breakers.)
It definitely feels like shaming, and I wasn't at all comparing myself to anyone. I explained what was "easy enough" in my life (with only one child) and expressed concern about how different it will be with three, since it has already changed with 2. Your incredulity that another mom with a single child could make time for sex multiple times a day is why I responded. It was your "I don't get it" and talking about how tired -you- are at the end of a day, or how -you- don't want to wake up early was exactly why I said it's great that we all have different sex drives and needs. I'm not assuming anything about what you consider important in your life.
First of all saying I don't get it ? Because as a full time working from home mother of one, the timing just did not make sense to me. As far as needs go when I have accounts to code and a child to look after, sleep is non negotiable. I don't understand how you are feeling shamed when we are just legit trying to understand the timing aspect.
I clearly said I was a SAHM. The timing issue is personal to everyones life (I currently work, and yes there is a big difference in what we're able to do, and what we can't). I don't understand how it was something you thought was even comparable? Obviously nobodies life is exactly a mirror of yours? If you had said " I don't understand the timing" versus "I'm so tired when --" and " I have this to do --." that would have been more understandable -- you were trying to understand something else, rather than compare it to your own experience. Which is why I brought up how has everyone has different needs.
I don't know if it really is work that drains me so much but I honestly do not see/understand how you have time to have sex twice a day with a child at home?Every single day? Like DH is at work all day (there goes naptime opportunity) and I'm working all day and watching DS, I just don't get it? I'm certainly not missing sleep to wake up at the ass crack of dawn to have sex. Then when night time rolls around I'm too mentally and physically exhausted to even think about doing it. I mean I'm not saying I don't believe you but I just cannot physically comprehend sex twice per day every day with a child at home when at least of you has to be at work all day? I definitely can't book a babysitter every single day twice a day.
you mean like right there where I straight up said exactly that?? @BookitBoo
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WHEW. We've been together for 8 years, okay I was like dang I don't think I was ever that horny.
THANK YOU. I'm like DH works stupid hours (see WTF Wednesday post) and so do I sometimes. A lot of the time we are just effing tired, and yeah that's not happening even once a day. I don't see how multiple times a day is feasible for "normal" people
holy shit. my vagina hurts thinking about all that sex. good for you tho girl. GET IT. lol.
at that rate i think i'd have to be a nudist
we aren't trying to shame you. i think we are all just mind blown and trying to fathom that much sex. I am sorry if you feel like we are shaming you.
I just feel bad that I was lurking, I am so jealous of all you ladies whether its 1 time a week or all the time. SO won't have sex with me right now, well because Jesus (dont need to get into the details)....and I am going crazy wanting it. All day every day.
The whole sex for procreation only, and your delicate state in pregnancy. I'm Catholic, so I know the "rules". That sucks. And yes, I too love the pony.