Feeling fat not pregnant

Vickers224 · March 2017

I'm a small to begin with pre pregnancy. I weighed 100 lbs. now at 17 weeks I already gained 9.5 lbs and feel fat. Like all my insides got pushed up and out. My "bump" feels higher in my abdomen than lower in my pelvis. It looks round but feels soft and flabby. Anyone else have a bump that's soft not hard?

Lauradi1010 · March 2017

This has definitely been discussed on the "Weekly Symptoms" thread. You should join us over there.

littlebug2010 · March 2017

Nxy · March 2017

It really doesn't matter what side of this you come out on; gained 20 pounds or lost it, weight during pregnancy is a touchy subject. We get it. But you're pregnant you're supposed to gain weight. You're only 17 weeks and I'm assuming a first time mom your bump will become more firm as time goes on. Chill.

britvahok · March 2017

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@Vickers224 This post seems a little AWish! 109 lbs isn't fat whether you're pregnant or not. We have weekly threads to avoid these randoms one offs. It seems you only post AW thread. Maybe try posting in the weekly symptoms or randoms thread; you'll get more positive responses.

Vickers224 · March 2017

Thanks @Lauradi1010

and @littlebug2010 if you really have nothing nice to say then just don't post on my threads. I don't get how people can be so rude when we all are here for one common goal, healthy and happy baby I'm really thinking of delating this app. People have been down right mean

PinkPrincessPiper · March 2017

Vickers224 said:

I'm a small to begin with pre pregnancy. I weighed 100 lbs. now at 17 weeks I already gained 9.5 lbs and feel fat. Like all my insides got pushed up and out. My "bump" feels higher in my abdomen than lower in my pelvis. It looks round but feels soft and flabby. Anyone else have a bump that's soft not hard?

britvahok · March 2017

Vickers224 · March 2017

**Removed for TOU violation**

PinkPrincessPiper · March 2017

**Removed for TOU violation**

QFP. You're welcome!

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · March 2017

@Vickers224 - @littlebug2010 really wasn't being mean at all... she's expressing frustrating at your random post. This is a community of women that have been supporting each other since November. So when someone comes in and starts a random thread without offering any support to others, it's really not well-received. Especially when you call 109 lbs. "fat". That may be fat in your eyes, but it likely makes others feel bad about their pregnancy weight gain (at least it did for me, personally).

Lefin · March 2017

I'm sorry you are feeling this way @Vickers224, I have been feeling like this, too. Mostly, because of my nutritionist. She told me my weight was "a little on the high side." I did the math, and my weight is totally fine, if I continue on my current trajectory, I will be right in the recommended weight gain category for my BMI. Gaining this weight is way harder than I thought it would be, but we need to gain this weight for our babies. And we all need to gain a different amount. Ooh, and do some googling, too. I found a lot of articles that gave some really great advice about maintaining a positive body image. Also, I bought some super cute maternity clothes (which highlight the bump), and that makes me feel so much better. In my regular clothes, the bump just looks like fat. I hope you feel better, soon.

Lefin · March 2017

https://alphamom.com/pregnancy/when-you-hate-your-pregnant-body/
I really liked this article.

littlebug2010 · March 2017

@Vickers224 As I said in your other random thread. I wasnt being rude, you were. Please read, and lurk a lot more before you make a one off post like this. We have board organization for a reason, and you coming into a group of women who have been supporting themselves to AW yourself over how little weight you have gained, and how small you are, is obnoxious.

SouthernMama15 · March 2017

Well, if she's fat at 109, I guess I need to move to the aquarium cause I'm a freaking whale.

lwhrmomma · March 2017

I'm sorry if you feel that anyone was being mean, but I'm having trouble seeing any of that. The women who responded early on were very supportive in guiding you to a better place to post so that you would get more advice and feedback.

For what it's worth, I weigh a lot more than 100 pounds, and at 19 weeks my belly is just starting to firm up. Discussing weight on here has been, and will always be a sensitive topic. Instead of leaving the bump, perhaps lurk for a bit to get a feel for how it works, and I think you will really start to see how supportive everyone is.

and_peggy · March 2017

You wanna know what helps me feel better when i'm feeling fat?
Eating.

Lauradi1010 · March 2017

secicc12 said:

@Vickers224 - @littlebug2010 really wasn't being mean at all... she's expressing frustrating at your random post. This is a community of women that have been supporting each other since November. So when someone comes in and starts a random thread without offering any support to others, it's really not well-received. Especially when you call 109 lbs. "fat". That may be fat in your eyes, but it likely makes others feel bad about their pregnancy weight gain (at least it did for me, personally).

This! Sorry you feel burned @Vickers224, but you should really stick around, lurk some and try participating in the group. There is also a helpful search a function (magnifying glass icon) to search. Perusing the "Read this First" thread really helps. We really are supportive even those who you think are "ridiculous" or "rude".

FWIW, we are all women of different shapes/ sizes, but if I knew you IRL I would call you out for mentioning "feeling fat" at 109 lbs especially while pregnant. I do understand that any weight gain (pregnant or non) can be a bit of a shock, but remember healthy is the most important thing no matter your size/ shape.

bumpybump · March 2017

Oh geez...seriously, do you not think most of us have felt this way or will? Yet you just had to AW yourself. But guess what, you are PREGNANT! Get over feeling fat and be thankful for the life inside of you (not saying you aren't thankful, just saying focus on that baby instead of your outward appearance).

bumpybump · March 2017

In related news, anyone else not able to see @britvahok gifs on mobile (not sure if they can be seen on desktop).

Nxy · March 2017

@bumpybump I couldn't on mobile but they show up on my laptop.

LSP87 · March 2017

No one is being "downright mean." This is a board to support each other and you seem to post only about issues you're having to garner sympathy...while offering nothing to anyone else. We aren't here to be your cheerleader, therapist, or doctor. Please get over yourself or settle in and just have fun playing the victim. It looks like you're super used to it

lewliv · March 2017

You feel fat having a human and a placenta inside your middle section? Cool, bro. At least now I have an excuse better than overconsumption of alcohol and carbs.

NYTino24 · March 2017

Vickers224 said:

Thanks @Lauradi1010

and @littlebug2010 if you really have nothing nice to say then just don't post on my threads. I don't get how people can be so rude when we all are here for one common goal, healthy and happy baby I'm really thinking of delating this app. People have been down right mean

@Vickers224 It makes me SICK to hear you complain about weight gain and say these ladies aren't nice. I should be 17 weeks right now, but I lost my August baby and these ladies were here for me every step of the way. I would GLADLY gain 10 times that weight to get a take home baby. Hell, if you're that upset about it I'm sure there are thousands of women who would love to trade places with you. You need to apologize.... Not for being upset about weight gain, but for the name calling. And I strongly suggest seeing a nutritionist / therapist for body image issues.

SouthernMama15 · March 2017

@NYTino24 yes, yes, and more yes.

ImAMouseDuh · March 2017

Hey @Vickers224, I'm gonna give it you straight.

SHUT UPPPP. Just shh. Stop talking.

*TW*
I'm supposed to be due with MY baby this Tuesday. Guess what. My baby died inside me, and since it took three years to conceive, I may never be pregnant again. I also weigh about 50 pounds more than you do. Can you believe the nerve of me, walking around the world, disgusting, FAT, and infertile?! Ugh.

But you know what? I am beautiful, and I am STRONG, inside and out. I'm smart and curvy and a grade A badass. More importantly, I have common sense and empathy. Please look these terms up and try and apply them to your life. kthanxbye.

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