@tbm1124 what a horrible thing to do! You're the mom, you get to make the decisions, she sounds like an AWFUL nurse. Why would she think that you giving birth is the time to be rude to you? Why is she a L&D nurse if she's going to be like that?? Ugh, I would have lost it and yelled at her to get out with her attitude. So sorry you went through that.
Thanks @DuchessOfCambridge when she went on break I begged the nurse who filled in to stay. She was so positive and happy. I know now what to look out for. She's human and maybe she was tired (I had my daughter at 11p). Then again, I was pushing a human out of me so I was also tired. I can't help it if babygirl didn't want to come out quickly. I'm hopeful for a faster labor this time.
@Tbm1124 I totally get that nurses are overworked and stressed and tired but again, bedside manner is important and a big part of being a nurse is making sure your patient is comfortable. I know a lot of nurses and they live by that rule.
Thanks for the input ladies! you are right @kschref I need to wait to see how this baby is positioned before I make any decisions. It's easy to get ahead of myself. My daughter sat super low so she was out in 22 minutes (which I would def do again!) but if this baby isn't positioned as well that could definitely change things. Thanks for everyone's perspective. I'm going to try to get myself to not think about birth for the next 8 months!
@matika88 Yes! The basket on the Vista seriously makes all of my friends jealous. It's part of why we got it. Even though DS just turned 2 I usually use it while shopping at Target, since he can eat snacks and is more comfortable in the stroller seat than a cart! It's so handy.
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29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
@DuchessOfCambridge the rule of thumb on working out is don't try anything new but if you were a running before the pregnancy definitely keep doing it. I ran and biked until about 28 weeks last time and my goal is 30-32 weeks this time. Pregnancy will mess with your endurance but staying active will help your labor and delivery. You can also buy belly support belts to wear during working out that help a lot.
So going off of this, question from a FTM to STMs+: how does giving birth feel when you have an epidural? Does it feel like anything? Do you still feel pressure but not pain? What still hurts? Tell me everything.
While every birth, and every epidural is different, mine was at least what I believe to be just right, I was very numb for little while which allowed me to rest for an hour or so which was appreciated after a long day in labor, it wore off enough by the time to push that I was very nervous to begin pushing but I was pleasantly surprised with how much I could feel what was going on and knew when to push without the severe pain I was expecting.
So going off of this, question from a FTM to STMs+: how does giving birth feel when you have an epidural? Does it feel like anything? Do you still feel pressure but not pain? What still hurts? Tell me everything.
While every birth, and every epidural is different, mine was at least what I believe to be just right, I was very numb for little while which allowed me to rest for an hour or so which was appreciated after a long day in labor, it wore off enough by the time to push that I was very nervous to begin pushing but I was pleasantly surprised with how much I could feel what was going on and knew when to push without the severe pain I was expecting.
This was exactly it for me too - though it wore off a little too much by the time I was done pushing and I needed some anesthetic for my stitches.
I also have a weird weird way of not progressing once I get to the hospital. I think it's the stress. With both of my labors, once I got to the hospital, I stalled for hours. The epidural helped me both of those times and allowed me to progress to 10.
@DuchessOfCambridge my epidural only numbed my left side for some reason...so I still felt ALOT of pain and it was super weird to only feel pain on one side. I tore pretty bad on the side that wasn't numb. I will still def get one again bc I couldn't even imagine the pain without anything. You mommas that go all natural are amazing to me! Something I felt like I wasn't prepared for was the recovery after. Everyone always talks about labor pain but I thought the first 3 weeks after birth were worse than labor (not trying to scare you but I felt like I wasn't adequately warned). The burning to pee...oo man! But everyone's experience is different!!
YES I felt this way too! Giving birth was easy for me, I had humanity's greatest epidural, but the days afterward were AWFUL. I tore BADLY and didn't want to sit, stand, lie down, or exist for a while there.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
Oh my gosh @Hopeful87 I had the EXACT same thing happen when I went into labor with DS! I had low platelets that actually got diagnosed as ITP (an antibody destroys them always but is thrown into hyperdrive with an immuno-suppressing condition like pregnancy). My OB and hematologist had me on prednisone for the second half of my pregnancy and finally got my platelets within normal range and wanted to induce me while they were there. By the time I got to the hospital and OB broke my water, anesthesiologist said my blood work and just come back and my levels were too low for an epidural. I ended up doing the whole thing while on pitocin but with zero pain meds.
Was pretty rough. That said, now that I know what it takes, I'm all about planning for it this time around. I'd love to avoid prednisone during this pregnancy - nasty stuff to be on for long periods of time.
Anyone have any good prenatal recs? I bought the gummy vita fusion because I figured there would be less burping of fish oil, but I can barely get them down I'm so grossed out by everything about them.
@ugoglencoco FTM here as well, but I take the Natures Made +DHA and haven't had any issues. When I first started ttc I toom the Rainbow Light Petite which are good if you have trouble swallowing larger pills.
@ugoglencoco I personally have prescriptions. There was a long thread in TTGP I stalked once, where one of the women did lab tests on PNVs and found that they didn't contain as much or at all of what they said they did...which is upsetting since it's all stuff a developing baby needs. Someone else on that board got prescriptions and I ended up asking my Dr for those as well. I wouldn't say they are amazing to get down but: 1) They're free with insurance 2) I know they contain everything they're supposed to since they were filled by a pharmacist 3) They have never made me sick (you're actually supposed to take them without food) 4) They could taste a LOT worse. Mine aren't coated so they just kinda taste chalky until you swallow but it doesn't bother me too much. 5) They have zero fishy taste and you don't have to take additional fish oil with them (I cleared this up with my Dr yesterday)
Question for FTM or STM, we have two cats and since we found out about pregnancy DH has been good about scooping cat box or cleaning up accidents (another issue for another day we have to make some decisions about), but DH will have to travel for work at the beginning of my third trimester so is it okay for me to do cat duty IF i wear long cleaning gloves and of course be very careful and wash like crazy after or do I need to have a friend stop in and help?
Another question what did you all have your baby sleep in the first few months? Bassinet? Cradle? Etc. My sister in law used the bassinet part of her pack n play. I was thinking of doing the same thing. Is this safe? My other option is my grandpa made a cradle that has been ised for my cousins that I suspect will become mine. I thought about that too but wasn't sure of that was safe for more than naps or what kind kf mattress would be needed etc.
With our first we used the bassinet part of the pack and play, for our second we used an actual bassinet. I liked the actual bassinet better, I could have it closer to the bed because it was smaller and felt like the sides were more breathable than the pack not play bassinet was. But the pack and play one did its job just fine too, lol
Both of mine slept in a rock and play for the first few months. I nursed both and had a bit of an oversupply and fast let down, which made my kids a bit gassy. The incline of the RnP helped a lot.
@jess0211 - I kept a bassinet beside my bed - and then pack-n-play when I found the bassinet getting a bit small. With DS1 it worked like a dream - I would get him out of the bassinet when he woke up feed him in bed with me and put him back to sleep in the bassinet. DS2.....different story ...lol! He wanted to be be in my arms ALL the TIME!!! If you tried transferring him he would wake up and wouldn't go back down - it was a struggle! He ended up sleeping in bed with us a lot (I know...not recommended but breastfeeding plus exhaustion meant it just happened). We slowly transitioned him to a crib. Personally, I really liked having them in my room the first couple of months so you can hear everything. But from personal experience I learned to go with what works.
Question for FTM or STM, we have two cats and since we found out about pregnancy DH has been good about scooping cat box or cleaning up accidents (another issue for another day we have to make some decisions about), but DH will have to travel for work at the beginning of my third trimester so is it okay for me to do cat duty IF i wear long cleaning gloves and of course be very careful and wash like crazy after or do I need to have a friend stop in and help?
Ny OB last time around said this was ok, I just wore gloves and washed up thoroughly afterward.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
@jess0211 we used a halo bassinest and I agree, I loved it. It's so nice that it swivels. Especially good if you end up with a c section
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@jess0211 - We've used the Arms Reach cosleeper and will again for this one. I love that it attached to the side of the bed so it makes nursing in the middle of the night so easy if you're going to go that route. If I was going to buy something new, I might look into the Halo but since we already have the Arms Reach and it has been great, we're going to stick with that this time around.
Both of mine slept in a rock and play for the first few months. I nursed both and had a bit of an oversupply and fast let down, which made my kids a bit gassy. The incline of the RnP helped a lot.
We did crib in her own room from day one and everyone was happy with the situation. DD has always been a good sleeper.
My DD slept in our room for 6 months and was a crap sleeper. My DS went in his own room in a RnP from day one and he was a dream sleeper. Team own room here.
Question for FTM or STM, we have two cats and since we found out about pregnancy DH has been good about scooping cat box or cleaning up accidents (another issue for another day we have to make some decisions about), but DH will have to travel for work at the beginning of my third trimester so is it okay for me to do cat duty IF i wear long cleaning gloves and of course be very careful and wash like crazy after or do I need to have a friend stop in and help?
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or vet but I've had a bazillion cats:
You should be fine - the biggest concern with cat boxes is of course feline toxoplasmosis from the T. gondii parasite, but this parasite can infect all mammals and can also be acquired by handling raw meat or eating unwashed produce. The reason why it's such a big deal with cats is because cats are the only animal where the parasite completes its lifecycle and produces oocytes, which increases the risk of transmission to other animals or humans. The cat can become infected by eating the feces of an infected cat or another infected animal - so if you have an indoor cat, as I do, your risk factor from kitty is minimal. That said, the best way to reduce your chances of infection from a litter box is actually to clean it *more* frequently (as in daily or more if you have multiple kitties) and wash your hands immediately afterwards, which is good advice anyway bc yucko.
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We tried several things but ended up bed sharing in one way or another. DS still spends part of the night in our bed. It's been pretty great for us, but we will start with this LO in their own bed (in our room) and see if it works any better than it did with DS or not. My nephew was one of those magical babies that slept better alone and I certainly won't deprive us if that's how LO prefers. But if bedsharing in some capacity works best, we're up for it again.
Question for FTM or STM, we have two cats and since we found out about pregnancy DH has been good about scooping cat box or cleaning up accidents (another issue for another day we have to make some decisions about), but DH will have to travel for work at the beginning of my third trimester so is it okay for me to do cat duty IF i wear long cleaning gloves and of course be very careful and wash like crazy after or do I need to have a friend stop in and help?
I found that I ended up emptying the cat box more than needed because the smell got to me very badly, but I washed really well and bought a box of those face masks that nurses wear at cvs, I looked silly but I felt better knowing I wasn't breathing any of it in.
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About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
While every birth, and every epidural is different, mine was at least what I believe to be just right, I was very numb for little while which allowed me to rest for an hour or so which was appreciated after a long day in labor, it wore off enough by the time to push that I was very nervous to begin pushing but I was pleasantly surprised with how much I could feel what was going on and knew when to push without the severe pain I was expecting.
I also have a weird weird way of not progressing once I get to the hospital. I think it's the stress. With both of my labors, once I got to the hospital, I stalled for hours. The epidural helped me both of those times and allowed me to progress to 10.
YES I felt this way too! Giving birth was easy for me, I had humanity's greatest epidural, but the days afterward were AWFUL. I tore BADLY and didn't want to sit, stand, lie down, or exist for a while there.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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platelets that actually got diagnosed as ITP (an antibody destroys them always but is thrown into hyperdrive with an immuno-suppressing condition like pregnancy). My OB and hematologist had me on prednisone for the second half of my pregnancy and finally got my platelets within normal range and wanted to induce me while they were there. By the time I got to the hospital and OB broke my water, anesthesiologist said my blood work and just come back and my levels were too low for an epidural. I ended up doing the whole thing while on pitocin but with zero pain meds.
Was pretty rough. That said, now that I know what it takes, I'm all about planning for it this time around. I'd love to avoid prednisone during this pregnancy - nasty stuff to be on for long periods of time.
Mommy to four +1, EDD November 9th!
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~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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1) They're free with insurance
2) I know they contain everything they're supposed to since they were filled by a pharmacist
3) They have never made me sick (you're actually supposed to take them without food)
4) They could taste a LOT worse. Mine aren't coated so they just kinda taste chalky until you swallow but it doesn't bother me too much.
5) They have zero fishy taste and you don't have to take additional fish oil with them (I cleared this up with my Dr yesterday)
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
My DD slept in our room for 6 months and was a crap sleeper. My DS went in his own room in a RnP from day one and he was a dream sleeper. Team own room here.
You should be fine - the biggest concern with cat boxes is of course feline toxoplasmosis from the T. gondii parasite, but this parasite can infect all mammals and can also be acquired by handling raw meat or eating unwashed produce. The reason why it's such a big deal with cats is because cats are the only animal where the parasite completes its lifecycle and produces oocytes, which increases the risk of transmission to other animals or humans. The cat can become infected by eating the feces of an infected cat or another infected animal - so if you have an indoor cat, as I do, your risk factor from kitty is minimal. That said, the best way to reduce your chances of infection from a litter box is actually to clean it *more* frequently (as in daily or more if you have multiple kitties) and wash your hands immediately afterwards, which is good advice anyway bc yucko.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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@pawcall did you use the RNP bassinet or sleeper?
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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TTC since August 2018