@mamaspraggie I'm sorry you feel so isolated. Might I suggest that rather than looking to Facebook for interaction (which is superficial at best), that you look into joining a prenatal support group/classes of some sort? if nothing like that is on your area, look into prenatal fitness classes you can take. Maybe that will help with developing connections with others going through something similar.
@PurplePoppy424 No, sorry, I meant she is originally from my town (Middletown, NY). Funnily enough, though, my FIL has a house in Murrells Inlet, so we go there almost every summer.
This will be my last post, because I'm sick of saying the same thing over and over and I'm just trying to clear things up I'm pretty sure everyone thinks I'm sitting behind the screen typing away looking like grumpy cat, but I'm bawling my eyes out typing all of these responses. I know I'm probably overreacting, and shouldn't cry so much over strangers, and it's just the internet, but it hurts being accused by so many people of something that isn't true. It did feel like an attack, because everyone was claiming I'm a needy attention whore.
I didn't see the harm in venting to a bunch of random women. I really didn't. I didn't expect a lot of people to read it or respond at all. I didn't care. I just posted it. I didn't post it to be the center of attention in the group, or to throw a pity party for myself. The only person that responded last night just wanted to talk about SIL's, so we went off on a tangent about how crazy they can be sometimes and how families can be stressful. Now everyone read into thinking I wanted to come on here and just talk smack about her, which isn't true. I get up this morning to a response that took me back a bit that was pretty dramatic (in my eyes) so I responded. I welcomed the criticism that was civil, and deferred the stuff that wasn't. I guess that was my mistake.
I dont get how this all turned into me being an attention whore. If I was, I'd go out of my way to try and "steal the spotlight" back, or actively compete with other women. But I don't. I just shrug and deal with it.
apparently I should just go because I "won't be able to get all the attention my needy self wants and be the center of everything here." Because you know, that was my goal. And I get it, everyone has been here awhile so who am I to just invite myself back in.
But you guys are totally right about some stuff. My family doesn't give a shit about me, that's why they don't answer calls or messages. My friends don't give a shit either because I get the same stuff from them. I know that no one actually gives a shit when I post on Facebook or make a status about getting my US soon. Trust me, I'm well aware that I mean practically nothing to these people anymore. Everyone already acts like I don't exist because I moved so far away. That's why the short bit of notice I got for my baby was nice, until it was deliberately taken from me. Obviously it disappointed me. But I'm not outwardly bitter about it. I'm used to it. When my husband left for overseas, everyone forgot I existed. They only talked to me when he was around. I work from home, do classes online, so I have practically zero interaction with world. I turn to FB and groups because I don't feel so alone. I know it's unhealthy and stupid. I KNOW.
I KNOW my SIL's situation is more important than mine. That's why I don't try to take any time away from her and try to help her. I don't complain to anyone IRL about these things or my feelings. Which I think everyone gets the impression I do. They think I'm perfectly ok with it, even if deep down it hurts me.
Thank you all for reminding me how pathetic I am, and making me aware that I'm a horrible person For being upset about not getting even a second of attention from people I care about because I literally get none at all.
Its hard to understand what people really mean when you're just reading through a screen, and you don't always know everyone's full story. I wanted to innocently complain online but it blew up in my face.
Im honestly really sorry if I hurt people's feelings or gave off a wrong impression. I didn't expect this BS to blow up like this. Everything is just one big misunderstanding, and I'm really sorry to everyone.
@chiquita928 I'm trying to decide if I'm going to come through your town tonight or wait until after the snow tomorrow... Arg! I need to get home from East Stroudsburg. But I'm stuck in a meeting until 8pm and don't really want to drive through DEWA either time!
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@chiquita928 Oh darn! Haha. I'm in SC and she's made all of our local news stations social media as the "SC giraffe mom". I'm near the center of the state, but we actually vacationed in Murrels Inlet last year! I was excited for a second thinking there was another SC mom here! Haha
@GlitterFish That's a dilemma...I think I'd wait it out. We're headed to the Great Wolf Lodge tomorrow, so I'm in the same place. We're supposed to leave right after my follow up anatomy scan at 10:30, so we're going to be hoping the roads are clear. Seriously, though, what's with the random snowstorm after 2 weeks of beautiful weather (with the exception of this past weekend where it was freezing). I feel like it's time for this:
@Poppyseed72017 go for it! I felt like the double crunch wrap was a special gift from the taco bell gods made for me during pregnancy, because one layer of nacho cheese goodness just wasn't enough, I needed that second layer and didn't even know it.
A restaurant added aioli to my burger...not on the menu. I asked about mayo. I edited the burger sauces.....it was not even listed as an option. I ate half the burger before catching the issue---don't judge it was mixed in the lettuce. Now for the next 6-72 hours I sit worrying I got salmonella -basically see if you puke-----WTF!?!?!!? Sorry this seemed the board to share this on! Just needed some pregnant women love of grr...and btw while I ran to call the doctor/nurses line (first time mom here)-my husband closed out the check kindly so we could go home or to urgent care if needed, and they had him pay for our entire meal except mine, Never going back there, but was tempted to ask what the lady with a diaper cake had for dinner....to warn her. I instead asked they notify the manager of their issues (it was on my husband and my burger) and left a mean review online. This is a place we have gone once or twice a month for pizza or a burger (but not this specific one we both got and not had this issue before)-- but still never again.
A restaurant added aioli to my burger...not on the menu. I asked about mayo. I edited the burger sauces.....it was not even listed as an option. I ate half the burger before catching the issue---don't judge it was mixed in the lettuce. Now for the next 6-72 hours I sit worrying I got salmonella -basically see if you puke-----WTF!?!?!!? Sorry this seemed the board to share this on! Just needed some pregnant women love of grr...and btw while I ran to call the doctor/nurses line (first time mom here)-my husband closed out the check kindly so we could go home or to urgent care if needed, and they had him pay for our entire meal except mine, Never going back there, but was tempted to ask what the lady with a diaper cake had for dinner....to warn her. I instead asked they notify the manager of their issues (it was on my husband and my burger) and left a mean review online. This is a place we have gone once or twice a month for pizza or a burger (but not this specific one we both got and not had this issue before)-- but still never again.
Um... am I missing something? What is the problem with aioli on your burger?
@AdaByron @oheliza44 Made with raw eggs. The biggest issue is salmonilla but there are other bacteria risks. Honestly, I ran to a quiet spot as I had just half eaten my dinner to see and call a nurse. They said wait and watch your temp and stomach flu-ish for food posoning and if so visit er. I wasn't sure just as I had just ate if it was better to just try to throw it up.
@AdaByron @oheliza44 Made with raw eggs. The biggest issue is salmonilla but there are other bacteria risks. Honestly, I ran to a quiet spot as I had just half eaten my dinner to see and call a nurse. They said wait and watch your temp and stomach flu-ish for food posoning and if so visit er. I wasn't sure just as I had just ate if it was better to just try to throw it up.
Are you sure it was made with raw eggs? Not all aioli is. And if this is a restaurant where you eat often, and never worried about food poisoning before, why are you worried now?
I'm sure you're fine! There's raw egg, but it wasn't like there was even an entire egg on your burger, right? Women eat raw dough here and there all the time. It probably wasn't even that much egg if you think about the other ingredient being mixed in.
I'm not judging you for freaking out - I've had freak outs over things like that too and have been perfectly fine (and I usually know deep down I'm fine, but pregnancy has made me worry about so many little things!). Just trying to make you feel better.
Don't take this the wrong way, but if someone showed up at our ER saying they had no symptoms but were worried about aioli ingestion, i would have had something to contribute to wtf Wednesday
@AdaByron@ginger1228 we did confirm the raw egg---once I learned aioli I asked. We asked...what is this weird stuff in the lettuce, and then wait-- is that made with raw eggs. We have eaten there once a month but more pizza and other stuff aka burned germs. It's a brewery and restaurant, so not as much fun when you're pregnant, so it hasn't been as often.
Thanks for the feeling better notes, Ginger! I mean I think its a super small chance --so not likely---just sucks because you try to be so careful you know about mayo, eggs, etc. And one place did say notify your doc so we sent the mandatory online note....just to be good people. And you know...you want to live a normal life and yet not be the cause of stuff to your baby. I got the stomach flu over holidays so I've done extra fluids when they're worried more about you and baby, just never sure which you know aka is it me or baby. And well the LO is more real now being 22 weeks!
Just the pregnant woman moment of having a few small worried ugh tears after a long day over aioli is new to me too, eh? Or an I never guess I'd worry about.....
PS sorry if this was too snarky, I'm just grumpy because of the extra long day I had. Totally understand getting nervous about this sort of thing - especially since I just read someone's MRI showing acute encephalitis, suspicious for listeria infection... but trust me, you'd be feeling very sick if there was something wrong with that aioli.
@Katie______ I'm sure you'll be fine. This is completely anecdotal but I ate french fries with aioli almost every week my first tri without issue. Until your post I didn't even make the raw egg connection. Try not to beat yourself up over it!
At some point I have to wonder if stressing women out about all these lifestyle and diet restrictions outweighs the risk of actually getting sick and causing harm to the fetus? I had a similar experience a few weeks ago when someone posted about an acne spot treatment I was using. I had no clue that you couldn't use certain acne products and since I had no issues with breakouts before my BFP I never thought to ask. I spent way too much time using Dr. Google to figure out if I harmed my child before realizing that stressing over it wasn't going to help the situation.
@mj8215 Understood, we went out to eat after the long day, aka this is my wtf. aka assumedly what I think wtf is for MRI for listeria would be scary, and I'll eat outside prepped foods and smoothies, etc. for aioli-the very sick is my understanding......but then online said 6 hours ? But totally why I called the nurse line first, or would have talked to a doc pre-going anywhere. Just annoyed and didn't stay to eat or re-order when they're putting things in my food that aren't supposed to be there. They offered to make more food...I ran to call or research (loud place) and wasn't going to eat more from them. I know honest mistake, but on both our meals without us asking.
@Katie______ don't worry about it, was it good ?;) also... if it makes you feel better, I would've totally finished that burger, said a prayer and been done with it. dont stress yourself. Also, just for placebo just have some ginger turmeric cinnamon tea lemon tea and "killed" those "germs" I do that whenever I get worried.
It never even occurred to me that aioli or mayo has raw egg. That's frustrating when you're trying to be careful and the info was simply lacking. I'm glad you're fine, regardless of how small the risk.
I had had a fancy breakfast sandwich in Vegas. I bit into it and runny egg yolk spilled all over my hand. I knew it had egg but had assumed it would be fully cooked. DH audibly gasped. He is very diligent about the food restrictions; more so than me.
I was really hungry so my response was, " it's all over my hand. There's not enough left in my sandwich to hurt me!" And kept eating. DH was not amused.
Re: WTF Wednesday 3/8
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
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I was home all day on Sunday through Tuesday because of the flu, and I didn't hear anything. That's why we figured anything that got in was long gone.
DH is going to the Humane Society today. The HS loans humane traps for free. I hope we solve this mystery soon. Ugh.
I'm sorry you feel so isolated. Might I suggest that rather than looking to Facebook for interaction (which is superficial at best), that you look into joining a prenatal support group/classes of some sort? if nothing like that is on your area, look into prenatal fitness classes you can take. Maybe that will help with developing connections with others going through something similar.
Crunch wraps are the best! I can't wait to try that new double crunch wrap!!
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My sisters are openly laughing at me. My little sister's first reaction was, "Well, you did say you wanted a pet." -___-
My boss laughed and said this is just the beginning in our adventures with poop. There's truth to that, I suppose.....
@oheliza44
Made with raw eggs. The biggest issue is salmonilla but there are other bacteria risks. Honestly, I ran to a quiet spot as I had just half eaten my dinner to see and call a nurse. They said wait and watch your temp and stomach flu-ish for food posoning and if so visit er. I wasn't sure just as I had just ate if it was better to just try to throw it up.
I'm not judging you for freaking out - I've had freak outs over things like that too and have been perfectly fine (and I usually know deep down I'm fine, but pregnancy has made me worry about so many little things!). Just trying to make you feel better.
Sorry to have offended you with wanting to share my WTF moment. #notajunelurker #notapunker #justaFTM
we did confirm the raw egg---once I learned aioli I asked. We asked...what is this weird stuff in the lettuce, and then wait-- is that made with raw eggs. We have eaten there once a month but more pizza and other stuff aka burned germs. It's a brewery and restaurant, so not as much fun when you're pregnant, so it hasn't been as often.
Thanks for the feeling better notes, Ginger! I mean I think its a super small chance --so not likely---just sucks because you try to be so careful you know about mayo, eggs, etc. And one place did say notify your doc so we sent the mandatory online note....just to be good people. And you know...you want to live a normal life and yet not be the cause of stuff to your baby. I got the stomach flu over holidays so I've done extra fluids when they're worried more about you and baby, just never sure which you know aka is it me or baby. And well the LO is more real now being 22 weeks!
Just the pregnant woman moment of having a few small worried ugh tears after a long day over aioli is new to me too, eh? Or an I never guess I'd worry about.....
At some point I have to wonder if stressing women out about all these lifestyle and diet restrictions outweighs the risk of actually getting sick and causing harm to the fetus? I had a similar experience a few weeks ago when someone posted about an acne spot treatment I was using. I had no clue that you couldn't use certain acne products and since I had no issues with breakouts before my BFP I never thought to ask. I spent way too much time using Dr. Google to figure out if I harmed my child before realizing that stressing over it wasn't going to help the situation.
Understood, we went out to eat after the long day, aka this is my wtf. aka assumedly what I think wtf is for
MRI for listeria would be scary, and I'll eat outside prepped foods and smoothies, etc.
for aioli-the very sick is my understanding......but then online said 6 hours ? But totally why I called the nurse line first, or would have talked to a doc pre-going anywhere. Just annoyed and didn't stay to eat or re-order when they're putting things in my food that aren't supposed to be there. They offered to make more food...I ran to call or research (loud place) and wasn't going to eat more from them. I know honest mistake, but on both our meals without us asking.
also... if it makes you feel better, I would've totally finished that burger, said a prayer and been done with it.
dont stress yourself. Also, just for placebo just have some ginger turmeric cinnamon tea lemon tea and "killed" those "germs"
edit: I forgot to add Turmeric!!!
I had had a fancy breakfast sandwich in Vegas. I bit into it and runny egg yolk spilled all over my hand. I knew it had egg but had assumed it would be fully cooked. DH audibly gasped. He is very diligent about the food restrictions; more so than me.
I was really hungry so my response was, " it's all over my hand. There's not enough left in my sandwich to hurt me!" And kept eating. DH was not amused.