@lap018 I've been too nervous to try orange juice since DS got diaper rash when I drank orange juice while we were breastfeeding!! I can't imagine what it would be like now.. but he does okay with white grape and apple. But I feel like that's still a lot of sugar so it's kind of a treat. Water and milk for Baby E most of the time too!
My kid has never had even a taste of juice. My family thinks I'm a crazy helicopter parent for not letting him have sugar water flavored with what may or may not be fruit.
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Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
@kaylaakosua I didn't even know that was a thing, especially the pacifiers. Ick.
I don't know how many times I told my parents/ in-laws to dilute DS' juice. I always just put enough to cover the bottom of the bottle, that's it, if he gets juice at all. They were all giving him undiluted juice, until he had so much apple juice one day that he was pooping alllll day the next day. The in-laws have always diluted since then, haha.
My FFFC is that if my fSIL brings up the fact that DS isn't walking (15m), and how at the daycare she works for that the kids are considered developmentally delayed when they're not walking by 12m, I will literally lose my mind on her. The ped says that a lot of kids focus on one skill over another, and in his case it's been talking rather than walking. He crawls faster than I walk, climbs stuff, stands without holding onto anything, etc, he just doesn't want to walk. I got to hear that first tidbit from her at Christmas (13m then), and I just don't want to hear it again. DS will walk when he's ready, okay?? Pay attention to your own kid and mind your own business, thanks.
I didn't want to give DS juice but a diagnosis of failure to thrive and a severely restricted diet from food allergies...we give him any calorie we can. We usually do half juice half water.
I think reusing bottles is fine but it's definitely not okay to reuse nipples.
My FFFC: I'm totally using the excuse "I'm growing a human today" to get out of chores since DH is off work and is fully capable of doing them himself.
@ColoradoHiker your SIL needs to sit down. 12 months is an average and none of the 18 babies that I know of from church and friends babies were walking by 12 months. None. Andplusalso your ped (a DOCTOR not a daycare worker) says baby is fine then baby is fine
@coloradohiker DS is 13 months, not walking, and all his ped isn't concerned. They're only supposed to be cruising by a year. Your fsil can shove it lol
My confession: I get twitchy when people use the term OCD lightly or out of context. I have OCD, and I wish more than anything it was just needing my highlighters arranged like the rainbow. I had a breakdown in college because I couldn't go to sleep unless I counted the one hundred ceiling tiles in my dorm room one hundred times without interruption or noise, but our dorm was so busy that week it never happened, so I couldn't sleep for three days. On the fourth day, I only slept two hours, and then had a breakdown in the cafeteria because I had this hand washing ritual I did before lunch everyday, and the sink I usually did it at was under repair. I spent three days under a nurse's supervision in the school clinic (the local hospital didn't have a bed for me). I'm a lot better now, thanks to some amazing therapists, but it's still something I have to work to control. Going to sleep without counting a single thing is normal for most people, for me it's a victory.
I hope this didn't come across like I'm mad at anyone here, because I'm not. It's a common thing for people to throw around- "Oh, I can't leave dishes in my sink, I'm so OCD!" It's just odd to me that our culture has co-opted this very real, harmful mental disorder into meaning "anything I'm particular about." No one would ever say something like, "I'm so cold I'm shaking, I must have Parkinson's!" because that would be inconsiderate and inappropriate, but because mental illnesses don't have the same quantifiable proof, they aren't usually afforded the same curtsey.
@amandarene112 Oh my goodness, I am so sorry! I have never thought about how this phrase we throw around could hurt someone who actually had OCD. My brother has a mild form of OCD that manifested itself in being super neat and having everything perfectly straight. His math homework took him forever to complete because if he messed up a number he would erase the entire problem and start over. We never teased him about it and frankly we didn't understand what it was until he was in college. However, I have never thought about how a common phrase we use could be hurtful. I apologize.
@amandarene112 I agree, my husband has it and anxiety and when things aren't the way they are supposed to be inside of his head it like physically bothers him and can send him into a full on panic attacks complete with chest pain and an ER visit. It's like it's trendy for people who like organization to diagnose themselves with a mental disorder but if they had it for reals they wouldn't be joking about. He has told me before if he doesn't check the locks on the house every single night himself he becomes convinced our entire family will be killed in our sleep. It's actually pretty difficult to be married to someone with OCD and knowing when not to enable them and when to help them out mentally by just doing what they are asking. @mrsmgsee I don't think you meant anything by it a lot of misinformation about being OCD is out there and people say it all the time in a funny haha way so nothing directed towards you here it's just a real struggle for the person with OCD and even for their loved ones
@lap018 You and my husband would probably have a lot to talk about on this subject! He's actually gone to my therapist with me (In addition to OCD, I have generalized anxiety disorder, so I see someone a few times a month just to keep it all in check. It's really easy for rituals and anxiety to creep in without realizing it.) several times, just to get an idea of what I'm dealing with, and to get pointers on how to help me. I know it's a struggle for him too, but he's usually pretty great about it. I'm just thankful pregnancy hasn't pushed me into any major behaviors yet. I do want to wash my hands about every 10 seconds, but at least that's manageable.
@kaylaakosua I guess I don't see the big deal. Things can be sanitized.
Very true. To me it's like buying used underwear, sure they could be but it's a bit too personal for me.
To be fair I never purchased used pacifiers or nipples myself because it does just seem like the kind of thing to get new. But I'll be giving this baby big brother's used stuff which in some ways isn't all that different than buying them used (with the exception that I like to think I know exactly where it's been). And when I think about all the nasty crap my kid puts in his mouth these days, a used but sanitized nipple seems pretty tame.
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Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
@lap018@Becky012016 Thanks, ladies. I know DS will walk when he's ready, and the ped was absolutely unconcerned about it. I try to keep calm and remind myself that fSIL has seen DS maybe 3 times since he was born, so she really can't judge him based on 2 hours of interaction. I'm trying to simmer down because fSIL already has a not great relationship with the family, and I don't want to make it worse. She makes it so easy to make it worse, though.
ETA- On the plus side, apparently the baby is now the size of a scoop of ice cream. That makes me happy, and hungry!
@ColoradoHiker I have also heard that babies either are talkers or walkers. I'm on the other side, I'm concerned about DS' language. He has gone backwards quite a bit, he only has a few words now. Before he knew mama dada baby puppy juice and stuff but now baby took over and the puppy is now baby, dad is baby. He chatters sometimes but I don't think he's where he should be. Why do we put so much stress on milestones? Seriously I always freak out when I think he *SHOULD* be doing something. Although to be fair he's 13 months and just now starting to be able to eat real food like ground beef and fruit and veggie pieces. I tried and tried but he would gag until he threw up. Then one day shortly after his first birthday he just stopped gagging on stuff. He did it in his own time but it made me feel like a terrible mother because my friends' babies were eating real food so much younger. I just hate that I feel so much pressure for him to do stuff...
@amandarene112 is this your first pregnancy? Just asking because my anxiety got really bad after delivery and manifested into post partum OCD. No compulsions, just obsessions. So just make sure to have the support you need post partum! It sounds like you do though.
@ColoradoHiker I have also heard that babies either are talkers or walkers. I'm on the other side, I'm concerned about DS' language. He has gone backwards quite a bit, he only has a few words now. Before he knew mama dada baby puppy juice and stuff but now baby took over and the puppy is now baby, dad is baby. He chatters sometimes but I don't think he's where he should be. Why do we put so much stress on milestones? Seriously I always freak out when I think he *SHOULD* be doing something. Although to be fair he's 13 months and just now starting to be able to eat real food like ground beef and fruit and veggie pieces. I tried and tried but he would gag until he threw up. Then one day shortly after his first birthday he just stopped gagging on stuff. He did it in his own time but it made me feel like a terrible mother because my friends' babies were eating real food so much younger. I just hate that I feel so much pressure for him to do stuff...
@daniellelynette I could have written that entire paragraph myself. I noticed the last couple of weeks that DS has dropped a lot of the words he normally uses, and has focused mostly on dada. I'm dada now, too, even though he knows exactly who I am, and called me mama for many months now. I think it's part of the phases that they go through. DS also had really bad gagging problems with food, until he finally didn't. It just seemed like one day he started eating normally, and it was over. For the most part I've really been able to ignore the 'baby must be doing X by Y time, or Z is wrong with them'. The walking has been the hardest bc a lot of friends with younger babies, by about 3 months, already have walkers. It's hard not to compare, even when you know they're totally within a normal timeframe.
@ColoradoHiker yes! Any time DH cones home from work DS gets excited and yells "Baby! Baby!" Like no honey you know that's Dada. And the gagging. He's done it since he was tiny, he would gag on pacifiers and bottles and even my nipple if it went too far in. One night I fell down the internet rabbithole and scared myself with sensory processing disorder and just so much unnecessary stuff. I try to stay away from google now lol! After DS just stopped gagging one day I TRULY realized that every kid does things at their own pace. It is hard when you're right in the middle of it though wondering what's going on and why they are doing this vs. aren't doing that. I try not to pay attention to what other kids have done. It just makes me mad that we put so much emphasis on milestones and stuff. With this baby I'm going to try not to think about that stuff.
Your DS will walk when he's good and ready, and I know you already know that but I feel bad that your FSIL said that to you.
My confession is that I cannot stop eating. I know that I'm not supposed to be eating for two adult sized human beings but I am just hungry all the time so I feel like I always need to be snacking on something. I am going wayyyyyyy over the extra 300 calories I am supposed to be having.
@msashley2010 It's so hard not to! Especially if you go through that "the only time I don't feel sick is when I'm shoving food in my hole" stage. Ladies who can stay healthy and responsible with their eating habits are my heroes. I want them to teach me.
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Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
@msashley2010 It's so hard not to! Especially if you go through that "the only time I don't feel sick is when I'm shoving food in my hole" stage. Ladies who can stay healthy and responsible with their eating habits are my heroes. I want them to teach me.
I don't know why but that made me crack up laughing
My confession is that I cannot stop eating. I know that I'm not supposed to be eating for two adult sized human beings but I am just hungry all the time so I feel like I always need to be snacking on something. I am going wayyyyyyy over the extra 300 calories I am supposed to be having.
This is me. Luckily I actually get full now at 13 weeks, most of the time. But during weeks 10-12... damn I was eating ALL the time and enormous quantities of food. It was so embarassing.
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
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@kaylaakosua I guess I don't see the big deal. Things can be sanitized.
Very true. To me it's like buying used underwear, sure they could be but it's a bit too personal for me.
To be fair I never purchased used pacifiers or nipples myself because it does just seem like the kind of thing to get new. But I'll be giving this baby big brother's used stuff which in some ways isn't all that different than buying them used (with the exception that I like to think I know exactly where it's been). And when I think about all the nasty crap my kid puts in his mouth these days, a used but sanitized nipple seems pretty tame.
I think siblings is absolutely fine! I mean, I would consider hand me downs from my sisters and brothers kids, but I just couldn't see buying used from strangers on the internet. I'm all about rolling around dirt, I mean, I may have turned a blind eye watching DS put a dog toy in his mouth once or twice.
I called out of work yesterday...I have a migraine disorder and I cannot take the meds while pregnant...I told them that's why I couldn't come into work. I had a mild headache and felt like being lazy is the reality.
Belated FFFC? I feel like an odd duck when I see all the things making other moms cry and nothing is really making me cry other than the normal stuff
So I wasn't a crier at ALL with my first pregnancy. Like I was totally normal, didn't feel like a cry baby at all. But I haven't been able to stop crying since after I had him... I don't cry any more now than I did after I had him, everything that makes me cry now has made me cry since having DS. Kind of strange but I'm not surprised!
@daniellelynette Phew! I thought I was the only one that didn't become more emotional! I've honestly thought a time or two that DH should be extra grateful that I don't have big mood swings when I'm pregnant But I have changed my movie/show tastes and basically stick to comedy and action now. Basically only bad guys are allowed to die!
Re: FFFC 3/3
DS #1 [S-5]
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Baby #2 09/10/2017
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Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I don't know how many times I told my parents/ in-laws to dilute DS' juice. I always just put enough to cover the bottom of the bottle, that's it, if he gets juice at all. They were all giving him undiluted juice, until he had so much apple juice one day that he was pooping alllll day the next day. The in-laws have always diluted since then, haha.
My FFFC is that if my fSIL brings up the fact that DS isn't walking (15m), and how at the daycare she works for that the kids are considered developmentally delayed when they're not walking by 12m, I will literally lose my mind on her. The ped says that a lot of kids focus on one skill over another, and in his case it's been talking rather than walking. He crawls faster than I walk, climbs stuff, stands without holding onto anything, etc, he just doesn't want to walk. I got to hear that first tidbit from her at Christmas (13m then), and I just don't want to hear it again. DS will walk when he's ready, okay?? Pay attention to your own kid and mind your own business, thanks.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
I think reusing bottles is fine but it's definitely not okay to reuse nipples.
My FFFC: I'm totally using the excuse "I'm growing a human today" to get out of chores since DH is off work and is fully capable of doing them himself.
DS #1 [S-5]
3 Step Daughters [A-8] [E-6] [I-4]
Baby #2 09/10/2017
It's a BOY!
Babywearer&EBF
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I hope this didn't come across like I'm mad at anyone here, because I'm not. It's a common thing for people to throw around- "Oh, I can't leave dishes in my sink, I'm so OCD!" It's just odd to me that our culture has co-opted this very real, harmful mental disorder into meaning "anything I'm particular about." No one would ever say something like, "I'm so cold I'm shaking, I must have Parkinson's!" because that would be inconsiderate and inappropriate, but because mental illnesses don't have the same quantifiable proof, they aren't usually afforded the same curtsey.
Ok, I'm off my soap box now. Carry on.
DS #1 [S-5]
3 Step Daughters [A-8] [E-6] [I-4]
Baby #2 09/10/2017
It's a BOY!
Babywearer&EBF
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
ETA- On the plus side, apparently the baby is now the size of a scoop of ice cream. That makes me happy, and hungry!
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
Why do we put so much stress on milestones? Seriously I always freak out when I think he *SHOULD* be doing something. Although to be fair he's 13 months and just now starting to be able to eat real food like ground beef and fruit and veggie pieces. I tried and tried but he would gag until he threw up. Then one day shortly after his first birthday he just stopped gagging on stuff. He did it in his own time but it made me feel like a terrible mother because my friends' babies were eating real food so much younger. I just hate that I feel so much pressure for him to do stuff...
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
And the gagging. He's done it since he was tiny, he would gag on pacifiers and bottles and even my nipple if it went too far in. One night I fell down the internet rabbithole and scared myself with sensory processing disorder and just so much unnecessary stuff. I try to stay away from google now lol! After DS just stopped gagging one day I TRULY realized that every kid does things at their own pace. It is hard when you're right in the middle of it though wondering what's going on and why they are doing this vs. aren't doing that. I try not to pay attention to what other kids have done. It just makes me mad that we put so much emphasis on milestones and stuff. With this baby I'm going to try not to think about that stuff.
Your DS will walk when he's good and ready, and I know you already know that but I feel bad that your FSIL said that to you.
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
DS #1 [S-5]
3 Step Daughters [A-8] [E-6] [I-4]
Baby #2 09/10/2017
It's a BOY!
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