We went out to dinner at Hu Hot on Monday for our Valentine's Day. Mostly cause I had a coupon for a free meal there so it was cheap and we are tight on money, so it worked out. I'd baked his favorite peanut butter cake for him as a surprise, and then today, he came home from work with a picture he drew and colored for me. He has also said that as a Valentine's Day gift to me, he is going to do ALL of the rest of the house prep for baby by himself and get it done before our shower this Saturday - not exactly holding my breath for that to happen, but definitely appreciate the sentiment all the same.
"I usually claim that pregnant women should not read books about pregnancy and birth. Their time is too precious. They should, rather, watch the moon and sing to their baby in the womb." --Michel Odent
And with that sentiment, I'm making the call to stop working after Friday. If I have 3 days left or 3 weeks, I want to spend that time focusing on this little baby. I'm done scrambling around last minute trying to get things done that just won't ever be done. I'm going to nap and walk and sing instead.
@cbeanz good for you!!! It is nice to see leave on the horizon in single digit days. Five work days to go!
Random question: this weekend will be our last as a couple without kids. I want to do something fun and romantic, but of course, I'm limited in what I can physically do. Is anyone planning something special for your last bit of alone time for awhile? I'm struggling to come up with ideas.
@cbeanz congratulations on the decision. Good for you! enjoying yourself and the end of your pregnancy is certainly not a waste of time. I hope you enjoy yourself.
@disneybaby84 i gave DS a piece of one of my dates... he promptly gave me a horrified look, pulled it out of his mouth and threw it on the floor.. my sentiments exactly son lol
@happyhiker any last minute concerts? a movie and dinner? a night at a hotel with a spa? casino? couch and chinese food?
@Happyhiker just do whatever you feel like! Don't feel forced to make it a big deal or huge romantic get away... unless that's what you want. Anything you do- Staying in with takeout-its still doing something as just a family of two ;]
I remember so many people saying "go out! Go out! You won't get to after baby" I never wanted to... I felt gross and just wanted pjs and couch cuddles. I also wish more people told me to just enjoying simple things like peeing in peace! or eating food with two hands instead of one handed snack grabs while nursing ;] hah.
along the lines of what @kjd291 said, i wish someone had told me to take 45 minute showers. just sit there under hot water and do absolutely nothing. take your time and enjoy it lol
The only way I get "long" showers that include washing my hair now? Dodging my 18mo old crawling around on the ground of the shower with her bath crayons scribbling on the walls of the tub... excited about adding a newborn to the mix ;] hahaha.
@Cbeanz good for you - that is such a great decision!!
I can't wait to get away from all these people at my work. They are good people but if one more person asks me how I'm "holding up" I'm going to scream. Actually scream and shatter all the glass.
Today's my only day off work this week, so this afternoon I'm attempting to get my homework assignment done so I can then start writing my 15 page paper that's due next week and all I wanna do is relax and maybe take a nap. I have officially lost my motivation for school.
If you saw my bitchfest from last week - my nursery flooded over the weekend. Update, the carpet guy has been super awesome and is able to fit me in for installation next Tuesday because he knows how desperate I am! Hooray for getting our nursery back before I have this baby (knock on wood - I'm assuming this kid will hang out for at least another week). YAY. Gotta go call and change my US/dr appointment so that I can be home for the carpet guys
Just need to B for a second. My husband has done sh*t for me this week. I'm basically 40wks pregnant now, and I do ALL the laundry, cooking meals every night, cleaning our house, and taking care of DD. I never complain. I just get it done. All he does is complain about how tired he is (when he gets home from his desk job) as I put the toddler to bed and clean up from the night. Like-seriously!? Don't complain to the 40wks pregnant lady with the giant baby belly chasing around an18 mo old. He didn't do anything for Valentine's Day-which is fine- I didn't expect anything. BUT all this week he's been saying things like: I wish I'd done something for you. Or-I wish I could just show you how much I love you. ... STOP SAYING YOU WANT TO SHOW ME AND SHOW ME ALREADY. If you really wanted to do something or buy something for me-you could have. Or pick up a sponge and do some frickin dishes.
@kjd291 i feel for you lady! i find that every so often i have to blow up and that kicks DH into gear. i swear they can be so dense sometimes. maybe if you go full out preggo ape shit on him he will get it together? lol
@kjd291. DH has the "I-was-gonnas". He waits until I've already started the laundry, dishes, etc then gets pissy at me- "I was gonna do that in a little while/ later/ tomorrow." I was gonna doesn't pay the bills friend. Then he gets mad at me for cleaning up to spite him. I'm cleaning cause no one else is!!!!
:So as background all of my appointments until today have been group appointments. I love it and it's been super helpful: I mentioned to my mom and sister that I had the group b strep test done today, and that it gets pretty personal. My sister was like, well that's awkward with group testing
@kjd291 literally 1/2 hour ago just yelled at my husband that he needs to help me with the stupid laundry, same freaking thing I asked him last week. It is so hard bending over to put it away. But nope, has not helped put away a load yet. Even after me asking him, he saw me fold yet another basket while he sat down on the couch to read on his iPad. I will hurt him very soon.
@jrde50eb12 YES that is exactly what happens in our house. "But I was going to do it..."
@kjd291 I'm so sorry! I feel your pain... if I don't ask it doesn't get done. And no Valentine's Day ANYTHING over here either. And I cried about it at the end of the night which resulted in an "I'm sorry". Um.. ok...? Haha.
But I would not be able to handle the "I was gonna" statements. I'd flip. Very deserved rant!!
@kjd291 - I feel your pain. We have three cats and two litter boxes. Back before I was pregnant, it was easy to get my husband to do his box because I'd do one and get him to do the other at the same time - but this entire pregnancy, it is a fight to get him to do them. He'll go as long as three weeks with the "I'm going to do the litter boxes tonight!" promises over and over. Laundry is another issue - he just is incapable of putting his clothes away, then has the gall to make a comment about how he wishes we could make V-Day dinner at the kitchen table but we can't because the laundry is piled on it. Disregard the fact that 90% of what is on the table is HIS laundry, that I bought a dresser and got a shelf specifically for him to be able to put his laundry away on it and he just leaves it on the table instead, or the fact that I have been nagging him literally for months to just take five minutes to get it done.
BUT I have to give him massive kudos! After expressing my doubts that he would do as he promised and get all the big stuff out of the way before the baby shower this weekend, today I came home from grocery shopping and the DMV and was worried when I saw that he was home already when he was supposed to be at work for another four hours. Ends up that he smashed his sales goal for the day within two hours so they let him go home early, and he took that time to finally do the litter boxes, take out the trash, got the back room at least 70% cleared out (which is seriously a miracle, and I almost cried when I saw it because it is such a massive weight off my shoulders) and was cleaning up the kitchen when I walked in. I could not stop kissing him all evening!
So, DH knew I was really stressed yesterday after my appointment, so he came home early and surprised me by mounting a painting we bought for the nursery that had been rolled up in the corner for the last 2 months. Can't wait to hang it on the wall!!!
You guys, I didn't sleep for one minute last night. I just laid in bed wide awake all night long, how is that even possible? I wonder what today will be like
Thanks for commiserating ladies! I had a good frustrated cry and went to bed early.
@MMaru yay!!! I'm so glad he did everything for you! Bonus points for hubby!
@npaulie I think I said before--I'm obsessed with that painting! Yay! And you look beautiful!
@jrde50eb12 yes yes yes! He suffers from the "I was gonna"s. Whenever I get upset and blow up at him about helping that's always his excuse. Haha. Men! Can't live with them, can't live without them!
@CanadianintheSouth oh no! hugs mama. Hope today isn't too tough! And you can sneak a nap. Ive been taking unisom on the really bad nights lately. Maybe look into some if it doesn't get better? Sleep is a necessity right now!
Guys, I just specifically ask for stuff instead of expecting him to remember. "Hey, can you bring the laundry upstairs before you xyz?" He hates it when I ask him to try to perennially remember stuff, but is really good natured about specific requests for help. I've just resigned myself to having to ask every time. "Can you put the dishes away again tonight? Bending over is so hard for me." I make sure to thank him appreciatively even though it's really his job just as much as mine, lol. I can't change HIM, but I can change my own attitude about the problem.
@npaulie@kjd291 the crazy thing is I'm not even tired at all. Wondering when I will crash - probably at work tonight! DD has preschool today so I have 5 hours to myself with no plans, I can definitely take a nap if needed. I will get some unisom in case this happens again!
Re: Randoms! 2/13
Th countdown is real for me. 8 more days max.
& @Happyhiker is induced the 23rd too! Getting excited!?
Anyone else scheduled to have babies this coming week?
"I usually claim that pregnant women should not read books about pregnancy and birth. Their time is too precious. They should, rather, watch the moon and sing to their baby in the womb." --Michel Odent
And with that sentiment, I'm making the call to stop working after Friday. If I have 3 days left or 3 weeks, I want to spend that time focusing on this little baby. I'm done scrambling around last minute trying to get things done that just won't ever be done. I'm going to nap and walk and sing instead.
Random question: this weekend will be our last as a couple without kids. I want to do something fun and romantic, but of course, I'm limited in what I can physically do. Is anyone planning something special for your last bit of alone time for awhile? I'm struggling to come up with ideas.
@disneybaby84 i gave DS a piece of one of my dates... he promptly gave me a horrified look, pulled it out of his mouth and threw it on the floor.. my sentiments exactly son lol
@happyhiker any last minute concerts? a movie and dinner? a night at a hotel with a spa? casino? couch and chinese food?
I remember so many people saying "go out! Go out! You won't get to after baby" I never wanted to... I felt gross and just wanted pjs and couch cuddles.
I also wish more people told me to just enjoying simple things like peeing in peace! or eating food with two hands instead of one handed snack grabs while nursing ;] hah.
The only way I get "long" showers that include washing my hair now? Dodging my 18mo old crawling around on the ground of the shower with her bath crayons scribbling on the walls of the tub... excited about adding a newborn to the mix ;] hahaha.
@Cbeanz good for you - that is such a great decision!!
I can't wait to get away from all these people at my work. They are good people but if one more person asks me how I'm "holding up" I'm going to scream. Actually scream and shatter all the glass.
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My husband has done sh*t for me this week. I'm basically 40wks pregnant now, and I do ALL the laundry, cooking meals every night, cleaning our house, and taking care of DD. I never complain. I just get it done. All he does is complain about how tired he is (when he gets home from his desk job) as I put the toddler to bed and clean up from the night. Like-seriously!? Don't complain to the 40wks pregnant lady with the giant baby belly chasing around an18 mo old.
He didn't do anything for Valentine's Day-which is fine- I didn't expect anything.
BUT all this week he's been saying things like: I wish I'd done something for you. Or-I wish I could just show you how much I love you. ... STOP SAYING YOU WANT TO SHOW ME AND SHOW ME ALREADY. If you really wanted to do something or buy something for me-you could have. Or pick up a sponge and do some frickin dishes.
Okay. Rant over.
@jrde50eb12 YES that is exactly what happens in our house. "But I was going to do it..."
But I would not be able to handle the "I was gonna" statements. I'd flip. Very deserved rant!!
@kjd291 - I feel your pain. We have three cats and two litter boxes. Back before I was pregnant, it was easy to get my husband to do his box because I'd do one and get him to do the other at the same time - but this entire pregnancy, it is a fight to get him to do them. He'll go as long as three weeks with the "I'm going to do the litter boxes tonight!" promises over and over. Laundry is another issue - he just is incapable of putting his clothes away, then has the gall to make a comment about how he wishes we could make V-Day dinner at the kitchen table but we can't because the laundry is piled on it. Disregard the fact that 90% of what is on the table is HIS laundry, that I bought a dresser and got a shelf specifically for him to be able to put his laundry away on it and he just leaves it on the table instead, or the fact that I have been nagging him literally for months to just take five minutes to get it done.
BUT I have to give him massive kudos! After expressing my doubts that he would do as he promised and get all the big stuff out of the way before the baby shower this weekend, today I came home from grocery shopping and the DMV and was worried when I saw that he was home already when he was supposed to be at work for another four hours. Ends up that he smashed his sales goal for the day within two hours so they let him go home early, and he took that time to finally do the litter boxes, take out the trash, got the back room at least 70% cleared out (which is seriously a miracle, and I almost cried when I saw it because it is such a massive weight off my shoulders) and was cleaning up the kitchen when I walked in. I could not stop kissing him all evening!
@MMaru yay!!! I'm so glad he did everything for you! Bonus points for hubby!
@npaulie I think I said before--I'm obsessed with that painting! Yay! And you look beautiful!
@jrde50eb12 yes yes yes! He suffers from the "I was gonna"s. Whenever I get upset and blow up at him about helping that's always his excuse. Haha. Men! Can't live with them, can't live without them!
Ive been taking unisom on the really bad nights lately. Maybe look into some if it doesn't get better? Sleep is a necessity right now!