I want to hear everyone's story about why you tested and when that second line showed up!
Did you wait patiently for a missed period? Or what about a call from a Dr. letting you know that the beta was positive?
Perhaps you're like me and have an obscenely large pee stick collection tracking line progression.
Share!!! I love these stories.
(For those that don't know GTKY = Getting to know you and BFP = Big Fat Positive)
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
Re: GTKY: Your BFP Story
We were NTNP with the idea we'd really start trying in the new year, so I wasn't expecting to actually get pregnant since we had a cutoff of 4 days before O.
Sunday morning I woke up after having two extremely vivid dreams. The first where my deceased grandmother came to visit me (I've not dreamed about her at all since she's passed) and the second one was where I "woke up" in my dream, took a pregnancy test and had it turn positive. I placed the positive test on my nightstand and went back to sleep in my dream. It was SO realistic that I actually was confused when I woke up and there wasn't a positive test on my nightstand.
Since I had a stash of Wonfos I took one even though I was only 6dpo, negative.
Monday- Negative
Tuesday I told myself that I wouldn't take any more tests until I was in a reasonable testing window. Pee on test, then took dog for the morning walk. Came back and glance at the test before throwing it out but THERE WAS A FAINT SECOND LINE.
So I took FIVE other tests during the day... and they all had lines.
I kept taking tests every morning tracking line progression. Once the lines got to be substantial and I had confirmation with the digital I told my husband.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
**TW we were not trying at all but planned to start trying the end of the year, DS is 17 mos now. We had some fun around our birthdays in sept (6 days apart) and got pregnant. We were actually pleasantly surprised. But then miscarried in October after not one issue with my first pregnancy. We were shocked. End TW**
so we took November off and then tried in early December and BAM! I knew like 2 days afterwards that we made a baby, which is crazy! And I felt crazy! But I just knew that thing stuck. I waited to test until 5 days before my missed period and sure enough, BFP. I was actually kind of afraid to tell DH and then I was more excited to tell him in a cute way since I didn't do anything special for him with the first baby. So I told him on Christmas. It was super sweet. I hope this is our rainbow baby! I will be 12 weeks Monday and will do the cell free DNA tests and the NT scan at that time. I am having a hard time getting excited about this baby until I see that everything is ok. My due date is 2 days after my son's second bday
Eta: Fertility Friend
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
For me, *tw, i had a chemical the prior month end tw*. I was hoping that would stick, because november would be the last month of trying till Jan. We said December would be an off month, my sister's getting married in September 2017, and if we conceived in December, I'd be due around her wedding.
I know I ovulated on thanksgiving, based on CM and OPK. At 8 DPO, i had to drive to NY to visit my sister, took a test, and clear as day, a BFN. I was so angry! The entire drive I was basically yelling at myself. Two days later (when I was originally planning to test), I had zero symptoms. I was dreading to test, but wanted to for peace of mind. Took the test, and low and behold..the second line appeared about 30 seconds later...I had no words!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
We had decided to pull the goalie from the game (no protection) in September. We weren't actively trying, but not preventing either. I was tracking my cycles but nothing super accurate. I tested religiously for the first cycle but nothing. Then I tested religiously during my second cycle starting at about 5 days before my missed period. I didn't get a positive until the day I was supposed to start.
It was the the day before Thanksgiving and I stayed home from work to clean my house for guests. I was home alone when I tested and I just cried and cried when I got my BFP. We told my family the next day during our prayer before dinner I mentioned that I was glad for all 7 grand babies (only 6 currently) and they caught on quickly.
I woke up and peed on a stick and bam it was a faint positive. I was shocked. I tested again with a FRER and again the next morning with FMU and both were obviously positive.
I had ZERO symptoms. My post O temps on Fertility Friend were way lower than my average curve too. In fact the cycle that I got pregnant on was sooooo weird (weirdly low temps, spotting mid cycle which never happened before, no clear positive OPK, O'ed 4 days late, mittleschmirz on the day before and after when FF said I O'ed). It was just an odd cycle. I'm still shocked that I am even here...
Dismissed test from my mind swearing I wasn't pregnant as we had just started trying.
About a week later the test still nagged on my so I poas again. Still super faint, but line was definitely there. It was December 1.
I was stunned as we had just started trying. Only really had one shot at starting to try as DS was napping.
I took that pill every day at 9:30 in the morning. I had an alarm set on my phone and I didn't miss a single one.
Christmas day I drank. A LOT more than usual and woke up the next feeling surprisingly great. I even commented on how weird it was the I wasn't hung over. About 4pm I got nauseous and dizzy and couldnt kick the feeling so I made myself get sick. I still didn't feel too great when I got home and it was an all too familiar feeling. I had some tests in my bathroom from when I missed my period the first time so I decided to take one the next day to reassure myself that everything was good.
By the time I finished cleaning myself up, BOOM BFP. There were so many emotions. I looked at the box and back at the test a bunch of times to make sure that two lines meant yes. I caught my face in the mirror accidentally and boy was that funny. It actually made me laugh out loud.
DH, who had no idea it was even a thought, was in the kitchen making breakfast. I went in, heart beating out of my chest, and was all "welp. I'm pregnant'.
TL;DR
Was on the pill. Never expected it. BOOM BFP.
Once we got back from the honeymoon, we'd talked about me going off BCP in October/November to start trying in January, but I missed my period while on the pill still in August which has never happened to me...never even been late before. I'd been super stressed at work but thought I might be pregnant so tested a bunch - all negative. I decided if my body was going to be that weird while on the pill, I needed to get off ASAP. I finally got my period again in October (2 months after my last), and started temping. That cycle was 42 days and it turns out DH was traveling for work for the entire 6 days of my FW - which I could only ID after my BFP the next month since my luteal phase was so all over the place.
After 2 long cycles of 60 days and 42 days, I figured the next would be long as well and decided to start using OPKs around CD 15. I swore I was going to wait until CD 43 to test, but around CD28, I started getting period cramps and assumed AF was going to show up instead (and I was more than happy to have a regular cycle so not even that disappointed). 4 days later, still getting period cramps, still no AF so I broke down and tested, even though I'd used an OPK test the day before. Line appeared in less than 15 seconds since it turns out with my dating scan, I O'ed on CD 13 or 14 (so totally missed it with the OPKs) and was 17 or 18 DPO already.
I was also using Fertility Friend to chart but never got crosshairs, hence the O confusion. I can see a pattern now that I know when I O'ed on the BFP cycle which will hopefully be helpful for trying for #2 in a few years. I've never been more in touch with yet confused by my body in my life. PMS symptoms being so similar to pregnancy symptoms is a huge mind f***.
I want to add that I have many friends who have had or still do struggle with infertility issues and I am so thankful that my journey to #1 was so short. My heart goes out to those of you who have waited much longer for this and to those still struggling to get pregnant. I've also heard secondary infertility is more common than primary infertility so am especially grateful and not taking this for granted, although I can only imagine what some of you have gone through to get here.
DD had come so easy I just hadn't expected this to be such a journey. But here we are and we couldn't be happier.
Not how how I wanted to find out, but so happy about it at the same time.
M/C #2 - October 2016
MMC #1 - April 2016
The craziest part to me was the first thing I googled was twin pregnancies and had a few haunting conversations at the maternal Infant hospital I was working at. It came as a very little shock that I was carrying two babies a few weeks later during our dating US.
I don't know how but both times with my DD and now this one, I knew I was pregnant instantly. I immediately started feeling off.
ETA: It was a day or two before my missed period and I felt no symptoms coming. Which is what alerted me to test for DD the first time.
We went on a cruise. Had sex, and I started bleeding. I thought bummer my period is a week early. But it stopped the next day. Thought nothing else of it. I got sea sick feeling at night, never do. Ignored it. My pee smelled awful. Ignored it.
We got home and I tracked my period and it was late. Totally normal. My period can be anywhere from 28-32 days though 30 is the norm. It hit 33 days and I thought well I'll buy a test. What always happens is I buy it and then I'll start like magic. But while I was driving home I recalled the bleeding (implantation date) the sick feeling and the awful strong pee and suddenly I was like oh better not wait to pee on that stick. Sure enough I peed, I waited, I saw and then I was freaking out in disbelief. It's what we wanted and just in 'time' but it was hard to believe.
We we tried to just enjoy the trip and have fun. We were in Iceland so I did do the Blue lagoon but avoided hot tubs. On the day we left Iceland to go to Amsterdam (about 10 dpiui) I threw up in the airport parking lot. I thought it was just carsickness/travel sickness. I was wrong. The whole time we were in Amsterdam I felt weird about eating and wanted to go to sleep super early. We ignored all of that trying not to get our hopes up.
The morning after we got home I was scheduled to go get blood drawn for a beta. I decided on a whim to take an HPT when I woke up. In three years and countless tests, I have never seen even a hint of a second line. I almost died when I saw it. And I called my husband in and told him "I think I'm pregnant." After so many attempts he wanted to wait until we got the beta before getting excited. But the doctor told me a line is a line and the beta confirmed it that afternoon. I didn't stop smiling for the entire day.
I had a normal period in October, and then had a weird, totally not normal, early, odd, spotting for 1 Day in November. I figured it was implantation spitting. Waited a few days, tested, BFN. Waited a week, tested again, BFN. Waited another few days, tested again, BFN.
3 weeks to the DAY after that weird 1 day of spotting, I got a BFP. That was December 4th. Super confused.
Went to my first appointment and told my OB that I thought I was 9 1/2 weeks (based on my LMP in October) and he was like, "Nope. You're 6 weeks." LOL!
So, apparently my weird day of spotting was actually a period (the first and only weird cycle I've EVER had in my life, since I'm super regular) and I got a positive test 3 weeks later on the dot.
I'm 13 weeks today, and I've known for 10 whole weeks. Makes for a loooooong pregnancy! LOL!
We just got married in May. I've wanted kids for a long time, but I've been patient with our careers and living situations. I felt I'd waited too long and was afraid at 31, I'd have a difficult time getting pregnant. In October, I finally talked to DH about going off the pill. I told him it was going to take a long time and we should start now as it could be awhile. DH suprisingly agreed, so I stopped the pill that day.
Come Thanksgiving, he was going on a trip and I wanted to spend the holiday with my husband. I have no one nearby and it was better than being alone. And he was overnighting in Buffalo, NY during the trip and I wanted Buffalo wings! We got to spend Thanksgiving day in a hotel in Boston and had a nice dinner at a nearby restaurant before leaving for a late night Buffalo flight.
Two weeks later, I was flying across the country to visit my family on the opposite coast. I'm a pilot, I don't get airsick. But there I was, in my own row of a 737, taking all the airsick bags for myself just in case. Oof.
When I got to my parents house, I remember watching Fuller House with my baby brother and crying. TV shows don't make me cry. I took a test, but it was negative. Once I got back to the east coast I bought my "before you get pregnant" books and vitamins and starting eating the way you should when you're trying. I didn't ever think I could get pregnant that fast, so I was prepping for actually trying. I still wanted it so bad, so I was taking pregnancy tests, but everything was negative. And I was so irrationally disappointed.
December 9th after a 14 hour day of work, I was exhausted and DH made me dinner, but the chicken looked undercooked. I wouldn't eat it and fought when I said, if I were pregnant this could hurt the baby. He yelled that I wasn't pregnant. I got up and peed on a stick, because honestly, these cramps should have procured AF by then. And earlier in the day I had told my sister "if these are no birth control boobs, I can't even understand the pain of pregnancy boobs." So I did. BFP. Huh. I was confused. I showed him. I asked if you can do these wrong. Was it dark enough? (I hadn't even cracked the spine of my conceiving books yet.) I was so excited but so cautious about that excitement.
We're 13 weeks now and couldn't be happier. He says his initial reaction of "my life is over" was a joke and he's funny. But he's come around and is super excited.
So imagine our surprise when I got pregnant in the first month of not using any protection.
November was really stressful with work and we'd traveled over Thanksgiving. I had a second-round job interview the week after the holiday as well. I should have had my period right around Thanksgiving and nothing was happening despite having PMS (bloat, bigger boobs, cramps). I've always been on a 28 day cycle and it was rare to be late, but often being late was chalked up to stress. Finally, after the job interview, I took the test and that sucker lit up like a Christmas tree within 10 seconds. To say DH was shocked would be an understatement. Oh, and I didn't get offered that job, which is good because I have maternity benefits at my current job- and now I'm just waiting to find out if I get another in-house offer for a newly-created position. New baby and new position in the same year would be awesome! (Especially with a raise helping with day care costs...)
August 2017 - baby boy
September 2019 - FET cancelled due to thin lining (tried pills)
November 2019 - FET cancelled due to thin lining (tried patches)
February 2020 - FET February 6, EDD 10/25/2020
I was a bit stunned when I get my BFP. DH was not. He told me that I was such a B@9#& that he just had a feeling. Thanks honey. Just what I wanted to hear.
DD: 10/23/2012
#teamzoey #defeatdipg #pumpkinpatch2012
The following month I ended up having the same type of spotting and cramping; I thought that I was just having another weird period. I told DH that we would have to try again. That week we celebrated Thanksgiving with DH's side of the family and something strange happened. DH's grandmother randomly gave me a bunch of maternity pants. She didn't know that we were trying, but maybe, she was giving us a hint that we should try to have a baby. (I didn't know what to think, but at least, they were cute maternity pants.)
Well, I decided to take a pregnancy test the next morning since I had a whole pile of maternity pants now, and I got my BFP! I was absolutely shocked. I thought that it was going to be negative, and I wasn't even really sure why I decided to take the pregnancy test that morning. I thought that I was having my period. The spotting and cramping ended up only lasting a few days. I thought that implantation bleeding and cramping was not a real thing, but I was wrong. I told DH later that day, and he didn't act surprised at all. He said, "I knew that you were pregnant. You have been really emotional."