How are all my first time pregnant ladies doing?

brooklynmama718 · February 2017

What are you all experiencing? What an extra exciting, yet crazy time!

Sirius37 · February 2017

I has suspicions of feeling little kicks over the past week or two, but I know they're happen ingredients now at 20 weeks (despite the anterior placenta). DH can't feel them yet but I look forward to them now. We did our A/S yesterday; baby looks healthy and we are still team green so I feel like a hurdle has been crossed. The Bump is definitely beginning to draw attention now too!

CapricaAndrea · February 2017

I think that's the funniest part of this so far, how many people are asking me how I feel every time they see me. I'm sure I've done the same, but it amuses me that during the time I felt nauseated/tired all the time no one knew or noticed, and now that I feel fine everyone is constantly asking

I'm at 19+4 and have been feeling kicks for awhile, though it took me a few weeks to be sure they were actually kicks. I lucked out one day very easy in week 18 that baby was especially active to the point where it couldn't possibly have been anything else, and now that I know what it feels like, I'm able to identify it now even though baby is moving less than that one day.

Mostly right now I'm getting overwhelmed by trying to figure out what stroller we should put on our registry. I had a shortlist of ones that I wanted to try, but DH is 6'3" and 2/3 of them were immediately ruled out because they're too short for him to use

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2017

My placenta is posterior so I've been feeling lots of movement since close to 18 weeks. Currently 23 weeks today! @NYCProf I can relate to your experience of waking up each morning and needing to remind yourself that you're pregnant! I feel like I momentarily forget as well.

I went to my first prenatal yoga class today, and it was awesome. There were other women there ranging from 10 weeks to 37 weeks along, so I felt like I was right smack in the middle. It felt good to do all those poses and stretches, and I anticipate I'll be quite sore tomorrow from not stretching in SO long! I plan to go back on future Saturdays for more.

zseirecarg · February 2017

@wifeinraleigh28 @NYCProf I too wake up and think "oh yeah, I'm pregnant"

Definitely feel a bit overwhelmed on all the "to-do's" but I am slowly researching item by item and checking things off my list.

@CapricaAndrea I too get more questions now on how I am feeling - when I feel fine, other than feeling like my belly is growing like crazy. I've been feeling lots of low movements since around week 18, pretty consistently each day.

alm52386 · February 2017

Being pregnant is still so surreal to me. I listen to the heartbeat at home once a week or so and I'm like oh, there's a human in there. Hoping it will feel more real after the anatomy scan and knowing the sex and baby having a name!!!

I also hate being asked how I feel alllll the time! Especially people I see or talk to often! If someone I haven't talked to in awhile asks or someone who has just found out I'm pregnant then it doesn't bother me as much. Mostly MIL and my grandma ask me at least once a week.

swanbrooner · February 2017

I'm 22 weeks. I am also trying to wrap my head about how much bigger I'm going to grow. I definitely feel that my center of gravity has changed, and I've got a basketball belly. I'm short with a short torso. I'm not sure where she's going to go or grow from here.

I had my first completely irrational, hormonal pregnancy meltdown yesterday. I felt completely out of control of my emotions. I could recognize that my thoughts and feelings weren't valid, but couldn't help sobbing and going into a spiral of anxiety.

DH and I were out adding a few things to our registry last night, and he was questioning a lot of my choices, even though I've researched items and asked lots of mom friends what their must haves were. I was annoyed with him because he knows I'm a planner and I'm not really an "over the top" person like he was implying. He just couldn't understand why I was registering for a swing when our pack n play we already purchased has a removable, vibrating bouncer.

From that, I went to thinking that if I did what he wanted and stuck to the bouncer, then somehow the baby would be extra fussy and would fight sleep.

Then, he would be annoyed by her fussiness/crankiness and would somehow resent or hate our baby.

I knew this whole thought process was so ridiculous, but I still sobbed over it.

Whoaaaa. Sorry for the novel. I guess I needed to FTM vent.

alm52386 · February 2017

@swanbrooner my DH said the SAME thing about a swing! I've worked with babies for over 2 years now and I said TRUST ME. We NEED a swing! He was concerned about space so we just picked out one that is smaller. We also have the pack n play with the vibrating bouncer and I bought a used rock n play!

swanbrooner · February 2017

@alm52386 At least I'm not alone! I want as many reasonable options as I can that will make this kid happy.

HopefulNoob · February 2017

Same as OP. 22 weeks along and 39 years old. It's awesome so far and such a new time in our 12 year marriage. Also trying to get used to all the extra attention at work. Surreal indeed! Loving him bumping around in there all the time. My favorite!

My only complaint is is that I don't exercise in the same volume/mileage as before. I just can't do the distances without constantly having to pee which is fine if I'm in a private area but most of my routes are too populated for nature breaks. Still active and feeling good but it wasn't how I envisioned it! Feeling like a bum, but man having that pressure on the bladder hurts bad.

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2017

Y'all are making me think I need to add a swing back to our registry! I removed it after my in laws bought us a Nuna Leaf. I just didn't think we needed yet another thing to put the baby in (we also already have a vibrating bouncer and are registering for the pack n play with the removable vibrating rocker. I just don't know where we'll put another big baby item, haha.

amberp1528 · February 2017

Swings are a must I worked in a nursery for years and they were life savers! They are battery killers though so I am looking for one to plug in but they are hard to find.

As as for me I am feeling ok sleepy a lot of time and I seem to always be sore! My back or my feet or my tummy!

meilay · February 2017

I'm honestly in a freaking the F out phase right now. I'm freaking out over how I'm going to grow more (really just scared about my fibroids trying to crowd baby out), freaking out over labor and recovery, freaking out over my relationship with DH changing, freaking out over just my entire life never being the same again. Underneath this I know it's all worth it. I know I'll adapt and my marriage will adjust. I know people do this all the time and I can do it too. But on the surface it just feels very real right now and I can't wrap my head around all the changes.

mkrel · February 2017

@meilay I'm with you 100%. I can't wait to meet this little girl, but I wish I could fast forward through the rest of my pregnancy so I could start working on the challenges ahead. I am not loving the fact that I feel like I have zero control of my body. I'm also worried about what impact this new life will have on our currently very easy and low stress relationship. I just want to know what our "new normal" will look like once she arrives I guess. I know that I should try to enjoy being pregnant, but I'm not a fan at this point. I also remind myself almost daily that everyone gets through this, but I almost feel insecure and needy, which is not like me.
Aside from those concerns, I picked out a paint color for the nursery this weekend and I'm very excited to get started on the project. I also put down a hold for daycare this past week, so I'm feeling like I am at least tackling the things that I CAN control at this point. I also very much appreciate the support from all of you ladies and knowing that I can come here for questions, vents, etc!
As far as the discussion above, should I be getting a swing AND a bouncer?

zseirecarg · February 2017

@meilay I feel you - as @MKRLTX said - tackle one thing at a time that you can control. Checking something off the list is very satisfying if I do say so myself. We will figure it all out!

meilay · February 2017

@graceriesz @MKRLTX Thanks for that advice. I do like crossing things off lists!

jgil85 · February 2017

I'm doing good but I've been having moments of panic, like what did we get ourselves into?! I keep telling my dh that we can't just pick up and leave for a weekend trip anymore. It's really tripping me out.

Oh and I'm craving margaritas like crazy and I can't wait until this little guy gets here so we can go out and mama can have a margarita. Im also worrying about the baby so much lately. Like when I get up in the middle of the night he's always kicking like crazy. But last night he wasn't and I laid in bed for an hour tossing and turning to try and get him to move. I guess the lifelong worrying about him has already started.

HopefulNoob · February 2017

Yep. Worried since day one with mine and now I am soo sick with a terrible cough and he isn't moving as much today. Did I cough him up in my sleep!? Lol. Ahhh!

beckij34 · February 2017

I'm ok. I haven't felt him move in a couple of days. My doctor gave me the options of going into labor & delivery to be checked out or calling his office in the morning for an appointment. Ugh, I wish little man would just kick the crap out of me. I'm waiting for my mom to get home to see if she'll go with me.

alm52386 · February 2017

@MKRLTX yes, I would highly recommend a swing and bouncer! If I could only have one I would take the swing! Some of them actually disconnect from the swing part and become a bouncer or a rocker.

https://www.gracobaby.com/products/pages/graco-duetconnect-lx-with-multi-direction-baby-swing-asher.aspx

beckij34 · February 2017

Well I went to l&d and he was in there just chilling. Got to hear his heartbeat and him kicking. I feel better now. They said in a couple of weeks they'll have me start counting his kicks every couple of hours. Also, I have an awesome mom!!

MithK · February 2017

Freaking out about anything and everything! I thought I'd be so much calmer once the first trimester passed....turns out...not so much lol. I'm at 23 weeks and I haven't quite felt anything that I can confidently say is the LO's movement, which is terribly infuriating! I keep waking up in the middle of the night to every sensation, wondering if that was movement. I know everyone says that all mothers go through things differently, but this totally sucks! And then I had the realisation, that I'm probably gonna find a million other things to worry about once LO joins us lol! I'm totally gonna be one of those mothers that just smothers their child lol *control freak alert*

LOTON01 · February 2017

I'm 20 weeks today. In the boat of not loving everyone asking how I fell. Although I'm the office manager for a doctors office so I get asked about 30 times a day. I always stay super positive responses. Sometimes I want to tell the 7am patient I wish you'd come in at night so include sleep more. Haha

I feel like all I hear is twins? But your so small.

Our registry is done and I keep stalking it every though our invites haven't gone out so no one has bought anything.

wife-and-mommy · February 2017

I'm struggling the past few days. I'm 23 weeks and I've been fighting a cold. I suppose I ate too much super bowl food and then coughed too hard bc I threw up tonight. It is such a bummer to feel sick all the time. Add insomnia and some terrible acne and red splotches on my face and I just feel meh.
I'm still very excited to be pregnant and I'm looking forward to meeting my LO. Pregnancy has just included a lot more cons than I was prepared for. I needed to admit it to somebody.

brooklynmama718 · February 2017

People keep asking me how I feel, and I'm starting to find it annoying that I keep saying nauseous! I've been saying that since October! I'll be 23 weeks on Thursday. Moms keep telling me to appreciate this moment because I'll miss it once she's here. That gives me anxiety to feel the need to relish every moment, yet I feel nauseous, all day, every day!

berg · February 2017

I'm 21 weeks, so halfway through, depending on how this little one decides to play it. I'm so relieved that so many of you have feelings similar to my own. Pregnancy is a lot different than I expected it to be. Last night watching the Super Bowl (Gaga in particular), I told DH, I just want to be skinny. I'm not huge, it's just a lot to handle and come to terms with. From Jan-Feb I gained half of my total pregnancy weight so far. It's not more than I should be or anything, it's just overwhelming for me to handle. Especially coupled with the idea that I'm only going to get bigger. I don't feel glowing or beautiful. I just feel big. Also running, something I enjoy, is more difficult. I get winded so easily, I have to walk more than ever during runs. I can't imagine how I'm going to manage once I'm bigger. I just keep telling myself to take this one day at a time. The end result will be more than worth it.

mkrel · February 2017

@NYCProf I love that you said in your last post that you said you still plan on doing weekend getaways etc, just with your little girl. DH and I have the same mindset and I am SO SICK of people telling me that we won't be able to. The person that is surprising me the most with these comments is my Mom. I am the youngest and I went on my first vacation to FL at 6 weeks old. They also took us on much longer trips like east coast to Hawaii while I was still under 2 and throughout my life. My parents never traveled alone, they always took all three of us so it is making me crazy that she's telling me that my expectations are unrealistic. I get that our vacations will be different and we won't be taking a one year old out to super nice restaurants, but we fully intend to continue doing the things we love and including our new little travel buddy.
It has even been said to me about things like getting my eyelashes done, which I do every couple of weeks. Like my plan for my husband to pick her up from daycare at 530 instead of me getting her at 5 so I can go to my 45 min appt every other week is some far fethced idea. Or I won't be able to work out. To which I tell people my plan is over my lunch break and they tell me I'll be too tired. So I'm just supposed to completely let myself go because we have a child?
I guess overall I'm just already stressed, so I don't need people telling me that I'm not going to be able to do the things that are important to us when they have no clue what our situation is and no one even knows what our LOs personality will be like. She is so wanted by us and we are more than willing to make changes to our lifestyle for her as needed, but the doom and gloom is getting really old.
Thank you for letting me vent!

sejica · February 2017

@mithk I think we might be the same person

I got all worked up last night thinking I had overdone it with all the recent house work and party prep and clean up (4 days in a row of working to exhaustion).

lmudra · February 2017

LOTON01 said:

Our registry is done and I keep stalking it every though our invites haven't gone out so no one has bought anything.

Be warned- even after your invited go out most people won't shop off the registry until a couple of days (or the day of) before you shower. Just didn't want you to worry as you shower got closer!

sevenn · February 2017

Doing okay here, 20 weeks tomorrow. We really haven't begun any preparations yet. Our house is in a major reno (read: gutted) so no nursery planning or anything like that, just trying to keep forward progress so maybe even we will have a room that LO can stay in come June. I did request a breast pump and am starting to play with a registry... we just have no space to put anything and won't for some time. Craziness here!! The project has been going on for a looooong time, so this babe is sort of like an ultimatum too

trying to have faith!

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2017

I'm so sorry that so many of you aren't feeling well! This is seriously the WORST cold/flu season. Everyone I know is either sick or has gotten sick, myself included. I've been sick 3 times this pregnancy, but fortunately the last time didn't last too long. I hope you all feel better soon and don't get sick again!

I'm also in team freak out about EVERYTHING. @beckij34 glad that everything is ok with the little guy! I have days that are much less move-y than others, and I always assume the worst. Rationally, I know this is normal, but my brain is not so rational.

Right now I'm freaking out about the antibiotics I've been taking for a week now for an infection on my foot. The infection is much better but I only just started worrying about the effects the antibiotics could be having on the baby. The meds are a category B... ER doctor said they are safe and so did my pharmacist, but now I'm kicking myself for not running it by my OB before I started taking it. Not much I can do about it now but I'm still worried.

zseirecarg · February 2017

@wifeinraleigh28 I'm sure your better off taking the antibiotics to clear the infection then not taking them and the infection spreading. When I had a sinus infection I asked our OB about antibiotics and they said category B (remember B like baby) was OK if you needed something. I would call your OB though if you are still questioning it. Hope everything clears up quick!

mkrel · February 2017

@wifeinraleigh28 If it makes you feel any better, I have to take a category c med every day for my asthma and my OB is not the slightest bit concerned. Hope your infection goes away!!

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2017

Thank you @graceriesz and @MKRLTX! I did call my OB today and spoke with an advice nurse who said it is fine. So I feel much better now. I actually take a category C med everyday as well for my autoimmune disorder (that both my rheumatologist and MFM said is safe to take during pregnancy), so you'd think I'd be just fine with a category B! There is no method to my madness

lmc929 · February 2017

CapricaAndrea said:
Mostly right now I'm getting overwhelmed by trying to figure out what stroller we should put on our registry. I had a shortlist of ones that I wanted to try, but DH is 6'3" and 2/3 of them were immediately ruled out because they're too short for him to use

Dh is 6'2" and we have a BOB - he's never complained. The handle also tilts up and down. @CapricaAndrea

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2017

@CapricaAndrea We ended up getting the City Mini GT. It's a good height but also a good size (as in not too big) for running errands. Also so easy to fold up and great maneuverability. When DH and I first went to try out strollers we were set on getting a BOB, but just found them to be too big for everyday use.

beckij34 · February 2017

Thanks ladies. It was scary thinking something was wrong with him. He did start moving around more that night after I got back home from L&D.

BellaO21 · February 2017

anyone decide on a baby carrier yet?? I thought we had decided on the Ergobaby 360 4 position with the cool air mesh.... but then I saw the Lillebaby 4 seasons has the same cooling mesh liner and it's less expensive! Plus it goes up to 45lbs instead of the 33. Although I think at that weight DH would be the one carrying her!

CapricaAndrea · February 2017

@BellaO21 I got an Ergobaby carrier from a friend who also got it secondhand, so I was set on using that until I discovered that it's a counterfeit (aka no safety testing whatsoever). I haven't decided if I will get an authentic one instead or something else, just wanted to warn you that if you end up buying secondhand, be wary as apparently counterfeit baby carriers is a huge problem.

ladylolly89 · February 2017

BellaO21 said:

anyone decide on a baby carrier yet?? I thought we had decided on the Ergobaby 360 4 position with the cool air mesh.... but then I saw the Lillebaby 4 seasons has the same cooling mesh liner and it's less expensive! Plus it goes up to 45lbs instead of the 33. Although I think at that weight DH would be the one carrying her!

We are planning to get Lillebaby All Seasons carriers for both our boys this summer. I am kind of torn between Lillebaby and Tula, but with the Lillebaby they can stay in the same carrier from newborn-toddlerhood. I may cave and get a Tula for my soon to be toddler and a Lillebaby for my newborn though.

brooklynmama718 · February 2017

Ergo 360 with cool mesh with infant insert! I finally finished my registry!! Everyone said it's amazing! I had originally added the Bjorn, but changed it.

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