@kap1988 yeah, it's stupid. Even with me saying we're not sharing the name, my mom of all people keeps saying "so are you going to tell me yet?" what part of "we're not telling ANYONE until after he's born" do you not understand?! People get so pushy and seem to forget all boundaries exist when you're pregnant.
If I have to answer the question, "How are you feeling?" one more time, I'm going to have my first real crazy pregnant lady moment. Like seriously, I'm 36 weeks pregnant. How do you think I'm feeling?! I'm tired, I'm crabby, and I hurt.
I am also sick and tired of being asked my due date by the same people over and over again. If they're so damn interested, they can write it on their calendars.
And perhaps even more irritating is the question, "So are you excited about the baby?" If I say yes, I get to listen to someone prattle on about the joys of motherhood. If I say no (which I only did so I could see what would happen), I get to listen to someone ramble on and on about how the first few months are tough but I'll get the hang of it. You would think that it would be obvious that I'm excited about this baby. I just hate discussing this stuff.
Why do people always have to ask these stupid questions? Do they really think that they can't talk to me like a normal person just because I'm pregnant? I have a life outside of what's going on in my uterus.
@kap1988 I made the mistake of telling people what we're naming our son and I have regretted it ever since. I constantly hear my future mother in law carrying on and on about her excitement about "Baby Dean" and it is almost enough to make me want to pick a different name (needless to say, I can't stand the woman). And of course there's always the people that don't like the name and think that you care about their opinions.
Because of this, I told my fiance that when we have another child, we aren't telling anyone except for maybe one or two close friends what name we've picked out. We are going to sit and think of the stupidest names imaginable and tell people that that's what we're naming the baby.
@kap1988@npaulie@ShannonJ96 I feel that people take it as a personal insult if you will not tell them the baby(ies) names.
My mom and my MIL are the only ones that know. My mom knows because she was at the anatomy scan when we were throwing around names and came to agree upon them (after months of arguing). His mom knows because we decided it was only fair that we share with her.
My grandma refused to talk to my mother for several days (they live together...) because my mom refused to tell her the names!!! Eventually my mom started playing dumb, saying that we changed our minds and weren't sure of the names.
Mostly, I don't want anyone's opinions on the names (except for y'all! I've posted in the names thread). Since we are not team green, I want there to be some surprise for my friends and family when they are born!
@direwolfmini yeah, people do take offense. I just stopped caring, because pregnant. Haha. My mom is the reason I'm not telling anyone because I got sick of hearing her say she through the names we were thinking of were weird. I've learned my lesson for next time to just say "we can't decide on a name"
I need to vent this one out... SO had the stomach flu yesterday, a 24 hour bug or something. I got him water, a popsicle, left him a bowl of our neighbours homemade soup on the counter and I grabbed the crackers and put it right beside the bowl. I took DD to the store to get Gatorade in different flavours cause I didn't know which he would prefer. I forgot bread and we had none left. Anyway I wanted to take DD out of the house instead of sitting there listening to him being sick all day, and of course to avoid catching the flu myself so we went to my sister's about a 20 minute drive away for supper. On our way back I woke DD up from the car to take her into Walmart to grab bread, apple sauce, and ginger ale. Fast forward to this morning.... He gets super upset and angry because I left him here for dead. Come on, does that sound like I left him for dead? I'm apparently the worst. He was genuinely mad that I left. When I threw in that he's a grown man and he can manage with what I left him with his actual response was "No.. when I have the flu I'm not a grown man, what if I choked?" I can't even. I actually cried because I've been so stressed and didn't want to feel like a horrible person when I was just trying to do my best for all 3 of us. My blood pressure spiked to 145/94 .. took an hour to get back down to a normal number which made me angry at him for not just thank you for the small things I did do. ( I Definitely didn't go above and beyond but he's feeling much better today and he didn't die so.... Why argue?)
@Burrberrymum Its like a man cold on steroids. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, plus the blood pressure thing is dangerous! He should be ashamed of himself!
@direwolfmini People do get offended. Its like refusing to tell people the gender of the baby, or having people ask the gender when you don't know (I had tons of fun with that. Didn't get to find out until I was nearly 30 weeks). But, honestly, most women get really offended when others criticize the name. I say, its better to offend other people than stress yourself out by opening yourself up to everyone else's opinions.
When you tell people that you haven't decided yet, do they tend to start making suggestions for names? I was fortunate to not have a lot of trouble with that, but I know people like to give suggestions. I watched it happen way too often with my cousin. She got to the point where she would just end the conversation the instant someone brought up names.
@Burrberrymum omg, I'm so sorry but that just cracked me up! What a big ol baby, saying you left him for dead. What more could he want? Did he want you to babysit him and spoon feed him the soup? I'm sorry he fussed at you and got your blood pressure up, though. Try not to stress about it. He survived. He'll be okay.
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@Burrberrymum ugh! I'm mentally smacking him upside the head for you. Seriously what else could you have done? "what if i choke" really!? how would you give him the heimlich with your big ol belly anyways... men!
Team "we can't decide on a name" !! I have no shame in using that excuse as an answer for everyone who asks. **even though we still haven't agreed 100%** if we did have a name forged in stone I still wouldn't tell!!
@Burrberrymum awwww, lady! You poor thing! Definitely sounds like you went above and beyond and are trying to take care of all FOUR of you at once. Stupid man flu is THE. WORST. Ive had so many colds this winter--as I complain often about on here--but I'd rather be sick myself then have my husband sick! What babies!
Thanks ladies your comments actually put a smile on my face tonight! I couldn't even handle the what if I choked comment from him.. would I have even heard it while DD tantrums all day from being cooped up? Spoon feed him lol right? I don't understand what more he wanted me here for. He just wanted me here to be here.
@Burrberrymum It sounds like you already went above and beyond! If my husband was sick I would not have done any of that lol I have no sympathy for him!
Man cold just hit our house! Wish me luck this weekend. If I were your SO @Burrberrymum I would be super happy that you entertained DD all day so that I could rest in peace!
On the topic of names, we haven't shared with anyone either. I am really excited to announce it when he is born because he will be named after my grandfather, so I can't wait to see the reaction from said grandfather and my mom!
@Burrberrymum ugh! I'm mentally smacking him upside the head for you. Seriously what else could you have done? "what if i choke" really!? how would you give him the heimlich with your big ol belly anyways... men!
This is totally beside the point but... I think there IS a way for a pregnant woman to administer the Heimlich. We were told in our first aid class with my first pregnancy but I can't remember! And if a pregnant woman is choking, she should be up against a wall and someone pushes on her sternum. I am nervous now and need to look these up.
My mom got so good at pretending that she didn't know the names, that she actually forgot the names! When we were talking about them today she acted surprised like she had never heard them before. haha
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I am also sick and tired of being asked my due date by the same people over and over again. If they're so damn interested, they can write it on their calendars.
And perhaps even more irritating is the question, "So are you excited about the baby?" If I say yes, I get to listen to someone prattle on about the joys of motherhood. If I say no (which I only did so I could see what would happen), I get to listen to someone ramble on and on about how the first few months are tough but I'll get the hang of it. You would think that it would be obvious that I'm excited about this baby. I just hate discussing this stuff.
Why do people always have to ask these stupid questions? Do they really think that they can't talk to me like a normal person just because I'm pregnant? I have a life outside of what's going on in my uterus.
I made the mistake of telling people what we're naming our son and I have regretted it ever since. I constantly hear my future mother in law carrying on and on about her excitement about "Baby Dean" and it is almost enough to make me want to pick a different name (needless to say, I can't stand the woman). And of course there's always the people that don't like the name and think that you care about their opinions.
Because of this, I told my fiance that when we have another child, we aren't telling anyone except for maybe one or two close friends what name we've picked out. We are going to sit and think of the stupidest names imaginable and tell people that that's what we're naming the baby.
My mom and my MIL are the only ones that know. My mom knows because she was at the anatomy scan when we were throwing around names and came to agree upon them (after months of arguing). His mom knows because we decided it was only fair that we share with her.
My grandma refused to talk to my mother for several days (they live together...) because my mom refused to tell her the names!!! Eventually my mom started playing dumb, saying that we changed our minds and weren't sure of the names.
Mostly, I don't want anyone's opinions on the names (except for y'all! I've posted in the names thread). Since we are not team green, I want there to be some surprise for my friends and family when they are born!
People do get offended. Its like refusing to tell people the gender of the baby, or having people ask the gender when you don't know (I had tons of fun with that. Didn't get to find out until I was nearly 30 weeks). But, honestly, most women get really offended when others criticize the name. I say, its better to offend other people than stress yourself out by opening yourself up to everyone else's opinions.
When you tell people that you haven't decided yet, do they tend to start making suggestions for names? I was fortunate to not have a lot of trouble with that, but I know people like to give suggestions. I watched it happen way too often with my cousin. She got to the point where she would just end the conversation the instant someone brought up names.
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@Burrberrymum awwww, lady! You poor thing! Definitely sounds like you went above and beyond and are trying to take care of all FOUR of you at once. Stupid man flu is THE. WORST.
Ive had so many colds this winter--as I complain often about on here--but I'd rather be sick myself then have my husband sick! What babies!
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On the topic of names, we haven't shared with anyone either. I am really excited to announce it when he is born because he will be named after my grandfather, so I can't wait to see the reaction from said grandfather and my mom!