TTCAL Weekly Check-In Week of 1/30/17

SoonToBeMommaHowe · January 2017

@MimoCa hopefully you can enjoy your two days off. I'm sure days off are probably few and far between for you!

@sp128 if you get a chance to see FGL do it! That may have been one of the best concerts I've been to

@TScalei hugs to you

Hope you're feeling less blah soon.

1) Twin MC May '15, TTC since August '15

2) Benched due to Zika exposure, IUI #1 in Feb

3) Rant - my first benched cycle has to be insanely long, of course. And FF isn't even sure when I ovulated. I had cd24 and then today it moved to cd26. Rave - IUI #1 should happen during school break so I can be nice and relaxed when it happens.

4)I would've loved to see Michael Jackson! But now I'd love to see Casting Crowns

SoonToBeMommaHowe · January 2017

Anyone have any thoughts on an O day?

vlagrl29 · January 2017

I just had the tiniest amount of spotting today on my underwear so I'm assuming AF will be here soon. I was always a pre spotter for a few days before AF showed. This will be my first real period since early December. CP happened first week of Jan.

RiverSong15 · January 2017

@SoontobeMommaHowe Sorry for the long cycle. I could see either CD24 or CD26. I bet FF is saying CD26 because of the fertile CM that day. Have you tried the different detector settings in FF? I'm guessing the FAM setting would pick CD24. Either way, I agree that you definitely ovulated and should be on to IUI#1 cycle in two-ish weeks. Woot!

@Mack2342 and @nalex420 Waiting definitely sucks. FX it goes quickly for you.

@SP128 You still have plenty of time to O. FX for a positive OPK soon. Also, your birthday weekend sounds fabulous.

@reneeannemm My H loves Sufjan Stevens, especially the Carrie and Lowell album. We even saw him in concert (although I can't remember which album). I'm hit or miss. I like his older stuff, but the discordant music with electronic lights felt light an assault on my eyeballs and ear drums. H better appreciate my attendance as the act of love it was... Lol.

@TScalei Sorry for the blah feelings. I recommend cuddling your adorable pup as a remedy.

@vlagrl29 I got off of FB after my first MC because of all the triggers. I've actually gone back to FB in the last couple months precisely because of politics. I don't want to bring politics on this board too much, since this is a safe space for so many women, although I could rant for a long time. Suffice it to say, my husband is an immigrant - he's here on a green card. Thankfully he's not affected by the recent ban, but it made it painfully clear how easily his status could be ripped away. I have a personal stake in how the next four years play out, and I live with daily fear about my family's safety and security. I've even questioned whether we should bring a child into this environment, that's how great my fear is. Seeing the activism on FB makes me feel less alone. I'll get off my soapbox now.

@justsuzie Sorry for the insensitive and ignorant co-workers. I loved your response though.

@amberruka I'm glad your back is feeling better!

@hdaley That is so incredibly ridiculous of your work to say that. GL with looking for another job. I'd be doing that too.

@pumpkin0913 Congrats on fitting in exercise! I should go to the gym more, but even walking my dog is a stress reliever.

@ladipale I'm so so incredibly sorry for your loss and to see you back here. I'm glad you are surrounded by so much love and support. Biggest hugs.

@Uhlease13 I'm planning on testing Saturday too! I'm feeling the itch to test on Friday, but I'm trying to hold off. Seeing so many BFNs the last two cycles sucked so bad, I want to avoid that guessing game.

@NYTino24 I feel you on TTGP. I lurk there occasionally, but between the drive bys and the super naive newbies, I just get too upset.

@MimoCa I hope business picks up for you soon. You deserve to catch a break in life.

@babypi Feel better soon!

vlagrl29 · January 2017

@RiverSong15- I'm sorry you are put in a situation where you have to even consider worrying about that. I understand that people want to be involved but I guess I just don't want to see it 24/7.

RiverSong15 · January 2017

@vlagrl29 Yeah, my biggest fear is that we will get pregnant, and then my husband won't be allowed to stay in the country. FB does get overwhelming. And I do try to limit how much time I spend there. And my Instagram is almost all puppies all the time. Watching puppies play is a great stress reliever

justsuzie · January 2017

@RiverSong15 Without getting into politics... I agree that it is refreshing to see more people politically active. Hopefully the next four years will promote more people to get active in our democracy and do something to make a change. I'm joining our Planned Parenthood march in February here in CT. It sickens me to think that reproductive rights are in jeopardy based on the opinions of ultra conservative white men. ANd, my dad is a naturalized immigrant. He moved to America for the American Dream and to think that others aren't afforded that same opportunity because they are 40 years late is very sad.

ladipale · January 2017

Thank you all for the well wishes. I know this is a great group, I just wish I wasn't here, again.

Has anyone else suffered a loss after 14 weeks? My milk has come in which just adds insult to the whole ordeal.

I'm back at work today, kind of. Just for a few hours - interacted with a few students but heading back home soon.

@RiverSong15 - I am also on FB as a distraction. I am a climate change scientist so this administration scares me in a different way than it does for you, but still frightening. i can't sit idly and not say stuff so i post about climate change and science all the time. Also - considering I just had a D&E, which is technically an abortion - the woman's rights stuff is just awful.

RiverSong15 · January 2017

@ladipale I'm so sorry for the added insult to injury. I think there are a few women here with later term losses.

My H and I are both scientists, and I do a lot of environmental work. So we share the same fears about climate change. Immigration is just the most personal issue for me, but I definitely have worries outside of that issue. Hugs for you this week

ladipale · January 2017

@RiverSong15 - totally get it. many of my colleagues are immigrants. Its inevitable in the world of higher education and science - brining the best minds together requires a broad population. I fear for my colleagues and their families and I'm sorry you have to have that fear for your own family. I'm lucky enough to be in California so at least some of my science is protected...

MimoCa · January 2017

@RiverSong15 my DH is on a green card too, that has not arrived yet. Of course. We are planning to get him to do his citizenship ASAP and I'm sure you guys should plan to just in case. My favorite part is his removal of conditional status has been pending for 2 years now and his stamp is expiring next week but I saw online as long as case is pending he is still in legal status. But silly DH says if he gets his green card revoke he'll go back to his country, start a business and come back in the 4 years after lol

rklinge0 · February 2017

I feel weird responding because technically not trying to conceive anytime soon. But @ladipale I lactated after my m/c but was only in my first trimester. I had bf and had stopped about 6 months before.

SoonToBeMommaHowe · February 2017

@ladipale, my loss(es) was at 18.5 weeks but my doctor gave me lots of instructions on how to avoid my milk coming in and I was very fortunate that it didn't. I'm really sorry that you are having the constant reminder. If you have any questions regarding the late term loss id be happy to try to help.

MimoCa · February 2017

@ladipale that is terrible. Sorry you are going through that after everything you've been through.

ladipale · February 2017

@SoontoBeMommaHowe - thank you. I wonder if my milk coming in has to do that I already have kids so my body knows what to do. i always over produced so i'm not surprised, just betrayed more than anything. its hard to feel postpartum without the baby. i'm having all the night sweats and everything like i do when i give birth....

Mommyamp · February 2017

1. Fairly new still. Just had my 2nd mc on 1/6.
2. WTO and it's killing me. I just want a normal cycle so I can get back on this wagon.
3. I decided to start exercising again and focusing on getting on shape as a way to distract myself from all the waiting. I'm ok weightwise but good grief my.muscles are mush.
4. I honestly don't know. My kids adore The Piano Guys so maybe them.

SeriouslySirius · February 2017

1. I'm new here. Just had our first loss starting Sunday, confirmed Monday at 5 weeks. Our bfp was on our 8th cycle of TTC. I'm 27, DH is 28 ****TW**** we have a 4.5 year old DS****END*TW**** I'll probably be p&g today since I'll be in meetings all day.

2. Status -WTO, TWW, Benched No idea, possibly WTO but meeting with our doctor next week so I'll know more then.

3. ****TW****DS stayed in his own bed the past 2 nights! The past few months he has been waking up between 3am-5am and coming into our bed. I'm thankful he goes back to sleep with us, but it's so much more comfortable without him!****END*TW****

4. GTKY: If you could see any musician or band perform live, who would it be and why?
I don't know. I'm not a huge fan of overly loud music and being so close to people!

TScalei · February 2017

@Riversong15 - Im sorry you have to worry about that on top of everything else. But I do agree the activism on fb makes me feel better and gives me some hope.

@ladipale - Im sorry you are feeling postpartum on top of everything else. I hope you begin to feel more like yourself soon.

@SeriouslySirius - Im so sorry for your loss. Welcome to our Board.

NYTino24 · February 2017

I am so sorry to see you here, @SeriouslySirius!

NYTino24 · February 2017

You guys, I am all sorts of confused. First FF has CH on CD8, then 11, then 19, and now back to 11. WTF?! Way to mess with me. I know I should just wait and see what happens to the temp tomorrow.

jen83mn · February 2017

@NYTino24

I'm inclined to think you ovulated on Day 19 because of your major temp shift on Day 20 and the fact you had positive OPKs two days prior. Your pre-O temps in that case look similar to mine and my temps always rise to 98 degrees or higher after O (like yours did on Day 20). I typically O on CD 19. If that's the case, you'd be on DPO 6 today.

Perhaps your body was gearing up to O around CD 11 when you had positive OPKs, but then didn't?

So frustrating when it messes with you like that!

RiverSong15 · February 2017

@NYTino24 I think FF is seriously confused. I don't think it handles multiple surges well. CM, OPKs, and temps all point to CD19. That's what I'd go with, if I were you.

Edit: have you tried any of the other detector settings? FAM or research? They give me different answers sometimes when the Advanced detector is being weird.

Also, not to feed the crazy, but you can always put in a dummy high temp tomorrow to see what FF does. Not that I've ever done that around O time before...

NYTino24 · February 2017

@RiverSong15 I already did that. If it's 97.4 or higher, the CH stay. If lower, they move back to CD19.

RiverSong15 · February 2017

@NYTino24 Weird. I think FF is crazy. I'd bet money on CD19 for you.

BelhurstBride · February 2017

@ladipale, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am also here after losing #3 at 16w. I didn't have to deal with my milk coming in, but I did have the rest of the PP stuff. The night sweats were the worst. *TW LC mentioned* I wonder if they're from receiving fluids? I had them with DD1, and got fluids. I didn't have them with DD2, and didn't have fluids. *end TW*

I'm currently benched. My post op appointment with my OB is tomorrow. I never thought to ask her about TTC when we learned of the MC and discussed the D&C. I don't imagine she wouldn't recommend TTC. Other than age (I'll be 35 in a few weeks, DH is almost 40) we're healthy, active people... but I'm still nervous. I'm also still waiting for AF. Who knew that after months of seeing red blood and wishing it away I'd be wishing to see it now.

My rant/rave is one in the same. Because of the SCH I had been benched from working out for months. I've been back at the gym-hard- for a few weeks now. It feels great. Today's kettlebell class kicked my ass and I'm exhausted. But today I learned my kettlebell instructor is pregnant. My BFF (who takes the class with me) found out a few weeks ago and waited to tell me. I didn't have the heart to ask when she's due because- judging by her just starting to appear bloated belly- I have a pretty good idea.

vlagrl29 · February 2017

sorry you are here as well @BelhurstBride while I had the spotting with my CP they put me on pelvic rest and it was so hard for me not doing yoga so I got back into it about a week after my CP was over and it felt so good.

splashmountain · February 2017

@SeriouslySirius I'm so sorry for your loss.

SeriouslySirius · February 2017

Thanks for the welcome everyone! It was good to get back into things today. I took Monday and Tuesday off so it was my first day this week. I work in a small office with DH so it's nice that I can rearrange my schedule when needed. I would have gotten nothing done had I come in. I was so out of it. But today's a good day, and I'll take that. Besides the cold outside. That could have stayed away but I should expect that. The 50's we have been having are not normal for this time of year, but they will also be back this weekend!

@NYTino24 I would say CD 19. I'm not great at interpreting charts since I'm pretty new to it but if you were only charting on paper you would assume 19 with the temp spike and return of + opk

@BelhurstBride sorry about being blindsided with the instructors news. The day of my loss I logged onto FB to let a group of friends know and the first thing that popped up was a friends announcement. So now we are literally the only married ones in that group that's not pregnant right now. It sucks being blindsided by things and then having that constant reminder there all the time.

SP128 · February 2017

@SeriouslySirius So sorry you find yourself here. These amazing group of ladies are keeping me sane.

@BelhurstBride My zumba instructor is due the same month I was due : ( It is so difficult to go to class sometimes. Last week, another Zumba instructor through out that she wanted to do a cake for the other one to celebrate the baby. I'm praying I get a heads up so I know not to show up.

Uhlease13 · February 2017

Sorry for your loss @SeriouslySirius (love the screenname btw)

@BelhurstBride @SP128 it stings so bad to hear announcements and especially ones around the same timing

the worst

NYTino24 · February 2017

@RiverSong15 It could be an ill-timed "fever", but I'm not feeling sick. I tested a few minutes later and it dropped. A few minutes ago it was like 98.7, soooo whatever. I had a HCG test 4 days ago and it was 0 and I know I'm not KU. It's just mother nature's cruel joke as if this cycle hasn't been a nightmare enough!

BelhurstBride · February 2017

@SP128, I couldn't bring myself to ask when she was due, but judging by the tiny little bump on her incredibly athletic frame I'm going to guess she's also in June. Which is pretty much why I couldn't ask.

My follow up appointment went well. Still has no idea what caused the loss. (We had NIPT done and know it wasn't chromosomal.) No idea if it'll happen again. "It's incredibly rare for loss to happen after seeing the HB, even more after the 1st tri." That type of conversation.

She gave us the green light to try again whenever we're ready. She said she'll handle the next (hopeful) pregnancy however I'd like her to. All the tests and all of the u/s, or relaxed and laid back. (Her usual way.) I don't yet know what I'm going to want/need.

I've started spotting, so I assume my period is getting ready to start. Which means if my cycle is remotely close to normal I'll be all set to ovulate the week I'm in Florida- without DH. :angry fist:

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