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rw3190 · January 2017

Out of sheer curiosity is there anyone else NOT INTERESTED in sex. My hubby is super annoyed about it. This is baby number two for me and weve been intimate regularly....I'd say like twice a week.... But I am just not into it. I feel huge. I ache. Our DS in very busy in there and Im just like UGGGHHHHH

JustAnotherUsername16 · January 2017

Yup, I posted this on the Randoms board earlier this week. I seriously miss my sex drive... I genuinely enjoyed my sex life with DH. Despite the fact that he is very interested, the hip/pelvic pain and acid reflux along with how friggin HUGE I feel and I have no interest. Sex seems more like an obligation right now than anything else which is so disappointing. I'm jealous of all the women who are experiencing an increase in their sex drive right now - for both my and DH's sake.

rw3190 · January 2017

Well my DH decided to google it and now says that I'm the only one who doesn't seem to be experiencing this crazy new sex drive

There is nothing about me that feels sexy right now and I do not want my boobs touched

kjd291 · January 2017

It's been the opposite here. DH was not interested for weeks. I'd been getting really frustrated about it and trying to get him in the mood constantly till we finally had sex a few days ago and it was partly comical mostly frustrating and now we're both very okay with waiting till full term to have sex ((only because I've warned him it helps induce labor so he HAS to help a girl out

))

ngcsugirl1112 · January 2017

DH wants it all the time and I just simply have no interest/energy...I feel bad because I know once baby comes it will be harder to find the time but all I want to do is lay there

rw3190 · January 2017

ngcsugirl1112

I am totally with you. I just don't feel sexy. I feel like I have to pee. ALL THE TIME. Every time I change positions. IE sitting to standing....or rolling from one side to the other.

Im over it. I just feel gross.

And don't get me wrong....I appreciate that DH is interested and finds me SUPER DUPER IRRESISTABLE now that I'm as big as a house.....

But its me. I do not feel sexy

liepertsm · January 2017

I'm with you...Just not into it. Poor DH has been a trooper lol.

datalover13 · January 2017

Oh, girl, you're definitely not alone. I just explain to DH how uncomfortable I feel afterwards and he usually leaves me alone. I usually have to reiterate it's not that I don't find him attractive.. I just. Want to sleep.

motherofdragons-2 · January 2017

datalover13 said:

Oh, girl, you're definitely not alone. I just explain to DH how uncomfortable I feel afterwards and he usually leaves me alone. I usually have to reiterate it's not that I don't find him attractive.. I just. Want to sleep.

^^ this completely. The afterward is so troublesome for me and his "alternatives" aren't any more appealing. He always acts like he is doing me a huge favor by suggesting I give him a BJ/anal over regular sex "because its easier" and I just want to dunk his head in a cold bath. Seriously guy??? Plus his constant bitching, guilting and whining beforehand trying to get me to do it is the biggest turn off ever. Ugh, TMI I know but its so irritating!

disneybaby84 · January 2017

I'm actually fine having sex now, I know the bigger battle will be after baby when I am sleep deprived and he really wants it.

hippiemama-2 · January 2017

Noooo way. Mentally, there is still a desire to engage. Physically? I feel like the most enormous person on the planet and usually like someone has kicked me between the legs. So no. Definitely not having sex. The only way this is going down is if I go to my due date.

aerie_star · January 2017

Zero interest on my part, like to the point where it isn't even worth trying. Thankfully and surprisingly, my husband doesn't care.

rw3190 · January 2017

Thank you Thank you Thank you for the validation

I told him earlier "Listen its not that I don't find you attractive.... But I'm just not feeling it. And I'm like....to be honest I think you're doing WORLDS better than most men with pregnant wives. You're still getting a little something 2x a week w/o fail. So....honestly I don't feel a big need to up the amount of sex"

He's like "why bc other men don't find their women attractive when they're pregnant? or bc suddenly their wives aren't so into the men?"

Like almost picking a fight and sends me some damn link about ONE woman who says her sex drive is off the charts in the 3rd tri.

I'm like 1 woman is not EVERY woman.

So I told him.....when your son moves....I toot. It aint cute.

CanadianintheSouth · January 2017

hippiemama said:

Noooo way. Mentally, there is still a desire to engage. Physically? I feel like the most enormous person on the planet and usually like someone has kicked me between the legs. So no. Definitely not having sex. The only way this is going down is if I go to my due date.

hahah this is where I am at right now. Maybe once every few weeks I'll give in, but pretty much not happening right now.

Edited to change "we are" to "I am". DH still interested, me not so much.

dubcompanion · January 2017

Sex has been uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, this entire pregnancy. I'm in the mood quite often, but the actual act of sex is what turns me off. It frustrates me more than DH, who's been a trooper. I haven't told him it can hurt at times, otherwise he'd never be able to enjoy it the few times I have greenlit a session. On the bright side, sex these days is over super quickly, because he'll have gone so long without it.

So I don't "suffer" too long. I'm glad I have such a patient DH, but I can't wait until sex feels good again - Heck, even if that happens while I still am pregnant!

MrsBinPA · January 2017

I feel like a horrible person but the only sexual activity I am really in to right now is by myself. It gets me to the desired outcome within minutes and doesn't make me have anxiety about spotting, put me in uncomfortable positions or make me worry about getting a UTI.

UnicornsPlease · January 2017

@MrsBinPA HOLLA. Right there with you. I don't have to heave myself around, I don't need to deal with a heavy stinky man body, I don't need to participate for any longer than I want to, etc. I'm not in the mood all that often, but when I am I'll take care of it myself, pleaseandthanks.

MyDG620 · January 2017

No sex drive here either. I feel bad for him but I am so uncomfortable and feel huge that I don't even want to try anymore...

Foersty · January 2017

@MrsBinPA @UnicornsPlease I'm with with both of y'all! It has been a progression over the course of this pregnancy. Early 1st trimester, I was scared to have sex due to anxiety/PgAL brain. Later 1st trimester, sex life was great. 2nd Trimester, once baby started moving and it could be felt, DH lost interest in sex because that stuff freaks him out. I still had a sex drive though, so just started taking care of my own self for the most part. Now, the few times DH does put the moves on me, although I still have the drive, once we actually start getting down it sucks because I'm so huge any more and the positions are uncomfortable.

mtmama2 · January 2017

I feel so swollen "down there" I'm not entirely sure that sex is actually possible! Not that I have even bothered to try in months... I have had zero sex drive since, um, October? Thank goodness I have a very understanding DH! I can't wait to have my body and sex drive back!!!

Burrberrymum · January 2017

Non existent. That's our sex life at the moment. I feel super guilty but our schedules just don't work for the best and I end up falling asleep trying to get DD to sleep every night. I wish I was one of those people with crazy high drive during pregnancy... Then again that was never me to begin with.

Happyhiker · January 2017

You guys are making me grateful for forced pelvic rest. The issue is out of my hands!

gracie4400 · January 2017

Since I became pregnant we've pretty much been on a once a month schedule, like just enough to get by. At first it was me who was freaked out by it, then I calmed down and DH became freaked out about it, and now we are both in agreement that it is just weird. When it does happen, try as I might, I can't really enjoy myself. I really can't wait until this baby is out and I'm given the all clear by my OB to go for it, because then it's on!

BaylieGirl · January 2017

DH and I are both on the celibacy band wagon. DH is really weirded out with the bump. He doesn't even like to touch it to feel the baby kicks, I can't imagine him wanting to get his penis by it.

I'm just way too uncomfortable and feel like my body parts are super unsexy and unkempt down there that I just wouldn't be able to get in the mood irregardless. I figure we have a life time together so this won't be a relationship killer but I am dreaming of a post baby babymoon, Cabo or Hawaii, something romantic and warm.

jmacd22 · January 2017

I wish my DH knew the meaning of a quickie. I don't know if most women would love my problem but I'm huge and I don't have time to be doing this for more than 30 minutes. I'm with @MrsBinPA where I've been preferring self pleasure. I'm just ready for after the baby so I can be an active participant and not feel lazy while trying to be comfortable.

ShannonJ96 · January 2017

No, you're not the only one. I've had fewer issues with not wanting sex the last few weeks than I did for my first and second trimesters. I was relieved when I was put on pelvic rest for weeks 5-12 because it gave me an easy out for turning sex down. My fiance however, was one unhappy camper.
Now I'm sore, I'm tired, and my fiance makes whale noises at me every time I try to roll out of bed (yes, every time. For some reason he needs to laugh at me for feeling like a beached whale) . I don't really have much interest at the present time, but I do take mercy on the poor man. Besides that, whoever said that sex feels better during pregnancy was completely wrong. Its quite the opposite for me.

Ivorytower2 · February 2017

The other day I asked DH if he was ready to start having sex soon (you know b/c it can help bring on labor) and he goes "yeah definitely you won't be pregnant anymore soon",

Ummmm no DH, I need assistance to get this baby out and then you are staying farrr farr farrrr away from me for the foreseeable future. That's how we got into this in the first place ya remembah?

kjd291 · February 2017

Two words ladies: mutual masterbation.

Keeps us both happy while also avoiding all the crappy parts of sex while its oh so awkward and uncomfortable. As i said before-when we hit after 39wks we're gonna bite the bullet and have super sexy "hey baby soften my cervix" sex

kaylaef · February 2017

We are also doing a lot of non penetrative sex because I am very swollen and achey, but still very much in the mood. It is intimate. With DS my sex drive was mega super high the entire pregnancy. I'm just really really sore this time around

wintersong · February 2017

Ivorytower2 said:

The other day I asked DH if he was ready to start having sex soon (you know b/c it can help bring on labor) and he goes "yeah definitely you won't be pregnant anymore soon",

Ummmm no DH, I need assistance to get this baby out and then you are staying farrr farr farrrr away from me for the foreseeable future. That's how we got into this in the first place ya remembah?

Plus you can't have sex for weeks (generally 6 weeks) afterwards anyway, per doctor's orders.....

AandDM2014 · February 2017

@mcdonald-bailey Holy sh*t, you and DH are having sex for 30 minutes!?!?!?! Damn! That is much, much too long when super preggo!

rw3190 · February 2017

mcdonald-bailey SAME BOAT

RunBooRun · February 2017

I'm very interested, but I'm just so tired. I keep telling DH he has to hit me up earlier in the day if its actually going to happen.

rw3190 · February 2017

Mine pouts when he doesn't get his way

Its super annoying

Like I ache, I feel sick, I have NO INTEREST....like less than 0 in sex and I don't feel sexy. My lady parts feel like Ive been kicked between the legs repeatedly and my son is in the most uncomfortable position

His response is "you always say that. you never feel good."

jmacd22 · February 2017

And the random Charlie horses that happen during OUCH

kjd291 · February 2017

AandDM2014 said:

@mcdonald-bailey Holy sh*t, you and DH are having sex for 30 minutes!?!?!?! Damn! That is much, much too long when super preggo!

That's too long for me when I'm not super preggo

jmacd22 · February 2017

@AandDM2014 @kjd291 he thinks I'm weird for that. He says many women would love men who last long and I must have been sleeping with boys previously. I tell him there's a time and place for both quickies and longer love sessions. But he just doesn't understand.

AandDM2014 · February 2017

@mcdonald-bailey I'm definitely not one of those ladies! That's sounds excruciating, pregnant or not. I like it when DH lasts about 0-10 seconds longer than me. I don't have experience with anyone other than DH, but I would be off put by having a penis thrusting for that long!

@kjd291 Agreed! Anything more than about 10 minutes and he can go finish himself!

rw3190 · February 2017

mcdonald-bailey Girl I WISH it would stop at 10 mins

Not because of him but bc I am huge and this kid makes everything SOOOO uncomfortable

As a side note.....any STM who previously had stitches due to their first kid.....find the place where the stitches once were sore during love making sessions now that theyre pregnant? That one spot that I tore actually bothers me during sex

vprod · February 2017

@mcdonald-bailey oh jeez 30 minutes???? that just gets kind of annoying if just thrusting (& if there are hands or other, definitely get numb after a while?). 10 minutes is an A+ amount of time.

I'm a fan of first thing in the morning sessions: because I'm already in bed, totally relaxed and I don't have the "is this going to be annoying to clean up/discomfort/etc" thoughts that I have later on in the day.
Since I'm so uncomfortable, the longer I'm awake, I need muuuuuch more mental preparation to have any sort of sex.

rw3190 · February 2017

vprod

lol girl I am so glad you said that about the annoyance of clean up. And trying to guesstimate your level of annoyance

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