STM+ GTKY: What are you doing differently?

mamakculb · January 2017

This is my third pregnancy. My first time pregnant I read all the books, followed every rule, I was a model pregnant student, haha. Now I feel I've eased up a bit on some of the "rules" specifically dietary ones. I also feel like I stress a bit less about prepping for a new baby. What are you doing different this time around?

sugarrush · January 2017

The only thing i'm doing this time around is just coping with the different symptoms. Otherwise no changes as far as do's and dont's. I still have a diet coke sometimes, I had a couple mini hotdog wrapped blankets on Sunday, i'm drinking iced tea from dunkin donuts right now and its soooooo damn refreshing. I never read any books the first time, just followed doctors orders.

I know if I oversaturated myself with stuff i'd have driven myself and DH crazy.

kelseyrayay · January 2017

Breastfeeding. I w as unable to with DS and I felt like a total failure.

sugarrush · January 2017

@kelseyrayay good vibes your way for more success the next time!! Was it latching troubles?

BostonBaby1 · January 2017

I'm sleeping less... But I wouldn't change that for the world.

lap018 · January 2017

Getting a co sleeper for next to our bed instead of just using the pack n play bassinet because having to reach in and over the railing on that thing KILLED my arms! And it was so hard to get baby back in there after he had fallen back asleep. If I can just roll over and side lie nurse and then roll back over without having to transfer baby up and down that would be bliss! We do not bed share so that's out.

Souptin · January 2017

Im so much more relaxed this go around. I think my main difference is I will be using a midwife and not an OB. I am hoping for a VBaC This go around and I think I stand a better chance of that under a midwifes care. andplusalso them coming to my house for the first weeks 'well checks' is a huge bonus. I'm going to replace a few things I had for my son that I just didnt love ( like his exersaucer, playmat and bassinet) Overall, I am confident in how I did most things with my son so I plan to kind of stay the course with this one.

kelseyrayay · January 2017

@SugarRush yes that and my milk dried up from attempting to breast feed with him not latching. Thank God I had wic because I wouldn't have been able to feed my child if it wasn't for getting free formula every month.

sugarrush · January 2017

@lap018 have you decided which co-sleeper you'll get? I am thinking about doing that this time around too. I did not bedshare either and it was such a struggle to keep LO asleep trying to move her over to the rock n play/bassinet. This time I swear up and down i'l get a co-sleeper, there's just so many to choose from!

DPandMB · January 2017

So mine isn't something that I am going to do differently, but something that is different than my last pregnancy. My OB told me about it yesterday and I wanted to share but didn't know where else to share. Anyway, my OB said they now do two of the glucose tests. You know where you have to drink the nasty drink?! Now we have to drink it twice?!?! BLAH Anyone else hear that?

sugarrush · January 2017

@DPandMB whaaaat!?! I freaking hope not!!!

ashley2824 · January 2017

@kelseyrayay me too! I breastfed/pumped for 6 weeks. Breastfeeding ended quickly bc her latch was so bad that I had terrible scabs and couldn't take the pain anymore. saw a lactation consultant and she just kept telling me she was good. Realized after some research I should've tried a nipple shield, but it was too late (LC was very against these!). Determined to last longer for this baby!

As far as other things I'm doing differently...
not really reading my apps or books this time around. I did it all with my first. TW- Also since I'm now a PGAL gal (2nd PG ended in loss), I'm more strict with myself as far as the rules go. Not doing lunchmeat or hotdogs. Just had seafood for the first time this past weekend. Limiting my caffeine (although I'm allowing a little more each week). No Meds besides some tums here and there. I know I'm taking some things to the extreme. Oh and worrying a lot more

msashley2010-2 · January 2017

I feel like I am in a much better mental place to have this child. When I got pregnant with DD I was still in high school and faced a lot of judgment and ridicule for it. People thought I wouldn't make anything of myself but I've got a great job, a college degree and I think I've been a great mom and I'm ready to be a new mommy all over again.

lap018 · January 2017

@SugarRush no I haven't yet! I had thought about the arms reach co sleeper but I've heard they outgrow it pretty quick and I need it to last at minimum 6-12 months before we transition them to their own bed. I'll let you know what I find!

DPandMB · January 2017

SugarRush said:

@DPandMB whaaaat!?! I freaking hope not!!!

Word. I asked her like three times to confirm that I was hearing her right. She started laughing at me the third time.

ashley2824 · January 2017

@DPandMB my OB mentioned that but said it's only for those that had GD previously or were close to it. Not sure if that was common practice before.

Side not, since I had elevated BP, boarderline preeclampsia my 1st PG, they are monitoring me more closely with this PG. So I have to do the 24 hr urine along with my first round of bloodwork. And I think she said illl have to do it again later on.

cmar1006 · January 2017

DPandMB said:

SugarRush said:

@DPandMB whaaaat!?! I freaking hope not!!!

Word. I asked her like three times to confirm that I was hearing her right. She started laughing at me the third time.

Aren't there two tests generally? If you fail the first one you have to go in for the longer one. I don't remember the times for each test. I know I only did one for DD, but I knew some ladies that failed the first round and had to go back for the second.

cmar1006 · January 2017

lap018 said:

@SugarRush no I haven't yet! I had thought about the arms reach co sleeper but I've heard they outgrow it pretty quick and I need it to last at minimum 6-12 months before we transition them to their own bed. I'll let you know what I find!

DD only lasted 6 months in Arms Reach, so definitely wouldn't work for your time line. I'd be interested to see what you find as far as cosleepers go that will last 6-12 months.

DPandMB · January 2017

@ashley2824 and @cmar1006 my OB made it sound like it was the normal short one done at two different times in the pregnancy now. She said the weeks, but I don't remember because I was in too much of a state of shock. My numbers last time were good. I was not close to GD last time.

I did however have very high blood pressure last time and was also close to pre-eclampsia. I didn't hear anything about having to do the 24 hour urine. Although my BP was awesome yesterday.

eeyorefan215 · January 2017

This pregnancy seems to be progressing at a faster rate. Last time I had the book What to Expect, but I gave that away to another first time mommy to be a few months ago. I also kept a journal. I've had 2 miscarriages since my last full term pregnancy, so starting a journal 3 weeks ago seemed silly to me and might just break my heart, but I'm thinking about getting one after this next ultrasound if the results are positive.
I'm super excited to find out the sex of the baby. If it's a girl, I won't have to change anything in the nursery or buy new clothes, but if it's a boy (FX), I'll get to go shopping!

holly52 · January 2017

DPandMB said:

So mine isn't something that I am going to do differently, but something that is different than my last pregnancy. My OB told me about it yesterday and I wanted to share but didn't know where else to share. Anyway, my OB said they now do two of the glucose tests. You know where you have to drink the nasty drink?! Now we have to drink it twice?!?! BLAH Anyone else hear that?

I had to do it twice with my first pregnancy and I have to do it twice this time too. My first one is this Friday. It's going to be so hard keeping that nasty stuff down during the 1st trimester. Ugh.

holly52 · January 2017

I'm sleeping less that's really about it.

DPandMB · January 2017

@holly52 that's horrible. When was your last pregnancy?

SquattingGryphon · January 2017

More coffee and less sleep.
My DS is 14 months.

mamagabby-2 · January 2017

Less sleep with my almost 2 year old. Also getting (less) things earlier on. I put everything off last time and was rushed at the end; this time I have a list of five "big" things I want and am going to get one or so a month. It's nice knowing what brands/items I like, less stressful. I just bought a convertible stroller this last weekend (only a single seat so far) and so excited for it to arrive

Also have developed a kids' clothing shopping problem with DD, already bought a few itty bitty sweaters from Zara on sale

She was a May baby so even if we have another girl a lot of clothing won't work season-wise...it's a good way to justify my spending LOL

sugarrush · January 2017

Random -- ive been watching gender reveal videos on youtube (for no particular reason) and now I want cake. Like bad. Cake. Cake. Cake.

mamagabby-2 · January 2017

SugarRush said:

Random -- ive been watching gender reveal videos on youtube (for no particular reason) and now I want cake. Like bad. Cake. Cake. Cake.

I made my birthday cake 3 days early because I was having such bad cravings last week....DD and I started eating it before DH got home from work

Texafornian · January 2017

@lap018 @SugarRush I'm thinking abt a co-sleeper too. I didn't have too much trouble lifting my DD over and into the bassinet on the pnp but I was never able to do the side nursing because of it...and it's a pain to get around when I need to get up and pee! No idea which one tho....

@eeyorefan215 I'm with you on the journal. I did one for my DD (private blog that I then used Blog 2 Print and printed into a book)...I started one last year during pregnancy #2 & then had a loss so I have trepidation about doing it again this early.

JustBored10 · January 2017

I did not do a damn thing but gain a ton of weight with my first who will be 5 in August. With this pregnancy I am still doing cross fit, yoga, running etc. I'm not scared to move off the couch this time around fearing every move might hurt the baby! I am also going with a midwife and not OB. I want things to go my way as much as they possibly can. I don't want to feel rushed into having my baby this time. He or she will come when they are ready.

Sprite2012 · January 2017

This is my second child and while I will do a ton the same (my little man is so amazing!), I'm not going to put so much pressure on myself this time. I'm also not going to get caught up in the whole SLEEP topic among judgmental mothers!!!!!! Oh, the pressure and the rules! Don't rock your baby to sleep, don't let your baby fall asleep eating, don't let them cry for 30 seconds, sleep training is the devil, CIO causes permanent damage, schedules aren't "natural", and on and on and on. The lesson I learned - I will do what makes sense to me. This isn't rocket science and it never will be. I am more than qualified to be this baby's mom. I will happily take tips and pointers, but beyond that.....

FWIW, I wish someone had told me all of this when I had a newborn the first time. I wouldn't have struggled SO much, and I wouldn't have felt so judged (which is something none of us need, we can judge ourselves harshly enough).

parker0706 · January 2017

I feel like I've worried more this time around than I did with DD. I was on a strict no lifting ban last time and I'm definitely breaking that this time around with a clingy 3yo!

I would LOVE to be able to EBF this time! DD was jaundiced and they wanted me to track what she ate so I had to pump a lot and I honestly got lazy with it. I at least made it with her morning and bedtime nursing until almost 9 months but this time I want to do better.

klcarr19 · January 2017

This our second pregnancy and I was so violently ill with my first one and this one not so much. Anytime I get queasy I drink one cup of coffee and it's gone. (I drank no coffee with my daughter) I am just trying to accept that we are pregnant again since it was such a big surprise! I'm also brand new to a new state and new area so it's been a rush to find an OB and hoping to learn more about the hospitals around here before the big day.

sugarrush · January 2017

@Sprite2012 I sooooo agree with everything you wrote!!! My mom was on my ASS about spacing out the feedings and DD would just cry and cry in between and I was a wreck. When my mom left to fly back home, I did things my own way (trial and error, of course) and life got sooo much better. DD was just hungrier and i'm thinking I didn't produce as much as she needed while BF. I did things my way and it was all good. And you nailed the sleep thing too, to each their own!! (CIO worked for us

and my daughter is awesome, sweet, loving, caring... she's great!).

@gabby94 lol that is awesome!!! Please, just please tell me it was buttercream frosting!!

mamagabby-2 · January 2017

@SugarRush All the dark chocolate

And loads of sprinkles courtesy of DD.

lap018 · January 2017

@Sprite2012 sooooooo much yes to everything!!! I had a friend tell me that she can't believe anyone who has taken a psychology class would ever do CIO (she said this to me knowing we did CIO with DS) and I'm like ok and you're still up 3-4 times at night while my son sleeps 12 hours straight and takes a 2-3 hour nap every day but that's none of my business..... and he's a happy healthy thriving loving sweet amazing child! Why can't people just let other people do what works for them???

ColoradoHiker · January 2017

I'm more laid back about food rules, especially since I love spicy tuna rolls now (wasn't much of a sushi fan until last year). I'm keeping better emphasis on fruits and veggies by using weight watchers for food ideas, but I'm not counting points. I'm also sleeping a ton less, thanks to a very active (and right now, cranky) 14m old. I'm definitely still dealing with nausea this time, but it doesn't seem quite as 24/7. Maybe.

Becky012016 · January 2017

I'm not keeping my mouth shut this time when people harp that breast is best and formula is poison. DS has significant and severe food allergies and the only thing that helped us narrow down which igE's to test was because he drank formula.

Sprite2012 · January 2017

@lap018 I don't know, but some moms love to shame and judge other moms so much. It drives me absolutely batty, and I won't even acknowledge it this time. I actually haven't acknowledged it since my son was about 9 months old, since the moment I started doing what felt right to me - my kid (and therefore, whole household) turned happy, well-rested, and positive to be around.

@SugarRush I mean, why say something like that?! I took a psychology class in college, and my college boyfriend was a psych major (now a full-on MD psychiatrist). I don't recall EVER hearing that crying is bad for you. In fact, I find crying pretty liberating as an adult, and I know my parents let me CIO. Somehow, I'm also an amazing sleeper. After driving myself downward into extreme exhaustion and crankiness, we finally CIO. It wasn't fun and not for the light of heart. But oh my, did it work. Because, well, it pretty much always works. You just have to be ready for it.

I also started rocking my baby to sleep when it felt right. Guess what, DS CIO at 6 months and was rocked to sleep quite often (sometimes even NOW at 4), and he sleeps a full 10 hours/night and takes a solid 2 hour nap every day. Some of the ladies who were judgmental (that I still know) have a 4 year old who is still up often at night and hasn't napped in 2 years.......sooooo.........judge away

MyNamesTaken · January 2017

I was SO against CIO until we actually got to that point with DS. We did a little sleep training when I was close to losing it at night. Now he's an amazing sleeper.

There are certain things that I see that aren't the best but I think they come from a place of being misinformed by so much info out there. My friend wanted to start her daughter on solids really early because she was "interested" but didn't realize her digestive system wasn't developed enough to handle it. I think we all need to help each other have healthy babes and not judge what might not be our own first choice but is still a safe choice!

With this pregnancy I'm trying to exercise more. I'm finding it helps with the fatigue and I've been feeling well enough to get in some kind of workout most days. I'm PGAL so I'm overly paranoid about the food things even though I know it's unrelated and unlikely to have any impact.

runbyfruiting · January 2017

Caring a lot less about what other people think of my parenting choices (inspired by the CIO discussion above because we also sleep trained). I want to try to EBF this time too but I'm also not going to beat myself up if it doesn't work out, like I did with DS. Also want to get into babywearing and definitely get a good cosleeper that attaches to the bed. We used the pack and play bassinet with DS and it was awful for middle of the night feeds.

In general I just feel a lot more prepared going into it this time. It's a good feeling.

jessieR358 · January 2017

I'm trying to eat better and not gain as much weight this time around (as I sit here and think about cake and sugar cookies). I'm more laid back with this baby. I read so many books before I had DS but I'm not doing anything with this one. I'm continuing to read parenting books, but for DS. I'll probably re-read babywise and get familiar with the routine again. I plan on doing sleep differently with this one. We had to hire a sleep consultant at 13 months because I was about to lose it not getting any sleep. We did gentle sleep training and he did awesome! I can't handle CIO, but I know it works for some babies.
I hope I can EBF with this one as easily as I did with my son. I'm still BFing him, but I would love it if he just quit all of a sudden at this point.

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