So I agreed to watch my dad's dog who is really really difficult until Wednesday. You'd think he would pay to board her for three days rather than have his 36 week pregnant daughter babysit his giant lab but no he's a cheapskate and he knows if he asks I won't say no. So I have to get up and take her to the doggie day camp at petsmart Monday through Wednesday because she will have a meltdown if she has to be alone while we are at work. But, her vaccines expired so they won't take her until I get proof she has them. So now I have to sit at petsmart for 40 minutes until her vet opens so I can call them.while trying to control a really poorly trained lab. While eight months pregnant! And I'm going to be late for work. I understand if you didn't read this all, typing it out just feels so good lol
So, pretty sure I got some sort of stomach bug?! been up the last 6 hours feeling like I could projectile vomit everywhere but nothing happens. Although I've been non stop going #2. Called the midwife to see if I need to see my regular dr or just wait it out at home or go to the maternity hospital. She said I can GP if I want, but told me not to go in there in case get the other women sick. Which I kind of get... but on the other hand being 33 weeks pregnant and bending over the toilet and not really being able to drink water sucks!! And this little guy needs to really stop kicking my stomach. He's definitely not helping either.
@npaulie oh no!! That sucks. I'd say if you can't keep water or anything in you should probably just head to the hospital at some point so you don't get dehydrated, which could cause pre-term labor.
Alex married to M since 6.13.09 T - 3.3.14 A - 2.24.17
I'm currently training a temp to do my job while I'm on maternity leave. I'm already 95% sure that I will be coming back to a complete mess. Plus, it's supposed to be close to 70* here today and I just don't want to be at work...or training this person in general.
Me: 24 DH: 27 High School Sweethearts: 10/13/06 Married: 10/13/13 Baby #1 EDD: 3/20/17
I'm so annoyed with the mortgage company and this whole process on closing on our house. I get that after the housing crash in 2008 they want to check, double check, and re-check again to make sure that you can actually afford your future home, but Jesus H they're making this so darn difficult! Our closing date is Feb 17th and they're hung up on the details of my maternity leave. I'll be leaving this job in a couple of weeks, going on leave, and then returning to work at another hospital that's within the same hospital system as the one that I'm currently at. They need to know every facet of my leave and as of now, the last thing they need is a verbal confirmation from HR that I'm eligible to return to work. That wouldn't be such a big deal if HR wasn't almost impossible to get a hold of. I HATE dealing with our HR department. They're so slow to respond to things and I learned from my good friend who's an admin assistant for one of the hospital executives that the HR girls will put fake appointments on their calendars so they're not bothered. That pisses me off! I've sent the mortgage company all types of info about our leave policies, short term disability info, how much I'll get paid while gone, when I'm returning, and blah blah blah, but for some reason they also need this verbal confirmation. Like, what part of my hospital qualifies for FMLA are they not understanding?! I have job protection, yes I'm eligible to return to work after my leave is over. I just want this to end so we can confirm that we're for sure closing in 3 weeks. Our closing date is already too close to my due date for my liking and this whole situation is stressing me out!
I'm currently training a temp to do my job while I'm on maternity leave. I'm already 95% sure that I will be coming back to a complete mess. Plus, it's supposed to be close to 70* here today and I just don't want to be at work...or training this person in general.
Same boat sister! What shit show will I walk into post leave. One can only imagine.::
@kiyamurph dealing with the mortgage companies is the WORST. I can't imagine dealing with that while 8 months pregnant. My hat is off to you.
Ours ended up sending our mortgage paperwork back 3x because my husband has AWFUL handwriting and some of the things he dated (you know, you have to sign and date a billion papers) looked like he dated 2013, but we bought the house in 2015. the third time, I ended up dating them because I didn't want to see that freaking paperwork appear in my mailbox one more time.
I'm currently training a temp to do my job while I'm on maternity leave. I'm already 95% sure that I will be coming back to a complete mess. Plus, it's supposed to be close to 70* here today and I just don't want to be at work...or training this person in general.
Same boat sister! What shit show will I walk into post leave. One can only imagine.::
Same. This is exactly what I'm doing and how I'm feeling today.
@Ivorytower2@kap1988 I'm almost jealous that you gals have temps that are doing your job while you're out!
My work just opened up 3 new management positions and I would be PERFECT for any of them. The problem? I'm currently working from home 5 days a week per doctor's orders, and I am not 100% sure I'm coming back from leave.
So, I'm watching less qualified people apply and get interviewed, all because I don't want to be the asshole that says I'm 100% for sure coming back and then doesn't. My team needs a manager NOW and not a manager 3 months from now when I come back from leave. The same exact thing happened to the lady that had her baby a year ago.. she is just NOW getting promoted because she decided to not apply for a promotion immediately before her maternity leave.
There is no plan for my leave, either. I've been training a girl on my team to do some of my duties, but almost on the DL because she shouldn't technically be doing some of these things without a leadership title...
I talked to my VP about it, how I'm ALREADY doing the manager duties, but not getting paid as one, and that I'm not sure where I fit in with the current org structure. He said that I'm important to the org, and I'd be the best fit for the promotion, but he agrees that the timing sucks. He said I'm important to the organization, and that when I get back there may be more opportunities, and they're trying to reward people for their hard work etc etc etc. It is annual raise time, and I find out the amount on Wednesday. I told him that I appreciated the sentiment and that I'd let our meeting Wednesday show me what he meant (rewarding hard work, I'm valuable to the company) and he told me, "Keep your expectations low"
So I'm really important, but shouldn't expect a decent raise... got it.
I could very easily just apply, say I'm 100% for sure coming back, get the promotion and raise, and then make my decision about leave later. I just don't feel morally OK doing that. Most of the people I work with I am very close with and I can't see doing that to them. Maybe I need to be more ruthless?
@direwolfmini I understand, doing the right thing is hard and well if you were to ever return to working, you would want a good recommendation from this job.
I'm currently training a temp to do my job while I'm on maternity leave. I'm already 95% sure that I will be coming back to a complete mess. Plus, it's supposed to be close to 70* here today and I just don't want to be at work...or training this person in general.
I'm so annoyed with the mortgage company and this whole process on closing on our house. I get that after the housing crash in 2008 they want to check, double check, and re-check again to make sure that you can actually afford your future home, but Jesus H they're making this so darn difficult! Our closing date is Feb 17th and they're hung up on the details of my maternity leave. I'll be leaving this job in a couple of weeks, going on leave, and then returning to work at another hospital that's within the same hospital system as the one that I'm currently at. They need to know every facet of my leave and as of now, the last thing they need is a verbal confirmation from HR that I'm eligible to return to work. That wouldn't be such a big deal if HR wasn't almost impossible to get a hold of. I HATE dealing with our HR department. They're so slow to respond to things and I learned from my good friend who's an admin assistant for one of the hospital executives that the HR girls will put fake appointments on their calendars so they're not bothered. That pisses me off! I've sent the mortgage company all types of info about our leave policies, short term disability info, how much I'll get paid while gone, when I'm returning, and blah blah blah, but for some reason they also need this verbal confirmation. Like, what part of my hospital qualifies for FMLA are they not understanding?! I have job protection, yes I'm eligible to return to work after my leave is over. I just want this to end so we can confirm that we're for sure closing in 3 weeks. Our closing date is already too close to my due date for my liking and this whole situation is stressing me out!
Wow. That is Cray Cray. We took posession of our house 3 weeks before my son's due date (one week before he was born) and had none of that run around. They didn't ask for any confirmation from HR....I even went back part time in the fall which they never even knew was going to happen because they never asked
I'm leaving plans for my long term sub. I'm freak8my out that I won't be done in time, and also worried that it will be a total cluster like my last leave (my sub was a perfectly competent teacher but just not equipped tI deal with my schools unique population of students...I'm still hearing about how his anxiety was through the roof all the time even though I left THE BEST PLANS EVER as confirmed by everyone who saw them)
I'm so annoyed with the mortgage company and this whole process on closing on our house. I get that after the housing crash in 2008 they want to check, double check, and re-check again to make sure that you can actually afford your future home, but Jesus H they're making this so darn difficult! Our closing date is Feb 17th and they're hung up on the details of my maternity leave. I'll be leaving this job in a couple of weeks, going on leave, and then returning to work at another hospital that's within the same hospital system as the one that I'm currently at. They need to know every facet of my leave and as of now, the last thing they need is a verbal confirmation from HR that I'm eligible to return to work. That wouldn't be such a big deal if HR wasn't almost impossible to get a hold of. I HATE dealing with our HR department. They're so slow to respond to things and I learned from my good friend who's an admin assistant for one of the hospital executives that the HR girls will put fake appointments on their calendars so they're not bothered. That pisses me off! I've sent the mortgage company all types of info about our leave policies, short term disability info, how much I'll get paid while gone, when I'm returning, and blah blah blah, but for some reason they also need this verbal confirmation. Like, what part of my hospital qualifies for FMLA are they not understanding?! I have job protection, yes I'm eligible to return to work after my leave is over. I just want this to end so we can confirm that we're for sure closing in 3 weeks. Our closing date is already too close to my due date for my liking and this whole situation is stressing me out!
Wow. That is Cray Cray. We took posession of our house 3 weeks before my son's due date (one week before he was born) and had none of that run around. They didn't ask for any confirmation from HR....I even went back part time in the fall which they never even knew was going to happen because they never asked
I'm sorry you're going through this! Hopefully it'll be done soon! We had numerous issues with our paperwork too--ended up closing the same day my doc decided I needed to go in for an induction with DD! My family and in-laws moved us in while I was in labor. Haha. One way or another you'll get it all done and have a lovely new home!
Finally called my insurance company, waited on hold for 25 minutes just to find out they cover a whopping $30 for breast pumps. I truly detest our insurance, it's not like we have the lowest plan available. Whatever happened to BCBS being good?
@direwolfmini screw that. Why should you have to keep your expectations low when you're kicking @ss? If you are even allowed, if I were you I'd apply for those positions anyway and just say you can start in three months. And you shouldn't have to accept a shit raise when you are working above your pay grade just because you are having a baby. That's illegal! You should make a case for the raise and promo you deserve regardless of your current situation. Your current WFH situation and upcoming leave do not negate all the time and effort you've already put in to earn your deserved raise and promotion.
@longliveregina Good luck!! I just met my long-term sub today and we went over all my plans... she was thankful that they were thorough and organized. She seems a little behind on technology things but otherwise will be great with my students. I feel much more prepared to disappear soon for 12 weeks. I hope you get a burst of energy to finish the plans and hope that your sub is amazeballs!
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016. BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017. Samuel born February 2017!
Yeah @samm1225 we hadn't the same issue with BCBS in our state of, our plan wasn't "grandfathered in" so they'd wouldn't cover any of the breast pump. DIdnt even try again for this one since I bought one with dd anyways.
On another note I am over this being huge, hurting, and the hemorrhoids. These last few weeks are going to dragggggg on.
Being uncomfortable 24/7 is getting old awfully quick...I can't even get comfortable enough to fall asleep anymore. Also, is fire nipples a thing? Cause that's what it feels like is going on! Every part of my body hurts!
OBGYN put me on some blood pressure medication in December. I was taking it twice daily, so getting 60 pills a month, but she increased it to three times daily. Went to pick up my prescription today, which is now 90 pills, and somehow that QUADUPLED the price of the medication. The same medication, still the generic, but now four times the price for getting just 33% more of the medication. The kid at the pharmacy said that I might need to meet an insurance deductible before it'll go back down to the regular price, but I personally have never, ever heard of such a thing before, and I have been on prescribed medications since I was twelve and on my own insurance since right after college, so I'm not sure if that is even a thing.
Also, I am currently at work, was wearing one of the really comfy and flattering maternity tops that my mom bought for me, and threw up all over myself. The only other shirt I had available? My gym clothes. My overnight job frequently involves me seeing no other humans all shift except for my boss in the morning, but of course tonight would be the night that, right after changing shirts, a client needs to come into the office...
Also, SAD is hitting me hard right now. Talked to my OBGYN about it today and since I'm into my third trimester, there's nothing safe to take. She recommended counseling but I've had really bad experiences with that in the past. Bleh.
@mmaru I'm a psychologist who treats SAD, its essentially just a vitamin D deficiency. I'd ask if you can take a vitamin D supplement first off. But also check out SAD light boxes. You only need to use them roughly 30-60 min in the morning and you should see results within a couple days. I use one myself because where I live the sun doesn't rise until 9am and it sets by 3pm in winter. Also, it's Ireland, so it rains every. Freaking. Day.
@mmaru I know people who were really helped by the light boxes. I live in New England and SAD is really common here. Also, if at all possible, try to get outside for a walk when it's light out. The combination of natural light and exercise can make a huge difference.
@npaulie@RunBooRun I've been dealing with it since I was about twelve - tried the light treatment when I was younger but it didn't help. Kind of ran a whole gamut of treatments over the years. It's just something that I try to power through, and go on medication when it gets to the point where I can't handle it on my own. Upside, in recent years, I've taken up geocaching, which gets me outside and moving even in the winter, so that does help!
Uuuugh my sons school is closed today, latchkey is closed, and my mom lives an hour and a half away so I don't want her driving on icy rds to get here. And I have a work meeting at 9 am....
@npaulie & @mmaru I have been taking Vit D my whole pregnancy. It was prescribed by the RE. No one has expressed any concern about it. Obvi I'm not a doctor so best to confirm with yours but supplemental D definitely wouldn't hurt to try. So many people are deficient and don't even know it. DH was too & 2 of our closest friends
@MMaru I am also a mental health therapist. I have not treated SAD, however, I have treated depression and I too am a pregnant lady and have been dealing with my emotions that comes with the change in hormones. The vitamin D recommendations sound good, I would also encourage you to find little things that cheer you up, that you can do pregnant, like painting your nails, watching a favorite movie or tv show, maybe buying something for you that you can use now or look forward to once pregnancy is over. Also aromatherapy is not a bad idea unless it causes nausea, you might want your favorite essential oils or scented candle. It's the little happy things, that bring a bright spot.
Sorry @MMaru that really stinks that it went up so much. I work in a retail pharmacy though and I have to say it's super common to have deductibles to have to satisfy come first of the year, especially if you have a high deductible/HSA plan. Is it a tablet maybe where you could do half tablets of a higher strength to get to the correct dosage?
married 10.10.14 @ Turks & Caicos yorkie mama to Oscar FTM EDD 3.12.17
So my MIL wrote DH an email Saturday, trying to bully and threaten him into allowing her to come visit quickly after baby, saying we were being cruel and on and on. So we decided not to respond, because that would give her the fight she was craving. So Monday she asked if DH would call her because she "has a solution". I told DH the only solution is if she hires a chef and housekeeper while she is here and to let her say her piece, but we weren't changing any dates we were offering. DH called her yesterday, she says that a friend of hers explained that if she offered to help around the house that it would help change our mind. So, she offered to cook, clean, take care of baby (which is all a lie, actions speak for themselves, I've known this woman for five years, she doesn't do service for others, she makes people wait on her hand and foot). So my DH said we weren't offering anything other than the date we had already chosen. Then she said "Let's think and pray on this for a week". So next week when she asks if we changed our mind and we haven't, I guess it'll be back to what horrible people we are. I never did care if she liked me or not, since I won't be bullied by her.
DH invited one of his coworkers to our baby shower today and his coworker responded with these exact words: "no thanks, I have better sh*t to do." totally at a loss for words but I appreciate his honesty at least. My husband isn't very popular among his coworkers so I can kinda understand I guess but thats still really rude! Especially to say to someone who has just offered to feed you, provide cake, and a general good time for free!
@disneybaby84 oh yes, he isn't my friend so I'm not overly fussed about him not coming. Just feel bad for my husband haha and mightily surprised by the response. Usually you get an "oh, er, sorry I'll be sick that day" or "we'll be out of town" instead of a blatant "eff you" haha
@disneybaby84 classic manipulator move, "a friend told me if I offered to help you". It sure sounds like she has zero intentions of actually helping, she just wants it to look like she would. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. I'm glad that your husband is supportive and in agreement with you!
@silverbulletband I think that baby showers scare guys, even if they are coed. I had to basically beg my husband to come to ours!
If one more person asks me if we have a name I'm going to flip out on them. If you ask me if we have one and then I awkwardly mumble that we have a few we are considering but probably won't decided until we see her, why would you keep asking me 3 times a week until she's born!!! Ugh so annoying. I don't get the obsession with knowing the name. It does make me have sympathy for the poor team green ladies. I can't imagine how annoying that question gets after 9 months.
Re: The Weekly Bitch Fest (1/31)
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
married to M since 6.13.09
T - 3.3.14
A - 2.24.17
High School Sweethearts: 10/13/06
Married: 10/13/13
Baby #1 EDD: 3/20/17
imagine.::
Ours ended up sending our mortgage paperwork back 3x because my husband has AWFUL handwriting and some of the things he dated (you know, you have to sign and date a billion papers) looked like he dated 2013, but we bought the house in 2015. the third time, I ended up dating them because I didn't want to see that freaking paperwork appear in my mailbox one more time.
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
My work just opened up 3 new management positions and I would be PERFECT for any of them. The problem? I'm currently working from home 5 days a week per doctor's orders, and I am not 100% sure I'm coming back from leave.
So, I'm watching less qualified people apply and get interviewed, all because I don't want to be the asshole that says I'm 100% for sure coming back and then doesn't. My team needs a manager NOW and not a manager 3 months from now when I come back from leave. The same exact thing happened to the lady that had her baby a year ago.. she is just NOW getting promoted because she decided to not apply for a promotion immediately before her maternity leave.
There is no plan for my leave, either. I've been training a girl on my team to do some of my duties, but almost on the DL because she shouldn't technically be doing some of these things without a leadership title...
I talked to my VP about it, how I'm ALREADY doing the manager duties, but not getting paid as one, and that I'm not sure where I fit in with the current org structure. He said that I'm important to the org, and I'd be the best fit for the promotion, but he agrees that the timing sucks. He said I'm important to the organization, and that when I get back there may be more opportunities, and they're trying to reward people for their hard work etc etc etc. It is annual raise time, and I find out the amount on Wednesday. I told him that I appreciated the sentiment and that I'd let our meeting Wednesday show me what he meant (rewarding hard work, I'm valuable to the company) and he told me, "Keep your expectations low"
So I'm really important, but shouldn't expect a decent raise... got it.
Is it maternity leave yet?
I could very easily just apply, say I'm 100% for sure coming back, get the promotion and raise, and then make my decision about leave later. I just don't feel morally OK doing that. Most of the people I work with I am very close with and I can't see doing that to them. Maybe I need to be more ruthless?
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016.
BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017.
Samuel born February 2017!
On another note I am over this being huge, hurting, and the hemorrhoids. These last few weeks are going to dragggggg on.
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
OBGYN put me on some blood pressure medication in December. I was taking it twice daily, so getting 60 pills a month, but she increased it to three times daily. Went to pick up my prescription today, which is now 90 pills, and somehow that QUADUPLED the price of the medication. The same medication, still the generic, but now four times the price for getting just 33% more of the medication. The kid at the pharmacy said that I might need to meet an insurance deductible before it'll go back down to the regular price, but I personally have never, ever heard of such a thing before, and I have been on prescribed medications since I was twelve and on my own insurance since right after college, so I'm not sure if that is even a thing.
Also, I am currently at work, was wearing one of the really comfy and flattering maternity tops that my mom bought for me, and threw up all over myself. The only other shirt I had available? My gym clothes. My overnight job frequently involves me seeing no other humans all shift except for my boss in the morning, but of course tonight would be the night that, right after changing shirts, a client needs to come into the office...
Also, SAD is hitting me hard right now. Talked to my OBGYN about it today and since I'm into my third trimester, there's nothing safe to take. She recommended counseling but I've had really bad experiences with that in the past. Bleh.
Samantha - 4/5/2017
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
@silverbulletband I think that baby showers scare guys, even if they are coed. I had to basically beg my husband to come to ours!
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16