@RunRestRepeat@maybeitsmadeline@Rae1 they're too needy and I've met way too many who behave poorly and just jump and slobber all over every person they meet. If I'm around a dog, I'll pay attention to it for a second and then I want it to go away from me and not bother me. Which explains why I'm more of a cat person...
My UO, which is actually what brought me out of lurking back on the Sept 15 board, is I am 100% anti CIO for sleep training an infant.
There was a post on there about a mom bragging about her 4 month old's sleep after she 'sleep trained' and I lost my shit a little and may have called her cruel. Hindsight, I probably shouldn't have been so harsh. But seriously if your baby is not even one yet why in the eff would you think it's ok to let them cry themselves to sleep? I just can't help but see it as abuse.
My daughter still wakes up most nights at 17 months and it would be nice if she slept through every night (she does occasionally) but honestly no matter how bad it got I could NEVER comprehend letting her lose it for the sake of her learning to 'self-soothe'. Even at this age where she clearly manipulates me sometimes lol. I would say to each their own, but once we get to this stage with our babies and moms start coming out talking about he benefits of CIO I'm probably going to go all:
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@mrscate88 Yessss! I also hate abbreviations. I'm that text-er that still uses full words and same goes for all my statuses, you name it. I don't know why we've got so sloppy. Sometimes, yes sometimes, I will use them but very rarely. I am legitimately having to look up abbreviations on Google because I have no idea what they mean anymore *sigh* And I'm not old! lol
I am anti-leash. I think they are absolutely ridiculous. But that's about as far as I'm going to go on that topic haha!
Gender reveals - I'm wishy washy on this. My beef is with showers in general. I effing hate it when people get you crap just because they think it's cute. I go to a shower to support the Mom and to me that means buying her exactly what she says that she needs. I hosted a shower for my best friend and it was just a bust. Between her and her sister they have a lot of girls and the last thing she needed was clothes but nope, she got a TON of clothes and nothing that she asked for. I bought her stuff right off her registry. I also did one of those "guess the price" games and everything purchased for that game was also off her registry. I felt so bad for her. I also hate baby shower games with a blind-seething passion. In reality I probably shouldn't have a shower at all. Although I'm glad that co-ed, "BBQ and baby" parties are becoming more common. That's my kind of event! Even if I can't drink. And don't even get me started on the "Don't Say Baby" game. Just saying those words makes my blood boil
The only acronyms I really use are MIL and FIL, because I hate spelling those out haha. Otherwise, I'm also that person that texts full words and (some) punctuation, if it clarifies my message.
Sex reveal and social media announcements are kind of overkill to me, but just because I don't want all that attention on me. We had a co-ed Baby-Q for my first and it was fun. I HATE the dumb "don't say baby" nonsense! We are here celebrating a mama and baby, it's a BABY shower, I'm going to say baby. My sister in law did something similar, you weren't allowed to cross your arms or legs, and that was a little more fun, but still kind of annoying. I don't care for most baby shower games, but occasionally it can be done well.
I kind of side eye people who say they are anti-leash..or anti anything parenting related really. It's so easy to say you would never do something, or something is ridiculous until you are in a situation where it isn't. Parenting is the most humbling thing I have ever done and aside from things that are actually dangerous I have learned to never say never. My friend is on baby #4 and until this one was the "Pinterest Parent". No sleep training, home-made organic everything, no leashes, no raising her voice....if I hadn't known her since 7th grade I would be convinced she was a robot. #4 came around and that little girl has a level of spirit that I have never seen before and everything changed. My friend went for a walk with her 2 youngest last summer when #3 fell and skinned his knee really bad. While she was tending to him #4 bolted into the street and came within a foot of being hit by a car...hat kid is now on a leash anytime she isn't secured. It's not always about being lazy or not paying attention to your kid. Toddlers are lightning fast, have zero fear and get themselves into situations that can be life threatening in the blink of an eye.
1. Indian food is the best. But go ahead and abstain; more for me.
2. I am also meh on donuts, and really most breakfast foods. But I do love my mom's french toast recipe. It's different from french toast I've had in other places, but it's the only kind I like.
3. @Dcwtada I will also side-eye older kids in strollers sometimes, but then I'll throw my 2.5 year old in the Tula and let my 5yo sit in the stroller because I just want to walk faster than a snail's pace. I don't understand the math of it, but kids can be faster than you ever thought possible when you need them to stay near you. But heaven forbid you just want to effing get home, then you've never seen them move so slowly. This is why my 5yo gets a ride sometimes.
@kat0607 I guess that kind of makes sense, but puppy cuddles are the best thing in the world. Then again, I'm 99% convinced that my dog is actually part cat - she lays on the back of the couch looking out the window and hates water more than any pit bull I've ever seen. She won't even go outside to pee if it's raining!
I'm not really into many carbs. Donuts and bready breakfast foods are really gross.
I don't like donuts either, well I just eat the frosting off of them. I just can't stand the thought of deep fried enriched bleached flour with no nutritional benefits. Now, if you showed me a whole wheat option made with coconut oil and baked with chocolate frosting on it, then I would be all for that. But at that point, I may as well just sla some chocolate frosting or Nutella (basically the same thing sugar wise) and call it good.
My UO is Nutella is gross. It is marketed as a great healthy option like peanut butter but is nearly forty percent sugar. No thanks.
My UO: People who live and die by their favorite parenting book, blog, Internet forum, etc are idiots in my opinion. Parenting is not a cookie cutter role. Each child will need to be parented differently and there is no such thing as a guide book for the right way to parent. Oh and especially FTMs. Don't judge another mom's parenting decision until you get to that stage with your own. You'll be surprised what you end up changing your mind on by the time you get there yourself. Nothing pisses me off more than a mom who thinks she knows everything and judges me for parenting differently.
The bold text. This ticks me off faster than anything. See MBF for greater context.
I kind of side eye people who say they are anti-leash..or anti anything parenting related really. It's so easy to say you would never do something, or something is ridiculous until you are in a situation where it isn't. Parenting is the most humbling thing I have ever done and aside from things that are actually dangerous I have learned to never say never. My friend is on baby #4 and until this one was the "Pinterest Parent". No sleep training, home-made organic everything, no leashes, no raising her voice....if I hadn't known her since 7th grade I would be convinced she was a robot. #4 came around and that little girl has a level of spirit that I have never seen before and everything changed. My friend went for a walk with her 2 youngest last summer when #3 fell and skinned his knee really bad. While she was tending to him #4 bolted into the street and came within a foot of being hit by a car...hat kid is now on a leash anytime she isn't secured. It's not always about being lazy or not paying attention to your kid. Toddlers are lightning fast, have zero fear and get themselves into situations that can be life threatening in the blink of an eye.
I love this. Parenting is so humbling. I had so many plans and was so sure I wouldn't do or allow certain things, until my first daughter came. She's a spirited child to say the least, headstrong and moody. I've changed a lot of my ways and certainly learned not to judge or side eye other moms for their choices. I have no idea what they're REALLY going through.
But I do love Katt Williams stand up comedy about white people putting leashes on their kids! It's hilarious. He says white people should stop doing that because it's just entertainment for black people. I laughed so hard.
@kat0607 So I have two dogs that I love more than anything but here is another reason you may add to your list of why you don't like dogs. My puppy peed in our bed last night in my Husband's spot when he got up. We didn't notice and DH got back in bed and it was jus AWFUL. This was at 3am. Just not cool. He is clearly not ready to sleep on the bed... I still LOVE him anyway though. I am 100% a dog person all the way but I respect your opinion bc i feel the same about cats. I guess that is my UO...
My UO is that it irritates me when people jump on a bandwagon to be "environmentally friendly" without actually doing the research behind it. You want to stand for something and make a difference, thats awesome but know what actually makes a difference vs what makes you feel good. For instance cloth diapers are actually not that much better for the environment than disposables they are just bad in a different way. Depending on where you live (drought ridden locations for instance) they can actually be worse for the environment than disposables. Disposables take up landfill space and producing them creates CFCs but Cloth uses significantly more water and electricity. For many people it is far easier to reduce the amount of waste they send to a landfill to compensate for diapers than it is to reduce their water and electricity usage enough to compensate. I'm not arguing don't cloth diaper because I think they are awesome for so many reasons...but being more eco-friendly isn't one of them.
ETA - this example obviously doesn't apply to everyone and I'm not suggesting that it does. There are certainly ways to counter the impacts of washing cloth diapers and if you are someone who takes those steps thats awesome...most people don't because they don't do the research to realize that cloth diapers are also environmentally harmful.
"Love this chick!! I always agree with he--WHAT?! NUTELLA?!?!"
I can only buy Nutella once a year because I eat it by the spoonful out of the jar within two days (I'm going to lie a little here about my timeframe, nobody say anything about that please). It's amaaaazziiiiiinnggggg.
@irishrose54 one of our dogs wasn't a puppy when she started doing it. And it was a memory foam bed. I tried cleaning it. Eventually we just had to dispose of it and buy a new one. And yes, we spanked her. She has had issues ever since we got her, we call it regression when she starts going in the house. Hardest dog I have ever potty trained. She would specifically go into the kitchen of our first apartment and pee. It wasn't leveled properly, so the pee would travel and settle by the far wall. She just wouldn't grasp it with positive reinforcement, so we had to add some negative. She finally got it, but occasionally, she just won't want to hold it till she is let out (every two hours or less except night time) and will find a spot. I hate cleaning up dog urine, mostly because it isn't necessary like poop. Anyways, I am a huge fan of cats because they do not constantly need attention and affirmation, and they go in their own neat little potty.
I HATE gender reveal parties. I've gone to a few (to support my friends, not because I wanted to be surprised by their boy/girl news), and they've always just been boring (as the guest).
Story, I went to a close co-workers party and she made it clear she wanted a girl from the get go. When she and hubby opened their box of balloons and pink ones came out she was jumping all over the place, dancing and screaming - looked super foolish/obnoxious, but she was happy so I was happy for her. Fast forward to her 34 week appointment and doc does a US and surprise, there's a penis on your baby "girl". Catty/bitchy me couldn't help but laugh out loud at her post on fb when she found out.
(A part of me truly felt bad for them as the nursery was painted/personalized everything was already done, and then this).
@CarsonsMommy We have been way too lax with this dog. I know we need to get more strict and after last night it was a "That's IT" moment. We will have them both sleep in the beds on the floor (if they are tired enough they won't bother to jump up) otherwise we will do crates (which they both happen to like but I'm not sure how the pup would be overnight since the crates are nowhere near our room). We already ordered a new duvet. I am so glad we had the mattress protector bc it didn't go through that thank god.
@RubyRedPirate They annoy me too! I thought it was one of those comment chains in a group I'm in and I commented my state, and then the lady not only sent me a reply comment but she PM'd me asking for the photo! I was mega creeped out.
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My UO is that it irritates me when people jump on a bandwagon to be "environmentally friendly" without actually doing the research behind it. You want to stand for something and make a difference, thats awesome but know what actually makes a difference vs what makes you feel good. For instance cloth diapers are actually not that much better for the environment than disposables they are just bad in a different way. Depending on where you live (drought ridden locations for instance) they can actually be worse for the environment than disposables. Disposables take up landfill space and producing them creates CFCs but Cloth uses significantly more water and electricity. For many people it is far easier to reduce the amount of waste they send to a landfill to compensate for diapers than it is to reduce their water and electricity usage enough to compensate. I'm not arguing don't cloth diaper because I think they are awesome for so many reasons...but being more eco-friendly isn't one of them.
ETA - this example obviously doesn't apply to everyone and I'm not suggesting that it does. There are certainly ways to counter the impacts of washing cloth diapers and if you are someone who takes those steps thats awesome...most people don't because they don't do the research to realize that cloth diapers are also environmentally harmful.
A few years ago, I would've said you're crazy about the cloth diaper thing, but you're so right. I tried cloth with my baby, but she pooped soooo much that we were doing a load of laundry a day (on top of the hand rinsing) and our water bill doubled. We were in a drought at the time and we actually got a letter threatening to fine us for the increase in our water haha! Needless to say, I stopped cloth. I still feel guilt for all the diaper trash though, and my husband teases me because I wrap the diapers up so small and tight to make myself feel better about causing trash. We all do it, we give up one thing thinking it's for a good cause, but it messes with something else. We need to just do our best to reduce waste, save energy, eat real food, and take care of our families. Everything in balance, I say.
All that diaper waste is fine when they're newborns, but after a few months they should know better than to use more than three diapers a day. I've read this in my baby book that I will be following to the T. In fact, by six months, they really should be potty trained, and if not, you're clearly doing something wrong.
I'm anti-shower for subsequent babies after number 1. We're having to have another solely because my MIL is an AW and wants to have everyone fawn over her having another grandchild. My family has never done subsequent showers and I'm an introvert. These things make me so uncomfortable. She doesn't give a crap.
Another shower would make me a little uncomfortable. However, we had to move and only took two vehicles and packed everything that really mattered in one vehicle and the back of a truck. We knew we would have nowhere to store said stuff. So everything we had for DS, gave it away. We are starting from scratch. Some instances, I think it is okay, maybe call it a diaper party. But when you have like 4 kids of the same sex within 4 years and throw a baby shower for each one, yeah, maybe a little extreme.
I kind of side eye people who say they are anti-leash..or anti anything parenting related really. It's so easy to say you would never do something, or something is ridiculous until you are in a situation where it isn't. Parenting is the most humbling thing I have ever done and aside from things that are actually dangerous I have learned to never say never. My friend is on baby #4 and until this one was the "Pinterest Parent". No sleep training, home-made organic everything, no leashes, no raising her voice....if I hadn't known her since 7th grade I would be convinced she was a robot. #4 came around and that little girl has a level of spirit that I have never seen before and everything changed. My friend went for a walk with her 2 youngest last summer when #3 fell and skinned his knee really bad. While she was tending to him #4 bolted into the street and came within a foot of being hit by a car...hat kid is now on a leash anytime she isn't secured. It's not always about being lazy or not paying attention to your kid. Toddlers are lightning fast, have zero fear and get themselves into situations that can be life threatening in the blink of an eye.
Yes!! This is literally my face when I read or hear someone judging when they've never been in that situation as a parent before:
My UO- I take issues with having showers for the purpose of "getting stuff." I see a shower as a time for the women/close family in your life to celebrate the special moment of welcoming a child into the world and not for sole purpose of completing someone's registry. I don't know why "needing things" would make a second shower appropriate, if that was the only reason one was being held. If you planned to have more than one kid, you probably should have saved everything or be prepared to replace everything yourself.
@abmommy15 I was one of those kids that should have been on a leash. I wandered off ALL THE TIME. And I would just grab the hand of whoever was next to me as i was just kind of looking around not paying attention. I vividly remember once grabbing a really wrinkly hand. I looked up, and this really old lady was laughing at me and said, "I'm not your mom!" It's a wonder I made it to adulthood in one piece.
I don't know if I would put my kid on a leash. But I don't judge other people who do.
I don't necessarily side eye someone for using a leash, or think it's cruel or lazy. I might even think differently once having this new baby, because this baby could be totally different than my girls.
Parenting choices are for sure not a one size fits all.
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My UO- I take issues with having showers for the purpose of "getting stuff." I see a shower as a time for the women/close family in your life to celebrate the special moment of welcoming a child into the world and not for sole purpose of completing someone's registry. I don't know why "needing things" would make a second shower appropriate, if that was the only reason one was being held. If you planned to have more than one kid, you probably should have saved everything or be prepared to replace everything yourself.
And I take issue with people judging others for allowing someone else to throw a shower because they do not have anything. Maybe YOU did, but not everyone plans to have more kids. And what is wrong with celebrating the life of a second child? Or an unexpected baby 16 years after the first child? "Getting stuff" is just a bonus, and for most people 20 here or 40 there isn't much to them. Why tell someone "hey, you weren't planning to have another, but you got pregnant and it's your fault, so no you cannot have a shower to celebrate this new life and have to fork out thousands for baby supplies."
Well I love Indian food and I don't like ice cream!
As for CIO for sleep.... I did it. I couldn't get her to sleep. Nothing I did helped. Sometimes if I intervene I make it worse. I do my best if she cries and check her diaper and feed her but sometimes she just needs to be alone and relax. I think we actually stress her out when we pick her up and stuff. Idk... They're such a mystery sometimes
My UO- I take issues with having showers for the purpose of "getting stuff." I see a shower as a time for the women/close family in your life to celebrate the special moment of welcoming a child into the world and not for sole purpose of completing someone's registry. I don't know why "needing things" would make a second shower appropriate, if that was the only reason one was being held. If you planned to have more than one kid, you probably should have saved everything or be prepared to replace everything yourself.
I didn't know what to do. I really didn't want people to be in a position where they need to bring a gift but I really wanted to celebrate. I felt really awkward about it. We ended up throwing a house warming for our new place and some friends we hadn't seen in a while who didn't know had a bit of a surprise when they saw me 8 months pregnant. But it was my way of doing something fun with friends. Yeah, I'm a bit weird....
@Twinkiedoll, I would never throw a gender reveal party, no would I ever go one. Well, unless there was guaranteed to be there sheet cake. Then I would go eat cake and leave.
@plumpous it doesn't sound like you fall into the category of people I was talking about at all! I think spending time and reconnecting with friends is exactly the purpose of showers. It's the people who insist on showers so other people can buy them stuff that I take issue with.
My UO, which is actually what brought me out of lurking back on the Sept 15 board, is I am 100% anti CIO for sleep training an infant.
There was a post on there about a mom bragging about her 4 month old's sleep after she 'sleep trained' and I lost my shit a little and may have called her cruel. Hindsight, I probably shouldn't have been so harsh. But seriously if your baby is not even one yet why in the eff would you think it's ok to let them cry themselves to sleep? I just can't help but see it as abuse.
My daughter still wakes up most nights at 17 months and it would be nice if she slept through every night (she does occasionally) but honestly no matter how bad it got I could NEVER comprehend letting her lose it for the sake of her learning to 'self-soothe'. Even at this age where she clearly manipulates me sometimes lol. I would say to each their own, but once we get to this stage with our babies and moms start coming out talking about he benefits of CIO I'm probably going to go all:
And here I thought we had a few more months before this "fun" topic came up. ::eye roll::
FTR I've had both of my children CIO, and I'm sure we will use the same method with this one when it's appropriate. In NO way is it abusive, as someone who came from an extremely abusive family I take that statement very seriously.
@plumpous it doesn't sound like you fall into the category of people I was talking about at all! I think spending time and reconnecting with friends is exactly the purpose of showers. It's the people who insist on showers so other people can buy them stuff that I take issue with.
I really do not know anyone who has thrown themselves a shower. Or had a baby shower JUST to get stuff.
My UO- I take issues with having showers for the purpose of "getting stuff." I see a shower as a time for the women/close family in your life to celebrate the special moment of welcoming a child into the world and not for sole purpose of completing someone's registry. I don't know why "needing things" would make a second shower appropriate, if that was the only reason one was being held. If you planned to have more than one kid, you probably should have saved everything or be prepared to replace everything yourself.
And I take issue with people judging others for allowing someone else to throw a shower because they do not have anything. Maybe YOU did, but not everyone plans to have more kids. And what is wrong with celebrating the life of a second child? Or an unexpected baby 16 years after the first child? "Getting stuff" is just a bonus, and for most people 20 here or 40 there isn't much to them. Why tell someone "hey, you weren't planning to have another, but you got pregnant and it's your fault, so no you cannot have a shower to celebrate this new life and have to fork out thousands for baby supplies."
You're my favorite again, @CarsonsMommy. Nutella thing totally forgiven.
I'd so much rather give a shower gift to a STM who needs the help than a FTM whose registry consists of $30 onesies with her husband's favorite band. (True story.)
I'm kind of in the middle about CIO if we're going there. My mom used this on me, but I'm not sure how I'm going to feel about it with my own child. I can't say I won't use it, but can't say I love the idea of it right now either. It's way to early for me to know I guess.
Just to clarify I'm only talking infants. After infancy, although I wouldn't use it personally, I wouldn't be so riled up. But CIO for helpless new to the world babies that can't communicate any needs, in my unpopular opinion, is just not ok. Sorry if that upsets you but it honestly upsets me too.
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My UO, which is actually what brought me out of lurking back on the Sept 15 board, is I am 100% anti CIO for sleep training an infant.
There was a post on there about a mom bragging about her 4 month old's sleep after she 'sleep trained' and I lost my shit a little and may have called her cruel. Hindsight, I probably shouldn't have been so harsh. But seriously if your baby is not even one yet why in the eff would you think it's ok to let them cry themselves to sleep? I just can't help but see it as abuse.
My daughter still wakes up most nights at 17 months and it would be nice if she slept through every night (she does occasionally) but honestly no matter how bad it got I could NEVER comprehend letting her lose it for the sake of her learning to 'self-soothe'. Even at this age where she clearly manipulates me sometimes lol. I would say to each their own, but once we get to this stage with our babies and moms start coming out talking about he benefits of CIO I'm probably going to go all:
You don't want to use CIO fine but calling it abuse is way overboard and devaluing the actual meaning of the word. I sleep trained at 6 months because they are old enough and big enough and shouldn't need to eat during the night (obviously there are scenarios where this isn't the case). I have a very happy and healthy son who has in no way been abused.
I think being prepared to fork out thousands for baby supplies is part of the deal of having a kid, no matter if the kid is your first or second. And to be clear, I've never heard of anyone throwing themselves a shower. If that was what the one post was saying, then I definitely misinterpreted it. My point was I think the "stuff" part of showers overshadows the point of the celebration, that's all.
@virginiaunicorn11 haha, I actually love nutella. Exactly my thoughts on the needs vs frivolity. I didn't even have a registry for my first's baby shower. Though I started one for the big items so I would get 15 percent off. People just brought things they thought I would need from experience.
Everything was so hard to get rid of, but we weren't planning on another, and I have fertility issues. So now, we are spending our last dime on getting a well drilled today and are SOL. Husband will get job, and he parts out vehicles, so we will have income again in a bit, but I have a feeling we will end up running around hunting and gathering towards the end Gtg, my son just did really stinky diarrhea farts.
I'm not going to defend my words or post because I agree abuse is a harsh word to use. Although I did say it's how I see it. It's just a sore spot for me. Sorry just can't get on board with it. I get it works for people. But the ends don't justify the means in this case for me. And in infancy it just makes me sad. I guess another UO is I think some babies do still need to eat at night at 6 months.
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Just to clarify I'm only talking infants. After infancy, although I wouldn't use it personally, I wouldn't be so riled up. But CIO for helpless new to the world babies that can't communicate any needs, in my unpopular opinion, is just not ok. Sorry if that upsets you but it honestly upsets me too.
So, infancy is considered from 2-12 months.
My kids were both ready around 9 months old. According to your logic they were abused. I don't see how this is a "1 size fits all" kinda thing.
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My UO, which is actually what brought me out of lurking back on the Sept 15 board, is I am 100% anti CIO for sleep training an infant.
There was a post on there about a mom bragging about her 4 month old's sleep after she 'sleep trained' and I lost my shit a little and may have called her cruel. Hindsight, I probably shouldn't have been so harsh. But seriously if your baby is not even one yet why in the eff would you think it's ok to let them cry themselves to sleep? I just can't help but see it as abuse.
My daughter still wakes up most nights at 17 months and it would be nice if she slept through every night (she does occasionally) but honestly no matter how bad it got I could NEVER comprehend letting her lose it for the sake of her learning to 'self-soothe'. Even at this age where she clearly manipulates me sometimes lol. I would say to each their own, but once we get to this stage with our babies and moms start coming out talking about he benefits of CIO I'm probably going to go all:
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P.S. I don't like cats not even a little bit
Sex reveal and social media announcements are kind of overkill to me, but just because I don't want all that attention on me. We had a co-ed Baby-Q for my first and it was fun. I HATE the dumb "don't say baby" nonsense! We are here celebrating a mama and baby, it's a BABY shower, I'm going to say baby. My sister in law did something similar, you weren't allowed to cross your arms or legs, and that was a little more fun, but still kind of annoying. I don't care for most baby shower games, but occasionally it can be done well.
2. I am also meh on donuts, and really most breakfast foods. But I do love my mom's french toast recipe. It's different from french toast I've had in other places, but it's the only kind I like.
3. @Dcwtada I will also side-eye older kids in strollers sometimes, but then I'll throw my 2.5 year old in the Tula and let my 5yo sit in the stroller because I just want to walk faster than a snail's pace. I don't understand the math of it, but kids can be faster than you ever thought possible when you need them to stay near you. But heaven forbid you just want to effing get home, then you've never seen them move so slowly. This is why my 5yo gets a ride sometimes.
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My UO is Nutella is gross. It is marketed as a great healthy option like peanut butter but is nearly forty percent sugar. No thanks.
PurplePoppy424 said: The bold text. This ticks me off faster than anything. See MBF for greater context.
But I do love Katt Williams stand up comedy about white people putting leashes on their kids! It's hilarious. He says white people should stop doing that because it's just entertainment for black people. I laughed so hard.
I still LOVE him anyway though. I am 100% a dog person all the way but I respect your opinion bc i feel the same about cats. I guess that is my UO...
ETA - this example obviously doesn't apply to everyone and I'm not suggesting that it does. There are certainly ways to counter the impacts of washing cloth diapers and if you are someone who takes those steps thats awesome...most people don't because they don't do the research to realize that cloth diapers are also environmentally harmful.
"Love this chick!! I always agree with he--WHAT?! NUTELLA?!?!"
I can only buy Nutella once a year because I eat it by the spoonful out of the jar within two days (I'm going to lie a little here about my timeframe, nobody say anything about that please). It's amaaaazziiiiiinnggggg.
I hate kid leashes (but totally loved your post @abmommy15) I've never had a reason to use one, but that doesn't mean I never will.
@RubyRedPirate I havent seen that before it it looks stupid!
I love doughnuts.
I don't like gender/sex reveal parties except family.
I love dogs.
I've never had Nutella.
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Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
I don't know if I would put my kid on a leash. But I don't judge other people who do.
Parenting choices are for sure not a one size fits all.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30
2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14
2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15
Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
As for CIO for sleep.... I did it. I couldn't get her to sleep. Nothing I did helped. Sometimes if I intervene I make it worse. I do my best if she cries and check her diaper and feed her but sometimes she just needs to be alone and relax. I think we actually stress her out when we pick her up and stuff. Idk... They're such a mystery sometimes
FTR I've had both of my children CIO, and I'm sure we will use the same method with this one when it's appropriate. In NO way is it abusive, as someone who came from an extremely abusive family I take that statement very seriously.
Edited because the bump ate 1/2 my post...
my happy boy
I'd so much rather give a shower gift to a STM who needs the help than a FTM whose registry consists of $30 onesies with her husband's favorite band. (True story.)
edited: *onesies not ones
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Everything was so hard to get rid of, but we weren't planning on another, and I have fertility issues. So now, we are spending our last dime on getting a well drilled today and are SOL. Husband will get job, and he parts out vehicles, so we will have income again in a bit, but I have a feeling we will end up running around hunting and gathering towards the end
edit: word
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
My kids were both ready around 9 months old. According to your logic they were abused. I don't see how this is a "1 size fits all" kinda thing.
And I still sure as hell don't see it as abuse.
But bonus point for you for having a true UO...
my happy boy