Is this a thing? I feel like it is on other boards, but I can't remember if it is here.
Ugh DH. He has to send in his immunization records for grad school and not only can he not figure out how to go about doing it but he is complaining about it without end. Dude, you have so few responsibilities. In fact, the only ones you have are dishes and laundry. I cook, I pay the bills, I manage our budget, I grocery shop, I contact the LL when stuff breaks, I maintain the car (in fairness I drive it much more), I manage our calendar. So forgive me for not feeling sorry for you having to track down a fax machine and your records. And don't even come with that "this is wasting time out of my life" BS.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Monday B-fest is definitely a thing! I think it just gets lost in the shuffle sometimes (like Meal Plan Monday)
Also, anything like this I would definitely have to handle for my H. I'm basically the money maker, meal planner, chef, maid, financial consultant, secretary. Now that he's been laid off he has done the grocery shopping (after I meal plan and send him with a list) and he has done some cleaning as well and all pickup/drop off of the kids at school. But yes, what is it about husbands that make them so incompetent when it comes to things like that?!
Speaking of helpless men. Yes my husband is super sick right now. But why do I have to be the one to remind him to check his temperature and drink water and take his meds? He wants to snuggle and I'm like "heck no!" If you love me you will keep sleeping on the couch. He claims to want to snuggle with his baby girl but he doesn't want to feel my belly when he's not sick! Men are such babies when sick. Ugh.
Also, my mother knew I didn't want her to throw me a shower in my hometown because I have so few connections left there. But now that my MIL is throwing me one in DH's hometown, my mother I think feels left out, and is attempting to invite family to my house during my virtual shower. I had to put my foot down and remind her that it's not going to have food and decorations and whatnot. It's completely virtual. I feel bad because this is her first grandbaby and she wants to be involved but it's just not practical because I barely speak to anyone she would want to invite, and it would just be awkward and "gift-grabby" to me. I love my mother but I'm terrified this is the beginning of crazy grandma mode. Haha. I seem to have talked her into a "meet the baby" party this summer instead though. Why do these things have to be complicated?
I was just thinking that we needed to resurrect Monday Bitchfest!
DH is in California all week for work. That leaves me alone with our dog for the week, who can be quite needy. She is super small so she can't jump on the bed by herself and she has some anxiety when DH doesn't come home. She sits and waits by the stairs and gets up all through the night. So it's a week of even more restless than normal sleep for me. And another awkward week alone at our childbirth prep class on a Wednesday. Hooray.
I stopped at the grocery store after work yesterday and managed to get a spot pretty close to the store, which was awesome because it was pouring rain. When I'm done and walking back to my car and loading up, this rando stops by my car and YELLS at me that "just because it's raining doesn't mean you get to hoard a handicapped spot." I then pointed out that it wasn't a handicapped spot (the one next to it was), and she stomped off rambling about "entitled millennials." Uh. What?
@SnarkasaurusRex that's terrible!!!! She should mind her own business. It wasn't even a handicap spot! and even if it was? Does she know your health history? Then to blame it on being a millennial... wow - I think she may have some unresolved issues of her own. Try to shrug it off. Some people are just angry at the world for their own reasons- probably nothing to even do with you.
Speaking of helpless men. Yes my husband is super sick right now. But why do I have to be the one to remind him to check his temperature and drink water and take his meds? He wants to snuggle and I'm like "heck no!" If you love me you will keep sleeping on the couch. He claims to want to snuggle with his baby girl but he doesn't want to feel my belly when he's not sick! Men are such babies when sick. Ugh.
This a million times over. When DH has a cold if I do not physically put the pills he needs to take into the palm of his hand, he doesn't take them. It's absolutely ridiculous. Also, he is currently in denial that he just has allergy issues right now and not an actual cold. Sometimes I think he actually may believe that "real men" don't get allergies.
@catem07 very true! And I don't mean to over-generalize or stereotype, but DH is Mexican. I'm not sure he ever cooked, did laundry, etc before he married me. AND, he's a mamas boy (which I don't mind because he treats women with respect), but geez.... Hey ladies having sons, please teach them to do things around the house and take care of themselves. Their future wives will thank you.
YES! DH was mad the other day because I mentioned the trade-in event at Babies R Us and how we should take in an old car seats, 2 old strollers, etc...He agreed with that, but then said, "you know, you said we wouldn't need anything for this pregnancy and baby, but you keep buying things!" Well, DH, we needed a smaller swing because the old one we had doesn't fit our space anymore (so we gave the old swing to a friend). The car seat we have is a year over expiration, so we need a new one. We bought a few things for the nursery (a blanket, curtains, paint). I've bought 2 onesies and a little hat. HE got me a new carrier for Christmas. Our strollers are all old and falling apart, so we are getting rid of them, so we got a new stroller. That's it. We've gotten rid of more baby stuff than we've purchased. Anything we've purchased we got on sale or with a coupon. I cloth diaper, so we don't need diapers. I BF, so we don't need formula. He is making me crazy. He was mad at me for getting things we need, which, of course, frustrated me. When I get remotely upset, I basically just sob and cry. It was a mess.
This is our last baby, so I do want him or her to have some new things of its own. That, coupled with the fact that DD is turning 6, so most of our baby stuff is 6+ years old, it's just getting out-of-date and overused.
@Ekzerr my MIL did too! Haha. I made it clear from the beginning that I was not his mother and after a year of letting him leave his socks around the house he finally started doing it himself. And then his mother apologized to me. He's a mama's boy too. But I am NOT his mother! And yes @schef070911 the physically handing it to him thing. Just about every time.
@HGRich My mom is annoying like that too. This is our second baby and I have already declined two showers from friends, saying "oh, we have most everything we need. let's plan a party where everyone can meet the baby instead". I told my mom I have already declined two showers thinking she would get the hint. Nope, she told me a couple of days ago she wants to know what we still need because people will want to know for her shower. My reply was we are not having a shower for a same gender, second baby within two years. She said, "oh, I know it will just be a few people and family". SHE DOES NOT GET IT. It is not what I want. Her agenda is stronger than her being reasonable.
@catem07 I was your husband in college with my now-husband. He had the primary income and handled most of the more "adult" things people have to do in life. He had 0% sympathy when I complained about school paperwork, W2s, FAFSA crap ect. He was working, in school, managing half an apartment with me and keeping up with our relationship. Since we have been married and became parents, I like to think I am reformed. I honestly take care of much more boring paperwork things. I do all the bill paying, dr. appointments, and even insurance price shopping! I'm surprised how much my priorities shifted towards a team centered attitude. There is hope for him!
Mine is also with the DH... hate to say it. It may be an overreaction on my part but I'm pregnant, he's not, so I win! So on xmas eve, I found out that my mom told a couple aunts the babies' names. Now, I didn't tell her not to say because I figured it was a give-in - my kids, my announcement...anyway. They all started chiming in with their opinions, etc etc. On the way home, my DH goes "why did your mom tell everyone?" I told him that I had no idea and it kind of upset me. But it's over, what can I do.
Anywho, I knew his mom and my SIL were throwing me a shower in NJ this past weekend. I asked him to ask them not to be the names on anything. He threw a little tiff about the fact that my family knew but I told him that I just didn't want to go through it again. I get to the shower, my college friends are there, his family, even my mom and sister drove down, it was great! I'm looking at all the great decorations and my friend goes "Oh, I guess you picked names, huh?" I looked at her side-eyed because I wanted to share them with her privately.... but no, there they were.... right on the cake. Then I go on FB and his aunt who took great pictures also took one of the cake.... I got abnormally upset over this last night and DH could be anything but understanding about it. Kind of flipped out about what a big deal I was making. My whole thing is is that they are OUR kids and these were OUR announcements. If I wanted to wait, I should be able to, I should have the option. But when a decision kind of gets taken away from you, you're left feeling defeated.
Luckily, they all liked the names - otherwise they'd still be pulling frosting out of their hair
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@super_sam03 I would be SUPER pissed. We didn't tell anyone DS's name until we got the news that I was being induced, and even then we only told immediate family. I haven't told anyone this kiddos name and I doubt I will until she's here. People get so swept up in their own excitement that they forget that it's not necessarily their news to share...my mom threw a downright temper tantrum because I was "waiting too long" to tell the extended family about this pregnancy (because I had a cute thing that I wanted to do) and that she was just going to tell everyone if I didn't hurry up with it. I was like, uhhh, no. My baby, my announcement! Sorry you had to go through all of that.
Ugh @super_sam03. Something similar happened with my mom. By the time we had decided not to share our name, my mom already knew it. So I told her not to tell anyone. Obviously she couldn't do that because her mouth is HUGE (I told her I was pregnant as soon as I found out. She proceeded to tell people immediately...I should have learned, really). So then DH and I switched the first and middle names, and I told her that (another mistake...) Then she somehow in her twisted mind decides that she can share the two names but not tell people which is the first name and which is the middle name. NO! That's not what I mean by "we aren't telling anyone her name." And then when I called her out on it she wouldn't even own her responsibility.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@super_sam03 Gah, how frustrating! I'm sorry that decision/reveal was taken away from you. Apart from DH slipping to his parents (who won't say anything) and us deciding to tell my sister, we are keeping it a secret. It is sooooo hard not to slip up, but I can't imagine someone else stealing my decision on when or how to reveal my baby's name.
My bitch fest isn't my DH, but a friend of mine. She has been a part of my pregnancy all along and has known everything I have bee going through including my OB telling me if I didn't start taking it easy, staying off my feet, and doing extra things that he would put me on part time work. Well as a teacher there is no such thing. So I've been TRYING to do less. She texted me this evening to ask me to let her dog out in the morning and feed him because she wanted to stay at a friends for the night and her roommate (ex-fiance) is out all night. I told her that I could try if she really needed it, but I couldn't be late to work and that I was back in the ER last night and needed to take it easy. (She didn't know that part, we haven't talked in a few days because I've been stressed out and she's been "boy hunting" since she is now single). I asked why she wasn't coming home and why her ex wouldn't be home. She ignored everything I said and asked and replied with asking what time I had to leave for work and she would text me in the morning before that time to let me know if I still needed to go to her house in the morning.
Am I being sensitive and overly annoyed or is she being a little rude and selfish?
@nolegirl1185 I think it's a bit much to ask you to do that favor for her on a work night--pregnant or not--unless you are neighbors. I don't think she's obligated to answer those questions (but I'm guessing you're close enough friends if she would ask you to do that favor).
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@catem07 We live about 10 minutes away from each other so it's not bad, but it would take me an extra half hour in the morning. We are definitely close enough to ask those questions and her ex fiance is my husbands best friend. I feel better about it this morning though, she texted me and and asked why I was at the hospital etc. I just felt like she ignored that and didn't care last night.
Re: Monday b-fest 1/23
Also, anything like this I would definitely have to handle for my H. I'm basically the money maker, meal planner, chef, maid, financial consultant, secretary. Now that he's been laid off he has done the grocery shopping (after I meal plan and send him with a list) and he has done some cleaning as well and all pickup/drop off of the kids at school. But yes, what is it about husbands that make them so incompetent when it comes to things like that?!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Also, my mother knew I didn't want her to throw me a shower in my hometown because I have so few connections left there. But now that my MIL is throwing me one in DH's hometown, my mother I think feels left out, and is attempting to invite family to my house during my virtual shower. I had to put my foot down and remind her that it's not going to have food and decorations and whatnot. It's completely virtual. I feel bad because this is her first grandbaby and she wants to be involved but it's just not practical because I barely speak to anyone she would want to invite, and it would just be awkward and "gift-grabby" to me. I love my mother but I'm terrified this is the beginning of crazy grandma mode. Haha. I seem to have talked her into a "meet the baby" party this summer instead though. Why do these things have to be complicated?
DH is in California all week for work. That leaves me alone with our dog for the week, who can be quite needy. She is super small so she can't jump on the bed by herself and she has some anxiety when DH doesn't come home. She sits and waits by the stairs and gets up all through the night. So it's a week of even more restless than normal sleep for me. And another awkward week alone at our childbirth prep class on a Wednesday. Hooray.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
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DS #3: 7/8/2012
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DS #4: 4/21/17
This is our last baby, so I do want him or her to have some new things of its own. That, coupled with the fact that DD is turning 6, so most of our baby stuff is 6+ years old, it's just getting out-of-date and overused.
DD: 6/20/11
DS: 2/23/13
EDD: 4/15/17
Anywho, I knew his mom and my SIL were throwing me a shower in NJ this past weekend. I asked him to ask them not to be the names on anything. He threw a little tiff about the fact that my family knew but I told him that I just didn't want to go through it again. I get to the shower, my college friends are there, his family, even my mom and sister drove down, it was great! I'm looking at all the great decorations and my friend goes "Oh, I guess you picked names, huh?" I looked at her side-eyed because I wanted to share them with her privately.... but no, there they were.... right on the cake. Then I go on FB and his aunt who took great pictures also took one of the cake.... I got abnormally upset over this last night and DH could be anything but understanding about it. Kind of flipped out about what a big deal I was making. My whole thing is is that they are OUR kids and these were OUR announcements. If I wanted to wait, I should be able to, I should have the option. But when a decision kind of gets taken away from you, you're left feeling defeated.
Luckily, they all liked the names - otherwise they'd still be pulling frosting out of their hair
Me 31, DH 32, Married 08/08
02/13/15-HSG-All Clear
ER 02/05-20 Retrieved - 11 Matured, 9 Fertilized, ET 2/10 (1 Transferred, 4 Frz) - BFP 2/19, M/C-3/5-Trisomy 16
ER 07/14-14 Retrieved,11 Matured, 10 Fertilized, ET 07/19 (2 Transferred, 6 Frz), BFP 7/28, 8/16 U/S-TWINS!
Due Date - April 6, 2017 UPDATED March 23, 2017!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Me 31, DH 32, Married 08/08
02/13/15-HSG-All Clear
ER 02/05-20 Retrieved - 11 Matured, 9 Fertilized, ET 2/10 (1 Transferred, 4 Frz) - BFP 2/19, M/C-3/5-Trisomy 16
ER 07/14-14 Retrieved,11 Matured, 10 Fertilized, ET 07/19 (2 Transferred, 6 Frz), BFP 7/28, 8/16 U/S-TWINS!
Due Date - April 6, 2017 UPDATED March 23, 2017!
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Am I being sensitive and overly annoyed or is she being a little rude and selfish?
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022