Here is mine. Another very petty one, but its my birthday, so I feel like I am allowed.
Need some background before this one. My husband is an only child. His parents adopted him when he was 7 and they were in their late 40s.
Ok, so my in laws are great people and they love their grandkids and always want to spend time with them. I am very grateful for that. Well last night they watched the kids so that DH and I could have a date. Very nice. Well my MIL apparently cant change a diaper to save her life. After we got home last night, I went to change DD's diaper and it was barley hanging on. Also she didn't use any ointment so DD got a rash (she's very sensitive) I don't know how many times I can show/tell her how to do it. So annoying.
Sorry about your MIL diaper changing skills. That sucks. Also a touchy situation to try and "teach her." How old is DD? Are pull ups an option while she's at your in laws?
Thanks @cmar1006. DD is a couple months shy of 2. I haven't started potty training yet, because I'm trying to do it all at one time, not just half way and I don't think she is quite ready yet, although she is close. The diaper changing skills are a minor complaint. At least she changed it, right?
@DPandMB even if she's not potty trained she can wear pull ups. They make them that fit her and that way it'll be foolproof (hopefully) for MIL. I was thinking that yes, it's nice she even changed it! My DD is 3 and potty trained now, but I don't think my MIL changed one diaper the whole time.
Side note - I potty trained DD in less than a week one month before her 3rd bday. We moved over the summer so didn't want to potty train her and then move and her regress. We did the no pants method and it worked perfectly! She only had about 2 accidents during the training period. Good luck!
So on Saturday we went to my MIL's house with DH's whole family because there are 5 January birthdays we were celebrating. Well we weren't planning on telling the whole family about our pregnancy, although my MIL, BIL and his fiancee already know but are sworn to secrecy.
To give a little backstory, I have always felt that my in-laws have been cold to me and go out of their way to exclude me. When I try to explain this to DH he says I'm being overly sensitive and that's just the way his family is-that it's not personal.
Anyway, we weren't planning on saying anything, but his grandfather kept asking me all day if I had news to share (leading me to believe MIL told them already). Then MIL and GMIL start bullying me about working at a bank. "Don't you feel bad about yourself not using your degree and teaching?" "Shouldn't you stop being lazy and transfer your certification to Pennsylvania?" "If you want to go back and get your master's you should do it already." I tried to explain that the program I want to do is a full time 1 year program and I can't afford to lose a year of income and tack on another $30k in debt right now to do it, but they just kept going.
After that, DH and I went for a walk because I needed a break and we decided to just go back in and share the news because it seems his grandparents already know and maybe if it's public knowledge that I'm pregnant they will stop bugging me about going back to school right now our jumping into teaching when I'm not ready.
So we went back in and announced it... Aside from a half-hearted congratulations from his grandma, we got crickets. When DH asked his grandpa if he heard he said "Yeah, Suzie is pregnant. I asked her if there was anything new to share and she said no" and then he kept eating. Nobody got up to hug us, hardly anyone even acknowledged it.
DH was so upset at the lack of enthusiasm that he insisted we leave right after singing happy birthday. It wasn't until we were walking out the door that people said anything. "Oh you're leaving? Well, congratulations." Thanks...
DH tried to talk to his mom about what happened and she just said "I don't know what you want me to say. That's just the way my family is."
I feel terrible that DH is so upset, but I'm glad he finally sees what I've seen all along. I understand that's the way they are, but if someone makes you feel terrible every time you see them that doesn't make it ok.
I'm just at a loss of what to do or say. I don't want to encourage DH to stay mad at his family, but I hate having anxiety every time I'm around them. I wouldn't mind a break for a while.
Me: 26 DH:25 Married:August 2015 TTC #1 since April 2016
@SuzieMay827 I am so sorry to read your post! What a disappointing situation. At least your DH now sees what you've been feeling for a while. Hopefully he will be more sensitive to seeing them now that he is aware. Especially now that you're pregnant it might be a good time to distance yourself from them a little bit. You have to do what's best for you, DH and your growing family. It's hard when its family, but you don't need the added stress right now.
@DPandMB even if she's not potty trained she can wear pull ups. They make them that fit her and that way it'll be foolproof (hopefully) for MIL. I was thinking that yes, it's nice she even changed it! My DD is 3 and potty trained now, but I don't think my MIL changed one diaper the whole time.
Side note - I potty trained DD in less than a week one month before her 3rd bday. We moved over the summer so didn't want to potty train her and then move and her regress. We did the no pants method and it worked perfectly! She only had about 2 accidents during the training period. Good luck!
That's awesome and I didn't even think about the pull ups without being potty trained. Good thought.
@SuzieMay827 thank you. I'm sorry that you didn't get an enthusiastic response. This is an exciting time. Its hard when others aren't as excited. It does sound like a break would be good for a while. One good thing is you can use your pregnancy as your excuse. IE: "Ahh I'm just so tire, I am so sorry." "I've been sick with this morning sickness. Sorry we cant do anything right now."
@SuzieMay827 Ugh... that just sucks. Would it have killed them to fake some enthusiasm? That would probably be the last baby related news they heard from me. Gender? Who knows. Name? Hmm... Shower? Don't think so. Due date? Guess we'll see.. But, I'm passive aggressive like that.
@SuzieMay827 Omg, I would be so upset at that situation. I can't believe that anyone would sit and pester you about your career and education choices and treat you that way also after finding out that you are expecting. The fact that no one apologized for their behavior is crazy. I would have been so hurt. Since they obviously don't seem to care about the pregnancy I would be super reluctant to share future details with them as things progress.
My Monday bitchfest is that yesterday my SO had breakfast with his mother, brother and sister in law. (I wasn't present for this as I was out of town.) And the topic of who is going to be in the room while I am laboring came up. My SO stated that he is going to be the only person in the delivery room and his mom insisted that she wanted to be in there.
SO just told her very nicely, "No offense, mom, but Ashley isn't really going to want you in there. She's going to be writhing in pain, practically naked and bleeding. She's not going to feel comfortable with that." His brother was super quick to defend us as well and he reminded his mom that she wasn't in the room when they had their baby.
Its just annoying to me because I'm not even out of my first trimester and people are already trying to encroach upon my appointments and make plans for my delivery. I didn't have my own mother in the delivery room with my first. I'm not about to invite in laws. The only person I'm okay with seeing my lady bits stretched out as far as they'll go is my SO.
I just remember with my first pregnancy crying and vomiting from the pain and bleeding everywhere and it being super traumatic. Why anyone would want to see me like that is beyond me lol.
@Msashley2010 Thank you. Sorry your MIL is trying to push her way in. I had a few minor issues like that during my first pregnancy. Luckily DH was very supportive. Sounds like your SO is very supportive too.
@SuzieMay827 I'm sorry your in-laws were so terrible. Truly, I would be upset as well, even if you in particular weren't surprised by their actions. I recommend that you keep this in mind as your pregnancy moves forward- you probably won't get much more of a reaction for a baby shower or when your LO is born, either. It hurts, but it's something to remember so that your DH won't be quite so disappointed then, or at best will be pleasantly surprised if they are happy and excited for you.
My bitchfest for this morning is petty but here it goes anyway. My friend got me hooked on the new PBS show Victoria (about Queen Victoria, I LOVE historical shows), and I watched the first two episodes last night. Of course I can't watch a show without bingeing as much as possible, so I go to watch episode 3 but I have to either wait a week for the US air date or donate $60 to continue to stream the whole season, even with a cable login. UGH. My evenings are used for resting from my two kids and bingeing shows. What's a mama to do?!?
Mine today is a girl who is pregnant on my facebook. She is like a week ahead of me and posts multiple times a day about it. Maybe I'm just bitter because we are waiting to tell everyone but she has made me crazy from day one (like 3 weeks ago). Day one consisted of pee stick pictures (I'm not even one of the ones who go crazy over these) the fact that it followed immediately with her craving food and demanding people bring it to her at work was the kicker. How do you not know your pregnant and ten minutes after you find out the cravings are so unbearable you can't make it through a work day?!?! Every dang day its something. From every detail of her discharge to her mood to cravings. Its only week 7 for her! Maybe I'm just being touchy but dang girl give it a break for a day. I coordinate with her on facebook for events we are both a part of so I just try and avoid reading as much as possible as she pops up.
@kristanoah I would cave and get the whole season. Simply because I know myself and even if I didn't do it this week the more I got hooked the more it would make me nuts waiting each week. So it would be better for me to do it now and enjoy instead of being frustrated for weeks lol.
Mine doesn't seem so bad compared to some of the others, but here it is. Someone at work is eating fish. I can smell it in my office with the door closed. I don't understand why people think it's okay to eat something with a very strong smell in a relatively small office environment. I doubt whoever it is knows I'm PG, as only 2 people at work know, but I never thought it was polite to eat strong smelling foods at work anyway.
Such a lame one, but I guess my bitch is the fact that I put on my favorite perfume on Friday night and immediately wanted to take it off. The smell was so bad to me. I was devastated!
@bridge-and-wall OMG, fish is so bad. I was at my parents Saturday and my brother came in with a bag that a fish sandwich had been in... the sandwich was gone, and I sill gagged and had to go upstairs for about 20 minutes.
@bridge-and-wall I totally feel your pain. During my last pregnancy my office was across from the microwave. It was horrible. No one's leftover food smells good.
Hey ladies, just wanted to say thank you so much for the support. I think I'm definitely going to use the pregnant/feeling sick excuse to get out of as many future family functions as possible. It's a bummer that they suck but it's a nice reminder that there are good people out there too. So thanks
Me: 26 DH:25 Married:August 2015 TTC #1 since April 2016
@bridge-and-wall My nose is killing me right now. The new guy sitting next to me is a mouth breather, and I can't take much more of it. He's super nice, it's just that pregnancy nose.. oi. We also have a lot of people in our office who re-heat fish, and brussel sprouts. I love brussel sprouts, but the smell from microwaving is nauseating.
Who do people feel the need to show up on the board and post "I'm due this day anyone else?"
I know you want attention but come on... like there are obvious threads to check out if you wanna find someone with a due date the same as yours. They just wanna post once get their attention then they're gone. Don't even contribute anything or even honestly care about anyone else. Super annoying.
This made my actually made me LOL. Mine is also asshole and no explanation is needed.
I recently found out that the night cashier who always rings up my late-night chocolate purchases also has a two-year-old. I told her we should get together for a play date, and she said, "Oh, no. My son is awful."
@daniellelynette in N14 we ended up with an epic post that was probably 30+ pages long that was started from a mom looking to bond with others due on 11/28. It became quite the running joke
What is happening to my skin?!? Pimples are coming in all along my jawline, chin, and neck. WTF. This is worse than high school. I was on minocycline before (obviously that's a big no during pregnancy), I've had one physician ok Retin A (as long as you're not slathering over a 1/4 of your body... studies are all on overdoses or oral vitamin A), and more docs just say no to it.
My skin is so dull and not glowy all of a sudden, I feel like I look instantly 5 years older. Except for the collarbone to jaw acne... ugh!!!
Help!!! What can I do? Scrub? Mask? I'm in Denver so I don't even use soap it's so drying. Just MK eye make-up remover, warm water splash, then lotion (at night I used to use Retin A, which kinda removes a layer of deadish dull skin, but can't anymore). Recommendations?
What is happening to my skin?!? Pimples are coming in all along my jawline, chin, and neck. WTF. This is worse than high school. I was on minocycline before (obviously that's a big no during pregnancy), I've had one physician ok Retin A (as long as you're not slathering over a 1/4 of your body... studies are all on overdoses or oral vitamin A), and more docs just say no to it.
My skin is so dull and not glowy all of a sudden, I feel like I look instantly 5 years older. Except for the collarbone to jaw acne... ugh!!!
Help!!! What can I do? Scrub? Mask? I'm in Denver so I don't even use soap it's so drying. Just MK eye make-up remover, warm water splash, then lotion (at night I used to use Retin A, which kinda removes a layer of deadish dull skin, but can't anymore). Recommendations?
I just went to a presentation for Rodan + Fields skin care products. Rodan and Fields are the dermatologists who created Proactive. I don't remember the names of the different lines, but there's one for adults with acne, one for sensitive skin, one for wrinkles, and one for minimizing pores, etc. They're pricey, but worth looking into. One of the women doing the presentation specifically recommended the sensitive one for pregnancy.
@Amanda H (dang tag won't work with the space on mobile.) Yeah... the reason I went with Retin A is because it's the prescription drug all the OTCs try to copy (for ridiculous prices), but can't. It's $3 a tube that lasts 6+ months. I guess I'm looking for something a little more reasonably priced or that can be whipped up at home.
@GhanimaAtreides an aspirin mask has always done the best for me when my face would randomly break out... takes away redness and inflammation. I'm not sure about using it while pregnant, though. I wonder how much of the aspirin would actually get in your system? Is the dullness from it being dry, do think? If so... argon oil really helps mine. I don't put it all over, just on the spots I have bad dryness.
@HollyGolightly09 OMG, yes, the warnings! Ours sounded around 11:30, scared us both half to death! I actually had to cancel plans this afternoon because the area they were in was under a flash flood warning until 8pm, and I didn't want to risk it.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 1/23
Need some background before this one. My husband is an only child. His parents adopted him when he was 7 and they were in their late 40s.
Ok, so my in laws are great people and they love their grandkids and always want to spend time with them. I am very grateful for that. Well last night they watched the kids so that DH and I could have a date. Very nice. Well my MIL apparently cant change a diaper to save her life. After we got home last night, I went to change DD's diaper and it was barley hanging on. Also she didn't use any ointment so DD got a rash (she's very sensitive) I don't know how many times I can show/tell her how to do it. So annoying.
Sorry about your MIL diaper changing skills. That sucks. Also a touchy situation to try and "teach her." How old is DD? Are pull ups an option while she's at your in laws?
Side note - I potty trained DD in less than a week one month before her 3rd bday. We moved over the summer so didn't want to potty train her and then move and her regress. We did the no pants method and it worked perfectly! She only had about 2 accidents during the training period. Good luck!
Married:August 2015
TTC #1 since April 2016
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
That's awesome and I didn't even think about the pull ups without being potty trained. Good thought.
@SuzieMay827 thank you. I'm sorry that you didn't get an enthusiastic response. This is an exciting time. Its hard when others aren't as excited. It does sound like a break would be good for a while. One good thing is you can use your pregnancy as your excuse. IE: "Ahh I'm just so tire, I am so sorry." "I've been sick with this morning sickness. Sorry we cant do anything right now."
But, I'm passive aggressive like that.
SO just told her very nicely, "No offense, mom, but Ashley isn't really going to want you in there. She's going to be writhing in pain, practically naked and bleeding. She's not going to feel comfortable with that." His brother was super quick to defend us as well and he reminded his mom that she wasn't in the room when they had their baby.
Its just annoying to me because I'm not even out of my first trimester and people are already trying to encroach upon my appointments and make plans for my delivery. I didn't have my own mother in the delivery room with my first. I'm not about to invite in laws. The only person I'm okay with seeing my lady bits stretched out as far as they'll go is my SO.
I just remember with my first pregnancy crying and vomiting from the pain and bleeding everywhere and it being super traumatic. Why anyone would want to see me like that is beyond me lol.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
@kristanoah I would cave and get the whole season. Simply because I know myself and even if I didn't do it this week the more I got hooked the more it would make me nuts waiting each week. So it would be better for me to do it now and enjoy instead of being frustrated for weeks lol.
Edit: it's hard to type on my phone.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
Married:August 2015
TTC #1 since April 2016
*TW*
30 January 2017: Loss at 6+2
8 March 2017: Loss at 5+4
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
I know you want attention but come on... like there are obvious threads to check out if you wanna find someone with a due date the same as yours. They just wanna post once get their attention then they're gone. Don't even contribute anything or even honestly care about anyone else. Super annoying.
*TW*
30 January 2017: Loss at 6+2
8 March 2017: Loss at 5+4
What is happening to my skin?!? Pimples are coming in all along my jawline, chin, and neck. WTF. This is worse than high school. I was on minocycline before (obviously that's a big no during pregnancy), I've had one physician ok Retin A (as long as you're not slathering over a 1/4 of your body... studies are all on overdoses or oral vitamin A), and more docs just say no to it.
My skin is so dull and not glowy all of a sudden, I feel like I look instantly 5 years older. Except for the collarbone to jaw acne... ugh!!!
Help!!! What can I do? Scrub? Mask? I'm in Denver so I don't even use soap it's so drying. Just MK eye make-up remover, warm water splash, then lotion (at night I used to use Retin A, which kinda removes a layer of deadish dull skin, but can't anymore). Recommendations?
*TW*
30 January 2017: Loss at 6+2
8 March 2017: Loss at 5+4
Is the dullness from it being dry, do think? If so... argon oil really helps mine. I don't put it all over, just on the spots I have bad dryness.
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021