New Mamas - Pregnant after IF graduates : random thread

tvh1982 · January 2017

Identical or not, there isn't 'the other one'.
Its soon the 29th, hang in there. And maybe do talk to DH about it like @griffin5413 suggested.

Hahahah love it @mskeenan

Tulips29 · January 2017

@ultratomato I kind of feel like if you don't say anything then soon something else will come up that she does that bothers you. I would bring it up with your husband now before you get more frustrated with her.

My MIL on the other hand wants to be at our house ALL THE TIME! Yes they live 20 mins away but still. They just tell us oh we're on our way or that they will be over tomorrow. Before the baby my husband was swearing how they'd never be those grandparents. Well now they are. Even my own parents who live 5 mins away don't come over constantly because they said we need our rest too. Last night FIL was saying how MIL wants to come over and watch us bathe Aiden. Why? We keep telling them he's still not used to bath time and cries non stop. We try to make the process quick so there's less crying and certainly don't need anyone over to watch. Sure it'll be cute when he's older and loves splashing in the water but for now it's not a spectacle anyone needs to witness.

ultratomato · January 2017

Thanks ladies she is actually leaving Saturday since DHs dad is nkt doing so well and his congestive heart failure is getting worse so I'm not going to say anything and just leave it alone but if it happens again I will say something in the future then but I feel bad now that DHs dad is not doing well.
@Tulips29 I guess we all have in law issues. I guess for me it would be different if it was my mom doing this stuff rather then my in law. We still haven't given the girls a bath yet becaus aubreys belly button was not healed all the way. I wonder if I should give them just a sponge bath or do you girls use the tub for them?

tvh1982 · January 2017

Here in NL we bathe babies from day 2 or later. Not looking at their belly buttons.
I used a tummy tub in the beginning and now I bathe her in her own tiny bath.
In the morning I was her face and bum as the latter is cleaned with minimum light at night.
In the evening she now bathes or we shower together. Unless like today she starts her night earlier then I planned her bath.
Only started bathing her/taking a shower every day since she's two months.
Before that we did it when it suited the both of us. She needed to get used to bathing (didn't like it) and I needed to get a routine, but a sponge bath was always happening.
I dont always use soap.

Jerseygirl856 · January 2017

@ultratomato my pediatrician told me I couldn't give my a bath until her belly button dried up. I was advised to not soak her. I know all dr are different. Even had one dr tell me not bath her every night because it could dry her skin. However hubbys mom advised me to do it to help her sleep. It works for us.

Tulips29 · January 2017

@ultratomato we've been baths since last week but we made sure not to get husband belly button wet. We just put him in the water up to his behind and would just do a light sponge bath. His belly button finally fell off yesterday but I just want the pediatrician to look at it and give the green light on a full bath before we proceed.

capps42613 · January 2017

I typically bathe him every other night in his tub. Before the cord fell off we would just hold him & wipe him down with a soapy washcloth & then wipe him with a wet wash cloth avoiding that area.

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@ultratomato - we do baths in a tub but we only did a sponge bath before the umbilical cord fell off. We don't bathe every night bc it's so dry here.

ultratomato · January 2017

Ladies I gave them both sponge baths but they both did not care for them it was during the day and done before they ate. I'm thinking maybe next time I feed them then bathe them and maybe they would be more happy.

Griffin5413 · January 2017

Eli hated sponge baths but likes them in his tub when he is in the water.

tvh1982 · January 2017

Pia hated spongebath and bathing in the beginning too, but she loved the shower (guess she felt more secure being close, while mummy was afraid of dropping her)
Before Pia I thought all babies loved it from day one, I've now learnt hardly any baby does

I prefer having Pia fed before it too, she's more happy as she's not hungry.
In the beginning it woke her up though, so I had to cuddle her to sleep. Now she manages to fall asleep afterwards.
Like last night, a whooping 9 (!) hours between a feed of which she slept 7 hours and 47 min!
Too bad I didn't know this would happen and didn't go to bed at 10 as I thought she would wake me at 11. And when I went to bed at 11, I was hestitant to fall asleep as I was sure she would wake 'any minute' now. But at 3 she woke me, not screaming, just kindly letting me know it was bottle time. Was afraid she wouldn't sleep after as when I put her to bed she was bright awake. But after 10 min she slept another 4!
I love it! Hope she keeps up with this.

capps42613 · January 2017

@tvh1982 7 hours?! She is well on her way now

@ultratomato don't worry, it took Cason at least 2-3 full baths to not hate life in the water but now he loves it. He is cranky every night between 7pm-8ish. Once he goes in the tub, he enjoys himself so much as long as it's nice & warm.

tvh1982 · January 2017

Yes, 7 hours! @capps42613 I still can't believe it

Defintely helps the crankyness....although its hard to believe Cason can be cranky seeing all that cuteness of him on Instagram

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@tvh1982 - ok now I'm really jealous! It sounds like Pia has come so far. That's awesome that she slept so long. I'm really hoping Eli listens to that memo soon! Lol

mskeenan · January 2017

Omg @tvh1982 that's amazing !!! Tell Pía to keep it up

I'm feeding Vince now after only 2 hours . Ugh ! A lot of people are telling me it'll be better around 3-3.5 months so I'm hoping for that !!

I'm still bathing Vince while I'm in the tub with him . I don't bother with the baby tub I feel uncomfortable with it for some reason . Not only is it easier for me to wash him but it's fun bonding time too !!

ultratomato · January 2017

@tvh1982 wow 7 hours hopefully some day both girls can let me get that sleep lol. Right now I bet about 5 hours since DH and I do shifts in the middle of the night he sleeps from 8pm to 2am and I get 2am to 8am ish as long as he doesn't need help before then. Sometimes they sleep for 3 hours and other times 2.5. And now they are eating 3.5 oz

mskeenan · January 2017

Ugh I feel like Vince is up every 1.5 hours to eat now . Not sure why he just wants to eat all the time but it if brutal .

ultratomato · January 2017

@mskeenan maybe he is growing and maybe the ounces need to be increased so he will be full longer. Just a thought I have no idea

tvh1982 · January 2017

Maybe he has a grow spurt @mskeenan?
This often happens between 6 and 8 week ish (and may vary) Then they'll eat and eat and eat.
Hope it's over soon!

Jerseygirl856 · January 2017

@tvh1982 wow 7hrs?! Amazing and hopefully this is the start of longer sleeping hours for Pia.
@mskeenan I agree it does get better around 3 mos. For me, Leigh now cries to be held. Nothing is actually wrong she just wants to be picked up. It's a challenge to get anything done when she's awake but I can say we have a schedule and it's working. Going back to work has been great and I'm pretty alert despite an interruption of sleep for bottles and diaper changes

Tulips29 · January 2017

@mskeenan from what I read, I agree that it sounds like a growth spurt. Babies tend to cluster feed during that time and it should pass soon. Hang in there!

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@mskeenan - I feel like Eli is doing the same thing. He is waking up more often to feed. I feel like he is hungry all of the time

tvh1982 · January 2017

It was a one off with Pia with the 7 hours. We are back to 1or 2 o'clock feeding and again at 4, 5 or 6 o'clock. But not complaining, she's doing well for how she feels.
We will be seeing a pediatrician tomorrow and they probably send me to the hospital to get Pia checked. The new formula she has due to cowsmilk allergi is helping, but not enough. As we both are not ill anymore, she has had her vaccines a few weeks back and we are on the new diet for almost two moths, there are no excuses left that she's still not a happy camper when it concerns her tummy.
There is another formula for babies like Pia, but the hospital has to prescribe this. So I'll see what they say tomorrow. Hope the tests they do aren't too horrible!
Now Pia is at my parents place so I could clean the house and go to the dentist, who knew this could feel like a day off

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@tvh1982 I hope you guys figure out how to best help Pia! I didn't even know there was formula the hospital could prescribe!

ok so does it get worse before it gets better??? Eli has been up every 2 hours all night but he has only been eating 2 oz rather than 3-4 every 3 hours. This mama is tired!

ultratomato · January 2017

@Griffin5413 I wonder the same thing with these two. Luckily DH and I take shifts so we get about 5 to 6 hours of consecutive sleep a night don't know how that will work when he goes back to work.

tvh1982 · January 2017

It's apparently a formula where they break down the protein in even smaller pieces @griffin5413, but here a specialist has to prescribe this.
The formula I get now is also prescribed, the reason being that if your child doesn't have an allergy it can create one. So they try to keep it away from easy to use I guess. (As well as here in NL you only may buy one box of formula at the time as foreigners otherwise buy our formula in bulk or people sell it for profit to China..)

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@tvh1982 that's crazy that people try to profit off of that! Does your formula last very long before you have to get another? I'm only formula feeding half of the time and I go through a box just about every other week

capps42613 · January 2017

@tvh1982 poor Pia girl! Hope they can find something to keep her belly happy.

@Griffin5413 I hear ya. Every time I feel like "this is it" with sleeping well, he regresses lol. I feel like it's normal, but I was completely spoiled with my daughter. She slept from 8p-8a @ 4wks!

tvh1982 · January 2017

It is crazy the sell it for a profit! As I've been told Dutch formula is one of the best in Europe, even when I lived in Norway where they are really pro breastfeeding knew about it and said I would be good of if BF doesn't work.

A box lasts me max 8 days. And as it is special formula it costs 3x the normal box. I can only order them online, and they deliver them at home, 6 at a time

Luckily my insurance covers all! The only disadvantage is that they want Pia to be tested to keep the cover. Which means they'll give her cowsmilk bit by bit to 'trigger' her allergic reaction.

Oh wow, you were indeed spoiled with your daughter @capps42613! Sorry to hear Cason isn't following his sisters footsteps!

WishingforLuck · January 2017

Hey ladies, hoping to join this thread now that my prince and princess made their grand appearance last week. I instantly fell in love. I was induced but never fully dilated all the way to 10cm, so my little ones were born via c-section. I was completely out of it for at least the first 4 hours after labour, but when I got to see all the pictures DH was able to take I was instantly brought to tears. Hoping to catch up on this thread soon.

tvh1982 · January 2017

Congratulations @wishingforluck!
I get so happy when more Mamma's join.

capps42613 · January 2017

Congrats @WishingforLuck! Get settled in and we'll hear from you soon.

Griffin5413 · January 2017

Congrats @WishingforLuck and welcome to the mama board!

ultratomato · January 2017

@WishingforLuck welcome can't wait to see some pics!

Drove2u · January 2017

Hey everyone. I haven't been activitely contributing here but I'm all caught up on reading this thread and what a great place to go and share your experiences and get advice from other new moms. Viktoria was born on dec 31. She's a little over 3 weeks now. She eats really well both breast milk and formula but doesn't sleep so well. A typical night is we both go to sleep around 9pm. She's up at 12am for diaper change and feeding which is done at 12:30am. She will stay up until 1:30am. Sleep 1:30am-3am. Awake 3-6am. I feed her twice at that point. And then sleep 6am-9am. Is this awful or typical? It feels awful to me. Ha! Today I saw something on Pinterest about a schedule for a three week old. I know they usually don't keep schedules now but I'm willing to try new things. This schedule has her up only at 11pm, 4am and then 7am.
She also sleeps in her rock n play or with me in her bed. She hates her bassinet.

Griffin5413 · January 2017

@Drove2u- I commented on the April/May thread and I mentioned Eli is still up every 3 hours. I forgot to mention that usually his is up for at least an hour sometimes 2 during one of those feedings. He hates his bassinet too!

mskeenan · January 2017

Yay @wishingforluck ! Excited for your update !!

@Drove2u i think that's pretty typical for that age . I know it seems awful but I'm told it'll get better !

I think y'all are right Vince must be going through a growth spurt . The dude is back to cluster feeding . It is rough on me . I'm worried my milk production isn't enough for him bc he gets so pissed off and never seems full . I'm gonna watch it and bring it up at his 2 month check next week . He's still pooping and peeing often so I'm not too worried but I am pumping as I always have to store frozen milk for when I return to work and I'm barely getting anything . I donated blood last Friday so I'm worried that may have affected things . I've also been exercising more and maybe getting dehydrated .

capps42613 · January 2017

@mskeenan ugh! I hope there is no issues with your supply. I give you ladies all the credit in the world for making it this far!

Random thought: I'm so surprised with the number of c-sections that have occurred on this board. It seems like their outnumbering vaginal births.

mskeenan · January 2017

@capps42613 I know !! I never thought I would end up with a c section . I started going to a mommy workout group and most of the women there had c sections . They are more common than I thought .

As for my supply I am hoping it's not a long standing issue . My friend recommended power pumping (pumping for an hour straight 10 min each time with 10 min breaks to cause multiple let downs . It's supposed to help . I tried it tonight and will do it every night to see if it works .

LynnNJ · January 2017

Hi everyone! I think I posted in the 3rd trimester and April /May threads, did not post here yet. Dylan was born by c-section on (Friday) January 13th. It was my lucky day, because he's perfect!

I'm still cautious about posting some info publicly on these boards, so I'll send the rest of the info (and photos) privately to anyone who requests.

I have not had the easiest time since the baby was born, but things are much better now. First of all I got no rest in the hospital. Although I was completely in love with my son, the hospital time was very stressful for me. Dh was having severe back pain, so I made him sleep at home the last few nights. I was in better shape than him. While I was trying to take care of ds and my hands were literally full, everyone needed my attention at the same time. While the nurses were helpful, they were not really patient in the way that was most helpful to me to get better at breastfeeding. It wasn't until I was told I needed to supplement that it clicked.

When I came home, things were better, but I became really emotional. I was worried that I was going through post partum depression, although I was so happy with ds. I was extremely overwhelmed by the shock of everything changing suddenly. Although Dh was working from home, he still had to work.Things were really stressful for him. My mother was not feeling well so I would not let her come over. My in-laws cooked meals for us that we could freeze. They also picked up some other supplies I needed for ds. The care of ds has all been on me. I get an occasional break when Dh bottle feeds him while I go to take a shower.

I have been breastfeeding 10-15% of the time and using formula the rest. I tried pumping and handful of times as well. After being really stressed and going a bit crazy from not sleeping, I made the decision that breastfeeding 100% was not going to work for me... at least not while he's feeding round the clock like this. Since then and since I've started feeling better, life has gotten much better.

Dh has been going through a rough time and has not really given me the support I needed. Luckily, the baby stuff has been under control. I think the adjustment was too much for him to take on all at once. Dh didn't quite have the fatherly instincts like I had maternal instincts. Slowly, he is coming around and getting more involved. I have been very frustrated with the situation, but I'm glad he's slowly stepping up.

I'm waiting to be cleared to drive I will not rely on everyone so much. That has been another frustration of mine. Ds has been a joy. I still can't believe he's mine. He makes it very clear when he's hungry. Otherwise, he very content and not fussy.

I will read through the other posts to catch up. I feed very disconnected from the world right now. It would be good to see what others are going through, since it looks like others have had similar experiences with breastfeeding. Hope everyone else is doing well!

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