I zipped my way past the lady who always parks in the pregnant lady parking spot today with no shame. Mind you, she's like 60 yrs old so clearly not in need of this spot. It drives me crazy bc people park like a-holes in our parking garage, so even if you do get a close spot, you can't fit in between the cars to get to your door, even when not pregnant. And earlier in my pregnancy I would see these very pregnant women have to walk across the garage bc other people would park there--a lot of times men. I cannot park in the back of the garage anymore (there are more end of the row spots there so you can easily get to your car door), I can barely walk most days so I'll be getting here every day early so I don't have to struggle when I leave.
She stopped her car to glare at me and I just waved and waddled to the elevator. idgaf!
My family has been forced to rely on food stamps for the last 4 months. I hate it. I feel like such a worthless failure of a human. It has contributed to the crazy depression I have been fighting since August. I feel helpless as all our family plans and goals have gone to crap and we are in survival mode. We have 3 college degrees between us, but life circumstances have turned things to this. Since July we have been expecting things to change any day now, but things have not changed and it is severely threatening the fate of our marriage, and my own health. But, I will do whatever it takes to care for my 3 year old and upcoming baby, even if it means giving up all my pride and struggling to get out of bed in the morning. A Facebook "friend" posted an idiotic video about food stamp recipients buying soda, and how we are all just fat and lazy people who are out to screw over America. And then her friends are commenting just the most vile things on the video. I posted a somewhat fierce response and then I went into the bathroom and cried my eyes out for a good 5 minutes and now I can feel the depression hole sucking me in hard and I don't know how I am supposed to care for my daughter today feeling like this. It is so hard.
Sorry for the major downer, I appreciate having a place to let out some feelings though. Thanks for listening and being there for me, ladies.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@mrsstuessy Hang in there, momma, and don't ever be ashamed of doing what is right for your family. My mom had us on food stamps and worked as a bagger at a grocery store to make ends meet when things got tough when we were younger...you gotta do what you've got to do. Know that this too shall pass. I hope things turn around for you soon!
@mrsstuessy thinking of you mama. People who post stuff like that don't want to understand the real nuanced factors that contribute, they just want to blame somebody for something they're mad about and it's easier to paint everyone with a wide brush. You are doing the best you can for your family, and you have no reason to be ashamed. Hang in there - things will get better!
@mrsstuessy I definitely agree with @SnarkasaurusRex. You have to do what you have to do for your family. There is NO SHAME in that! My mother was also on food stamps when we were younger. I'm so sorry that you are having a rough time with life right now though. Hopefully your H can find a great job soon and things will keep improving in your life. Think positive! (I know, its hard when things look really bleak). Know that we are all here for you for support and encouragement.
@mrsstuessy screw those people. You are doing what you can in your situation and that is why there are programs like that in place. You use whatever you need and don't feel bad about it. I pray that things turn around for you.
@mrsstuessy thinking of you! I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that plus those negative comments on fb. There's no shame in taking care of your family, and if right now that means having to use food stamps so your child has food, then so be it. My family struggled a lot when I was younger and my mom always tried to hide it from my sister and I bc we were older than my other siblings and I know she was embarrassed, but it made me admire her more because she worked her butt off to provide for us and made sure we had what we needed and felt loved. That's the best any of us can do. I hope things start getting better for you soon, we're all here for you!!!
There is no shame in accepting help when you need it, and that is exactly the purpose of food stamps - to help. You are doing what you need to do to look after your family. Keep your head up, Love. You'll make it through this.
It's drizzling rain today and I have no intention of getting dressed or doing anything productive today. My biggest ambition is getting someone to go get a mini bundt cake with me because I have a coupon. DH is being a downer about it, so I just may go get two of them myself.
Thank you guys so much! Your words are honestly really helping on a hard day for me. We went back and forth a couple of times. Apparently she is willing to have a conversation but won't "fight" about it. I guess she just wants to bash people without being called out on it. So, it was time to unfriend. I feel a little bit better. I don't need people like that in any part of my life. I could say some more horrible things about her as a person, but I don't want to be like her so I will stop now. Again, your words are really helping me today and I appreciate them so much.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@mrsstuessy I had to go on them for a couple months a few years ago while we got back on our feet. I had a few negative comments about it but I quickly shut that shit down. I stretched mine and rarely bought anything "junky" with them.. but you get what you get so who the heck is anyone to judge how one spends it? It's a super tiny amount of tax money (<$36 a year for those who make $50,000) how anyone can be mad when it goes to feed families who need a little help is beyond me. My family gives back by volunteering at food pantries and donating.. so I don't feel guilty or ashamed of taking the help when I needed it and I hate that anyone would be made to feel that way!
@Blueberry85 I love those things too! Trying so hard not to buy any, 1 hour glucose is this week.
@mrsstuessy I am so sorry your "friend" is a complete jerk. I second all the pp's, keep your head up, you are doing your absolute best for your family. You still work, and stay home with your DD, so it's not as though you aren't doing everything possible to support your family and do what is best for them. You are a wonderful mom, don't let anyone think you are not! I know it probably doesn't feel like it at the moment, but this too shall pass, and you have a community here on TB who supports you until you get there.
Re: FFFC
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017
She stopped her car to glare at me and I just waved and waddled to the elevator. idgaf!
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
Sorry for the major downer, I appreciate having a place to let out some feelings though. Thanks for listening and being there for me, ladies.
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
@mrsstuessy screw those people. You are doing what you can in your situation and that is why there are programs like that in place. You use whatever you need and don't feel bad about it. I pray that things turn around for you.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
There is no shame in accepting help when you need it, and that is exactly the purpose of food stamps - to help. You are doing what you need to do to look after your family. Keep your head up, Love. You'll make it through this.
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
@mrsstuessy I am so sorry your "friend" is a complete jerk. I second all the pp's, keep your head up, you are doing your absolute best for your family. You still work, and stay home with your DD, so it's not as though you aren't doing everything possible to support your family and do what is best for them. You are a wonderful mom, don't let anyone think you are not! I know it probably doesn't feel like it at the moment, but this too shall pass, and you have a community here on TB who supports you until you get there.