I'll start. My botchiest is a little long today. Sorry.
Little history, my older kids are technically step kids, but I don't treat them like that or refer to them any differently. They also both have different biological moms. Yes my husband got around Anyway for Christmas DH and I decided to give in and finally get DS a phone. He's almost 12, and has proven to us that he deserves it. He has all A's and one B in school. Well he switches every other week. One week with his bio mom and one week with us. We found out that he hasn't been using his phone on the weeks he is with his mom. DH talked to her yesterday and apparently he isn't allowed to use it on their weeks. According to her, her husband (DS's Stepfather) said "he isn't responsible enough for it, and doesn't agree that he should have it", and she "doesn't want to get in the middle of it". Umm what?!?! 1. You're his mom, you're in the middle of it. 2. It was our gift to him, who is his stepfather to make the call for all four of us. We are all co-parenting. 3. We all know the real reason is because his biological son doesn't have a cell phone, so clearly DS can't either. WTF?!
In short: Baby Mama Drama and my pregnant self has no filter. Thank goodness DH "will get in the middle of it".
DH had been away at the Cubs convention all weekend and DD was sick, so it was just a whole lot of crying, whining, etc. from her all weekend long at home, and not to mention not feeling so great myself. When DH got home yesterday, all I wanted was a hawaiian burger and cheese fries, so he literally wrote it down and went out to get food and swing by the store for a couple other things. About an hour later he came back home and the first thing he says is "oh yeah, while I was walking out of the food place I realized I didnt order your cheese fries. Sorry." What?!!!? Thats all I get is "sorry"? Why the EFF did you not turn around and go back to the counter and order the damn cheese fries?!?!?! So he had like 4 things ordered for himself and all he had for me was a lousy hawaiian burger. HELLO! I'm eating for you TWO if you haven't forgot jerk face, and i've been at the edge of my sanity with a whiny 2.5 year old who barely slept all weekend and all you can tell me is "sorry"? So naturally I flipped out on him and made him turn his ass right around to get me the damn cheese fries. And they were delicious.
My husband's car... the one I told him NOT to get last month, because even if it has 50mpg it will still cost our family more than additional fuel and new tires on his 1 ton pickup over an 80mi 1-way commute... had a catastrophic fuel pump and Turbo shaft failure last week to the tune of $3,200.
I got to scream, "I TOLD YOU SO!". Yeah, all this while I'm trying to drag him kicking and screaming to drink the Dave Ramsey kool-aid. Men can be so freaking stupid and stubborn sometimes.
My husband. He hasn't asked once how I'm feeling or really acknowledged that I'm pregnant. Yesterday he told step-daughter (I love both my step babies!) that her friends could come over without asking me. Two weeks ago we had a talk about how I'd appreciate also having a say about the kids friends coming over. I said I needed a nap...so husband went to sleep for a 2 hour nap while I managed 2 step kids and 2 neighborhood kids. I tell him that it was a dick move and so I don't continue to feel resentful, I'm done for the night, so if he wants dinner he can do it. I'm the bad guy, he left this morning without saying anything to me.
My parents are almost 80 (I was adopted. It was a family adoption after their kids were grown.) My mom has Parkinsons and dementia. They recently sold their house and are moving into a senior mobile home park. I had some stuff stored at their house that we haven't been able to move because it's been raining every weekend for the past month. She was calling me every single day, sometimes three to five times a day to tell me 1)They sold the house and 2) that I needed to get my stuff. We finally made it down Saturday and moved everything. She was very happy that it was out of the house, everything is fine right? She called me yesterday to tell me 1) They sold the house 2) I needed to get my stuff. I almost cried because she couldn't remember. And it's made me so mad at her doctors who wouldn't diagnose either her dementia or Parkinsons for years (refused to test despite me and my dad asking them to) and that when she was finally diagnosed it was too late for any of the drug treatments to be tried. Plus they're so friggin expensive. It's made me furious with the whole medical system in our area. (Except for my OB and my DD's pediatrician. They're lovely. The rest suck.)
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It was just a rough weekend all around. My husband is out of town for work yet again and DS has been super whiny. I got super angry at him on Sat and feel terrible about it. Then, storms came through last night and knocked out our power. I was annoyed because I was trying to call and text DH, but he was too busy out drinking with his stupid coworkers, so then we got in a fight about it blah.
Then to make things more fun, I had to go do a 4th beta this morning and of course am freaking out about what the number is going to be.
@rainafire77 I'm so sorry, I know firsthand how hard dealing with dementia can be. My grandfather had dementia in his later years, and he used to call me about things that had happened years, if not decades, ago- asking if I'd decided where to go to college, or if I was excited to start school again- meaning elementary school. He'd often mistake me for my mom or one of my aunts when they were younger. It was so hard. Big hugs to you. I hope this move is overall a positive one for them (and you)!
@sparklingdiamond FX for good beta results! Sorry you had to deal with all that alone this weekend- hopefully this week will be better!
1: The emergency alert system in our building includes a PA system, which can be broadcast to everyone or just a specific apartment/block of apartments. Well, someone in the building in using a CB radio, and the PA system is picking up on it, so I was rudely awakened at 6:30 this morning by someone's inane radio conversation. It's happened before (the first time I thought I was losing my mind, haha!), but only in the afternoons. This problem apparently only affects us, and the apartment next door, which is currently empty. They have no way of pinpointing who is using the radio to ask them to change channels, and they can't turn off our system for obvious reasons.
2: DH is in Vegas until Thursday for a conference for work, but his boss also has a bunch of fun team building activities planed. For example, today he's going to ride ATVs and shoot guns in the desert. Wednesday he's going to drive some crazy sports car around a race track. You get the picture. Meanwhile, I am home alone counting down the days until our first ultrasound (7 days!), and hoping whatever I'm currently eating doesn't turn into an aversion mid-bite. I know this trip has been planned for months, and that DH is a very hard worker who deserves a break and to have fun. I know that. also, he's messaging me constantly about how much more fun everything would be if I were there to share it with, which is super sweet. But I still feel whiny about it. So really, this is more of a pity party than a bitch fest. Sorry!
Feeling really overwhelmed. I have my 8 month DD. During the week I watch two little boys 52 hours a week. And a third little boy one day a week. I feel like I'm always behind on the laundry and dishes. DH rarely helps with the house. Never does laundry. I just feel like so much is on my plate and I'm constantly going but still not catching up.
I called the on call Dr yesterday because I have been nauseous for 72 hours straight. I just can't deal anymore. He sends an rx but the pharmacist says my insurance has to pre approve this medication. Guess who doesn't work on weekends our holidays...that's right, my insurance company. I could pay out of pocket for it, but I just can't justify $300 when I'm not actually throwing up
@eeyorefan215 have you asked your doctor about B6 and Unisom? I believe it is the same chemical reaction as the prescription, but its over the counter and doesn't cost nearly as much.
People on local BST who don't read the post. Quit messaging me with 5 different questions when I have already written out everything you need to know!! I was rude and asked the person if she even read the post, ha.
@eeyorefan215 have you asked your doctor about B6 and Unisom? I believe it is the same chemical reaction as the prescription, but its over the counter and doesn't cost nearly as much.
Yeah, that is on my approved list of meds to take for nausea! Exact same thing as diclegis I believe.
Right now my dh's bf is staying with us while he is going through a divorce. He gets annoyed by our dogs. I just want to tell him to suck it up or get out. Deep breaths.
Right now my dh's bf is staying with us while he is going through a divorce. He gets annoyed by our dogs. I just want to tell him to suck it up or get out. Deep breaths.
I am so suspicious of people that are rude to my dog. It's like, you get the pleasure of experiencing this huge mass of fur, cuteness, joy and love, but you are annoyed by it? Kindly exit my house then. :):)
@childcaremama I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed! I definitely would be too. and it doesn't help to have someone who should be helping that isn't contributing.
@amandarene112 I totally feel the sameness way when SO is doing a whole bunch of fun stuff without me and I do not get to be a part of it. Even though I know he deserves to have a good time, etc. I can't help but feel a little (or massive) twinge of self pity when that occurs.
@Knottie9983816 I definitely understand where you aren't coming from. If you are going to be expected to care for the kids and their friends during that time period then he should definitely run it by you first and not just assume that it is okay. I would be very upset if my SO did that on top of not acknowledging my pregnancy
My freaking husband who cleaned the kitchen last night (a rare occurrence) and leaves this morning to go see his granddad with his mom, is gone for 7 hours comes home and I had gotten something on the countertop from feeding our child and he bitches me out for it. This is after I texted him today and told him I was feeling really bad today! Ugghhhh such a dick! He thinks this pregnancy is going to be like my last where I never had an inkling of nausea and had all the energy I usually had. But not this time, this pregnancy is already so much different and I have no energy and he doesn't get it. But if he talks to me like that one more time he's going to realize real quick that I am NOT the person I was for my first pregnancy and I am NOT going to deal with his dickery. How does he think I feel when I spend 2 hours washing dishes and he puts a spoon with peanut butter on it in the sink? Doesn't rinse it doesn't soak it, just puts in the sink for me to deal with????? Bitchfest over.
@lap018 omg I would definitely be upset too. He sounds just like my SO. I typically clean the house 90% of the time and SO will sometimes help with the dishes. But he will bitch and moan and complain if I leave a box of cereal on the counter.
I'm just like.... hmmmm... I'm pretty sure just last week your toolbox and your dirty RC car was sitting right smack dab in the middle of the kitchen table and I didn't say shit soooo......
I don't think it's right for your SO to jump onto you. Especially with how awful you are feeling. Hope you feel better soon! ❤️
@Msashley2010 thank you! I hope the nausea passes quickly! And so much yes to the SO! Why do they get to act all mad when they do the same thing to us every day without any say about it? Kills me! He even said to me "it's like you haven't done anything since you found out you were pregnant" I was like "there's a reason for that genius I feel like shit!" Meanwhile he gets a cold and I have to bend over backwards to make sure he feels like a speshul snowflake. Men make me angry
@rainafire77 I can't even imagine having to go through that with my parents. I'm so sorry you have to witness such terrible disease in your parents. You have such strength in you!
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1. My stupid thumb nail keeps breaking in the same darn spot and and I have to cut the nail so short when it does No big deal, I know, but I used to be a biter and I've worked hard to get long and strong nails!
2. Absolutely nothing to eat is appealing right now. Except macaroni and cheese. Which is a no no since I'm doing Whole30 and on day 15.
3. My husband is out of town tonight and I'm just too darn exhausted to keep up with the house and dogs and dinner and working. Whine Whine Whine.
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He even said to me "it's like you haven't done anything since you found out you were pregnant"
OMG @lap018. That comment would have upset me so much. I mean, let's just not even mention the fact that the majority of your energy is going to creating a whole new human being and trying to not dry heave every five seconds.
He even said to me "it's like you haven't done anything since you found out you were pregnant"
OMG @lap018. That comment would have upset me so much. I mean, let's just not even mention the fact that the majority of your energy is going to creating a whole new human being and trying to not dry heave every five seconds.
Yes not to mention any extra energy I have is going towards breastfeeding our 16 month old. I have nothing left to give. Exactly 0 f-cks left over here.
@rainafire77 I'm so sorry about your parents...my grandma passed away almost a year ago from Dementia/Alzheimer's at 83 and it was horribly painful to watch the decline. Actually tomorrow marks one year to the date that I last held her hand and said my goodbyes...she didn't know me the whole week I visited but I know she did in those last moments I had with her...she said "I love you" & all I could say was "thank you thank you thank you!" She meant the world to me and that moment was everything!
My Monday bitch is that it's day FIVE that my 2yo has refused her nap...she will be 2.5 in March but it's still too early to be dropping it and I need to rest dab nabbit!!
The migraines. Oh, the migraines. Tylenol doesn't really help me and hasn't since I was a kid. And, I caught my daughters cold and was super sick and miserable all weekend.
Everyone at work is sick, including the girl I'm training this week, and we sit at my desk. I know it's just a matter of time before I catch this cold ughhh
@lap018 oh man! My husband gets the sympathy pregnancy pretty bad. Starting from the moment I found out he hasn't felt good and he's got zero sympathy from me. He's actually been good to help out since he knocked me up and I wasn't wanting to get pregnant right now. I hope yours figures it out soon!
and keep on doing nothing... other than growing a baby I mean! Geesh
Last week my 11 month old and I had the flu. This week we are all better but of course since I'm nannying today and have 5 kids total I get pink eye that the rest of the family got weeks ago. It's making my eyes so sensitive and giving me a headache. On top of that I have mounds of laundry that I simply want to throw away and not wash fold and put away. Wish the lethargy would go away!
@Msashley2010 This actually makes me feel a bit better, because I feel like such a douchcanoe for feeling this way. I may be every so slightly hormonal right now, because I'm just irrationally pissed about it. But I'm too tired and emotional to be any fun even if I were there, haha!
I've got the worst cold I've had in years. To the point I had to miss work, which is super annoying for teachers (ask any--we hate missing simply for the fact it's too much to plan for/catch up on). That's all I've got.
@DPandMB I wish I had seen this post before my nurse called. I think she said she ordered me diclegis. We'll see if my insurance approves it. If not, I'm taking your advice
Insurance. Gosh I hate insurance so much right now. I applied for short term disability insurance (STDI) through work, and I didn't realize beforehand that there is probably a long wait period. Basically, I will probably be approved, but if the company has a long wait period where I have to pay in but can't use the insurance, it will have been pointless. I just started this job last April, so I won't have much in the way of leave saved up, only maybe 4.5 weeks, plus enough credit hours for another week.
The other thing that's making me cranky is that DH really wants to tell our families in a special way about LO #2. I was all for it, until the nausea and extreme fatigue starting kicking in. Now I have to hide it, and pass it off as being sick, and I'm already over it. Our plan is to wait until after my 8w ultrasound in a couple week, and I'm just not sure I can do it.
Special shout out to DH for taking over all the poopy diapers in our house, though. He deserves a medal. I start gagging as soon as I smell them.
@TessaNae Whole30 is a 30 day diet that is supposed to be along the lines of an eating reset. You focus on non processed foods, and don't eat grains, dairy or sugar. Basically, my food staples.
***TW***I'm adding another bitch fest. Doctors office called to confirm appointment tomorrow and reminded me that the doctor is also "on call" tomorrow. Which means they will wait until I am in the parking lot to say they need to reschedule my appointment....to another time when she is "on call". We have maybe three OBs in our area so my doctor is pretty much it unless I want the all natural, no drugs, no intervention, home birth type care that I don't feel comfortable with given my prior losses & prior c-section. It's very frustrating. I know a woman who went to my doctor who had her first appointment rescheduled 3 times. She finally gave up and found a doctor an hour away where she will also have to go to give birth because that Doctor doesn't have privileges at our local hospital.
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@ColoradoHiker I'm having to avoid DHs family for that very reason (darn!) feeling miserable is bad enough, but trying to hide it just makes it worse. I had every intention of telling very few people until 12 weeks, but at this point I almost want a tshirt that says "Pregnant and miserable, leave me alone."
@ColoradoHiker not sure how much this helps, but I just signed up for STD at my work in Oct/Nov (I think) through colonial penn and the guy that did everything said it won't be effective if you're pregnant now (singed up that day), as long as you find out after you become effective but he suggested waiting a few months just in case I have a premature birth in which case wouldn't be covered.
@ashley2824 Unfortunately, I wasn't pregnant when I signed up, but I literally just did my exam today, and haven't been fully approved yet. The insurance company would have found out from my blood / urine samples anyway. I guess I'll find out when I get a letter from them. :-/
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Little history, my older kids are technically step kids, but I don't treat them like that or refer to them any differently. They also both have different biological moms. Yes my husband got around
In short: Baby Mama Drama and my pregnant self has no filter. Thank goodness DH "will get in the middle of it".
I got to scream, "I TOLD YOU SO!". Yeah, all this while I'm trying to drag him kicking and screaming to drink the Dave Ramsey kool-aid. Men can be so freaking stupid and stubborn sometimes.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Then to make things more fun, I had to go do a 4th beta this morning and of course am freaking out about what the number is going to be.
@sparklingdiamond FX for good beta results! Sorry you had to deal with all that alone this weekend- hopefully this week will be better!
1: The emergency alert system in our building includes a PA system, which can be broadcast to everyone or just a specific apartment/block of apartments. Well, someone in the building in using a CB radio, and the PA system is picking up on it, so I was rudely awakened at 6:30 this morning by someone's inane radio conversation. It's happened before (the first time I thought I was losing my mind, haha!), but only in the afternoons. This problem apparently only affects us, and the apartment next door, which is currently empty. They have no way of pinpointing who is using the radio to ask them to change channels, and they can't turn off our system for obvious reasons.
2: DH is in Vegas until Thursday for a conference for work, but his boss also has a bunch of fun team building activities planed. For example, today he's going to ride ATVs and shoot guns in the desert. Wednesday he's going to drive some crazy sports car around a race track. You get the picture. Meanwhile, I am home alone counting down the days until our first ultrasound (7 days!), and hoping whatever I'm currently eating doesn't turn into an aversion mid-bite. I know this trip has been planned for months, and that DH is a very hard worker who deserves a break and to have fun. I know that. also, he's messaging me constantly about how much more fun everything would be if I were there to share it with, which is super sweet. But I still feel whiny about it. So really, this is more of a pity party than a bitch fest. Sorry!
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@amandarene112 I totally feel the sameness way when SO is doing a whole bunch of fun stuff without me and I do not get to be a part of it. Even though I know he deserves to have a good time, etc. I can't help but feel a little (or massive) twinge of self pity when that occurs.
@Knottie9983816 I definitely understand where you aren't coming from. If you are going to be expected to care for the kids and their friends during that time period then he should definitely run it by you first and not just assume that it is okay. I would be very upset if my SO did that on top of not acknowledging my pregnancy
I'm just like.... hmmmm... I'm pretty sure just last week your toolbox and your dirty RC car was sitting right smack dab in the middle of the kitchen table and I didn't say shit soooo......
I don't think it's right for your SO to jump onto you. Especially with how awful you are feeling. Hope you feel better soon! ❤️
Married to David 3/22/14
Started TTC again October 2016
BFP on 1/6/17!
1. My stupid thumb nail keeps breaking in the same darn spot and and I have to cut the nail so short when it does
2. Absolutely nothing to eat is appealing right now. Except macaroni and cheese. Which is a no no since I'm doing Whole30 and on day 15.
3. My husband is out of town tonight and I'm just too darn exhausted to keep up with the house and dogs and dinner and working. Whine Whine Whine.
Married to David 3/22/14
Started TTC again October 2016
BFP on 1/6/17!
My Monday bitch is that it's day FIVE that my 2yo has refused her nap...she will be 2.5 in March but it's still too early to be dropping it and I need to rest dab nabbit!!
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#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
and keep on doing nothing... other than growing a baby I mean! Geesh
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The other thing that's making me cranky is that DH really wants to tell our families in a special way about LO #2. I was all for it, until the nausea and extreme fatigue starting kicking in. Now I have to hide it, and pass it off as being sick, and I'm already over it. Our plan is to wait until after my 8w ultrasound in a couple week, and I'm just not sure I can do it.
Special shout out to DH for taking over all the poopy diapers in our house, though. He deserves a medal. I start gagging as soon as I smell them.
@TessaNae Whole30 is a 30 day diet that is supposed to be along the lines of an eating reset. You focus on non processed foods, and don't eat grains, dairy or sugar. Basically, my food staples.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
*sarcastic DH voice & mannerisms* Glad we're saving SO MUCH MONEY with the higher mpg!
I had every intention of telling very few people until 12 weeks, but at this point I almost want a tshirt that says "Pregnant and miserable, leave me alone."
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