Kind of sad that last night I had to get up with two of the kids a total of 4 times between 10pm and 4am, the day started at 5:15 am with the third kid, and it was still the most sleep I've gotten in weeks. I really want some rest! Anyone have any energy boosting secrets?
Kind of sad that last night I had to get up with two of the kids a total of 4 times between 10pm and 4am, the day started at 5:15 am with the third kid, and it was still the most sleep I've gotten in weeks. I really want some rest! Anyone have any energy boosting secrets?
I don't know if you already do this but my hubby and I take turns waking up with the kids. Either by alternating nights, this is the best way in my opinion, or by alternating turns every night. That way neither of us is completely exhausted.
Thanks all for the support! Dh STINKS at helping at night because he takes forever to wake up, and he's impossible to live with if he's over tired. I've accepted that and he makes up for it in other ways. And unfortunately I don't drink coffee for religious reasons, so I've been stuck with ice water, trying to stay active, and the occasional piece of chocolate. Not supper affective.
Fongers crossed they all sleep tonight, and I wake up better from this terrible cold!
Thanks all for the support! Dh STINKS at helping at night because he takes forever to wake up, and he's impossible to live with if he's over tired. I've accepted that and he makes up for it in other ways. And unfortunately I don't drink coffee for religious reasons, so I've been stuck with ice water, trying to stay active, and the occasional piece of chocolate. Not supper affective.
Fongers crossed they all sleep tonight, and I wake up better from this terrible cold!
Do you do chocolate at all? I don't know if that is considered in the same stimulant group as coffee, but maybe a bit of chocolate throughout the day might perk you up a bit. I hope you have sleeping children this week. Sleeping deprivation is a hard one!
Yesterday "operation no pull ups" was started (with the exception of naptime/ nighttime/ leaving the house) one of my girls is furious with me. She really really wants the pull ups back, I had to hide them because she kept taking her underwear off and putting a pull up on. Needless to say, I think I will be cleaning lots of pee off the floor because she is such a defiant child.
@Tawny87 good luck, we also just started potty training DS (2.5 years old) and we're on day 3. It is not fun.
Good luck! Stick with it, I keep starting and stopping and now I have 3 1/2 yr olds who are defiant and refuse. I wish I would have stuck it through better one of the other 50 times I tried...
We've been signing "milk" to Damien for a few months and today he started signing it! I noticed that every time I brought out a bottle of milk or made a bottle, he would start signing. So cool!
That's awesome that some of you are hearing mama!!!! So far Calvin just likes to make fart noises We are also trying to introduce some signing, but so far he's uninterested.
What wine pairs best with teething? Going on 1.5hrs past bedtime full of crying.
I'm sorry! Did you Tylenol or ib profin her? Sometimes that was the only way my girls would sleep when they had teething problems.
That's what ended up being the key. I'd have thought since they've both broken through and she hasn't needed any yet that she didn't need it. During the day she's only marginally fussier and while I was holding her and rocking her she was fine. But as soon as I walked away all hell would break loose. She's asleep now though.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Yesterday "operation no pull ups" was started (with the exception of naptime/ nighttime/ leaving the house) one of my girls is furious with me. She really really wants the pull ups back, I had to hide them because she kept taking her underwear off and putting a pull up on. Needless to say, I think I will be cleaning lots of pee off the floor because she is such a defiant child.
My oldest painted on his easel with poop one time, I can't help but laugh when I think about! My 4 yr old was hard to potty train, I had to when he turned three because he's a big kid and diapers and pull ups were too tight. I had to just go cold turkey and we had a treat box with candy and prizes and the first day if he only had a couple accidents he got a prize and then the next day if he only had 2or less he got a prize at the end of the day, and so one. Then we told him daddy would take him somewhere special if he went a week with no accidents. Dates with daddy are special and so we use those for big accomplishments. They usually go to an arcade or park and ice cream, the museum, and zoo work well also. Good luck!
Yesterday "operation no pull ups" was started (with the exception of naptime/ nighttime/ leaving the house) one of my girls is furious with me. She really really wants the pull ups back, I had to hide them because she kept taking her underwear off and putting a pull up on. Needless to say, I think I will be cleaning lots of pee off the floor because she is such a defiant child.
My oldest painted on his easel with poop one time, I can't help but laugh when I think about! My 4 yr old was hard to potty train, I had to when he turned three because he's a big kid and diapers and pull ups were too tight. I had to just go cold turkey and we had a treat box with candy and prizes and the first day if he only had a couple accidents he got a prize and then the next day if he only had 2or less he got a prize at the end of the day, and so one. Then we told him daddy would take him somewhere special if he went a week with no accidents. Dates with daddy are special and so we use those for big accomplishments. They usually go to an arcade or park and ice cream, the museum, and zoo work well also. Good luck!
Daddy date is a great idea! These girls love time with their daddy.
Any 2nd+ time mom's out there use goats milk instead of cows milk once baby turned a year old? I've just started doing research but would like to hear from any mom's that have given it!
Any 2nd+ time mom's out there use goats milk instead of cows milk once baby turned a year old? I've just started doing research but would like to hear from any mom's that have given it!
I haven't. My niece who is 4 has a lot of allergies and they have always used goats milk for her and use it in their cooking too. They have been really pleased with it. I am lactose intolorent and don't really like the taste of milk period so I just use soy if I need milk for something.
@Tawny87 good luck, we also just started potty training DS (2.5 years old) and we're on day 3. It is not fun.
Good luck! Stick with it, I keep starting and stopping and now I have 3 1/2 yr olds who are defiant and refuse. I wish I would have stuck it through better one of the other 50 times I tried...
It's feeling like a huge failure, even though we're only on day 4. He refuses to poop, and when I called the dr to find out what I can give him to help move things along, I was told to just stop. Which, on the one hand, I don't want to cause him anxiety around the toilet, but on the other hand, I don't want him to think that if he holds out long enough I'll give him back the diaper.
@Tawny87 good luck, we also just started potty training DS (2.5 years old) and we're on day 3. It is not fun.
Good luck! Stick with it, I keep starting and stopping and now I have 3 1/2 yr olds who are defiant and refuse. I wish I would have stuck it through better one of the other 50 times I tried...
It's feeling like a huge failure, even though we're only on day 4. He refuses to poop, and when I called the dr to find out what I can give him to help move things along, I was told to just stop. Which, on the one hand, I don't want to cause him anxiety around the toilet, but on the other hand, I don't want him to think that if he holds out long enough I'll give him back the diaper.
Oh mamma, that's rough, good luck!
You're also making me a little terrified about trying to potty train in a year or two. Maybe Miles will just wear diapers forever
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
@newbabymakes4 have you tried probiotics? I had to give them to my oldest when he had a bad stomach bug and they got him regular within days. They make a kids one that's a powder and you just mix it in a drink. I wouldn't give up either, has he used the toilet at all? Are you rewarding every time he use the toilet or just at the end of the day? It worked best for us to only reward at the end of the day but you should do what works best for you all. Potty training sucks but you'll get there!
@rlbrooks84 we are attempting to do it without rewards, he usually responds well to lots of praise which we are doing. He has peed in the potty about 1/4 of the time and gets upset when he goes in his pants, which I feel is really good for this early on (he knows it's not what's supposed to happen but is still learning the cues), and has now pooped once (but not in the potty, but I don't even care at this point, I'm just happy he went at all!). I will look into probiotics, usually he's very regular, it's just been since we took away the diapers that he refuses to go.
These past two days I have suddenly felt even more connected to Savannah, I don't know how to explain it. Absolutely nothing has changed, but I just feel more deeply bonded to her than I did before, any one else get these feelings sometimes?
These past two days I have suddenly felt even more connected to Savannah, I don't know how to explain it. Absolutely nothing has changed, but I just feel more deeply bonded to her than I did before, any one else get these feelings sometimes?
Yup!! I feel like I get them less now than right after she was born though. I find nursing triggers them.
These past two days I have suddenly felt even more connected to Savannah, I don't know how to explain it. Absolutely nothing has changed, but I just feel more deeply bonded to her than I did before, any one else get these feelings sometimes?
Yup!! I feel like I get them less now than right after she was born though. I find nursing triggers them.
I definitely felt it the night after she was born while I was up all night nursing her. I didn't fall in love right away (which made me feel like an awful mother) but that night in the hospital nursing and cuddling her, I just completely fell in love.
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
These past two days I have suddenly felt even more connected to Savannah, I don't know how to explain it. Absolutely nothing has changed, but I just feel more deeply bonded to her than I did before, any one else get these feelings sometimes?
Yup!! I feel like I get them less now than right after she was born though. I find nursing triggers them.
I definitely felt it the night after she was born while I was up all night nursing her. I didn't fall in love right away (which made me feel like an awful mother) but that night in the hospital nursing and cuddling her, I just completely fell in love.
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
First off, this is totally normal. IMO just like with any other person you meet, you need to "get to know them" before you fall in love. The amount of time that takes is obviously variable, but it definitely does not make you a bad mother if it took some time. Particularly if you have PPA/PPD, it can take longer (I have a friend with severe PPD who didn't feel at all bonded to her daughter until months after the birth).
I definitely feel like my bond is getting even stronger with her now that she's getting older and can really show a preference for me - there is really nothing like walking into a room and hearing her squeal with happiness that I got home from work, or reaching for me when someone passes her to me to hold, or kissing me (which is what I prefer to think of it when she just licks and gums my face). I think it's just going to keep getting better and better the older they get, that's how I felt with DS.
I feel our bond growing stronger as he grows and as I grow as a mother too. Sometimes it scares me (in a good way) how much I can love that tiny human. Probably explains why I become an emotional wreck while watching sad or loving scenes between mothers and children on tv or in movies haha. I feel a lot of pride when he looks for me while he is in someone else's arms. Not that he doesn't like someone else holding him, he loves it and is never panicked, but he does this "Is mommy around? Oh good, there she is *cue big smile*" look during those instances.
@laurenm2123 definitely not a bad mother; my first emotion was relief! I feel you on the "gets me" thing. Cora smiles at me when I walk into daycare or her nursery now. Not only do I know she's my baby, but now she knows I'm her mom!
When you put "Richard II" on the tv because you refuse to watch kid tv and your kids refuse to play because they will watch ANYTHING on tv. It's F****** Shakespeare, go play!!!
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
I completely get this, and I do think it has a lot to do with them being more expressive and interactive. For me, when S is smiling and babbling - even though he isn't making anything close to a real word - it feels like he is communicating how loved and cared for he feels.
The downside of this attachment is that it makes especially hard to do daycare drop-offs in the morning. Once I get to work I'm fine, but those few minutes of leaving him are tough!
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
I completely get this, and I do think it has a lot to do with them being more expressive and interactive. For me, when S is smiling and babbling - even though he isn't making anything close to a real word - it feels like he is communicating how loved and cared for he feels.
The downside of this attachment is that it makes especially hard to do daycare drop-offs in the morning. Once I get to work I'm fine, but those few minutes of leaving him are tough!
I'm dreading going back to work more and more each day because of daycare (don't get me wrong tho, the daycare is really good). I love my job and am excited to go back but I am going to miss spending my day with him.
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
I completely get this, and I do think it has a lot to do with them being more expressive and interactive. For me, when S is smiling and babbling - even though he isn't making anything close to a real word - it feels like he is communicating how loved and cared for he feels.
The downside of this attachment is that it makes especially hard to do daycare drop-offs in the morning. Once I get to work I'm fine, but those few minutes of leaving him are tough!
Totally! Leaving her is so hard. When I pick her up in the afternoon I walk past one side of her room that is allglass windows and if she sees me there, and then I disappear (to the wall with the door that has no windows) she gets hysterical. It's so sad but so gratifying at the same time haha
I definitely feel more bonded with the baby now, the first month or two was rough between baby blues and BFing struggles, and I find it much more enjoyable when the baby can actually react to you and sort of let you know what's going on. The part that is a pleasant surprise for me as a FTM is just how NICE she is! She is really such a sweet, agreeable little girl, I'm so in love : ) Even when we had challenges with her taking the bottle, drs and friends gave advice and stories about how stubborn babies can be, but I really think her struggle was just that she hadn't mastered the mechanics of bottle drinking. Once she got it, she's been fine.
Just made it through my nephews memorial service (same nephew that passed early December) it was an amazingly cathartic experience but I definitely gave all my kiddos an extra squeeze when I put them to bed tonight.
Just made it through my nephews memorial service (same nephew that passed early December) it was an amazingly cathartic experience but I definitely gave all my kiddos an extra squeeze when I put them to bed tonight.
Re: Moms who go Bump in the night/Randoms
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Dh STINKS at helping at night because he takes forever to wake up, and he's impossible to live with if he's over tired. I've accepted that and he makes up for it in other ways. And unfortunately I don't drink coffee for religious reasons, so I've been stuck with ice water, trying to stay active, and the occasional piece of chocolate. Not supper affective.
Fongers crossed they all sleep tonight, and I wake up better from this terrible cold!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
You're also making me a little terrified about trying to potty train in a year or two. Maybe Miles will just wear diapers forever
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Maybe because she she is more interactive now? I almost feel like she just "gets me" now. Which I know is ridiculous because she is a baby, it's hard to explain.
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
I definitely feel like my bond is getting even stronger with her now that she's getting older and can really show a preference for me - there is really nothing like walking into a room and hearing her squeal with happiness that I got home from work, or reaching for me when someone passes her to me to hold, or kissing me (which is what I prefer to think of it when she just licks and gums my face). I think it's just going to keep getting better and better the older they get, that's how I felt with DS.
The downside of this attachment is that it makes especially hard to do daycare drop-offs in the morning. Once I get to work I'm fine, but those few minutes of leaving him are tough!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
The part that is a pleasant surprise for me as a FTM is just how NICE she is! She is really such a sweet, agreeable little girl, I'm so in love : )
Even when we had challenges with her taking the bottle, drs and friends gave advice and stories about how stubborn babies can be, but I really think her struggle was just that she hadn't mastered the mechanics of bottle drinking. Once she got it, she's been fine.
God bless these little ones!