I don't want an audience, so definitely not our parents. DH missed DD's birth and my younger sister was with me. So with this birth I want DH to watch (and maybe help catch if they'll go for that) because I know that's what he'd like to do. I want DH to have whatever experience he wants with this one since it will be the only one he'll witness. I'm going to invite my older sister to be in the room if she can get there quick enough (history of precipitous labor) and she can be up at my side while DH does his thing. Other than that, it's just us. And I won't be taking other visitors until DD meets her brother first.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Oh and my OU: I don't think that mom using pot for her morning sickness is not the worst person in the world. I wouldn't do it, but I can kinda get the trusting a plant more than big pharma (I'm thinking of all the birth defects caused by zofran, prescribed by doctors...)
Nope nope nope nope..... 1. If it's not from a medical facility you have no idea what else you could be injesting with the pot.... I'm not sure your drug dealer can really be gay trustworthy as to the health of your baby 2. if it is from a medical facility then you're kind of back to square one with "big pharma" because again I'm sure there are things about medical grade pot that people would frown upon (that is a guess I don't really know 100%) and 3. There is not enough evidence suggesting it's ok, there is plenty showing the negative side effects associated with pregnancy and pot....
This. I'm all for legalizing the MJ, but not for randomly diagnosing and treating oneself without ample research and medical support. I also completely despise the "but chemicals!", "all natural" and "organic" arguments. Plenty of big pharma products are created from plant and almost every fruit/vegetable is a GMO. (This and pro-vaccine are my soapbox.)
Yes, seriously, what is it with people thinking that plants and other things found in nature are automatically safer for one's body than something synthetic? There are all sorts of natural poisons out there!
As for zofran and thalidomide (a more dangerous-for-fetuses drug that had been prescribed for morning sickness long ago), sometimes there are errors and drugs have really bad side effects and should not have been prescribed. But at least there is a process by which the FDA approves drugs for particular purposes, and the process is based on research. Obviously there are failures within that process, but there are also checks and balances. To say something like, "well, I heard there are XYZ side effects in 5% of cases with this big pharma drug, so I'm going to go with this natural plant instead that has NO research showing anything bad about it!" is SUCH a dumb idea! There's no research showing bad effects of the plant because there's no research on the plant one way or another!
My chemistry friends on facebook are always posting comics, memes, etc about people who want "chemical-free" products. When, um, everything is a chemical! One that I remember is some simple formula for a natural, "4-ingredient" cleaner or bug spray or something, and one of the ingredients is detergent. Seriously, people?
I'm 100% with @kns1988 - I don't want anyone anywhere near me (aside from my spouse) at any point during labor or the precious time after. Nope nope nope. My MIL tried to stick around to be there when DD was born from out of town but I thanked my lucky stars that she was born past her due date.
@kat81 I agree that the FDA has a significant research based approval process that does its best to anticipate adverse reactions, but the trouble is that most of those drugs are not tested on pregnant women (for obvious reasons). This is why most drugs have warnings guiding pregnant and nursing women to discuss with their doctor before consuming. Traditionally, most research subjects are men, and only recently has their been a shift to include women due to the potential of pregnancy. My question is how are we ever going to get the research we all are looking for on medical marijuana if no one is willing or shamed from actually doing it. I know plenty of women who have consumed during pregnancy under doctor's guidance, but then again, I live in a state where it is legal and there is exhaustive testing on the products.
I'm dreading the dentist tomorrow but know I ought to go. Last time I was there, I had to have all of my amalgam fillings replaced with ceramic and they couldn't get me sufficiently numb despite several needle attempts, so I had to endure feeling the drilling. Not my idea of a good time.
Btw, I am in no way advocating women consume marijuana in pregancy, to be clear. I'm hoping that there will be more research done in highly controlled and responsible ways so we can finally understand more about this issue. It almost seems like the time before cigarettes were tested for effects on pregnancy. Inevitably the research will will out.
I didn't birth in a teaching hospital so it was just my husband two nurses and the Dr. I remember my husband kept telling me I had to look at the baby coming out. I was like no thanks but he kept saying it lol. He said he watched the head go from small to normal as it came out. I was like how the f would I be able to see that anyway
I didn't birth in a teaching hospital so it was just my husband two nurses and the Dr. I remember my husband kept telling me I had to look at the baby coming out. I was like no thanks but he kept saying it lol. He said he watched the head go from small to normal as it came out. I was like how the f would I be able to see that anyway
This may or may not be a UO to go off of this, but I don't understand how people watch their births with a mirror. I get the beauty of childbirth, but I don't want to see it happening to me while I'm over here trying to push this child out! No thank you.
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I didn't birth in a teaching hospital so it was just my husband two nurses and the Dr. I remember my husband kept telling me I had to look at the baby coming out. I was like no thanks but he kept saying it lol. He said he watched the head go from small to normal as it came out. I was like how the f would I be able to see that anyway
This may or may not be a UO to go off of this, but I don't understand how people watch their births with a mirror. I get the beauty of childbirth, but I don't want to see it happening to me while I'm over here trying to push this child out! No thank you.
They pulled the mirror out so I could see where to push? All the mirror did was make me mad because they would say ohhhhh look here comes the head and then I would see it for a second and then it would go back in, I was like WTF get this mirror away ! I thought I was making progress but now I can see that I am not! I pushed for over 3 hours and it felt like he was never going to come out.
re: pooping on the table I didn't want to know if I did or didn't but my hysterical finance (well at least he thinks he's funny) tried to make me feel better by saying... it was just a little bit and it just kind of looked like "xyz" .... Gee thanks dude I didn't want to know at all, but glad to know you've seen me poop now
re: mirrors no way! they asked if I wanted one and I told them no. Fiance did say it was funny though because the Dr was kind of playing with DD's hair between pushes when she was close to coming out. Now that I actually type that out it seems a bit more creepy then it seemed at the time! I still don't think i would have liked to see it though.
Oh! I have a UO that's sort of along these lines. I really do not care if I crap on the table in childbirth. I think I might have during DD's, but I didn't ask because I don't care. I mean, why care?? You're in pain and possibly working harder physically than you have in your life; blood, fluids, and a baby are coming out of you; it's, like, part of the process... WHO. CARES.
YEEESSSSSSS!!!! It's so weird to me that this is people's #1 fear. I wish I could "love" this many times. FWIW I also have no idea as to whether I crapped either time. I kind of think I didn't, but it doesn't matter!!
I think this is only the fear of FTMs. Mostly because they probably assume they'll still have some modesty left at that point. (Spoiler alert: it'll be long gone.)
That reminds me of another mom in my first group who said she wanted to get her hair and nails done right before she went into labor "for the baby." I mean, that's... sweet... but I was more concerned with not peeing myself when I sneezed and making sure I had clothes on both the top and bottom when I went out of the house at the end.
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
I didn't birth in a teaching hospital so it was just my husband two nurses and the Dr. I remember my husband kept telling me I had to look at the baby coming out. I was like no thanks but he kept saying it lol. He said he watched the head go from small to normal as it came out. I was like how the f would I be able to see that anyway
This may or may not be a UO to go off of this, but I don't understand how people watch their births with a mirror. I get the beauty of childbirth, but I don't want to see it happening to me while I'm over here trying to push this child out! No thank you.
I can't tag ya! Anyway I seriously kept my eyes closed through almost all of my pushing. My husband kept tapping my face to "wake me up". I said if you tap my face one more f in time but of course I couldn't get up and do anything about it. It was like when I was in the army I always kept my eyes closed during sit ups. I can't tell you why but I did and thankfully no one asked if I wanted that mirror because I would have told them where to shove it.
When I was pregnant with my first, I was firmly in the "DH will stay up by my head and not see anything" camp, and was terrified of the doc/nurses seeing me poop on the table. By the time I was pushing, I had given the okay for a CLASS of nursing students to come in and observe, demanded that DH hold my leg, and gave zero f*cks about who saw what. I was pushing a human out of my body. If that meant my dear sweet husband and dozens of medical professionals had to watch me poo, then so be it.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
Re: UO Thursday (1/12)
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
As for zofran and thalidomide (a more dangerous-for-fetuses drug that had been prescribed for morning sickness long ago), sometimes there are errors and drugs have really bad side effects and should not have been prescribed. But at least there is a process by which the FDA approves drugs for particular purposes, and the process is based on research. Obviously there are failures within that process, but there are also checks and balances. To say something like, "well, I heard there are XYZ side effects in 5% of cases with this big pharma drug, so I'm going to go with this natural plant instead that has NO research showing anything bad about it!" is SUCH a dumb idea! There's no research showing bad effects of the plant because there's no research on the plant one way or another!
My chemistry friends on facebook are always posting comics, memes, etc about people who want "chemical-free" products. When, um, everything is a chemical! One that I remember is some simple formula for a natural, "4-ingredient" cleaner or bug spray or something, and one of the ingredients is detergent. Seriously, people?
@kat81 I agree that the FDA has a significant research based approval process that does its best to anticipate adverse reactions, but the trouble is that most of those drugs are not tested on pregnant women (for obvious reasons). This is why most drugs have warnings guiding pregnant and nursing women to discuss with their doctor before consuming. Traditionally, most research subjects are men, and only recently has their been a shift to include women due to the potential of pregnancy. My question is how are we ever going to get the research we all are looking for on medical marijuana if no one is willing or shamed from actually doing it. I know plenty of women who have consumed during pregnancy under doctor's guidance, but then again, I live in a state where it is legal and there is exhaustive testing on the products.
I'm dreading the dentist tomorrow but know I ought to go. Last time I was there, I had to have all of my amalgam fillings replaced with ceramic and they couldn't get me sufficiently numb despite several needle attempts, so I had to endure feeling the drilling. Not my idea of a good time.
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I didn't want to know if I did or didn't but my hysterical finance (well at least he thinks he's funny) tried to make me feel better by saying... it was just a little bit and it just kind of looked like "xyz"
re: mirrors
no way! they asked if I wanted one and I told them no. Fiance did say it was funny though because the Dr was kind of playing with DD's hair between pushes when she was close to coming out. Now that I actually type that out it seems a bit more creepy then it seemed at the time!
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
Me & DH both: "NO."
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*