I'm so sick of sickness. I've had two colds and the stomach flu since getting pregnant and this weekend another damn stomach bug presented itself in our house. My kids are sick, my husband is sick, and I'm freaking miserably sick. We've literally been cleaning up throw up since Friday night. I'm just so over it and really wish I could take an Excedrin for my massive headache that won't go away.
Edit because auto correct is keeping me away from Excedrin too
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
@yanchuss - dang girl. I'm so sorry! I knew you've been having a crap ton of bleeding but I guess I didn't see where you've been having issues with your doctor and haven't been able to get into an OB. What you're going through is bad enough, but to not feel confident with your medical care just makes it 1000x worse. I wish I could say something more supportive and that I know how you feel, but I can't even imagine how frustrated and emotional you feel. Things have to get better, right???
Well, turns out he couldn't sleep last night, and that's why he was being such a dick, but I told him off later. I told him that I really needed him, and that migraines are debilitating and he left me to care for a toddler and then stole my nap by tossing and turning and snoring when he should have been up and gone to the trailer already. And that calling me a bitch was absolutely uncalled for, and sex is not required just because he is horny. Which he already knows, I am pretty sure it was the grump monster speaking at that point.
So, he went to the store for me and got ALL MY CRAVINGS. So he is back on my goodside. ladies, thank you for your support and riteous indignation on my part. I feel supported
@yellow1daisy yeah, people can be rude about that. Why can't people just be happy that you're happy? Gender disappointent from others outside of the immediate family is not cool, and can be offensive. And sometimes, it is like they don't believe that you're really happy with the result.
@LoveLee85 I'm so sorry to hear that- cancer totally sucks. Hang in there.
@yanchuss Wow, I can't believe you're 12 weeks and they haven't put in a referral for you yet! My doc refers you as soon as you take a positive pregnancy test in their office and I assumed that was standard. Hopefully you see an OB soon and get more answers. I'm so sorry you've been dealing with the stress of all of this bleeding! So glad the baby has been doing great each time you get checked out!
@CarsonsMommy I'm sorry that you had a rough day- migraines are the WORST. I used to get them once a month like clockwork with my period. I'm grateful I haven't had any while pregnant, I can't imagine. Glad you have some munchies for the evening for some comfort food!
@ktewart Do we have the same in laws? My son is totally my mini me, and all I hear is, "he's all <dh's last name>!!!" Or, "he has my feet!" No, my 17 month old doesn't have your swollen, water retained feet. Better luck next time.
Dude what is it about in-laws. My husband is half Mexican and his mom is white. My daughter looks as Latina as can be and my son is fair, blond and blue eyed. So not only do my inlaws claim my daughter but my son too because he looks like my stepson who is also fair with blond hair. Thanks inlaws for not only claiming both of my children but justifying my son looks like them because my son looks like his half brother. That's a comfortable conversation to have over a family dinner. My MIL even brought over pictures of my stepson when he was a baby to prove just how much they look alike.
Now I completely adore my stepson and have no problem whatsoever if they look alike (in fact I am happy they do) but something about them constantly reminding me that their genes have run strong through both me and his exwife all the time pisses me off. And my son was born with red hair that faded to blond at around 5 months - now I AM a redhead. My MIL still claimed responsibility since her mom had the exact same shade of red hair since mine is darker and his was more a cooper color.
Here's another MIL gripe... And I'm not even sure if I should gripe about this because if you look at it one way (my husband's view) she's just excited and wanting to be prepared, and fully committing to helping us when baby gets here. She came over last weekend after buying a new car... the same car we have, a Toyota Rav4. She said her Carolla was too small for a car seat and she wanted to make sure she had the room she needed for taking care of our baby.
I couldn't help it but it just felt weird to me. Like, she used our baby as excuse to buy a new car... and then bought the exact same car we have... and the way it was all about the car seat and such, just felt like she's planning to take over or something. Maybe it's just my FTM hormones but I was put off for a while, still feel a little weird about it. I asked my husband "is she going overboard? I mean, is this the start of her taking over?" and he assured me she's not. He's actually really happy she got it and as soon as we get our car seat picked out she'll be getting an extra base for her car.
It's fine. Just took me by surprise and seemed a little much. My own mom isn't going to have her own car seat base, but whatever.
Here's another MIL gripe... And I'm not even sure if I should gripe about this because if you look at it one way (my husband's view) she's just excited and wanting to be prepared, and fully committing to helping us when baby gets here. She came over last weekend after buying a new car... the same car we have, a Toyota Rav4. She said her Carolla was too small for a car seat and she wanted to make sure she had the room she needed for taking care of our baby.
I couldn't help it but it just felt weird to me. Like, she used our baby as excuse to buy a new car... and then bought the exact same car we have... and the way it was all about the car seat and such, just felt like she's planning to take over or something. Maybe it's just my FTM hormones but I was put off for a while, still feel a little weird about it. I asked my husband "is she going overboard? I mean, is this the start of her taking over?" and he assured me she's not. He's actually really happy she got it and as soon as we get our car seat picked out she'll be getting an extra base for her car.
It's fine. Just took me by surprise and seemed a little much. My own mom isn't going to have her own car seat base, but whatever.
Unless you have asked her to babysit your child multiple days a week, I can completely understand how it looks like a 'slow take over'! LOL I would be thinking, how often does she think she's going to have our child?!
Here's another MIL gripe... And I'm not even sure if I should gripe about this because if you look at it one way (my husband's view) she's just excited and wanting to be prepared, and fully committing to helping us when baby gets here. She came over last weekend after buying a new car... the same car we have, a Toyota Rav4. She said her Carolla was too small for a car seat and she wanted to make sure she had the room she needed for taking care of our baby.
I couldn't help it but it just felt weird to me. Like, she used our baby as excuse to buy a new car... and then bought the exact same car we have... and the way it was all about the car seat and such, just felt like she's planning to take over or something. Maybe it's just my FTM hormones but I was put off for a while, still feel a little weird about it. I asked my husband "is she going overboard? I mean, is this the start of her taking over?" and he assured me she's not. He's actually really happy she got it and as soon as we get our car seat picked out she'll be getting an extra base for her car.
It's fine. Just took me by surprise and seemed a little much. My own mom isn't going to have her own car seat base, but whatever.
Unless you have asked her to babysit your child multiple days a week, I can completely understand how it looks like a 'slow take over'! LOL I would be thinking, how often does she think she's going to have our child?!
There's been mild mention of her helping us if I end up going back to work after a few months. But nothing has been decided and we don't know what the situation will be yet. Also, she still works full time. She's got a few more years before retiring so I'm not sure how much help she'll be, unless this turns into her using this as her excuse to retire early... which may end up being a huge benefit to us, so I know I should not bitch about it too much. ((shrugs))
@Sassenach1743 I agree with DH that it's probably just uncontrollable grandparent excitement. My in laws took it to the extreme. When DH's sister had her first baby in Northern California, my in-laws (who live in Hawaii) bought a house a block away so they could visit whenever they wanted without having to ask permission.
I think they're crazy. But they just love those grandkids and want to be ready to babysit and have sleepovers when the opportunity arises.
@Sassenach1743 I love my MIL and she has been absolutely wonderful to me and to LO. But she does things like this, and I don't know why, but it rubs me the wrong way and drives a small wedge in our relationship, too. I have tried soooo hard to just get over it and be grateful. Outwardly, I only express gratitude to her. Inside, I shudder and struggle when she does things like this.
@Sassenach1743 I agree with DH that it's probably just uncontrollable grandparent excitement. My in laws took it to the extreme. When DH's sister had her first baby in Northern California, my in-laws (who live in Hawaii) bought a house a block away so they could visit whenever they wanted without having to ask permission.
Whoa!! That would drive me absolutely batty! I feel like that's such an invasion of privacy, even though technically it's not, but the house just a block away is just TOO close! I would not have been happy. How did your SIL react? How about her husband?
This reminds me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding when her parents bought them the house next door! Lol
Can i bitch about my mil real quick? Dh is getting tired of it and I understand it's his mom but I have to get it out. We were planning on going to their house for the football game until my dad asked to come to ours. So I invited both sets of parents to our house to watch the game. We have a 60 inch tv and what I feel like to be nice furniture. But they won't sit on either of our couchs. Til even brings in a chair from the dining room. So I buy bottled water bc they won't drink our tap water, which I drink and is a private well that we filter like 4 times before we drink it. I also buy 2 six packs of Snapple bc if I only buy one they won't drink it bc someone else might want some and there's not enough for 6 people. And I buy reg and diet soda even tho they're always on a diet and don't drink soda. Then after all of my planning they cancel bc their furnace went out and then came back on on Saturday. Idk they're to hospitable which makes me feel like I have to be over hospitable. I try not to care and do my own thing but I feel like I should be nice to his parents. I do get along with my mil she's just...different than me. Anyways back to real problems.
@Sassenach1743 I agree with DH that it's probably just uncontrollable grandparent excitement. My in laws took it to the extreme. When DH's sister had her first baby in Northern California, my in-laws (who live in Hawaii) bought a house a block away so they could visit whenever they wanted without having to ask permission.
I think they're crazy. But they just love those grandkids and want to be ready to babysit and have sleepovers when the opportunity arises.
Omg now that I think that is crazy. LOL I would flip not in the good way. Haha same town, great! Block away, I would list my house. HA!
@supermom83 My SIL is the sweetest, most even-keeled human being ever so I don't think it even bothers her. I think she just appreciates having the help (literally, my in laws have flown over on 24 hour notice to babysit for a weekend).
Her husband, on the other hand... I can tell he's not a huge fan. But at the same time, he would rather not have my in laws staying at his house all the time.
I've complained about my MIL on this board before. She can be a lot to handle. Her children are immune, but my SIL's husband and I are DEFINITELY not.
@supermom83 My SIL is the sweetest, most even-keeled human being ever so I don't think it even bothers her. I think she just appreciates having the help (literally, my in laws have flown over on 24 hour notice to babysit for a weekend).
Her husband, on the other hand... I can tell he's not a huge fan. But at the same time, he would rather not have my in laws staying at his house all the time.
I've complained about my MIL on this board before. She can be a lot to handle. Her children are immune, but my SIL's husband and I are DEFINITELY not.
Gosh, I want to show this to my inlaws(I won't lol) who live in the same town as us and have never watched our LO for five minutes of his 16 month old life!!!!!! Fly over from Hawaii to babysit?!?! My mind is blown.
@Sassenach1743 I love my MIL and she has been absolutely wonderful to me and to LO. But she does things like this, and I don't know why, but it rubs me the wrong way and drives a small wedge in our relationship, too. I have tried soooo hard to just get over it and be grateful. Outwardly, I only express gratitude to her. Inside, I shudder and struggle when she does things like this.
@Sassenach1743 Both my mother and my MIL bought new cars, their own car seats and cribs when I was pregnant with DS...I agree with previous posters - grandparent excitement. I totally understand how irksome some of the over-the-top can be, and it made me crazy the first time around. I've posted about this before, but when DS was 9 months old, DH had a stroke, and his health has been rocky since. I have learned that ALL of those irritating "slow takeover"/way too helpful/annoying traits are the worlds BEST benefit EVER. Since our world flipped over, I have been eternally grateful for all the help (even when before it would have driven me crazy), because I have been so overwhelmed. Looking back, just because I am more grateful for it now, though, doesn't mean that there were any different motives...MIL was always trying to be joyful and helpful - I just couldn't see it until I needed to.
@Sassenach1743 It would weird me out too. We were looking at cars the summer my son was born and then all of the sudden my in laws were looking at the exact same car. Really? You're in your 60s currently driving a minivan and are now looking at a Mazda cx-5? At the time it felt like they couldn't let us have our own moment to shine (first car my husband was buying new). They're just overall annoying and drive me crazy though, so maybe I'd react negatively to anything they did. I regularly repeat to myself something my therapist once said: choose carefully the trench you want to die in. Some things just aren't worth going to battle over. So I just complain a bunch to my friends amen internet strangers
On the plus side, they wound up buying a different car!
@morgarita wow!! I hope they appreciate all the work you out into their visits! Sounds like it will be a more relaxed game day with just your dad. Who are you rooting for??
@ljd2010 I'm in Wisconsin so really I'm rooting for the Packers but since it's playoffs I'm jokingly rooting for every team they play since that means no more football!!
"I can't switch doctors because all of the dr's in my area have wait-lists, and OB's don't take patients without a referral until 20 weeks." Where do you live? This seems like an insane policy! Is the referral thing because of insurance? I'm sorry you can't get the care you need - that is ridiculous. Obviously, you are high risk and need to see an OB. That is crazy.
Can I bitch about the moms saying their feeling kicks at 9 weeks or the first time mom feeling them at 13 weeks? It's gas, yes as a pregnant woman you have gas.
I need to bitch about DH. I love him, I truly do, but if we have to talk about politics one more time I think I'll lose it.
I was raised not to discuss politics and I'm fine with that. IMO those discussions just bring arguments and I am very anti-confrontation. DH has never voted, never seemed to care, I barely care, so great. But with this election he's all of a sudden started voicing his opinions, arguing and interrupting when I do try to voice or explain mine.
Once the election was over (spoiler, his guy won) I thought ok great, we're done with this. And we were! Until last night when he goes on a rant saying he doesn't believe anything mainstream media says, they lead the election, etc. And so I asked where he gets his news and his answer was "from myself". Um, what? That makes no sense. FFwd to us arguing over what news source is legit, why almost any media outlet or journalist will have their personal opinions embedded in their broadcast, etc, he's interrupting me more so I can't even get my opinion out, and us going to bed without speaking.
We have a 9 hour road trip tomorrow to get to an out of town wedding and I'm instilling a no politics/Trump/news radio rule!!! Or I might kill him.
@MrsMaggieMac15 I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I know for a fact that my marriage would not survive that particular argument, so I seriously feel for you. Do you think he will respect your wishes to stop discussing it? I would just be flying off the deep end, so I have no advice for you, just tons of sympathy. Good luck with your road trip tomorrow! I hope you survive it without going insane!
@ljd2010 I'm in Wisconsin so really I'm rooting for the Packers but since it's playoffs I'm jokingly rooting for every team they play since that means no more football!!
We're Packers fans, too!!!! We live in the Chicago suburbs though, so it's not a popular team choice.
@MrsMaggieMac15 I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I know for a fact that my marriage would not survive that particular argument, so I seriously feel for you. Do you think he will respect your wishes to stop discussing it? I would just be flying off the deep end, so I have no advice for you, just tons of sympathy. Good luck with your road trip tomorrow! I hope you survive it without going insane!
I think he will. I have no reason to believe he would continue to bring it up, knowing it's causing an issue. I think when he does bring it up it is because he honestly wants to have a real conversation about it and we just can't seem to do that.
I think my biggest issue is that I've felt so sad all day. I've moved from mad to upset that we went to bed mad and due to our schedules, haven't spoken all day.
I feel like this is better here than in symptoms because of how whiny I'm about to sound, but damn it I am so tired of not having control over my eating. My m/s is back today (although it's not even that bad) but I am absolutely starving as well, but nothing I have made today tastes even remotely good. I don't know what I want, and I know if I could just eat a meal I would feel better, but I can't because everything I try to put in my mouth tastes like garbage and I can't manage more than a couple bites. I'm on my third meal that I've tried to make and it's still going fabulously awful.
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@MrsMaggieMac15 wow, that's a tough situation to be in. I can't imagine. I know it's not unheard of for couples of opposing political views to be married to each other, but I would seriously lose my mind. It's not okay for him to steamroll you in a conversation though. That would frustrate me too!
I feel like this is better here than in symptoms because of how whiny I'm about to sound, but damn it I am so tired of not having control over my eating. My m/s is back today (although it's not even that bad) but I am absolutely starving as well, but nothing I have made today tastes even remotely good. I don't know what I want, and I know if I could just eat a meal I would feel better, but I can't because everything I try to put in my mouth tastes like garbage and I can't manage more than a couple bites. I'm on my third meal that I've tried to make and it's still going fabulously awful.
Sigh. I feel the same way. My morning sickness has got better, but if I eat something that doesn't agreee, I'm sick for the rest of the day. So, I basically eat plain pasta and bagels. Not very nutritious. I'm sick of people asking me how I feel and then being surprised when I say not great. And I'm also sick of being told to eat protein. If I could, I would. This isn't a choice. Sorry for my grump.
Can I bitch about the moms saying their feeling kicks at 9 weeks or the first time mom feeling them at 13 weeks? It's gas, yes as a pregnant woman you have gas.
My son was a strong kicker from the start, and the first time I felt him kick WAS at 13 weeks, and it was confirmed a NT ultrasound that that was indeed why I was feeling. Docs aid it was because of placenta placement and the fact that I am very petite. So just cause you don't doesn't mean others do not.
My OB asked me today if I had felt anything yet and I said maybe just once t 14w4d and she said that's normal that it can be very infrequent at first. It definitely felt like a fish flop! Lol
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I felt kicks right before the 14 week mark (13+5 ish). Granted, I'm carrying twins and it's a second pregnancy, but I definitely am feeling movement. It's infrequent and I kind of have to be sitting scrunched up a little bit or lying stretched out, but the feeling is pretty unmistakable once you know what you're looking for. The ultrasound tech said she wasn't surprised when I mentioned it last week.
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I haven't felt anything yet (at least I don't think I have) but when my doctor asked me today, she said "good that's the answer you should have given". It kind of made me laugh. Honestly, if you want to think the gas is your baby kicking, go for it. You'll feel the real thing soon enough, and if it makes you feel better until then, who cares. You're not hurting anyone. I'm not expecting to feel anything for awhile, and it bumps me out. Anterior placentas make me sad.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I felt my DD right around 14 weeks last time. I also had it confirmed at a doctor's appt that it was in fact what I was feeling. It was very infrequent and felt stronger than a flutter. Just because one person doesn't feel it doesn't mean others are the same.
I was actually referring to a ftm telling me she was feeling "kicks" for the first time at 13 weeks. Plus also near her belly button like an inch to half inch below, she lifted her shirt and pointed. Then another mom said she felt them at 9 weeks once the first girl said that. I wanted to bitch here bc I couldn't say anything to their face since it doesn't matter really.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 1/9
Edit because auto correct is keeping me away from Excedrin too
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
So, he went to the store for me and got ALL MY CRAVINGS. So he is back on my goodside. ladies, thank you for your support and riteous indignation on my part. I feel supported
@yellow1daisy yeah, people can be rude about that. Why can't people just be happy that you're happy? Gender disappointent from others outside of the immediate family is not cool, and can be offensive. And sometimes, it is like they don't believe that you're really happy with the result.
@yanchuss Wow, I can't believe you're 12 weeks and they haven't put in a referral for you yet! My doc refers you as soon as you take a positive pregnancy test in their office and I assumed that was standard. Hopefully you see an OB soon and get more answers. I'm so sorry you've been dealing with the stress of all of this bleeding! So glad the baby has been doing great each time you get checked out!
@LoveLee85 keeping you in my thoughts in a non weird way
@CarsonsMommy - so glad you told your husband off. i think they need that every once in a while
Now I completely adore my stepson and have no problem whatsoever if they look alike (in fact I am happy they do) but something about them constantly reminding me that their genes have run strong through both me and his exwife all the time pisses me off. And my son was born with red hair that faded to blond at around 5 months - now I AM a redhead. My MIL still claimed responsibility since her mom had the exact same shade of red hair since mine is darker and his was more a cooper color.
I couldn't help it but it just felt weird to me. Like, she used our baby as excuse to buy a new car... and then bought the exact same car we have... and the way it was all about the car seat and such, just felt like she's planning to take over or something. Maybe it's just my FTM hormones but I was put off for a while, still feel a little weird about it. I asked my husband "is she going overboard? I mean, is this the start of her taking over?" and he assured me she's not. He's actually really happy she got it and as soon as we get our car seat picked out she'll be getting an extra base for her car.
It's fine. Just took me by surprise and seemed a little much. My own mom isn't going to have her own car seat base, but whatever.
I think they're crazy. But they just love those grandkids and want to be ready to babysit and have sleepovers when the opportunity arises.
This reminds me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding when her parents bought them the house next door! Lol
Her husband, on the other hand... I can tell he's not a huge fan. But at the same time, he would rather not have my in laws staying at his house all the time.
I've complained about my MIL on this board before. She can be a lot to handle. Her children are immune, but my SIL's husband and I are DEFINITELY not.
On the plus side, they wound up buying a different car!
Where do you live? This seems like an insane policy! Is the referral thing because of insurance? I'm sorry you can't get the care you need - that is ridiculous. Obviously, you are high risk and need to see an OB. That is crazy.
I was raised not to discuss politics and I'm fine with that. IMO those discussions just bring arguments and I am very anti-confrontation. DH has never voted, never seemed to care, I barely care, so great. But with this election he's all of a sudden started voicing his opinions, arguing and interrupting when I do try to voice or explain mine.
Once the election was over (spoiler, his guy won) I thought ok great, we're done with this. And we were! Until last night when he goes on a rant saying he doesn't believe anything mainstream media says, they lead the election, etc. And so I asked where he gets his news and his answer was "from myself". Um, what? That makes no sense. FFwd to us arguing over what news source is legit, why almost any media outlet or journalist will have their personal opinions embedded in their broadcast, etc, he's interrupting me more so I can't even get my opinion out, and us going to bed without speaking.
We have a 9 hour road trip tomorrow to get to an out of town wedding and I'm instilling a no politics/Trump/news radio rule!!! Or I might kill him.
I think my biggest issue is that I've felt so sad all day. I've moved from mad to upset that we went to bed mad and due to our schedules, haven't spoken all day.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)