I can't tell if DH has given me his Man Cold/Flu or if I'll be going into labor soon. Either way, I'm not a happy camper at work this morning. Also, I'm pretty sure he's trying to curse me because he keeps saying stuff like "Wow, she looks low today" or "I know first time moms go overdue a lot, and I know your mom went overdue with you, but I feel like you're going to pop any day now."
So this is me to today in general but also especially to DH:
Previously PaukMeKiande
Surprise BFP/MC February 2011 BFP May 16th 2016
EDD January 25 2017 DD born January 30 2017 Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
It's freaking COLD in my office because my boss turned the system OFF for the weekend. I'm having a hard enough time dragging my butt out of bed in the morning and coming to work, sitting here freezing isn't helping!!
My company just underwent massive layoffs (like, it was in the news) and while I survived, my team was split up and when I come back from leave, I will be reporting to this toxic beast I used to sit next to and who used to be my counterpart. At least, I would be if I were coming back from leave. I plan to return for my legally obligatory one day and resign. I was 99% sure I was going to do this before the shakeup, but knowing I would have to report to McNasty seals the deal. The only good part is that I won't feel the crushing guilt I was anticipating when I I thought i would be resigning under my current boss, who is the absolute best.
Married: 2011 TTC #1: 3/2016 Me 39 - DH 44 BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17 DD born 2/3/17
I'm going to be my downstairs neighbor's BF on Tuesday. On my one-month trial of amazon prime, and it ends tomorrow. So of course yesterday and today I went crazy ordering stuff that is slated to arrive tomorrow. I think I better go buy a thank you box of chocolates to preemptively hand over to him tomorrow morning before the 20 gazillion packages start arriving (he's the caretaker of his bedridden foster sister, so he's home all day).
At least he won't be getting any more packages for me after that...?
I'm tired of being the only person in my house with a functioning brain sometimes. Like I literally have to be the one who thinks of everything like when it's time to the trash out, what we should plan for our day, what the kids have to take to school when, reminding people to pick up their socks and put them in the hamper, keeping track of everything we do, etc.
hat seems to make this worse is that my husband has some sort of temporary amnesia where last weekend we may have had four things on the list of things to do but only accomplished two of them but yet magically the other two things have dropped off of his brain so if I bring them up again I'm just nagging and it's like we never talked about it before. The absolute worst is that he will look at me nod and say oh no problem I can do that and then not freaking do it.
My children were all fairly miserable this weekend because God forbid we ask them to help with things. We were in the middle of combining the girls two rooms and trying to get things ready for the nursery so we were doing age appropriate things that they could help with but they were very very bitter that they couldn't just play all weekend. A lot of it actually involved going through crazy amounts of clutter and both of the girls rooms and talking about the difference between trash and treasures.
This last one I can direct towards myself because all weekend I was feeling pretty sad and emotional and actually feeling like we really should have had this baby. Like I looked at my husband and said I don't want to do this anymore what were we thinking. In our heads and in our hearts there was no way there was an option other than continuing an unplanned pregnancy, but, man, 4 kids??? Starting over? Kicking my baby out of her room that was the first one in our house that we really fixed up? And making my baby not my baby anymore?
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@Partyof6? it sounds like you are really going through a rough patch right now. Is there someone around that you can talk to? A trusted friend or relative, or perhaps a counselor? We're here for you, of course, but these are some big feelings you're having, and it might help more to reach out to someone IRL who can be there for you both physically and emotionally.
@Partyof6? Hang in there lady! Its just been a tough weekend & when the baby arrives shortly youll not even remember thinking like that at all! Sending creepy internet hugs! Xxx
I am generally cranky today... I totally overdid it yesterday and am majorly paying for it now: tired, sore back & legs, etc.
This morning was the first time that thinking about how much time is left made me start crying. I'm feeling so huge, uncomfortable, helpless all of a sudden. The idea of it getting more uncomfortable and lasting for six more weeks sounds like some sort of torture.
At the same time, I feel terribly disconnected from my body, like it's no longer mine. I've developed a huge patch of stretch marks on my stomach and I know I'll probably be really upset about them at some point in the future. But I barely feel like that's my stomach I'm looking at in the mirror.
The dogs were both whiny and in our bed by midnight last night (way earlier than normal) and I got no sleep. Not to mention that DH kept asking me to roll over because I was snoring. Does he have any idea how hard it is/how much it hurts to roll over and get re-adjusted with my snoogle?
@Partyof6? I've been having some pretty intense emotions towards the end too, it probably doesn't help that you feel like you're not getting the help you need to keep the house in order and prepared for the babe. When I'm feeling overwhelmed with the stuff I need to get done I get really into making checklists and schedules. I'll do a cleaning schedule with a manageable amount of things to do so I don't get overwhelmed with how much I need to get done. Maybe you could do like a calendar assignment and include the kids, give them one small task a day? Hope you start feeling better soon!
Alright. I have one! A couple who hasn't been to our church in months and months (and actually told me they no longer considered themselves members) posted a link to a meal train for another couple (who hasn't attended in over a year and has been pretty vocal about their dislike of our leadership and some of our ministries) on our church facebook group. I am trying not to be mad or judgey, but seriously?!
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
I also am feeling extra cranky and sleepy today. I'm pretty sure baby spent yesterday afternoon flipping and dropping. I was in so much pain, and awkwardly uncomfortable. I was feeling very "off" all day and I pooped three times after not going for 2 days. I was afraid I was going to go into labor last night, so of course I slept like crap.
@Partyof6? oh, honey. I really wish I could hug you rn. (yes, I know that's creepy...)
I hope you are feeling better after a little rest. A couple things-- I 100% feel you on feeling like I am the only one that pays attention to the house. The invisible workload is a real thing-- what are we eating? does everyone have the kind of milk they like? Do we have enough toilet paper? I've been sick so my house is wrecked. Like, we have 4 full bags of recycling in the kitchen-- Why does H just walk past that shit and not take it out? Do I really need to ask him to do that?? And when I ask I need him to do it immediately bc "in a minute" means never.
I have no advice abt kiddos and cleaning except that sometimes kids are little shits. I know I was. Stay strong! I'm so glad you had them help. It is good for them.
And about questioning this kiddo, Idk of a single person who doesn't have that "wtf were we thinking?" moment. I'm going to be a FTM and I have that moment! I can't imagine with 3 other kiddos!
Stay strong. You're not alone. Talk to your H about how you're feeling-- can he step up? And if it gets overwhelming, get help. Can a friend come help you organize and make the time pass easier? Can you talk to someone?
And just remember the light at the end of the tunnel: Soon you'll have your outside baby and 4 kids will be your new "normal" and you'll wonder how you thought your family was complete with just 3.
@Partyof6? I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now. I know it's so overwhelming now that it's getting so close. And not having help around the house is so hard! My H works such a weird schedule that he's not a lot of help and I'm always having to give him a list on his day off that rarely gets completed. It's so frustrating because I can't do it all myself. We had a talk about it the other day. I think it would be good for you to get your feelings out and maybe make chore charts like PP mentioned. Lists have been so helpful for me because otherwise I don't remember things lol.
@MLRocha I've got the feeling disconnected from my body feeling too lately. Like I've been all happy with my baby bump since I started showing and then bam last night I looked in the mirror and was strangely shocked to look pregnant. Like I was really expected to see my old body and I actually paused looking at it for a minute convinced I wasn't seeing myself then I was like nope that it definitely me...
I'm really kind of pissed at myself for not working out this pregnancy. I have never been a big exerciser but I was at least putting an effort forth before I got pregnant and then I was so sick and tired the first trimester I gave it up completely and never looked back. Now I feel like it is too late to start now.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm really kind of pissed at myself for not working out this pregnancy. I have never been a big exerciser but I was at least putting an effort forth before I got pregnant and then I was so sick and tired the first trimester I gave it up completely and never looked back. Now I feel like it is too late to start now.
It's definitely not too late! My EDD is not long after yours, and I only started working out again in the last two weeks. I was never a big exerciser either but, like you, had at least been making an effort. When I got the GD diagnosis, I started going back again but taking it super easy -- light weights, light cardio. I'm nowhere even close to being able to do things at the weights/speed I could before (not that I was running marathons or anything before anyway), but just the movement has helped a LOT, mentally and physically.
@partyof6? I dont have other children, so I can't say that I have good advice, but the, "What were we thinking" thing has popped in my head too, especially when I am stressed out. So I think that's normal. My mom also told me, she thought the same thing with me! Thanks Mom! But, I have three older siblings and I was unplanned when the youngest was 9. So she literally went through almost the same situation you are. She said she was stressed about it, but once I came out, she liked being a new mom again and was shocked at how helpful the older ones were. And, they had my brother after me, so you know she totally wasn't lying about not regretting it
Thank you for all the support and creepy internet hugs. I really appreciate them! I have some very awesome real life friends and I have been talking to them about some of this. There's just so much going on and so much to do and this weekend it's like it all hit me at once.
The other issue really is that once the week gets rolling we have so many other commitments in the evening that we don't have time to work on things. Well I have time during the day but so much of what I feel like we have to do is the stuff I need my husband to do like painting, hauling boxes around, etc.
The bunk beds arrive tomorrow, the painting can hopefully be done this week at night once my little one goes to her new room, and my best friend is coming up for the weekend without her kids, and she is a person that lives for organizing. I am hoping to have some concrete things we can focus on this weekend.
I also know that emotions being all over the place is normal and I'm surprised I haven't had this breakdown yet. It is a huge change, but yes I know we'll adapt to our new normal. The kids really are excited and will be helpful with the baby and he will be loved on more then any baby needs to be as my girls especially are baby lovers and smoochers!
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
I've got a cold and it is making me a whiney bish. I can't breathe, my throat is sore, my head hurts, I'm exhausted and my lips/nose/face are chapped, sore and cut from using 2.5 full boxes of kleenex in 3 days.
Fun times. oh. and it is like 10°F here so I'm miserable and my old house isn't doing a great job keeping warm. Thank god for heated blankets.
I'm running an event tonight to provide publicity for one of our partner agencies, early registrations suggest a huge turnout, and I can't get anyone to come staff it with me. I only have a few people coming to help, when really 5-6 are needed for the turnout we're going to have. I am huge and lumbering and not looking forward to public speaking in my current state, even though I usually love it. I wish I was in one of those states with a pre-maternity leave!
@Partyof6? More creepy Internet hugs from me too. I definitely have the "WTF did I do?" thoughts. I just try to lean on my faith and what life has destined for me. Hang in there, you're doing awesome.
I'm SO over work. I want it to be maternity leave time.
This week, my boss, HER boss, a number of coworkers, and the team from our digital agency are all flying in, and we have all-day meetings on Wednesday and Thursday, and a presentation that's going to be super fun (*sarcasm*) tomorrow afternoon. Plus, apparently, a team dinner on Wednesday night. I don't like having to do work things in the evenings, especially when I can't drink.
This is a trivial BF - but I had my shower on Saturday and it was so so wonderful, no BF there. But H's family didn't recognize the occasion at all - no cards or gifts and he was really upset about it given how generous my family and our friends were (none of his family was attending, they live across the country from us). It didn't really bother me because I don't ever expect gifts from anyone and we got lots of nice things, and we can buy what we need so it isn't a problem. But he was upset about the principle of it and talked to his mom about it. So then she calls me and says the reason she didn't do anything for my shower is that she is planning a shower for me in Michigan (first I've heard of it and we are in CA). And that they will skype me in so I can see all the gifts, and everything, and I'm like what are you talking about lady????? You are going to have gifts for me in Michigan that I will watch you open? And she said not to get the car seat because she wants to buy that, and she should have everything organized and she will let me know when the shower is going to be but it should be in the next 2 months. I'm due in 5 weeks!!!!!!! I said, there are only 5 weeks until my due date, so we aren't going to be able to wait on a lot of the things on our registry, especially the car seat, since we will need to buy them before the baby gets here. So anything that hasn't been bought we will just buy ourselves at that point. She was like, oh, I didn't realize how quickly the time had gone by! So annoying.
@MissMerciBeaucoup the skyping you into your own baby shower so they can open your gifts and show them to you made me chuckle! Are you going to sit and skype for the whole shower...including while they eat, or is this party going to go on for you, and then they'll skype you in for gifts, and then they let you go? This is really...awesome and I love it. Sounds like something my ILs would have done!
@Gretchypoo get some Boogey wipes. They have saline and are awesome for colds. @Partyof6? I've been having those moments when my kid is being an ass, and H is being lazy and I only have one, so I feel you. You'll find your groove though.
@MissMerciBeaucoup LOL! OMG how freaking clueless are they?? Your MIL literally got a call from H and went "oh shit, I need to plan something" and made up something on the fly. How are you supposed to go 6 wks without a car seat?? What a twatwaffle.
Thanks @Spicyweiner ! I'll try those. netipot has been my best friend this week.
2nd MBF bc I'm sick and grumpy-- interns. Fucking interns. This bish tells us in November that her 1st day will be January. haven't heard from her since. so I email her today and she's like. oh, I'm coming in tomorrow and the rest of the week FULL TIME. WTF? 1. I didn't approve that. 2. Did you think to tell anyone? What would happen if she just showed up? We'd have nothing for her to do!
So conversation #1 is about communication. Fun times.
@MissMerciBeaucoup LOL! OMG how freaking clueless are they?? Your MIL literally got a call from H and went "oh shit, I need to plan something" and made up something on the fly. How are you supposed to go 6 wks without a car seat?? What a twatwaffle.
Im sorry for your H, though. that is frustrating.
Agreed!! She totally made that up because she got called out!
@MissMerciBeaucoup LOL! OMG how freaking clueless are they?? Your MIL literally got a call from H and went "oh shit, I need to plan something" and made up something on the fly. How are you supposed to go 6 wks without a car seat?? What a twatwaffle.
Im sorry for your H, though. that is frustrating.
Agreed!! She totally made that up because she got called out!
I was going to say the same! Sounds like she is trying to cover her ass. SO awkward.
Totally agree with you guys - she was covering. I just don't understand why. All she had to say to my H was I'm so sorry if it seemed like we forgot, but we will be sending you something soon/it's in the mail/we are thinking about you but we can't afford anything right now/etc... Wouldn't have been a big deal at all.
Totally agree with you guys - she was covering. I just don't understand why. All she had to say to my H was I'm so sorry if it seemed like we forgot, but we will be sending you something soon/it's in the mail/we are thinking about you but we can't afford anything right now/etc... Wouldn't have been a big deal at all.
100% agreed. The time to let you know they were planning this secret other shower was when they received their invitations to the one you just had. Even if they had good intentions, saying anything later looks like a tacky cover-up story.
I've got a horrible headache, and feel like I'm coming down with something; so, I left work to come home and try to get some rest.
My attempt at a restful afternoon has turned into my phone ringing off the hook. I got my first real estate listing this weekend (yay!), and some agent is calling me about gate codes. Come to find out, she is chewing me out about not giving her one, and she didn't even go there to see... the gate is OPEN.
Oh, and the appliance repair guy just called to tell me that the ice maker in our rental is dead as doornails, so there goes $250.
Ahh, Monday. At least there are only 5 Mondays left between now and my due date.
@Partyof6? I feel you on so many levels here!! This is also baby #4 for us. This weekend my husband and I got into a small argument over something small and stupid. However, I feel like this pregnancy has just really hit me both physically and emotionally. I've been able to hold it together up until recently. I stay at home, so I do pretty much everything around the house that no one really notices or acknowledges. It's getting to the point where it's hard for me to "keep up" physically... I'm just so tired/irritable/emotional. Since this is #4 I'm def not getting any special treatment. Lol. This weekend, like you, I kind of questioned what the hell I was thinking having another. I know these emotions will pass... but I'm definitely in a funk right now. My outlet has always been running and I had to give that up around 28 weeks due to discomfort.
Anyway, just wanted to let you know I can SO relate.
@WinchesterGirl, I had forgotten you were starting real estate! It is a fun career, but the worst thing about it can definitely be the other agents!
@LJane that I can't seem to ever tag, thank you, it's good to know I am not alone on the number 4 and the no special treatment here boat, lol. Being exhausted and not being able to keep up with everything is rough!
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@Partyof6? Omg we are only going from 1 to 2 and I didn't even accidently get pregnant I paid for this baby and STILL think "what the fuck were we thinking" pretty regularly. It's crazy how much falls on moms. Not even like gender role stereotypes like cooking and cleaning but like just the expectation you know wtf is going on all the time. Planning parties and pretending like you like other kids parents so your kids have friends. It's just so exhausting.
Re: Monday B*fest 1/9
So this is me to today in general but also especially to DH:
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
TTC #1: 3/2016
Me 39 - DH 44
BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17
DD born 2/3/17
At least he won't be getting any more packages for me after that...?
hat seems to make this worse is that my husband has some sort of temporary amnesia where last weekend we may have had four things on the list of things to do but only accomplished two of them but yet magically the other two things have dropped off of his brain so if I bring them up again I'm just nagging and it's like we never talked about it before. The absolute worst is that he will look at me nod and say oh no problem I can do that and then not freaking do it.
My children were all fairly miserable this weekend because God forbid we ask them to help with things. We were in the middle of combining the girls two rooms and trying to get things ready for the nursery so we were doing age appropriate things that they could help with but they were very very bitter that they couldn't just play all weekend. A lot of it actually involved going through crazy amounts of clutter and both of the girls rooms and talking about the difference between trash and treasures.
This last one I can direct towards myself because all weekend I was feeling pretty sad and emotional and actually feeling like we really should have had this baby. Like I looked at my husband and said I don't want to do this anymore what were we thinking. In our heads and in our hearts there was no way there was an option other than continuing an unplanned pregnancy, but, man, 4 kids??? Starting over? Kicking my baby out of her room that was the first one in our house that we really fixed up? And making my baby not my baby anymore?
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
This morning was the first time that thinking about how much time is left made me start crying. I'm feeling so huge, uncomfortable, helpless all of a sudden. The idea of it getting more uncomfortable and lasting for six more weeks sounds like some sort of torture.
At the same time, I feel terribly disconnected from my body, like it's no longer mine. I've developed a huge patch of stretch marks on my stomach and I know I'll probably be really upset about them at some point in the future. But I barely feel like that's my stomach I'm looking at in the mirror.
The dogs were both whiny and in our bed by midnight last night (way earlier than normal) and I got no sleep. Not to mention that DH kept asking me to roll over because I was snoring. Does he have any idea how hard it is/how much it hurts to roll over and get re-adjusted with my snoogle?
Hoping this is just a case of the Mondays.
TTC #1: 3/2016
Me 39 - DH 44
BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17
DD born 2/3/17
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
I hope you are feeling better after a little rest. A couple things-- I 100% feel you on feeling like I am the only one that pays attention to the house. The invisible workload is a real thing-- what are we eating? does everyone have the kind of milk they like? Do we have enough toilet paper? I've been sick so my house is wrecked. Like, we have 4 full bags of recycling in the kitchen-- Why does H just walk past that shit and not take it out? Do I really need to ask him to do that?? And when I ask I need him to do it immediately bc "in a minute" means never.
I have no advice abt kiddos and cleaning except that sometimes kids are little shits. I know I was. Stay strong! I'm so glad you had them help. It is good for them.
And about questioning this kiddo, Idk of a single person who doesn't have that "wtf were we thinking?" moment. I'm going to be a FTM and I have that moment! I can't imagine with 3 other kiddos!
Stay strong. You're not alone. Talk to your H about how you're feeling-- can he step up? And if it gets overwhelming, get help. Can a friend come help you organize and make the time pass easier? Can you talk to someone?
And just remember the light at the end of the tunnel: Soon you'll have your outside baby and 4 kids will be your new "normal" and you'll wonder how you thought your family was complete with just 3.
**more creepy internet hugs**
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
I'm really kind of pissed at myself for not working out this pregnancy. I have never been a big exerciser but I was at least putting an effort forth before I got pregnant and then I was so sick and tired the first trimester I gave it up completely and never looked back. Now I feel like it is too late to start now.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@partyof6? I dont have other children, so I can't say that I have good advice, but the, "What were we thinking" thing has popped in my head too, especially when I am stressed out. So I think that's normal. My mom also told me, she thought the same thing with me! Thanks Mom! But, I have three older siblings and I was unplanned when the youngest was 9. So she literally went through almost the same situation you are. She said she was stressed about it, but once I came out, she liked being a new mom again and was shocked at how helpful the older ones were. And, they had my brother after me, so you know she totally wasn't lying about not regretting it
Hang in there!!
The other issue really is that once the week gets rolling we have so many other commitments in the evening that we don't have time to work on things. Well I have time during the day but so much of what I feel like we have to do is the stuff I need my husband to do like painting, hauling boxes around, etc.
The bunk beds arrive tomorrow, the painting can hopefully be done this week at night once my little one goes to her new room, and my best friend is coming up for the weekend without her kids, and she is a person that lives for organizing. I am hoping to have some concrete things we can focus on this weekend.
I also know that emotions being all over the place is normal and I'm surprised I haven't had this breakdown yet. It is a huge change, but yes I know we'll adapt to our new normal. The kids really are excited and will be helpful with the baby and he will be loved on more then any baby needs to be as my girls especially are baby lovers and smoochers!
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
Fun times. oh. and it is like 10°F here so I'm miserable and my old house isn't doing a great job keeping warm. Thank god for heated blankets.
This week, my boss, HER boss, a number of coworkers, and the team from our digital agency are all flying in, and we have all-day meetings on Wednesday and Thursday, and a presentation that's going to be super fun (*sarcasm*) tomorrow afternoon. Plus, apparently, a team dinner on Wednesday night. I don't like having to do work things in the evenings, especially when I can't drink.
@Partyof6? I've been having those moments when my kid is being an ass, and H is being lazy and I only have one, so I feel you.
You'll find your groove though.
Im sorry for your H, though. that is frustrating.
2nd MBF bc I'm sick and grumpy-- interns. Fucking interns. This bish tells us in November that her 1st day will be January. haven't heard from her since. so I email her today and she's like. oh, I'm coming in tomorrow and the rest of the week FULL TIME. WTF? 1. I didn't approve that. 2. Did you think to tell anyone? What would happen if she just showed up? We'd have nothing for her to do!
So conversation #1 is about communication. Fun times.
My attempt at a restful afternoon has turned into my phone ringing off the hook. I got my first real estate listing this weekend (yay!), and some agent is calling me about gate codes. Come to find out, she is chewing me out about not giving her one, and she didn't even go there to see... the gate is OPEN.
Oh, and the appliance repair guy just called to tell me that the ice maker in our rental is dead as doornails, so there goes $250.
Ahh, Monday. At least there are only 5 Mondays left between now and my due date.
Anyway, just wanted to let you know I can SO relate.
@LJane that I can't seem to ever tag, thank you, it's good to know I am not alone on the number 4 and the no special treatment here boat, lol. Being exhausted and not being able to keep up with everything is rough!
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17