Monday Bitchfest 1/9

SpongeWorthy · January 2017

What has you ready to pull a Meryl Streep this morning?

PurplePumpernickel · January 2017

I'm just lolling at the post.

munchkinsmama · January 2017

If one more person tells me I should try breastfeeding again or asks how we can stand to pay for formula I might lose my shit. I have a medical diagnosis from a lactation consultant actually from 3 different ones who all agree I will never produce enough milk to sustain a child. So just no, no, and no. All 3 of my other children have faired just fine on formula. And for the record I do breastfeed/supliment the first week to give them colostrum and enjoy some skin you skin. Not that it is any random mom at the libraries business. Sorry end rant!

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

munchkinsmama said:

If one more person tells me I should try breastfeeding again or asks how we can stand to pay for formula I might lose my shit. I have a medical diagnosis from a lactation consultant actually from 3 different ones who all agree I will never produce enough milk to sustain a child. So just no, no, and no. All 3 of my other children have faired just fine on formula. And for the record I do breastfeed/supliment the first week to give them colostrum and enjoy some skin you skin. Not that it is any random mom at the libraries business. Sorry end rant!

@munchkinsmama - I would be pissed at that too! I am sorry you have to deal with that!

Mommyofcarson+1 · January 2017

Have a migraine this morning. Son was up at 8, let husband sleep till 10. I ask him to take son for a couple hours, so I can rest. His response is that he has to go out to the trailer, hasn't been out in a week, and needs to work on that. Just put on finding nemo, he will settle down. Not the fucking point, I need uninterrupted rest. Husband is now asleep, back in bed. Called me a bitch because I wouldn't screw him. 10 minutes later, Starts to feel me up through my yoga pants, and I close my legs. Once again, I am a bitch. I DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOUR DICK, especially when you cant take OUR son for a coupld hours. Clearly he does not get the pounding pain and dizziness that only increases with each movement. What part of DO NOT TOUCH ME is so hard to understand.

morgarita · January 2017

@munchkinsmama Yes!!! Healthy child can, will, and have been raised on formula. No one needs a reason other than they want to feed their child.

ladybray · January 2017

Week 14 and I am sick as hell. I think my husband thinks I am milking it... and then I vomit again and he is super sweet.

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

CarsonsMommy said:

Have a migraine this morning. Son was up at 8, let husband sleep till 10. I ask him to take son for a couple hours, so I can rest. His response is that he has to go out to the trailer, hasn't been out in a week, and needs to work on that. Just put on finding nemo, he will settle down. Not the fucking point, I need uninterrupted rest. Husband is now asleep, back in bed. Called me a bitch because I wouldn't screw him. 10 minutes later, Starts to feel me up through my yoga pants, and I close my legs. Once again, I am a bitch. I DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOUR DICK, especially when you cant take OUR son for a coupld hours. Clearly he does not get the pounding pain and dizziness that only increases with each movement. What part of DO NOT TOUCH ME is so hard to understand.

@CarsonsMommy - I would have slapped my DH if he did that. I'm sorry your H is being a d-bag

Mommyofcarson+1 · January 2017

@SaphireSweetie88 oh I wanted to, really really did. But if I'd have done that, the pain in my head would have increased ten fold. So not doing it was really in consideration of myself

DH has super high sex drive, so he thinks I'm being a bitch? Here, let me be a bitch some more today

enjoy rosie and her four buddies, cause unless you change your attitude, you ain't gettin any.

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

CarsonsMommy said:

@SaphireSweetie88 oh I wanted to, really really did. But if I'd have done that, the pain in my head would have increased ten fold. So not doing it was really in consideration of myself DH has super high sex drive, so he thinks I'm being a bitch? Here, let me be a bitch some more today enjoy rosie and her four buddies, cause unless you change your attitude, you ain't gettin any.

@CarsonsMommy

Hahahaha I love it!

Kmomof3 · January 2017

I just want my stupid gestational diabetes medicine to work. And I want to poop. Constipation has a way of really making me unpleasant to the world! Yay, pregnancy!

yellow1daisy · January 2017

Whoa @CarsonsMommy if my husband EVER called me a bitch for ANY reason he would be out on his ass until he learned some respect.

My really at my wit's end moan for today is about everybody's reaction to us having another girl. MIL(who is normally awesome): can't believe it's a girl I really thought it was going to be a boy (read: I really wanted it to be a boy). My dad ("jokingly"): so you couldn't make a boy huh?

Unbelievable. Me and this little girl's dad are ECSTATIC to be having another girl. Why can't everyone else also be happy for us? I love that I'm giving my daughter a little sister so close in age and believe it worked out perfectly. So I just wish everyone would STFU with the insensitive comments.

Edit: a word

mamadcb · January 2017

This is a novel. I'll put a TL;DR at the end.

Background: When I had my first baby (now 11 months) it was important to me that my dad be here when he was born. My mom died 6 years ago so it felt like at least one of my parents should be here! Well he wound up staying with us for about a week before the birth and stayed for another week after. I was SO ready for him to go. He was not "in the way," but he did zero to help with meals, dishes, laundry, etc and totally lacked understanding about how little sleep I'd gotten or how the hormones were raging through my body.

I learned that I don't want anyone staying with us this time around. In addition to all of the factors above, we also now have a toddler and I'd like to keep our house as mellow and the transition to two babies as smooth as possible. Helpful daytime guests are great, but that's it.

Anyway, before we told him about Baby #2, my dad had been planning a long trip with his GF and her daughter for next summer that included a stop to visit us, so I figured they would meet our new little guy on that trip. My dad already knows that in general I do not want everyone staying here at our house-- it's a small 3-bedroom which has never been enough space for 4 adults, a teen and our current baby (11 months). And this Spring we'll be converting the 3rd bedroom from a guest room to our older son's room, so we won't have any guest room at all. No problem for me-- I don't want guests anyway. Should be no problem for my dad, who knows we don't have space for all of them and were planning a visit anyway.

So last night I'm skyping with him and he says that since we won't have a guest room anymore, they can't come meet the baby. What??? I mentioned several different family friends with plenty of space that have always been willing to host him, but he says no, he can't impose on them like that. (But he can in me?). So then he asks what our plans are for our next house, as if WE need to buy something (we can't afford to buy right now since I'm not working and we have a GREAT deal where we are renting) so that he has a guest room when he comes to visit. He's not joking, either.

Even if none of the family friends could host him, he is a grown up and there are a ton of hotels he could stay in! He was planning a 2-month road trip already, so it's not like a few nights in a hotel is beyond his means. I'm just annoyed because he finds problems when he wants to find problems and solutions when he wants to find solutions. And shouldn't this be a case of wanting to find a solution???

TL;DR My dad is inventing reasons why he can't come up and meet our baby, and seems to think that the solution is that we need to buy a bigger house.

GeorgiaWife6912 · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy No way would my husband get away with calling me that. That's beyond disrespectful.
@yellow1daisy I feel like that's how my MIL is going to act if this baby is another boy! FWIW I think DS would LOVE having a little brother but MIL seems to think that a family is not "complete" if they don't have a boy and a girl. I can't stand it!

supermom83 · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy I really hope your DH doesn't call you a bitch normally and this happens to be a gigantic one-time kind of mistake. Name calling is not ok, it is never ok, and never will be, not for any reason. Women deserve better than that kind of treatment. Hopefully he apologizes later and realizes how insulting his actions were today.

@yellow1daisy I'm sorry your family is acting that way. Unfortunately I think so many people say things like that without really thinking about how insulting and rude comments like that are. I'm afraid it will happen to us too. We still don't know the sex of this baby, but I already have 2 boys and I know for a fact that if this baby is a boy, I will never hear the end of it in regards to me not being able to have a girl. It's ridiculous and infuriating. I am so excited for this baby and will be thrilled for a boy or a girl, but I know others will say stupid crap because they said it when I was pregnant with my second son, so I only imagine what they'll say about the third. Ugh. People are jerks sometimes.

As for me, I really really REALLY want to drink Diet Coke and coffee, but I cut out caffeine and artificial sweeteners/soda when I'm pregnant, but it's so hard. I miss it so much. Now I just drink plain water like an animal! lol *I'm being sarcastic and dramatic, but I just want to pout about it*

virginiaunicorn11 · January 2017

Whoa, @CarsonsMommy. I know all relationships are different, but hell f'ing no would any man ever get away with calling me a bitch. Let alone my husband. Wow.

My 19 month old is going through a sleep regression or something (not sure he ever actually progressed, but things are definitely worse). I am desperate for this kid to learn to sleep.

KissMeImScottish · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy, I'm seriously cringing for you over here. My husband has a high sex drive as well (so do I, normally), but the bleeding since the 23rd of December has me on pelvic rest so I'm closed for business on doctor's orders until further notice. He isn't thrilled about it, but he's at least being an adult and recognizes that some things are more important than him getting off. No way in seven Hells would he get away with name calling. And migraines seriously leave you helpless - I'm so sorry that he's kicking you when you're down.

Mine is related to my in-laws again. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why it is impossible for them to acknowledge that my son has genes that do, in fact, come from me. Seriously, I'm all for acknowledging if he looked like my husband, but I'm not even kidding, the kid is my carbon copy. (Photo for reference - left is me at 2, right is my son at 6 months).

That, combined with the ultra-conservative, mildly racist rhetoric has me with my teeth on edge and they're here until Sunday. God grant me strength...

mrscate88 · January 2017

munchkinsmama said:

If one more person tells me I should try breastfeeding again or asks how we can stand to pay for formula I might lose my shit. I have a medical diagnosis from a lactation consultant actually from 3 different ones who all agree I will never produce enough milk to sustain a child. So just no, no, and no. All 3 of my other children have faired just fine on formula. And for the record I do breastfeed/supliment the first week to give them colostrum and enjoy some skin you skin. Not that it is any random mom at the libraries business. Sorry end rant!

Oh my gosh, that would get old! Although I will admit I am guilty of telling people that there's no way I could afford formula and that's why I breastfeed haha, but I would NEVER question another mom about it! People have some nerve.

mrscate88 · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy DH is out of line, he doesn't need to be calling you names. And then thinking he's going to get some, while you have a migraine, without helping you out a little with the baby?? He's a funny dude.

mrscate88 · January 2017

@ktewart Your son looks like you, period. Sorry your in laws are being dumb. Hang in there mama!

oheliza44 · January 2017

supermom83 said:

@CarsonsMommy I really hope your DH doesn't call you a bitch normally and this happens to be a gigantic one-time kind of mistake. Name calling is not ok, it is never ok, and never will be, not for any reason. Women deserve better than that kind of treatment.

This. @CarsonsMommy I really hope that you are frustrated and just being dramatic for the sake of the post (I get it, we all do that, especially when venting) and that you SO does not talk to you that way. Thinking about being calling such a derogatory name (by your husband, nonetheless!!!) literally makes my stomach turn. To piggyback off @supermom83's post, not only do we as women deserve better, but we should demand better treatment. In my opinion that starts in the home.

LoveLee85 · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy I'm not going to tell you what I would do or say if my DH did that...because he hasn't and I'm pretty sure he's scared of me. BUT I am so sorry. Men, or anyone, who has never had a migraine do not understand the level of hell they are!!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with that and I'm sorry you can't get the support you need today. DH ows you BIG TIME. I hope he delivers.

GeorgiaWife6912 · January 2017

@ktewart definitely your mini-me! Adorable!

chamomile-2 · January 2017

We have a really good couple friend who are due within a week of us which has been so fun so far. The dad-to-be came to our place to watch a game with my husband, asked how I was feeling, and when I said lucky since I didn't get nausea, he was like "Yeah I'm pretty sure my wife is exaggerating it for attention. She seems fine!" I wanted to poke him in the eye. There's an expensive blissful prenatal spa day at a hotel spa in our city I'm going to make this guy get his wife for Valentine's Day to make up for being such a poop.

LoveLee85 · January 2017

My bitch today is cancer. If one more of my loved ones gets it, I will lose it.

oheliza44 · January 2017

@LoveLee85

(creepy internet hugs.)

GeorgiaWife6912 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 (((hugs))) I'm so sorry!

virginiaunicorn11 · January 2017

Ugh. Fuck cancer. I'm so sorry, @LoveLee85

ladybray · January 2017

@LoveLee85 I am sorry to hear that. Cancer is a bitch.

Twinkiedoll · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy I'm really sorry your husband was being a jerk to you. I agree that he owes you big time. Hopefully, he realizes that he f-ed up and apologizes. I hope your migraine feels better now.

irishrose54 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 your post is heartbreaking. Thinking of you. Sorry

yellow1daisy · January 2017

@LoveLee85 I'm sorry

MamaRN13 · January 2017

I'm sorry @LoveLee85

indulgentgypsy · January 2017

@LoveLee85 I hate that bitch too

caribbeanmama-2 · January 2017

@CarsonsMommy what everyone else
said. Not okay! He can take your son for a couple hours and he's not allowed to call you that.

@yellow1daisy sorry for their underwhelming response. That sucks.

@LoveLee85 ugh! So sorry.

Twinkiedoll · January 2017

@LoveLee85 I'm sorry. Best wishes to your loved ones.

LoveLee85 · January 2017

Oh my goodness. I'm sobbing now. Thank you, ladies for the support!!!!! I just can't believe this. Our amazing Aunt. The nicest, sweetest lady you would ever meet. The news isn't good because it's aggressive, but I'm hoping she can come out on top of this. Ugh, fuck cancer.

ashaw512 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 lots of hugs!

My bitch today, my boobs. That is all.

tuxielove93 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 I'm so sorry to here this. Creepy internet hugs

Also, seriously, a lot of you guys are having sucky days. Creepy internet hugs to all.

ginger1228 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 - cancer effing sucks and I hate it. Sending good vibes and prayers to your sweet aunt!

yanchuss · January 2017

I'm not one for ranting, but I've been so f***cking miserable lately, and my husband has been so amazing that I feel bad continuously bitching to him when he's stressed with work/all house duties since I'm on bed rest.

I've been bleeding on and off since 6 weeks (I'll be 12 weeks on Wednesday) and my family dr still can't spend 4 f***ing seconds to write me a note to refer me to an OB. I've been to emerg 5 times in the last 2 weeks and I'm tired of no one giving a shit and not giving me any real answers as to why I'm bleeding out every time I move (other than telling me I have a hemorrhage with basically no other info about it). The hospital keeps telling me to go to my dr, and my dr says shes too busy so to go to the hospital. I can't switch doctors because all of the dr's in my area have wait-lists, and OB's don't take patients without a referral until 20 weeks. I'm so tired of spending 8-9 hours in emerg everytime there's an issue, and still not getting all the answers I need.

On top of that, I've been on complete bed rest for a week and it's driving me insane. I feel so neglectful towards my family, I have NO energy to do anything, and I literally sit all day so I don't bleed. The thought of spending the next 6 months like this makes me want to scream and cry. I feel like such an invalid and I hate depending on other people to do stuff for me.

- sorry, rant over -

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